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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am I the only one that zones out whenever someone talks for like, longer than a few sentences?

Then I catch myself and force myself to pay attention because I don't want to be rude or because the information I'm getting is important, but then a few seconds later my mind starts wandering again...

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Yep we both do it.

Dicks really bad for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sure you are not the only person.

but youve either got to talk to more interesting people, or stop being rude.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

All. The. Time.

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"sure you are not the only person.

but youve either got to talk to more interesting people, or stop being rude."

Tbh it's mostly at work, like during meetings or when someone is explaining something to me. Which is even worse because then I have to pretend I'm not completely lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on if I am in to them or not

If I am in to them I do tend to zone out or in

I get captivated in with they saying

I get messmirsed by they eyes

I get lost checking ever little detail on they body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sure you are not the only person.

but youve either got to talk to more interesting people, or stop being rude.

Tbh it's mostly at work, like during meetings or when someone is explaining something to me. Which is even worse because then I have to pretend I'm not completely lost "

if on teams, im too busy eating my 5th bowl of cheerios. if in person - i try and make the effort.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"sure you are not the only person.

but youve either got to talk to more interesting people, or stop being rude.

Tbh it's mostly at work, like during meetings or when someone is explaining something to me. Which is even worse because then I have to pretend I'm not completely lost "

But I also do it with friends and family quite badly, and I find most of them very interesting. I think it's more of a "me" problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time at work

So boring my mind is minefield

Always on wander

Even when talking to members of public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no attention span for something or someone I have no interest in.

I will be thinking about the million and one things I could be doing instead of listening to someone rabbiting on about god knows, I don't listen

The amount of times someone has said 'what did they say" - fuck knows....

Or I walk off thinking 'wtf is that all about'

People are weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sure you are not the only person.

but youve either got to talk to more interesting people, or stop being rude.

Tbh it's mostly at work, like during meetings or when someone is explaining something to me. Which is even worse because then I have to pretend I'm not completely lost

But I also do it with friends and family quite badly, and I find most of them very interesting. I think it's more of a "me" problem. "

friends and family... hmm yeah reeks of narcissim... you should be interested in them otherwise why are they you're friends. unless of course the friendship went years ago and you are friends because youve aleaus been friends but you really want new friends?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"sure you are not the only person.

but youve either got to talk to more interesting people, or stop being rude.

Tbh it's mostly at work, like during meetings or when someone is explaining something to me. Which is even worse because then I have to pretend I'm not completely lost

But I also do it with friends and family quite badly, and I find most of them very interesting. I think it's more of a "me" problem.

friends and family... hmm yeah reeks of narcissim... you should be interested in them otherwise why are they you're friends. unless of course the friendship went years ago and you are friends because youve aleaus been friends but you really want new friends?"

Sorry I don't have the attention span to get to the end of that post

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

My daughter does that.

I'll be telling her something and after a couple of minutes she'll go oh sorry I wasn't listening.

I've done it myself so I forgive.

when you have a lot on your mind it's difficult to stay focused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sure you are not the only person.

but youve either got to talk to more interesting people, or stop being rude.

Tbh it's mostly at work, like during meetings or when someone is explaining something to me. Which is even worse because then I have to pretend I'm not completely lost

But I also do it with friends and family quite badly, and I find most of them very interesting. I think it's more of a "me" problem.

friends and family... hmm yeah reeks of narcissim... you should be interested in them otherwise why are they you're friends. unless of course the friendship went years ago and you are friends because youve aleaus been friends but you really want new friends?

Sorry I don't have the attention span to get to the end of that post "

yeah took me a lot of effort to read yours

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Got to agree with all this guy has said.

I think you're right OP, it's a "you" problem. Your description does make you sound a little rude if I'm honest.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My daughter does that.

I'll be telling her something and after a couple of minutes she'll go oh sorry I wasn't listening.

I've done it myself so I forgive.

when you have a lot on your mind it's difficult to stay focused. "

Yes this is it. Usually I'll be thinking of everything I have to do that evening/weekend/how to generally sort my life out. I'll start thinking about previous interactions that are playing on my mind or whatever is making me anxious that day. I've always used things like white noise/brown noise/ASMR in the background while trying to get other things done or get to sleep, so maybe hearing someone talk for long stretches of time has that same effect on my brain?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Got to agree with all this guy has said.

I think you're right OP, it's a "you" problem. Your description does make you sound a little rude if I'm honest.

Gbat "

That's a shame

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"My daughter does that.

I'll be telling her something and after a couple of minutes she'll go oh sorry I wasn't listening.

I've done it myself so I forgive.

when you have a lot on your mind it's difficult to stay focused.

Yes this is it. Usually I'll be thinking of everything I have to do that evening/weekend/how to generally sort my life out. I'll start thinking about previous interactions that are playing on my mind or whatever is making me anxious that day. I've always used things like white noise/brown noise/ASMR in the background while trying to get other things done or get to sleep, so maybe hearing someone talk for long stretches of time has that same effect on my brain? "

Unless we have something uber interesting to talk about we generally talk about mundane stuff, and my life is mostly mundane. Mundane conversation leads to zoning out.

I'm very boring to talk to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife said to me the other day " you haven't been listening to a word I've been saying .

And I thought

What a strange way to start a conversation.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Got to agree with all this guy has said.

I think you're right OP, it's a "you" problem. Your description does make you sound a little rude if I'm honest.

Gbat "

Or some people drone on and your mind wanders to something more important.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)


"That's a shame"

It is!

Gbat

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)


"Or some people drone on and your mind wanders to something more important."

Apparently not in the case of this OP.

"But I also do it with friends and family quite badly, and I find most of them very interesting. I think it's more of a "me" problem."

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My daughter does that.

I'll be telling her something and after a couple of minutes she'll go oh sorry I wasn't listening.

I've done it myself so I forgive.

when you have a lot on your mind it's difficult to stay focused.

Yes this is it. Usually I'll be thinking of everything I have to do that evening/weekend/how to generally sort my life out. I'll start thinking about previous interactions that are playing on my mind or whatever is making me anxious that day. I've always used things like white noise/brown noise/ASMR in the background while trying to get other things done or get to sleep, so maybe hearing someone talk for long stretches of time has that same effect on my brain?

Unless we have something uber interesting to talk about we generally talk about mundane stuff, and my life is mostly mundane. Mundane conversation leads to zoning out.

I'm very boring to talk to "

Hmm it's not so much content... For example I love my job and am always trying to learn more so I ask lots of questions, but then when someone explains it to me and it's a long answer I zone out. I really do think it's just the physical act of hearing someone's voice go on that makes me think it's like a good background to think about other stuff over, if that makes sense?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"My daughter does that.

I'll be telling her something and after a couple of minutes she'll go oh sorry I wasn't listening.

I've done it myself so I forgive.

when you have a lot on your mind it's difficult to stay focused.

Yes this is it. Usually I'll be thinking of everything I have to do that evening/weekend/how to generally sort my life out. I'll start thinking about previous interactions that are playing on my mind or whatever is making me anxious that day. I've always used things like white noise/brown noise/ASMR in the background while trying to get other things done or get to sleep, so maybe hearing someone talk for long stretches of time has that same effect on my brain?

Unless we have something uber interesting to talk about we generally talk about mundane stuff, and my life is mostly mundane. Mundane conversation leads to zoning out.

I'm very boring to talk to

Hmm it's not so much content... For example I love my job and am always trying to learn more so I ask lots of questions, but then when someone explains it to me and it's a long answer I zone out. I really do think it's just the physical act of hearing someone's voice go on that makes me think it's like a good background to think about other stuff over, if that makes sense?"

I know what you mean. If it's not affecting your work I wouldn't worry about it.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Or some people drone on and your mind wanders to something more important.

Apparently not in the case of this OP.

"But I also do it with friends and family quite badly, and I find most of them very interesting. I think it's more of a "me" problem."

Gbat

"

Some of us have the attention span of a goldfish and need spicy details to keep us interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My daughter does that.

I'll be telling her something and after a couple of minutes she'll go oh sorry I wasn't listening.

I've done it myself so I forgive.

when you have a lot on your mind it's difficult to stay focused.

Yes this is it. Usually I'll be thinking of everything I have to do that evening/weekend/how to generally sort my life out. I'll start thinking about previous interactions that are playing on my mind or whatever is making me anxious that day. I've always used things like white noise/brown noise/ASMR in the background while trying to get other things done or get to sleep, so maybe hearing someone talk for long stretches of time has that same effect on my brain?

Unless we have something uber interesting to talk about we generally talk about mundane stuff, and my life is mostly mundane. Mundane conversation leads to zoning out.

I'm very boring to talk to

Hmm it's not so much content... For example I love my job and am always trying to learn more so I ask lots of questions, but then when someone explains it to me and it's a long answer I zone out. I really do think it's just the physical act of hearing someone's voice go on that makes me think it's like a good background to think about other stuff over, if that makes sense?

I know what you mean. If it's not affecting your work I wouldn't worry about it.

"

Thinking about it, this may also stem from my constant need of a second screen experience - literally typing this on my phone while I have a YouTube video playing on my laptop and a Netflix show going on the telly.

My mind is literally never quiet, yikes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

This is me lmao. I am a mess.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

What was you saying again?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What was you saying again? "

Just a bunch of bullshit Magneto, with the occasional salty peeps calling me rude and narcissistic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes.

This is me lmao. I am a mess. "

Join the club. Let's be messes together

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Yes.

This is me lmao. I am a mess.

Join the club. Let's make a mess of each other "

The start of beautiful Fab friendship

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes.

This is me lmao. I am a mess.

Join the club. Let's make a mess of each other

The start of beautiful Fab friendship

LvM"

Hahaaa

I'll get the peanut butter. You get the whipped cream.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Yeah all the time

Health and safety briefings or changes to policies that affect me quite a lot. I switch off and my brain starts playing cat videos then before I know it I’m getting salty emails about my wrongdoings.

Sorry your presentation sucked, Rebecca. Try jazz it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one that zones out whenever someone talks for like, longer than a few sentences?

Then I catch myself and force myself to pay attention because I don't want to be rude or because the information I'm getting is important, but then a few seconds later my mind starts wandering again... "

The say a gold fish only has a 30 second attention span maybe your really just a gold fish .

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I don't normally, I'm quite attentive.

But there one particular guy at work who when I ask him a question his answers are so long winded and of on tangents I'm even more confused after than I was when I asked him the question. It's like he's used one of them Men in Black zappers on me.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

*off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did this all through school. Amazing I got anywhere...As I've become aware of it I try and concentrate...sometimes..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't normally, I'm quite attentive.

But there one particular guy at work who when I ask him a question his answers are so long winded and of on tangents I'm even more confused after than I was when I asked him the question. It's like he's used one of them Men in Black zappers on me. "

Ahh I've had this. People that go through the entire fucking alphabet just to get from A to B. And because you have to remain "professional" or whatever, all you can do is smile and nod politely

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"I don't normally, I'm quite attentive.

But there one particular guy at work who when I ask him a question his answers are so long winded and of on tangents I'm even more confused after than I was when I asked him the question. It's like he's used one of them Men in Black zappers on me.

Ahh I've had this. People that go through the entire fucking alphabet just to get from A to B. And because you have to remain "professional" or whatever, all you can do is smile and nod politely "

I tend to email him now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

This is me lmao. I am a mess.

Join the club. Let's be messes together "

Sounds like heaven

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

This is me lmao. I am a mess.

Join the club. Let's make a mess of each other

The start of beautiful Fab friendship

LvM

Hahaaa

I'll get the peanut butter. You get the whipped cream. "

Is someone getting eaten?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I don't normally, I'm quite attentive.

But there one particular guy at work who when I ask him a question his answers are so long winded and of on tangents I'm even more confused after than I was when I asked him the question. It's like he's used one of them Men in Black zappers on me. "

My brother in law takes 20 minutes to tell a 5 minute story. My sister tells him to get to the bloody point. He adds extras to try to make it a less boring story.

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By *cotty1376Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

Do it all the time when behind the bar , then I just yell them I've someone to serve and walk away

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

You just reminded me of a woman who was part of the team running a course I was on.

Her sentences were punctuated with "and uhh" or "ok,well" and lots of silent pauses while she thought of what to say next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is rude. If you don't want to engage with someone then just don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is rude. If you don't want to engage with someone then just don't."

Now I know what happened that fateful day in the village.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is rude. If you don't want to engage with someone then just don't.

Now I know what happened that fateful day in the village....... "

That's a Cock and Bull story if ever I hears one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is rude. If you don't want to engage with someone then just don't.

Now I know what happened that fateful day in the village.......

That's a Cock and Bull story if ever I hears one. "

There was definitely Cock down by the river with a slight chill to the air...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re not alone OP, I do it a lot of the time too. Meetings are prime candidates for it….someone usually waffling on about some bollocks I care nothing for (even when I’m supposed to… )

I end up drifting off onto thinking about a million other things. I’d much rather communications be written in most cases.

That said, I’ve honed the ability to almost always catch what Mrs. Saisei is saying, regardless of where my head it at. It tends to avoid injury

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

There are many undiagnosed adult ADD/ADHD people, but there are online tests to check whether this may be an issue for you and whether any treatment may be beneficial

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do this a lot, especially with people who talk at you and not too you. Some people breathe in and don't exhale until they have done their life story, front to back.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I'm terrible for it I'm afraid. It helps when your conscious of it and can try to bring yourself back in.

Unless of course the subject matter is one of my focused intrests, then I'm very attentive. The trouble is in that scenario I have to hold my tongue because all the information I know on the subject trys to force its way out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are many undiagnosed adult ADD/ADHD people, but there are online tests to check whether this may be an issue for you and whether any treatment may be beneficial "

You think it could be this? Definitely in the past few years I've had a lot of trouble focusing; I always feel like I need to be doing at least two things at once

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)


"There are many undiagnosed adult ADD/ADHD people, but there are online tests to check whether this may be an issue for you and whether any treatment may be beneficial

You think it could be this? Definitely in the past few years I've had a lot of trouble focusing; I always feel like I need to be doing at least two things at once "

It wouldn’t do any harm to just take the test, at least it might give you some explanations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry zoned out half way down

What was the question?

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"There are many undiagnosed adult ADD/ADHD people, but there are online tests to check whether this may be an issue for you and whether any treatment may be beneficial

You think it could be this? Definitely in the past few years I've had a lot of trouble focusing; I always feel like I need to be doing at least two things at once "

It’s the first thing I thought when I read your post, certainly sounds like it.

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Yep, I do it.

It’s why I cancel a lot of work meetings unless they’re super important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm terrible for this. I have to force myself to listen or I end up daydreaming

M

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