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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I find myself feeling more and more down as I browse through this place. This place could brake a man's ego completely.

Has anyone else felt disheartened with being on here and what has kept you going?

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

This place is meant to be about fun. If I felt I wasn't enjoying it or if it was having a negative impact on me then I would consider whether or not it's the right place for me to be.

Anything that makes you feel low/negative about yourself isn't good for you.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Sounds like you need to adjust your fab expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rules of fab..

Have no expectations.

Don't take this place too seriously.

You can't be everyone's cup of tea, that's life in general.

Don't let someone else's preference dictate your self esteem.

Follow these and you'll be just fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get disheartened here.

I accept that I won’t be to everyone’s taste. I accept that the chances of meeting people are a lot smaller than some, and I don’t fear being rejected. I just hang around, spout random nonsense, offer the occasionally funny or helpful comment.

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...


"I find myself feeling more and more down as I browse through this place. This place could brake a man's ego completely.

Has anyone else felt disheartened with being on here and what has kept you going?"

What we're your expectations when you joined? Whatever they were, dial them back. And a bit more. Once more....... thats it now.

It takes many men, even those with superb profiles, around a year to meet someone who's boxes you both tick.

It's a tough place for single guys.

Best advice, lower expectations and up your game. Be patient and use every opportunity that Fab gives you.

(And read the site FaQ about privacy warnings)

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Has anyone else felt disheartened with being on here and what has kept you going?"

I never logged on here with a entitlement attitude. That helps me, especially when I’ve been put in my place by those I made clear that I liked. (Yes, #theyknowwho

Disheartening that I currently don’t have a sex life, but I like to think that fab opens up friendships that could build into something more…. Because we are all on here… a sex contacts site

Keep going op. Just keep trying to talk to people on your level. or try a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly understand why you can feel disheartened on Fab but don’t take it too seriously as you are not going to be a match for everyone. Just have fun with it and if it is making you feel low then maybe it’s a time for a break for a while !!

Good luck and hope you find what you are looking for

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"I find myself feeling more and more down as I browse through this place. This place could brake a man's ego completely.

Has anyone else felt disheartened with being on here and what has kept you going?"

I think *could* is key here, mate. If you base your entire self-confidence on how many meets you get or how many "Fabs" you get on your pics, then I can see what you're saying. But I'm sure your confidence is based on more than that, so remember that.

As others have said, don't expect anything to fall into your lap, treat this site as a bit of fun, as another way to meet people rather than the only one, and take a break if it's really bothering you...

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I ask myself on a regular basis after every break, to what I want to use fab for.

Its healthy to reassess your wants and needs

Hope you find some clarity soon OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to feel ugly and undesirable on here but like yolo said it’s about remembering that your self confidence comes from more places than this. You’re beautiful to lots of people OP even if not to everyone. Hold onto that. I hold onto that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bless. I hope he’s ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's left I do hope he's OK because the statistics for a certain action I don't want to name are rising through the roof with men in his age bracket .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bless. I hope he’s ok. "

think this site has just chalked up another Unlos.

I felt his post was pretty genuine, why I posted honestly.

*reworded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh who was it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh who was it "

Big Harold.

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By *egabristolsCouple
over a year ago

penarth

Look at what it gives you, not what it doesn’t give you.

*You’ve seen some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world completely naked.

*You’ve got an opportunity to not only watch them have sex, but it’s enabled you to approach them.

Your glass is definitely half full… Chin Up

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

This place can be soul destroying for single blokes at times.

Especially if we take it too seriously.

Hope the OPs OK. Fingers crossed, seemed like a genuine post, not the usual LAM.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This hurts a little to read. While I do ok here I’ve struggled off and on with poor self image and sense of self worth and I can relate to his sentiments. It’s hard let someone down gently so I do hope the OP can at least sometimes take a step or a breath and remember that.

Oh and I shouldn’t need to say it but I will based on some other interactions here… please can I ask people don’t trivialise or down play my post based on any preconceived view you may form of me.

Hope you’re ok OP but I’m guessing you may never see this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s sad I hope he is okay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a shame the OP didn’t stick around for a pep talk. I’d call myself very resilient and don’t have expectations from this site anyway, but I sometimes question if it’s the right site for me. Maybe he took the right decision and left before it made him feel worse. Hope he’s ok though.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington


"Look at what it gives you, not what it doesn’t give you.

*You’ve seen some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world completely naked.

*You’ve got an opportunity to not only watch them have sex, but it’s enabled you to approach them.

Your glass is definitely half full… Chin Up"

I'm sorry but I'm not sure how those things can make a glass half full...watching naked women have sex? You can do that on a porn site for free...it might give you the opportunity to approach them, but 9 out if 10 times you will get rejected, which I'm not sure that does any good to your self esteem.

However there is one part of your comment that caught my eye, which I think is part of the problem on fab..."some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world"...there are so many men that put women on fab on this high pedestal, that is not deserved or earned. I've observed some women become self entitled and develop such unrealistic expectations, that they even get offended and rude simply because a man says "hello" to them (if they don't tick all the boxes). They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos. Meanwhile I see pictures from men that are stylish and artistic and you can see the effort put in them, and they will not get more than 20 fabs (which definitely makes you think you're not putting enough effort, especially when you see every other day a thread about how men on fab have shitty profiles and make no effort). Then all these men start to question themselves..." Am I even good enough for this site? Should I even be here?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the trick is quite simple not to give a fuck its not real until it is

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

Just don’t go UNLOS OP…. Hide your profi…. Oh wait

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Look at what it gives you, not what it doesn’t give you.

*You’ve seen some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world completely naked.

*You’ve got an opportunity to not only watch them have sex, but it’s enabled you to approach them.

Your glass is definitely half full… Chin Up

I'm sorry but I'm not sure how those things can make a glass half full...watching naked women have sex? You can do that on a porn site for free...it might give you the opportunity to approach them, but 9 out if 10 times you will get rejected, which I'm not sure that does any good to your self esteem.

However there is one part of your comment that caught my eye, which I think is part of the problem on fab..."some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world"...there are so many men that put women on fab on this high pedestal, that is not deserved or earned. I've observed some women become self entitled and develop such unrealistic expectations, that they even get offended and rude simply because a man says "hello" to them (if they don't tick all the boxes). They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos. Meanwhile I see pictures from men that are stylish and artistic and you can see the effort put in them, and they will not get more than 20 fabs (which definitely makes you think you're not putting enough effort, especially when you see every other day a thread about how men on fab have shitty profiles and make no effort). Then all these men start to question themselves..." Am I even good enough for this site? Should I even be here?" "

well said

The most beautiful women in the world? On here? There’s some very stunning women but let’s chill a little bit there. Stop putting the pussy on a pedestal. Stop pretending like men should act blessed to even share a public website with them. They’re just human. And as there is with any mixture of the public, some very nasty, some very average, some very stunning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I echo the many posters… have no expectations… post on forums, have a laugh, write complimentary things to people and who knows what might happen… I’ve made some great “buddies” with genuine warm personalities… Fab is what you make of it…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine this place is a pub, you wouldn’t drink in it if you knew half of the people, it’s the same for all social media, it’s a tool, use it for what it is, a means of conversation and connection, if you went to the pub alone and got blanked you would walk out, remember this pub is 90 percent blokes too and if that was real life would you drink there? Enter, order a pint, shoot your shot and leave, don’t hang about at the bar ….

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Look at what it gives you, not what it doesn’t give you.

*You’ve seen some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world completely naked.

*You’ve got an opportunity to not only watch them have sex, but it’s enabled you to approach them.

Your glass is definitely half full… Chin Up

I'm sorry but I'm not sure how those things can make a glass half full...watching naked women have sex? You can do that on a porn site for free...it might give you the opportunity to approach them, but 9 out if 10 times you will get rejected, which I'm not sure that does any good to your self esteem.

However there is one part of your comment that caught my eye, which I think is part of the problem on fab..."some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world"...there are so many men that put women on fab on this high pedestal, that is not deserved or earned. I've observed some women become self entitled and develop such unrealistic expectations, that they even get offended and rude simply because a man says "hello" to them (if they don't tick all the boxes). They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos. Meanwhile I see pictures from men that are stylish and artistic and you can see the effort put in them, and they will not get more than 20 fabs (which definitely makes you think you're not putting enough effort, especially when you see every other day a thread about how men on fab have shitty profiles and make no effort). Then all these men start to question themselves..." Am I even good enough for this site? Should I even be here?" "

I’ve had thoughts along these lines, not directly agreeing but there can be an element of ‘fab persona’ that leads to an entitled attitude. It can be both men and women that have this though.

It’s easy to get like that on the internet, where everything takes place within a virtual bubble and people only interact with the aspects that someone is putting out there.

The internet brings out the best and worst in people and it’s easy to start to believe the hype, especially if it’s directed at someone constantly.

Humility is the key, step outside the virtual and remembering that people are just people, no matter how good, pretty or bad the pictures are, this is even more important if it’s ourselves being affected on either side of the coin.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"That’s sad I hope he is okay "

I’m hoping that he’s done the right thing for himself. Fab can be a cruel mistress and everyone needs a break from time to time.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Look at what it gives you, not what it doesn’t give you.

*You’ve seen some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world completely naked.

*You’ve got an opportunity to not only watch them have sex, but it’s enabled you to approach them.

Your glass is definitely half full… Chin Up

I'm sorry but I'm not sure how those things can make a glass half full...watching naked women have sex? You can do that on a porn site for free...it might give you the opportunity to approach them, but 9 out if 10 times you will get rejected, which I'm not sure that does any good to your self esteem.

However there is one part of your comment that caught my eye, which I think is part of the problem on fab..."some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world"...there are so many men that put women on fab on this high pedestal, that is not deserved or earned. I've observed some women become self entitled and develop such unrealistic expectations, that they even get offended and rude simply because a man says "hello" to them (if they don't tick all the boxes). They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos. Meanwhile I see pictures from men that are stylish and artistic and you can see the effort put in them, and they will not get more than 20 fabs (which definitely makes you think you're not putting enough effort, especially when you see every other day a thread about how men on fab have shitty profiles and make no effort). Then all these men start to question themselves..." Am I even good enough for this site? Should I even be here?" "

I don't interact much with single females so my experience differs to yours. But your point regarding photos isn't a male Vs female one. I'm friends and have hotlisted many females and couples who take outstanding photos, which never appear near the top of the hot pics. By saying you can take a rubbish photo just because you own some tits and get to the top is nonsense, and potentially make those who never get there feel they're rubbish because they don't, something you don't like yourself.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Without Fab my life was sexless.

With Fab my life is mainly sexless.

Fab doesn't greatly change how much sex I have but it does give me hope that once in a blue moon I'll get to meet someone who'll want to share some fun times with me.

Plus and, this is a big plus, Fab puts me in contact with like minded people and makes me feel part of a community to which I relate to.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Look at what it gives you, not what it doesn’t give you.

*You’ve seen some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world completely naked.

*You’ve got an opportunity to not only watch them have sex, but it’s enabled you to approach them.

Your glass is definitely half full… Chin Up

I'm sorry but I'm not sure how those things can make a glass half full...watching naked women have sex? You can do that on a porn site for free...it might give you the opportunity to approach them, but 9 out if 10 times you will get rejected, which I'm not sure that does any good to your self esteem.

However there is one part of your comment that caught my eye, which I think is part of the problem on fab..."some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world"...there are so many men that put women on fab on this high pedestal, that is not deserved or earned. I've observed some women become self entitled and develop such unrealistic expectations, that they even get offended and rude simply because a man says "hello" to them (if they don't tick all the boxes). They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos. Meanwhile I see pictures from men that are stylish and artistic and you can see the effort put in them, and they will not get more than 20 fabs (which definitely makes you think you're not putting enough effort, especially when you see every other day a thread about how men on fab have shitty profiles and make no effort). Then all these men start to question themselves..." Am I even good enough for this site? Should I even be here?"

I don't interact much with single females so my experience differs to yours. But your point regarding photos isn't a male Vs female one. I'm friends and have hotlisted many females and couples who take outstanding photos, which never appear near the top of the hot pics. By saying you can take a rubbish photo just because you own some tits and get to the top is nonsense, and potentially make those who never get there feel they're rubbish because they don't, something you don't like yourself.

"

I don't look at the hotpics very often but I have seen numerous pics on page one and two from women and couples that I can honestly say I've no idea what I'm looking at no matter how many times I zoom or rotate my phone.

In regard to other comments above about pedestals, my experience in all my time here is that for every woman and couple that are approachable and down to earth is another who expects and sometimes demands they be put on a pedestal.

I've no idea if that is the fault of fab but I can only assume they need that validation in their everyday lives as well.

I've met women who have greeted me by asking if I'm nervous about meeting them and others who literally have played the "do you not know who I am card?".

I'm sure there are lots of experienced male swingers who have similar attitudes but as I don't engage with other single men my experiences are restricted to women and couples.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington


"Look at what it gives you, not what it doesn’t give you.

*You’ve seen some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world completely naked.

*You’ve got an opportunity to not only watch them have sex, but it’s enabled you to approach them.

Your glass is definitely half full… Chin Up

I'm sorry but I'm not sure how those things can make a glass half full...watching naked women have sex? You can do that on a porn site for free...it might give you the opportunity to approach them, but 9 out if 10 times you will get rejected, which I'm not sure that does any good to your self esteem.

However there is one part of your comment that caught my eye, which I think is part of the problem on fab..."some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world"...there are so many men that put women on fab on this high pedestal, that is not deserved or earned. I've observed some women become self entitled and develop such unrealistic expectations, that they even get offended and rude simply because a man says "hello" to them (if they don't tick all the boxes). They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos. Meanwhile I see pictures from men that are stylish and artistic and you can see the effort put in them, and they will not get more than 20 fabs (which definitely makes you think you're not putting enough effort, especially when you see every other day a thread about how men on fab have shitty profiles and make no effort). Then all these men start to question themselves..." Am I even good enough for this site? Should I even be here?"

I don't interact much with single females so my experience differs to yours. But your point regarding photos isn't a male Vs female one. I'm friends and have hotlisted many females and couples who take outstanding photos, which never appear near the top of the hot pics. By saying you can take a rubbish photo just because you own some tits and get to the top is nonsense, and potentially make those who never get there feel they're rubbish because they don't, something you don't like yourself.

"

What are you on about? I said some women, I didn’t say all women can just trust take a pic and they will get to Page1...of course not all women will get on Page1, as there is a limited number, but all men on fab will NEVER get on Page1 ( the photos on Page1 get hundress and thousands of fabs in 12 hours of the upload, and a man will never get there). I understand that both men and women can feel not good enough on Fab, but the whole perspective of my comment is from a man's pov (predominantly mine), because the OP is male.

Regarding the pictures and Page1...I believe all women on fab have the potential to get on Page 1, and I also believe all men on fab will never have the potential to get on Page1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find myself feeling more and more down as I browse through this place. This place could brake a man's ego completely.

Has anyone else felt disheartened with being on here and what has kept you going?"

Yes, to the point of almost leaving here, but I’m new, so gonna perceiver

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it can be soul distroying but i go in the forums have chat get advice & just take it slow definitely not expecting to meet up with anyone just yet but hope to make friends & maybe help out when i can, i send out winks to start ball rollong so to speak but thats it, started chatting to a lady but when i sent my pic she stopped Then i put it up as profile pic

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"He's left I do hope he's OK because the statistics for a certain action I don't want to name are rising through the roof with men in his age bracket . "

Steady on...he's probably just left in a wee huff to do something less boring instead

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Look at what it gives you, not what it doesn’t give you.

*You’ve seen some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world completely naked.

*You’ve got an opportunity to not only watch them have sex, but it’s enabled you to approach them.

Your glass is definitely half full… Chin Up

I'm sorry but I'm not sure how those things can make a glass half full...watching naked women have sex? You can do that on a porn site for free...it might give you the opportunity to approach them, but 9 out if 10 times you will get rejected, which I'm not sure that does any good to your self esteem.

However there is one part of your comment that caught my eye, which I think is part of the problem on fab..."some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world"...there are so many men that put women on fab on this high pedestal, that is not deserved or earned. I've observed some women become self entitled and develop such unrealistic expectations, that they even get offended and rude simply because a man says "hello" to them (if they don't tick all the boxes). They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos. Meanwhile I see pictures from men that are stylish and artistic and you can see the effort put in them, and they will not get more than 20 fabs (which definitely makes you think you're not putting enough effort, especially when you see every other day a thread about how men on fab have shitty profiles and make no effort). Then all these men start to question themselves..." Am I even good enough for this site? Should I even be here?"

I don't interact much with single females so my experience differs to yours. But your point regarding photos isn't a male Vs female one. I'm friends and have hotlisted many females and couples who take outstanding photos, which never appear near the top of the hot pics. By saying you can take a rubbish photo just because you own some tits and get to the top is nonsense, and potentially make those who never get there feel they're rubbish because they don't, something you don't like yourself.

What are you on about? I said some women, I didn’t say all women can just trust take a pic and they will get to Page1...of course not all women will get on Page1, as there is a limited number, but all men on fab will NEVER get on Page1 ( the photos on Page1 get hundress and thousands of fabs in 12 hours of the upload, and a man will never get there). I understand that both men and women can feel not good enough on Fab, but the whole perspective of my comment is from a man's pov (predominantly mine), because the OP is male.

Regarding the pictures and Page1...I believe all women on fab have the potential to get on Page 1, and I also believe all men on fab will never have the potential to get on Page1

"

Wow, as I said it was a comment from my perspective which I agreed was different to yours.

What I was trying to get across that some women take amazing photos and will not get lots of fabs. There's more to getting to the top than taking a good picture. Sorry if I wasn't clear enough

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

No body owes anyone anything on here. I’m fed up of men joining thinking they will get lots of free sex and personally being treated appalling but some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined the site expecting sex, and with my body that was a big expectation lol but I’ve discovered that you get something far more important - friends, people you can have a laugh with, share your problems with and just enjoy life with.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Look at what it gives you, not what it doesn’t give you.

*You’ve seen some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world completely naked.

*You’ve got an opportunity to not only watch them have sex, but it’s enabled you to approach them.

Your glass is definitely half full… Chin Up

I'm sorry but I'm not sure how those things can make a glass half full...watching naked women have sex? You can do that on a porn site for free...it might give you the opportunity to approach them, but 9 out if 10 times you will get rejected, which I'm not sure that does any good to your self esteem.

However there is one part of your comment that caught my eye, which I think is part of the problem on fab..."some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world"...there are so many men that put women on fab on this high pedestal, that is not deserved or earned. I've observed some women become self entitled and develop such unrealistic expectations, that they even get offended and rude simply because a man says "hello" to them (if they don't tick all the boxes). They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos. Meanwhile I see pictures from men that are stylish and artistic and you can see the effort put in them, and they will not get more than 20 fabs (which definitely makes you think you're not putting enough effort, especially when you see every other day a thread about how men on fab have shitty profiles and make no effort). Then all these men start to question themselves..." Am I even good enough for this site? Should I even be here?" "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread has been a interesting read . I feel for the OP because I think his post was genuine .I don't think he wanted to be top of any list I just think he was hoping for some interaction to he noticed if you will . He wasn't being noticed by the oposite sex and it started to get to him on a emotional level and effert his wellbeing .

put yourself in his shoes it seems like there's a massive sex party going on but no matter what you do no one at the party notices you no matter how many times you say hello . I don't no anyone male or female who in such a situation wouldn't just walk out of the party .

Good for him for recognising this place was having a adverse effect on him as a person and taking the necessary action to retifying the problem .which was never him just the nature of sites like this

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I find myself feeling more and more down as I browse through this place. This place could brake a man's ego completely.

Has anyone else felt disheartened with being on here and what has kept you going?"

Yep, Fab is grindingly awful.

What has kept me going is knowing that it *definitely* won't work for me if I leave, whereas it only *probably* won't work for me if I stay. Hah.

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By *haneportsMan
over a year ago

portsmouth


"This place is meant to be about fun. If I felt I wasn't enjoying it or if it was having a negative impact on me then I would consider whether or not it's the right place for me to be.

Anything that makes you feel low/negative about yourself isn't good for you."

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By *haneportsMan
over a year ago

portsmouth


"Rules of fab..

Have no expectations.

Don't take this place too seriously.

You can't be everyone's cup of tea, that's life in general.

Don't let someone else's preference dictate your self esteem.

Follow these and you'll be just fine "

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs


"Rules of fab..

Have no expectations.

Don't take this place too seriously.

You can't be everyone's cup of tea, that's life in general.

Don't let someone else's preference dictate your self esteem.

Follow these and you'll be just fine "

Words to live by

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By *haneportsMan
over a year ago

portsmouth


"I ask myself on a regular basis after every break, to what I want to use fab for.

Its healthy to reassess your wants and needs

Hope you find some clarity soon OP"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That’s sad I hope he is okay

I’m hoping that he’s done the right thing for himself. Fab can be a cruel mistress and everyone needs a break from time to time.

"

Hopefully he has. Absolutely it can be, a break can do wonders sometimes!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

There is a big problem with telling people not to take this place seriously.

The site represents a cross section of a small part of society in general and within that cross section opinions and attitudes and expectations are exaggerated.

Men are ridiculed for not making an effort with profiles and pics and messages.

Some take that on board and start taking a more serious approach in everything they do and for some that works out ok.

For those who find it doesn't make any difference due to location or not ticking boxes they then get told they shouldn't take it too seriously when they are continuously knocked back.

Nine times out of ten those who are able to provide that wisdom don't have any of the issues that so many experience and it's very easy to say don't take it seriously.

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...


"Look at what it gives you, not what it doesn’t give you.

*You’ve seen some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world completely naked.

*You’ve got an opportunity to not only watch them have sex, but it’s enabled you to approach them.

Your glass is definitely half full… Chin Up

I'm sorry but I'm not sure how those things can make a glass half full...watching naked women have sex? You can do that on a porn site for free...it might give you the opportunity to approach them, but 9 out if 10 times you will get rejected, which I'm not sure that does any good to your self esteem.

However there is one part of your comment that caught my eye, which I think is part of the problem on fab..."some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world"...there are so many men that put women on fab on this high pedestal, that is not deserved or earned. I've observed some women become self entitled and develop such unrealistic expectations, that they even get offended and rude simply because a man says "hello" to them (if they don't tick all the boxes). They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos. Meanwhile I see pictures from men that are stylish and artistic and you can see the effort put in them, and they will not get more than 20 fabs (which definitely makes you think you're not putting enough effort, especially when you see every other day a thread about how men on fab have shitty profiles and make no effort). Then all these men start to question themselves..." Am I even good enough for this site? Should I even be here?" "

Many years ago, on Face Pic Friday and the snog/marry/avoid threads, one lady always "joked" that she never got sent pics or praised in the SMA threads.

After a while she was noticed more and became "popular" on the threads and often on P1 of hot pics.

She now treats people on the forum in complete contempt. Virtually every post belittles someone or their comment.

It's both funny and sad at the same time.

I totally get what you mean.

Winston

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington


"Look at what it gives you, not what it doesn’t give you.

*You’ve seen some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world completely naked.

*You’ve got an opportunity to not only watch them have sex, but it’s enabled you to approach them.

Your glass is definitely half full… Chin Up

I'm sorry but I'm not sure how those things can make a glass half full...watching naked women have sex? You can do that on a porn site for free...it might give you the opportunity to approach them, but 9 out if 10 times you will get rejected, which I'm not sure that does any good to your self esteem.

However there is one part of your comment that caught my eye, which I think is part of the problem on fab..."some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world"...there are so many men that put women on fab on this high pedestal, that is not deserved or earned. I've observed some women become self entitled and develop such unrealistic expectations, that they even get offended and rude simply because a man says "hello" to them (if they don't tick all the boxes). They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos. Meanwhile I see pictures from men that are stylish and artistic and you can see the effort put in them, and they will not get more than 20 fabs (which definitely makes you think you're not putting enough effort, especially when you see every other day a thread about how men on fab have shitty profiles and make no effort). Then all these men start to question themselves..." Am I even good enough for this site? Should I even be here?"

I don't interact much with single females so my experience differs to yours. But your point regarding photos isn't a male Vs female one. I'm friends and have hotlisted many females and couples who take outstanding photos, which never appear near the top of the hot pics. By saying you can take a rubbish photo just because you own some tits and get to the top is nonsense, and potentially make those who never get there feel they're rubbish because they don't, something you don't like yourself.

What are you on about? I said some women, I didn’t say all women can just trust take a pic and they will get to Page1...of course not all women will get on Page1, as there is a limited number, but all men on fab will NEVER get on Page1 ( the photos on Page1 get hundress and thousands of fabs in 12 hours of the upload, and a man will never get there). I understand that both men and women can feel not good enough on Fab, but the whole perspective of my comment is from a man's pov (predominantly mine), because the OP is male.

Regarding the pictures and Page1...I believe all women on fab have the potential to get on Page 1, and I also believe all men on fab will never have the potential to get on Page1

Wow, as I said it was a comment from my perspective which I agreed was different to yours.

What I was trying to get across that some women take amazing photos and will not get lots of fabs. There's more to getting to the top than taking a good picture. Sorry if I wasn't clear enough

"

With all due respect...you also said this ..."By saying you can take a rubbish photo just because you own some tits and get to the top is nonsense, and potentially make those who never get there feel they're rubbish because they don't"...which is NOT what I said in my initial comment, and it doesn't sit well with me when someone is twisting my words... what I said is SOME women can just take a random pic of their tits and they will get on Page1, I didn’t say any or all women can get on Page1 just because they take a rubbish picture and they own some tits...however I am saying that any woman on fab has the potential to get on Page1 ( at some point in her "fab journey"). Yes, for some women it might be a bit more difficult and require more effort, but all women (yes ALL women) have the potential to get there (should they want to)...where as no man will ever get on Page1, regardless of what he does....and that doesn't make it a man vs woman "thing", it's simply pointing out some of the differences between men and women on fab ...and these differences are part of the reason why some men are questioning if they deserve or want to be on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand why it can dent a person's ego. I think the main thing to remember is:

Just be yourself

Try to get your personality across in your profile

Have some pics that show you at your best.

If you have the confidence attention socials to meet people and get to know them better, which lead to verifications.

By far the most important thing in my opinion is to remember you can't possibly have everyon attracted to you. Some will some won't it's the nature of the beast.

Have fun with it, go with the flow if it happens great and if not there's always Palmela and Handrea

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By *r laidbackMan
over a year ago

London & New Brighton


"I find myself feeling more and more down as I browse through this place. This place could brake a man's ego completely.

Has anyone else felt disheartened with being on here and what has kept you going?"

Best advice i can give you is to use this site as a platform to dip your toe in where you've never thought of going, talk to everyone, look to make friends if something more becomes of it then that's all good but remember this more than anything else, your worth just as much as the person your trying to hook up with, if they dont respond to you dont take it personal, its there lost and move on... be safe and happy fabbin

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Look at what it gives you, not what it doesn’t give you.

*You’ve seen some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world completely naked.

*You’ve got an opportunity to not only watch them have sex, but it’s enabled you to approach them.

Your glass is definitely half full… Chin Up

I'm sorry but I'm not sure how those things can make a glass half full...watching naked women have sex? You can do that on a porn site for free...it might give you the opportunity to approach them, but 9 out if 10 times you will get rejected, which I'm not sure that does any good to your self esteem.

However there is one part of your comment that caught my eye, which I think is part of the problem on fab..."some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world"...there are so many men that put women on fab on this high pedestal, that is not deserved or earned. I've observed some women become self entitled and develop such unrealistic expectations, that they even get offended and rude simply because a man says "hello" to them (if they don't tick all the boxes). They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos. Meanwhile I see pictures from men that are stylish and artistic and you can see the effort put in them, and they will not get more than 20 fabs (which definitely makes you think you're not putting enough effort, especially when you see every other day a thread about how men on fab have shitty profiles and make no effort). Then all these men start to question themselves..." Am I even good enough for this site? Should I even be here?"

I don't interact much with single females so my experience differs to yours. But your point regarding photos isn't a male Vs female one. I'm friends and have hotlisted many females and couples who take outstanding photos, which never appear near the top of the hot pics. By saying you can take a rubbish photo just because you own some tits and get to the top is nonsense, and potentially make those who never get there feel they're rubbish because they don't, something you don't like yourself.

What are you on about? I said some women, I didn’t say all women can just trust take a pic and they will get to Page1...of course not all women will get on Page1, as there is a limited number, but all men on fab will NEVER get on Page1 ( the photos on Page1 get hundress and thousands of fabs in 12 hours of the upload, and a man will never get there). I understand that both men and women can feel not good enough on Fab, but the whole perspective of my comment is from a man's pov (predominantly mine), because the OP is male.

Regarding the pictures and Page1...I believe all women on fab have the potential to get on Page 1, and I also believe all men on fab will never have the potential to get on Page1

Wow, as I said it was a comment from my perspective which I agreed was different to yours.

What I was trying to get across that some women take amazing photos and will not get lots of fabs. There's more to getting to the top than taking a good picture. Sorry if I wasn't clear enough

With all due respect...you also said this ..."By saying you can take a rubbish photo just because you own some tits and get to the top is nonsense, and potentially make those who never get there feel they're rubbish because they don't"...which is NOT what I said in my initial comment, and it doesn't sit well with me when someone is twisting my words... what I said is SOME women can just take a random pic of their tits and they will get on Page1, I didn’t say any or all women can get on Page1 just because they take a rubbish picture and they own some tits...however I am saying that any woman on fab has the potential to get on Page1 ( at some point in her "fab journey"). Yes, for some women it might be a bit more difficult and require more effort, but all women (yes ALL women) have the potential to get there (should they want to)...where as no man will ever get on Page1, regardless of what he does....and that doesn't make it a man vs woman "thing", it's simply pointing out some of the differences between men and women on fab ...and these differences are part of the reason why some men are questioning if they deserve or want to be on fab"

Ok my misunderstanding of "They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos" for that I apologise.

But I'm unlikely get on the top of hot pics as I'm part of a couple. Add to that I'm in a rural area, and I don't post a lot of status or enough pictures quite truthfully.

But I get what you are saying though, for a forum challenge I put some effort in and do something more creative. And got told I looked like a fat pig who had ideas above my station. What I was trying to say those feelings of not being good enough visually affect us women also. Many of us do understand the frustration and upset it may cause here on Fab.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"Look at what it gives you, not what it doesn’t give you.

*You’ve seen some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world completely naked.

*You’ve got an opportunity to not only watch them have sex, but it’s enabled you to approach them.

Your glass is definitely half full… Chin Up

I'm sorry but I'm not sure how those things can make a glass half full...watching naked women have sex? You can do that on a porn site for free...it might give you the opportunity to approach them, but 9 out if 10 times you will get rejected, which I'm not sure that does any good to your self esteem.

However there is one part of your comment that caught my eye, which I think is part of the problem on fab..."some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world"...there are so many men that put women on fab on this high pedestal, that is not deserved or earned. I've observed some women become self entitled and develop such unrealistic expectations, that they even get offended and rude simply because a man says "hello" to them (if they don't tick all the boxes). They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos. Meanwhile I see pictures from men that are stylish and artistic and you can see the effort put in them, and they will not get more than 20 fabs (which definitely makes you think you're not putting enough effort, especially when you see every other day a thread about how men on fab have shitty profiles and make no effort). Then all these men start to question themselves..." Am I even good enough for this site? Should I even be here?"

I don't interact much with single females so my experience differs to yours. But your point regarding photos isn't a male Vs female one. I'm friends and have hotlisted many females and couples who take outstanding photos, which never appear near the top of the hot pics. By saying you can take a rubbish photo just because you own some tits and get to the top is nonsense, and potentially make those who never get there feel they're rubbish because they don't, something you don't like yourself.

What are you on about? I said some women, I didn’t say all women can just trust take a pic and they will get to Page1...of course not all women will get on Page1, as there is a limited number, but all men on fab will NEVER get on Page1 ( the photos on Page1 get hundress and thousands of fabs in 12 hours of the upload, and a man will never get there). I understand that both men and women can feel not good enough on Fab, but the whole perspective of my comment is from a man's pov (predominantly mine), because the OP is male.

Regarding the pictures and Page1...I believe all women on fab have the potential to get on Page 1, and I also believe all men on fab will never have the potential to get on Page1

Wow, as I said it was a comment from my perspective which I agreed was different to yours.

What I was trying to get across that some women take amazing photos and will not get lots of fabs. There's more to getting to the top than taking a good picture. Sorry if I wasn't clear enough

With all due respect...you also said this ..."By saying you can take a rubbish photo just because you own some tits and get to the top is nonsense, and potentially make those who never get there feel they're rubbish because they don't"...which is NOT what I said in my initial comment, and it doesn't sit well with me when someone is twisting my words... what I said is SOME women can just take a random pic of their tits and they will get on Page1, I didn’t say any or all women can get on Page1 just because they take a rubbish picture and they own some tits...however I am saying that any woman on fab has the potential to get on Page1 ( at some point in her "fab journey"). Yes, for some women it might be a bit more difficult and require more effort, but all women (yes ALL women) have the potential to get there (should they want to)...where as no man will ever get on Page1, regardless of what he does....and that doesn't make it a man vs woman "thing", it's simply pointing out some of the differences between men and women on fab ...and these differences are part of the reason why some men are questioning if they deserve or want to be on fab

Ok my misunderstanding of "They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos" for that I apologise.

But I'm unlikely get on the top of hot pics as I'm part of a couple. Add to that I'm in a rural area, and I don't post a lot of status or enough pictures quite truthfully.

But I get what you are saying though, for a forum challenge I put some effort in and do something more creative. And got told I looked like a fat pig who had ideas above my station. What I was trying to say those feelings of not being good enough visually affect us women also. Many of us do understand the frustration and upset it may cause here on Fab.

"

Well said, Frida

Yes, it is nice if folk fab my pics. However, I don't assume it means they want to fuck me, just as I don't fab pics because I want to fuck the person. I fab them because I like the pic, simple as. I very much doubt the OP was upset because his pics weren't fabbed.

I understand some folk on here - men AND women - rely on the fab function as a way of gaining validation. That does not seem unhealthy to me. Likewise the SMA or hotlist threads could lead to feelings of inadequacy, if you're not in the right mindset. It's rare I get mentioned on them, but I still take part. And I don't assume the "popular" women are acting like divas when they get showered with accolades. But then maybe, I only see or interact with genuinely nice folk on here.

And lastly, yes I have tits. Yes, I do get some messages (tight filters) but most are from guys that I don't find attractive. Does this mean I'm being too demanding or diva-like? Am I to say yes to every guy who shows interest in case I hurt their ego? Should I be starting a thread saying "why don't the guys I fancy fancy me?" Or should I just take what I'm offered cos I'm fat & that's the best offer I'll get (as one message read).

I manage my expectations & don't take things to heart.

Don't assume because I don't whine about it that it doesn't get to me at times.

Sorry for the rant, Frida! It wasn't aimed at you I just got carried away xx

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...


"Look at what it gives you, not what it doesn’t give you.

*You’ve seen some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world completely naked.

*You’ve got an opportunity to not only watch them have sex, but it’s enabled you to approach them.

Your glass is definitely half full… Chin Up

I'm sorry but I'm not sure how those things can make a glass half full...watching naked women have sex? You can do that on a porn site for free...it might give you the opportunity to approach them, but 9 out if 10 times you will get rejected, which I'm not sure that does any good to your self esteem.

However there is one part of your comment that caught my eye, which I think is part of the problem on fab..."some of the most incredible, stunning, beautiful women in the world"...there are so many men that put women on fab on this high pedestal, that is not deserved or earned. I've observed some women become self entitled and develop such unrealistic expectations, that they even get offended and rude simply because a man says "hello" to them (if they don't tick all the boxes). They adopt a diva/queen/goddess attitude simply because they took a low effort selfie of their tits and now they are on Page1 of the hot photos. Meanwhile I see pictures from men that are stylish and artistic and you can see the effort put in them, and they will not get more than 20 fabs (which definitely makes you think you're not putting enough effort, especially when you see every other day a thread about how men on fab have shitty profiles and make no effort). Then all these men start to question themselves..." Am I even good enough for this site? Should I even be here?"

I don't interact much with single females so my experience differs to yours. But your point regarding photos isn't a male Vs female one. I'm friends and have hotlisted many females and couples who take outstanding photos, which never appear near the top of the hot pics. By saying you can take a rubbish photo just because you own some tits and get to the top is nonsense, and potentially make those who never get there feel they're rubbish because they don't, something you don't like yourself.

What are you on about? I said some women, I didn’t say all women can just trust take a pic and they will get to Page1...of course not all women will get on Page1, as there is a limited number, but all men on fab will NEVER get on Page1 ( the photos on Page1 get hundress and thousands of fabs in 12 hours of the upload, and a man will never get there). I understand that both men and women can feel not good enough on Fab, but the whole perspective of my comment is from a man's pov (predominantly mine), because the OP is male.

Regarding the pictures and Page1...I believe all women on fab have the potential to get on Page 1, and I also believe all men on fab will never have the potential to get on Page1

Wow, as I said it was a comment from my perspective which I agreed was different to yours.

What I was trying to get across that some women take amazing photos and will not get lots of fabs. There's more to getting to the top than taking a good picture. Sorry if I wasn't clear enough

With all due respect...you also said this ..."By saying you can take a rubbish photo just because you own some tits and get to the top is nonsense, and potentially make those who never get there feel they're rubbish because they don't"...which is NOT what I said in my initial comment, and it doesn't sit well with me when someone is twisting my words... what I said is SOME women can just take a random pic of their tits and they will get on Page1, I didn’t say any or all women can get on Page1 just because they take a rubbish picture and they own some tits...however I am saying that any woman on fab has the potential to get on Page1 ( at some point in her "fab journey"). Yes, for some women it might be a bit more difficult and require more effort, but all women (yes ALL women) have the potential to get there (should they want to)...where as no man will ever get on Page1, regardless of what he does....and that doesn't make it a man vs woman "thing", it's simply pointing out some of the differences between men and women on fab ...and these differences are part of the reason why some men are questioning if they deserve or want to be on fab"

I've been Page 1, P1 of hotpics.

*just sayin.....

Winston

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