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"sure you are not the only person. but youve either got to talk to more interesting people, or stop being rude." Tbh it's mostly at work, like during meetings or when someone is explaining something to me. Which is even worse because then I have to pretend I'm not completely lost ![]() | |||
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"sure you are not the only person. but youve either got to talk to more interesting people, or stop being rude. Tbh it's mostly at work, like during meetings or when someone is explaining something to me. Which is even worse because then I have to pretend I'm not completely lost ![]() if on teams, im too busy eating my 5th bowl of cheerios. if in person - i try and make the effort. | |||
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"sure you are not the only person. but youve either got to talk to more interesting people, or stop being rude. Tbh it's mostly at work, like during meetings or when someone is explaining something to me. Which is even worse because then I have to pretend I'm not completely lost ![]() But I also do it with friends and family quite badly, and I find most of them very interesting. I think it's more of a "me" problem. | |||
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"sure you are not the only person. but youve either got to talk to more interesting people, or stop being rude. Tbh it's mostly at work, like during meetings or when someone is explaining something to me. Which is even worse because then I have to pretend I'm not completely lost ![]() friends and family... hmm yeah reeks of narcissim... you should be interested in them otherwise why are they you're friends. unless of course the friendship went years ago and you are friends because youve aleaus been friends but you really want new friends? | |||
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"sure you are not the only person. but youve either got to talk to more interesting people, or stop being rude. Tbh it's mostly at work, like during meetings or when someone is explaining something to me. Which is even worse because then I have to pretend I'm not completely lost ![]() Sorry I don't have the attention span to get to the end of that post ![]() | |||
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"sure you are not the only person. but youve either got to talk to more interesting people, or stop being rude. Tbh it's mostly at work, like during meetings or when someone is explaining something to me. Which is even worse because then I have to pretend I'm not completely lost ![]() ![]() yeah took me a lot of effort to read yours | |||
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"My daughter does that. I'll be telling her something and after a couple of minutes she'll go oh sorry I wasn't listening. I've done it myself so I forgive. when you have a lot on your mind it's difficult to stay focused. " Yes this is it. Usually I'll be thinking of everything I have to do that evening/weekend/how to generally sort my life out. I'll start thinking about previous interactions that are playing on my mind or whatever is making me anxious that day. I've always used things like white noise/brown noise/ASMR in the background while trying to get other things done or get to sleep, so maybe hearing someone talk for long stretches of time has that same effect on my brain? | |||
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"Got to agree with all this guy has said. I think you're right OP, it's a "you" problem. Your description does make you sound a little rude if I'm honest. Gbat " That's a shame | |||
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"My daughter does that. I'll be telling her something and after a couple of minutes she'll go oh sorry I wasn't listening. I've done it myself so I forgive. when you have a lot on your mind it's difficult to stay focused. Yes this is it. Usually I'll be thinking of everything I have to do that evening/weekend/how to generally sort my life out. I'll start thinking about previous interactions that are playing on my mind or whatever is making me anxious that day. I've always used things like white noise/brown noise/ASMR in the background while trying to get other things done or get to sleep, so maybe hearing someone talk for long stretches of time has that same effect on my brain? " Unless we have something uber interesting to talk about we generally talk about mundane stuff, and my life is mostly mundane. Mundane conversation leads to zoning out. I'm very boring to talk to ![]() | |||
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"Got to agree with all this guy has said. I think you're right OP, it's a "you" problem. Your description does make you sound a little rude if I'm honest. Gbat " Or some people drone on and your mind wanders to something more important. ![]() | |||
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"That's a shame" It is! Gbat | |||
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"Or some people drone on and your mind wanders to something more important." Apparently not in the case of this OP. "But I also do it with friends and family quite badly, and I find most of them very interesting. I think it's more of a "me" problem." Gbat | |||
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"My daughter does that. I'll be telling her something and after a couple of minutes she'll go oh sorry I wasn't listening. I've done it myself so I forgive. when you have a lot on your mind it's difficult to stay focused. Yes this is it. Usually I'll be thinking of everything I have to do that evening/weekend/how to generally sort my life out. I'll start thinking about previous interactions that are playing on my mind or whatever is making me anxious that day. I've always used things like white noise/brown noise/ASMR in the background while trying to get other things done or get to sleep, so maybe hearing someone talk for long stretches of time has that same effect on my brain? Unless we have something uber interesting to talk about we generally talk about mundane stuff, and my life is mostly mundane. Mundane conversation leads to zoning out. I'm very boring to talk to ![]() Hmm it's not so much content... For example I love my job and am always trying to learn more so I ask lots of questions, but then when someone explains it to me and it's a long answer I zone out. I really do think it's just the physical act of hearing someone's voice go on that makes me think it's like a good background to think about other stuff over, if that makes sense? | |||
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"My daughter does that. I'll be telling her something and after a couple of minutes she'll go oh sorry I wasn't listening. I've done it myself so I forgive. when you have a lot on your mind it's difficult to stay focused. Yes this is it. Usually I'll be thinking of everything I have to do that evening/weekend/how to generally sort my life out. I'll start thinking about previous interactions that are playing on my mind or whatever is making me anxious that day. I've always used things like white noise/brown noise/ASMR in the background while trying to get other things done or get to sleep, so maybe hearing someone talk for long stretches of time has that same effect on my brain? Unless we have something uber interesting to talk about we generally talk about mundane stuff, and my life is mostly mundane. Mundane conversation leads to zoning out. I'm very boring to talk to ![]() I know what you mean. If it's not affecting your work I wouldn't worry about it. | |||
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"Or some people drone on and your mind wanders to something more important. Apparently not in the case of this OP. "But I also do it with friends and family quite badly, and I find most of them very interesting. I think it's more of a "me" problem." Gbat " Some of us have the attention span of a goldfish and need spicy details to keep us interested. | |||
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"My daughter does that. I'll be telling her something and after a couple of minutes she'll go oh sorry I wasn't listening. I've done it myself so I forgive. when you have a lot on your mind it's difficult to stay focused. Yes this is it. Usually I'll be thinking of everything I have to do that evening/weekend/how to generally sort my life out. I'll start thinking about previous interactions that are playing on my mind or whatever is making me anxious that day. I've always used things like white noise/brown noise/ASMR in the background while trying to get other things done or get to sleep, so maybe hearing someone talk for long stretches of time has that same effect on my brain? Unless we have something uber interesting to talk about we generally talk about mundane stuff, and my life is mostly mundane. Mundane conversation leads to zoning out. I'm very boring to talk to ![]() Thinking about it, this may also stem from my constant need of a second screen experience - literally typing this on my phone while I have a YouTube video playing on my laptop and a Netflix show going on the telly. My mind is literally never quiet, yikes ![]() | |||
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"What was you saying again? " Just a bunch of bullshit Magneto, with the occasional salty peeps calling me rude and narcissistic ![]() | |||
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"Am I the only one that zones out whenever someone talks for like, longer than a few sentences? Then I catch myself and force myself to pay attention because I don't want to be rude or because the information I'm getting is important, but then a few seconds later my mind starts wandering again... " The say a gold fish only has a 30 second attention span maybe your really just a gold fish . | |||
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"I don't normally, I'm quite attentive. But there one particular guy at work who when I ask him a question his answers are so long winded and of on tangents I'm even more confused after than I was when I asked him the question. It's like he's used one of them Men in Black zappers on me. " Ahh I've had this. People that go through the entire fucking alphabet just to get from A to B. And because you have to remain "professional" or whatever, all you can do is smile and nod politely ![]() | |||
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"I don't normally, I'm quite attentive. But there one particular guy at work who when I ask him a question his answers are so long winded and of on tangents I'm even more confused after than I was when I asked him the question. It's like he's used one of them Men in Black zappers on me. Ahh I've had this. People that go through the entire fucking alphabet just to get from A to B. And because you have to remain "professional" or whatever, all you can do is smile and nod politely ![]() I tend to email him now ![]() | |||
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"I don't normally, I'm quite attentive. But there one particular guy at work who when I ask him a question his answers are so long winded and of on tangents I'm even more confused after than I was when I asked him the question. It's like he's used one of them Men in Black zappers on me. " My brother in law takes 20 minutes to tell a 5 minute story. My sister tells him to get to the bloody point. He adds extras to try to make it a less boring story. | |||
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"I think it is rude. If you don't want to engage with someone then just don't." Now I know what happened that fateful day in the village....... ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I think it is rude. If you don't want to engage with someone then just don't. Now I know what happened that fateful day in the village....... ![]() ![]() That's a Cock and Bull story if ever I hears one. ![]() | |||
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"I think it is rude. If you don't want to engage with someone then just don't. Now I know what happened that fateful day in the village....... ![]() ![]() ![]() There was definitely Cock down by the river with a slight chill to the air... | |||
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"There are many undiagnosed adult ADD/ADHD people, but there are online tests to check whether this may be an issue for you and whether any treatment may be beneficial " You think it could be this? Definitely in the past few years I've had a lot of trouble focusing; I always feel like I need to be doing at least two things at once ![]() | |||
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"There are many undiagnosed adult ADD/ADHD people, but there are online tests to check whether this may be an issue for you and whether any treatment may be beneficial You think it could be this? Definitely in the past few years I've had a lot of trouble focusing; I always feel like I need to be doing at least two things at once ![]() It wouldn’t do any harm to just take the test, at least it might give you some explanations | |||
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"There are many undiagnosed adult ADD/ADHD people, but there are online tests to check whether this may be an issue for you and whether any treatment may be beneficial You think it could be this? Definitely in the past few years I've had a lot of trouble focusing; I always feel like I need to be doing at least two things at once ![]() It’s the first thing I thought when I read your post, certainly sounds like it. | |||
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