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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right guys give me some advice

Recently met a fella, online dating , it’s all going ok ( I think ?) and we have met a few times . No sex or any real mention of it yet

So a few questions, how soon is too soon ( for sex) . We aren’t meeting a lot ( mainly due to diaries not aligning ) so how do I keep the interest up ?

There’s a reason I don’t date , I’m pretty awful at it so please help me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How soon is too soon?

Go with your gut instinct. When it feels right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you get one well enough and the chemistry is right there’s no such thing as too soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you get one well enough and the chemistry is right there’s no such thing as too soon."

Get on well**

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How soon is too soon?

Go with your gut instinct. When it feels right "

Yeah not just yet , but bit concerned the interest will wane

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How soon is too soon?

Go with your gut instinct. When it feels right

Yeah not just yet , but bit concerned the interest will wane "

If the interest wanes without sex - this early, then maybe he’s not right for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to have sex, raise the subject of having sex?

If something feels right, then it is usually is. If it doesn’t feel right, then it probably isn’t. Trust your instinct x

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Right guys give me some advice

Recently met a fella, online dating , it’s all going ok ( I think ?) and we have met a few times . No sex or any real mention of it yet

So a few questions, how soon is too soon ( for sex) . We aren’t meeting a lot ( mainly due to diaries not aligning ) so how do I keep the interest up ?

There’s a reason I don’t date , I’m pretty awful at it so please help me "

Ask him and agree with what suits you both.

He might be too polite to ask and be delighted you bring the subject up.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

A few times?

No talk of sex yet?

Isn't date 3 the unwritten naked tango rule?

If it gets to more than 3 dates and we've not considered ripping each others clothes off then the connection generally isn't there. Is it?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Sex around 3-4th date is pretty good if your wanting a relationship. Although earlier can still work, but date 3-4 is best imo

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"How soon is too soon?

Go with your gut instinct. When it feels right

Yeah not just yet , but bit concerned the interest will wane

If the interest wanes without sex - this early, then maybe he’s not right for you. "

No need to dive straight into full sex.

Pretend you're back in your late teens and perhaps start with a hand shandy or a gobby wank.

Seriously though.

If he's not tried it on at all yet I wouldn't panic. If he's at all concerned and frustrated then no doubt he'd have made a move already.

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A few times?

No talk of sex yet?

Isn't date 3 the unwritten naked tango rule?

If it gets to more than 3 dates and we've not considered ripping each others clothes off then the connection generally isn't there. Is it?"

It’s been hinted at but nothing apart from the that

Isn’t it a 5 date rule not 3?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you want to have sex, raise the subject of having sex?

If something feels right, then it is usually is. If it doesn’t feel right, then it probably isn’t. Trust your instinct x "

It does feel right, but honestly I’m used to men wanting to get in my knickers and dirty talk so I’m a bit freaked about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few times?

No talk of sex yet?

Isn't date 3 the unwritten naked tango rule?

If it gets to more than 3 dates and we've not considered ripping each others clothes off then the connection generally isn't there. Is it?

It’s been hinted at but nothing apart from the that

Isn’t it a 5 date rule not 3?"

The only rule you need worry about, is the one you put in place.

3 dates, 5 dates or 10 dates

When you feel comfortable- that’s when x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How soon is too soon?

Go with your gut instinct. When it feels right

Yeah not just yet , but bit concerned the interest will wane

If the interest wanes without sex - this early, then maybe he’s not right for you. "

I haven’t lost interest , I’m just a little conscious he might

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"A few times?

No talk of sex yet?

Isn't date 3 the unwritten naked tango rule?

If it gets to more than 3 dates and we've not considered ripping each others clothes off then the connection generally isn't there. Is it?

It’s been hinted at but nothing apart from the that

Isn’t it a 5 date rule not 3?"

I thought it was 3?

I did tell one girl on our first date that I had a 28 day rule. She was soon all over me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few times?

No talk of sex yet?

Isn't date 3 the unwritten naked tango rule?

If it gets to more than 3 dates and we've not considered ripping each others clothes off then the connection generally isn't there. Is it?

It’s been hinted at but nothing apart from the that

Isn’t it a 5 date rule not 3?

I thought it was 3?

I did tell one girl on our first date that I had a 28 day rule. She was soon all over me lol"

How romantic

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I can never remember setting a time on this. If it's natural, you go for it, if it, don't worry about. If he's lost interest after a few dates, he's not going to be a stable companion x

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

Just go with how you feel OP, there's no date number that says you should have by, he may be the type that want's to take it easy on the sex and may be waiting for you to approach the subject. You could always tell him that he turns you on so much and you want to ravage him...see what his response is? Or you could just go full on and ravage him when the kisses get heated...

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

No time limit on, just when the mood, opportunity and feel is right. Don't buy the myth a guy won't repect you if you give sex too easily. Nonsense, a guy is either a decent guy who respects you or he's not regardless of how soon you have sex or not. At the end of the day if a guy is just trying to get his end away whether you have sex now or later is inconsequential. That's where your gut instincts and spidy senses come it.

Clearly you've built a rapport. I'm always an advocate of playing with a fair deck and avoiding anyone who doesn't in return. No one likes to be expected to read minds. So if you trust him just be open with him, tell him what your feeling and maybe you can both work out what and when is right for you both. And if you can master open and honest communication between you both from an early stage that bodes very well going into the future.

Good luck

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By *inkyfun2013Couple
over a year ago

lewisham

Tell him you've got a fab meet tomorrow and ask if he'd like to join.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

If he really likes you, he'll be happy to wait.

Is he in regular contact? Is he arranging the dates?

Have you established what he's looking for?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No time limit on, just when the mood, opportunity and feel is right. Don't buy the myth a guy won't repect you if you give sex too easily. Nonsense, a guy is either a decent guy who respects you or he's not regardless of how soon you have sex or not. At the end of the day if a guy is just trying to get his end away whether you have sex now or later is inconsequential. That's where your gut instincts and spidy senses come it.

Clearly you've built a rapport. I'm always an advocate of playing with a fair deck and avoiding anyone who doesn't in return. No one likes to be expected to read minds. So if you trust him just be open with him, tell him what your feeling and maybe you can both work out what and when is right for you both. And if you can master open and honest communication between you both from an early stage that bodes very well going into the future.

Good luck"

Cannot tell you how much I love this reply

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