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By *gentlegiant66 OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering

Why do women find this a turn on?

As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.

No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this

Any thoughts?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Why do women find this a turn on?

As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.

No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this

Any thoughts?"

I don't

Why do you?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w

My thought are that lots don’t. Some do

As usually, all people are people and can’t be pigeon holed into what they like based on arbitrary physical traits.

I’ve known women that hated it. I’ve had men beg for it (even offering to pay).

Don’t look too deeply into kinks, especially if they don’t hurt anyone. Just do you

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Do women actually find this a turn on?

I know I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My previous lover enjoyed this, but she was really into bdsm, forceful/domineering degrading play it was a different experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women find it a turn on because..it's forbidden perhaps? It's dominant behaviour and that can appeal. I never thought I would, but a FWB and I were both curious. So we tried it.

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By *haneportsMan
over a year ago

portsmouth


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The harder the better

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"My previous lover enjoyed this, but she was really into bdsm, forceful/domineering degrading play it was a different experience "

I'm into bdsm but the face is still out of bounds. I suppose we are all different and what suits one will not suit another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont expect your dick to be in one piece if you slap me anywhere

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Like anything, if you are going to engage in it then it should be consensual and both should be aware of the potential risks.

I don’t know that many view it as a “turn on” by itself, but they can enjoy it as part of other activities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

different strokes for different folks

im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.

if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.

Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My previous lover enjoyed this, but she was really into bdsm, forceful/domineering degrading play it was a different experience

I'm into bdsm but the face is still out of bounds. I suppose we are all different and what suits one will not suit another. "

It felt wrong, she loved choking which was enjoyable both ways, i enjoy her slapping my face

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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago

Sent to Coventry

I love a good slap occasionally, at the right time with the right person m, with agreement

I have also been known to punch someone in the face for slapping me - best to be sure before you try it!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

If they like it they like it, if they don't they don't. That's it's really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect this thread will attract "this is abuse" type of responses and as a woman who does enjoy it, it's only ever been discussed before hand and done consensually. If a partner doesn't enjoy it, I would never ask him to do it. It's just a kink that some people enjoy. Nothing more.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"different strokes for different folks

im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.

if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.

Px "

Given that the marks are on a part of you that's visible, how do you explain that in real life?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Some people find this a turn on for any variety of reasons. If you don't, don't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

Lol I don’t think it’s a mainstream liking

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I suspect this thread will attract "this is abuse" type of responses and as a woman who does enjoy it, it's only ever been discussed before hand and done consensually. If a partner doesn't enjoy it, I would never ask him to do it. It's just a kink that some people enjoy. Nothing more. "

Absolutely. I was giving my own thoughts. People have bruises all over them in the name of sexual pleasure. If they’ve agreed to it good luck to them. Nowt to do with me what anyone does as long as they consent. I’ve always said that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

I share that thought!

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

It’s one of my very few hard no things. Not a turn on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind men hitting me in the right sexual situation, but it has to be in the right moment xx

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Time and place. You don’t like it don’t do it. It’s not something that should ever be done randomly anyway. It’s very much acceptable in certain scenes.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Feel free to slap my bum but hit me anywhere else I will be raging.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "
This x

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Id rather slap their breasts or pussy, much more enjoyable…. For me anyhow.

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By *hilledout-coupleCouple
over a year ago

telford

As the male half while I can be dominant I don’t think I could ever bring myself to slap a woman across the face even in role play , however I will smack there arse within the boundaries of play of course

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By *inky_ragnarCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Before embarking on a face slap frenzy, be sure that the recipient is wanting a slap.

You can't generalise "do women like this" as everyone is different.

The first rule of dom / sub play is COMMUNICATION. Know your partners limits, have a safe word or use the traffic light system.

Respect your partner at all times, they are entrusting you to respect the limits they have laid down, break that respect and you will see your activities for the evening get shutdown.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I loved it with my ex, we indulged very regularly. Certainly wouldn’t do it with anyone else

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

I always wince when in a porn film the male actor spanks the female actor and there has been no prior discussion or clearly given consent. In real life such contact without consent is assault.

However consent is the key and in the same way some people like being flogged, or their ass spanked and other impact play, some people like face slapping. Like all impact there is a way of doing it and this should be researched. Additionally like all impact,unless you are playing with a regular partner who you are on the same page you don't start at 100% of force.

As with all impact some people will love some will hate it on principle. But kink enjoyment does not run in accordance with principle.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"I always wince when in a porn film the male actor spanks the female actor and there has been no prior discussion or clearly given consent. In real life such contact without consent is assault.

However consent is the key and in the same way some people like being flogged, or their ass spanked and other impact play, some people like face slapping. Like all impact there is a way of doing it and this should be researched. Additionally like all impact,unless you are playing with a regular partner who you are on the same page you don't start at 100% of force.

As with all impact some people will love some will hate it on principle. But kink enjoyment does not run in accordance with principle.

"

How you you know there hasn't been?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I do like to use my penis...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its the wild nature some like either that or her face looks like an arse and he got confused

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It’s not something we do but we probably engage in some slapping that maybe others wouldn’t enjoy.

As long as both partners enjoy it then it’s all good…

K

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By *tryder83Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

One woman had me punch her tits once. I like it rough but I did have a Diet Coke moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

I’d just let you knock me out

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"I always wince when in a porn film the male actor spanks the female actor and there has been no prior discussion or clearly given consent. In real life such contact without consent is assault.

However consent is the key and in the same way some people like being flogged, or their ass spanked and other impact play, some people like face slapping. Like all impact there is a way of doing it and this should be researched. Additionally like all impact,unless you are playing with a regular partner who you are on the same page you don't start at 100% of force.

As with all impact some people will love some will hate it on principle. But kink enjoyment does not run in accordance with principle.

How you you know there hasn't been? "

What he's meaning is when negotiation and consent isnt depicted as part of the porn and the 'vanilla' male actor just starts spanking the female actress mid sex as opposed to the performers giving consent to it happening prior to filming.

Because depicting encounters without showing negotiation etc re-enforce to *some* men that consent doesn't need to be explicitly gained.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one want a slap then ?

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By *olly SwallowsTV/TS
over a year ago

Sexville

I like getting slapped and cock slapped. It’s the humiliation and degradation that turns me on x

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If you’re feeling divided and unsure best not to do it OP. When you do it do it properly, with consent & confidence because you both love it.

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

In the right moment with someone that I have consented to doing it, I love it. Not sure I would want to be slapped in the face hard enough to bruise, my ass and boobs on the other hand...

MJ x

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton


"I always wince when in a porn film the male actor spanks the female actor and there has been no prior discussion or clearly given consent. In real life such contact without consent is assault.

However consent is the key and in the same way some people like being flogged, or their ass spanked and other impact play, some people like face slapping. Like all impact there is a way of doing it and this should be researched. Additionally like all impact,unless you are playing with a regular partner who you are on the same page you don't start at 100% of force.

As with all impact some people will love some will hate it on principle. But kink enjoyment does not run in accordance with principle.

How you you know there hasn't been?

What he's meaning is when negotiation and consent isnt depicted as part of the porn and the 'vanilla' male actor just starts spanking the female actress mid sex as opposed to the performers giving consent to it happening prior to filming.

Because depicting encounters without showing negotiation etc re-enforce to *some* men that consent doesn't need to be explicitly gained."

Thank you.

The film makers of a well known known Kink porn site would show the pre-filmimg negotiation at the start of the film and the actress would state what was approved for the scene and what was off limits. They also ran through the traffic lights system of safe words. So it was clear (as anything can be) the actress had consented to the acts in the scene.

Without that pre scene it is as Lady Jayne has stated. The problem is that porn is largely vanilla even when pretending to be kinky and won't let proper kink protocol get in the way of the sex.

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

Slap me and you’ll end up with my size 9 foot kicking you full force in the balls!!

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Why do women find this a turn on?

As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.

No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this

Any thoughts?"

I would find it highly humiliating to be slapped in the face. Hard no from me for sexual play and interaction and outside of that, you'd want to have a quick getaway planned in anticipation of my reaction

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters


"This is the challenge , in the midst of play that kind of accuracy, control, staying risk aware takes a certain type of unflappable personality, because RACK accepts things do go wrong and you should know what to do, physically, emotionally maybe even legally, you maintain an awareness and calmness a lot of people wouldn’t understand ! Whereas SSC probably tell you this isn’t sane, avoid! "

Part of why I tend to align more with RACK over SSC. With the former there's an acceptance that most, if not all, of BDSM play can never really be fully and totally 100% "safe," even with experienced players. Whereas the latter can feel a bit disingenuous and misguided, particularly in the event that something does go badly.

Same reason why I prefer "saf-ER" sex, over "safe" sex. No fluid transfer can ever be totally, fully 100% "safe." All we can do is be risk-aware and mitigate those risks as much as possible until they are within our range of acceptability / comfort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

Totally agree if someone were to slap me it's an automatic reaction to kick them in the balls...not a turn on at all.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Spank me anywhere but my face. If a guy ever did that to me he would be swallowing his teeth.

Fair play to those who consent for this to happen but it's definitely not for me x

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slap my bum..but definitely not my face..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

Op. I’m sat on the fence with this. I accept kinks and stuff and would love to explore lots. And I’m attracted to slightly submissive girls.

But in the other hand I also get turned off when I think of pain, so like you, where is the line drawn?

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I would be a very unhappy lady if someone slapped my face.

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

With the right settings yes….would this with a hand or a cock

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Do women actually find this a turn on?

I know I don't."

My very first fab meet enjoyed this and more. Unfortunately she forgot to tell me during the 2 social meets we had prior to meeting at an hotel.

She took a different approach and rather than discussing it she punched me in the face because she wanted me to retaliate. I didn't and told her to fuck off!

We discussed it at that point and she apologised but an hour later drove her knee into my balls. I left at that point and left the site a couple of days later thinking this was how all women approached fab.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Do women actually find this a turn on?

I know I don't.

My very first fab meet enjoyed this and more. Unfortunately she forgot to tell me during the 2 social meets we had prior to meeting at an hotel.

She took a different approach and rather than discussing it she punched me in the face because she wanted me to retaliate. I didn't and told her to fuck off!

We discussed it at that point and she apologised but an hour later drove her knee into my balls. I left at that point and left the site a couple of days later thinking this was how all women approached fab. "

So, you stayed for an hour after being punched in the face?

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife


"different strokes for different folks

im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.

if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.

Px

Given that the marks are on a part of you that's visible, how do you explain that in real life?"

Who says she has to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always wince when in a porn film the male actor spanks the female actor and there has been no prior discussion or clearly given consent. In real life such contact without consent is assault.

However consent is the key and in the same way some people like being flogged, or their ass spanked and other impact play, some people like face slapping. Like all impact there is a way of doing it and this should be researched. Additionally like all impact,unless you are playing with a regular partner who you are on the same page you don't start at 100% of force.

As with all impact some people will love some will hate it on principle. But kink enjoyment does not run in accordance with principle.

How you you know there hasn't been?

What he's meaning is when negotiation and consent isnt depicted as part of the porn and the 'vanilla' male actor just starts spanking the female actress mid sex as opposed to the performers giving consent to it happening prior to filming.

Because depicting encounters without showing negotiation etc re-enforce to *some* men that consent doesn't need to be explicitly gained."

Perfectly put (both comments)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found that when someone starts a thread with "Why do men/women do..." it's based on absolutely no factual data whatsoever.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"different strokes for different folks

im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.

if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.

Px "

Consent is key As with basically everything.

LvM

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Do women actually find this a turn on?

I know I don't.

My very first fab meet enjoyed this and more. Unfortunately she forgot to tell me during the 2 social meets we had prior to meeting at an hotel.

She took a different approach and rather than discussing it she punched me in the face because she wanted me to retaliate. I didn't and told her to fuck off!

We discussed it at that point and she apologised but an hour later drove her knee into my balls. I left at that point and left the site a couple of days later thinking this was how all women approached fab.

So, you stayed for an hour after being punched in the face?"

As i said it was my very first fab meet and first meet of any description like that. We had met twice before so I was naive enough to think it was a misunderstanding and most of that hour was spent explaining why I wasn't that person and asking why she even thought I might be or why she had never asked?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"different strokes for different folks

im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.

if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.

Px

Given that the marks are on a part of you that's visible, how do you explain that in real life?

Who says she has to?"

Nobody. But if she's going about her business with a bruised face, I'd imagine colleagues/friends/family might ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slap me and you’ll end up with my size 9 foot kicking you full force in the balls!!"

Haha it

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife


"different strokes for different folks

im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.

if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.

Px

Given that the marks are on a part of you that's visible, how do you explain that in real life?

Who says she has to?

Nobody. But if she's going about her business with a bruised face, I'd imagine colleagues/friends/family might ask "

Possibly. She doesn't need to answer though

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"different strokes for different folks

im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.

if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.

Px

Given that the marks are on a part of you that's visible, how do you explain that in real life?

Who says she has to?

Nobody. But if she's going about her business with a bruised face, I'd imagine colleagues/friends/family might ask

Possibly. She doesn't need to answer though "

Correct

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"different strokes for different folks

im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.

if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.

Px

Given that the marks are on a part of you that's visible, how do you explain that in real life?

Who says she has to?

Nobody. But if she's going about her business with a bruised face, I'd imagine colleagues/friends/family might ask

Possibly. She doesn't need to answer though

Correct "

The only time it’s really concerned me is when she has children how you can explain something that looks like abuse to kids without the obvious risk of excusing or dumbing down domestic abuse. I have to say no to visible bruises on the face then.

With colleagues / family it’s easy - tell them you enjoy displaying bruises you get from your partner during sex and the feeling of being owned and pressing into them later to re-experience it , they will understand

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"different strokes for different folks

im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.

if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.

Px

Given that the marks are on a part of you that's visible, how do you explain that in real life?

Who says she has to?

Nobody. But if she's going about her business with a bruised face, I'd imagine colleagues/friends/family might ask

Possibly. She doesn't need to answer though

Correct

The only time it’s really concerned me is when she has children how you can explain something that looks like abuse to kids without the obvious risk of excusing or dumbing down domestic abuse. I have to say no to visible bruises on the face then.

With colleagues / family it’s easy - tell them you enjoy displaying bruises you get from your partner during sex and the feeling of being owned and pressing into them later to re-experience it , they will understand "

I'm not okay with that

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"This is the challenge , in the midst of play that kind of accuracy, control, staying risk aware takes a certain type of unflappable personality, because RACK accepts things do go wrong and you should know what to do, physically, emotionally maybe even legally, you maintain an awareness and calmness a lot of people wouldn’t understand ! Whereas SSC probably tell you this isn’t sane, avoid!

Part of why I tend to align more with RACK over SSC. With the former there's an acceptance that most, if not all, of BDSM play can never really be fully and totally 100% "safe," even with experienced players. Whereas the latter can feel a bit disingenuous and misguided, particularly in the event that something does go badly.

Same reason why I prefer "saf-ER" sex, over "safe" sex. No fluid transfer can ever be totally, fully 100% "safe." All we can do is be risk-aware and mitigate those risks as much as possible until they are within our range of acceptability / comfort."

I need an applaud Emoji...

I always go with RACK over SSC for all of the reasons you mention (especially as a lot of my kinks can head into edge play so sane and safe can't be applied...)

I have also come across FRIES recently (Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific) which I also love and feels quite appropriate given some of the responses...

I love being slapped and punched, but there are specifics regarding that... I have areas which are a hard limit, consent to slap me doesn't override those, it means that negotiations and expressed consent need to be specificly granted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t forget you also need to consent to doing it to OP. Just because the lady loves milk tray you don’t have to buy them

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

And mine…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don’t forget you also need to consent to doing it to OP. Just because the lady loves milk tray you don’t have to buy them"

Are you going to slap her with a box of chocs now? . This is escalating to proper bdsm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don’t forget you also need to consent to doing it to OP. Just because the lady loves milk tray you don’t have to buy them

Are you going to slap her with a box of chocs now? . This is escalating to proper bdsm "

I guess it raises the question of hard or soft centres

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don’t forget you also need to consent to doing it to OP. Just because the lady loves milk tray you don’t have to buy them

Are you going to slap her with a box of chocs now? . This is escalating to proper bdsm

I guess it raises the question of hard or soft centres "

It’s all fun and games until someone gets an walnut whirl in the eye

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

As long as the people involved both enjoy it then that’s fine .It’s not my kind of thing tho .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does anyone remove the scene in Night at the Museum? Ben Stiller and the Monkey?

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters


"I need an applaud Emoji...

I always go with RACK over SSC for all of the reasons you mention (especially as a lot of my kinks can head into edge play so sane and safe can't be applied...)

I have also come across FRIES recently (Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific) which I also love and feels quite appropriate given some of the responses...

I love being slapped and punched, but there are specifics regarding that... I have areas which are a hard limit, consent to slap me doesn't override those, it means that negotiations and expressed consent need to be specificly granted. "

FRIES… I like it. It’s like an upgraded Informed Consent. Thanks for sharing

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North/Blackpool


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

My thoughts too

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts

My thoughts too"

And mine...

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts

My thoughts too

And mine... "

And mine

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By *ldbutrandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Does anyone remove the scene in Night at the Museum? Ben Stiller and the Monkey? "

Yeah. I removed the scene. And now there's just a 35 second gap in the movie where it used to ne

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Would say most women are not into this, have experienced those that do but it's few and far between. Slapping women during sex, just don't do it unless explicitly invited to if you're comfortable with it that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reminds me of the Monty Python face slapping with a fish folk dance ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it, but only after discussion and consent, and with a trusted partner who knows how to protect my neck.

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

Absolutely not for me, even if they did find it a turn on, it would make me deeply uncomfortable slapping a woman around the face. I get the whole consent and safe word application but the thought of striking a woman I care for just doesn't sit right, personally

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

too right. Not comfortable with it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be delighted if you slap me around the face and anywhere else that you like to. You can feel my juices flow when riding a hard cock and getting slapped.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Woth the right person in the right moment I enjoy it...neck grabbing/gripping, face slapping etc.

It will however have been discussed beforehand and be totally consensual.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Though I do enjoy it, it's not something we indulge in often. Have ended up with the odd mark which can be awkward to explain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

This made me laugh out loud, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some feisty ones in tonight .... ...

watch your chins boys ...

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife

The "I'll knock you out" comments are killing me.

A. No you won't

B. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that the face slapping is consensual and had been discussed before hand. Cunts are not just rocking up with a cut man looking together into a fight.

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"Feel free to slap my bum but hit me anywhere else I will be raging."

100%, I can't do the slapping in the face. It's not my style and it turns me off. But a woman bum, I have no problem.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Why do women find this a turn on?

Any thoughts?"

I've heard some Kinks in my time. But You Really Got Me.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Why do women find this a turn on?

Any thoughts?

I've heard some Kinks in my time. But You Really Got Me. "

^^^This comment must be acknowledged!

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"Why do women find this a turn on?

Any thoughts?

I've heard some Kinks in my time. But You Really Got Me.

^^^This comment must be acknowledged! "

Yes! Take one internet point

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By *elightfulharmonyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Why do women find this a turn on?

As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.

No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this

Any thoughts?"

This was what made me step away for a while after a guy did this to me definitely not a turn on left my ear ringing

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By *egetsmewet100Couple
over a year ago

thurrock

Pmsl ??

Great answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My thought are that lots don’t. Some do

As usually, all people are people and can’t be pigeon holed into what they like based on arbitrary physical traits.

I’ve known women that hated it. I’ve had men beg for it (even offering to pay).

Don’t look too deeply into kinks, especially if they don’t hurt anyone. Just do you "

Agreed if it's your kink and the other person agrees, just go for it.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"My thought are that lots don’t. Some do

As usually, all people are people and can’t be pigeon holed into what they like based on arbitrary physical traits.

I’ve known women that hated it. I’ve had men beg for it (even offering to pay).

Don’t look too deeply into kinks, especially if they don’t hurt anyone. Just do you

Agreed if it's your kink and the other person agrees, just go for it."

I'd say understanding of any deeper meaning behind kinks is exceptionally healthy... Some kinks sometimes come from darker places and being able to recognise that is important, in my mind it's one of the things (along with consent) that separates SM from abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone remove the scene in Night at the Museum? Ben Stiller and the Monkey?

Yeah. I removed the scene. And now there's just a 35 second gap in the movie where it used to ne "

Haha. *remember. Stupid phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

Hahah!

Thats the place I really hate to be slapped. Like NO way. I don’t understand this kink

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

You articulated that perfectly. Same.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours


"Why do women find this a turn on?

As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.

No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this

Any thoughts?"

It's just Impact Play.

Generally happens after lots of Clear Concise Consensual Conversations

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Why do women find this a turn on?

Any thoughts?

I've heard some Kinks in my time. But You Really Got Me.

^^^This comment must be acknowledged!

Yes! Take one internet point "

Thanks!

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter


"Why do women find this a turn on?

As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.

No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this

Any thoughts?

This was what made me step away for a while after a guy did this to me definitely not a turn on left my ear ringing "

If he's done that to you without prior consent that's sexual assault. What an absolute piece of s@*t!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was discussed before hand sure but if someone did it to me without asking, the only thing their head would be getting is an ache.

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

There are lots of kinks that don’t do anything for me and make me drier than the Sahara. This is one of them. Much the same as name calling or any sort of degradation.

Nothing wrong with those that do like it though. We like what we like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

Absolutely, anyone slaps me on the face gets a sharpe kneeing in the groin area

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do women find this a turn on?

As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.

No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this

Any thoughts?"

It's can be part of play OP it's not the slap alone that's a turn its a part of the whole . Think of it like this you don't just slam your Jolly roger into a woman you do it inconjuction with a load of other acts leading upto part of and in conjunction with .

Face slapping is part of a kink scenario and it would only happen as part of the sex if the top new the bottom like it or had agreed to it before hand .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing like slapping her awake if she falls asleep during.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing like slapping her awake if she falls asleep during. "

Somnophilia not your thing then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "

So harsh. Lol

Me,Liz...I love it with my partner...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing like slapping her awake if she falls asleep during. "

this made me chuckle

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By *cenario-xxxMan
over a year ago

Salford

This is something I'm really enjoying at the moment with a trusted play partner...which was first initiated at her request. Just a case of then working out the force that results in the right balance of pleasure and pain for her.

It can be a wonderful addition to a wild/mad fucking we find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it a turn on in the rough situation

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By *ewhorizonsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

If we are doing rough play then I’ll slap the wife’s face. Never hard enough to leave a mark. She’s the only lady I’ve ever slapped and only because she likes it.

I’m not surprised that most women aren’t into it though. Feels wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A slapped derrière is great if the mood is right, but anywhere else is a hard no. But then I'm not into being dominated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to slap a few

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

I think they're in a minority. Mrs likes it.

It's can be fun.

Just make sure there's clear consent before you try it

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

no i couldnt do it.. and wouldnt do it

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I think they're in a minority. Mrs likes it.

It's can be fun.

Just make sure there's clear consent before you try it "

This. I've only ever allowed one man to slap my face xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am only BILFE woman !

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Each to their own I guess

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

I don’t. I don’t like being grabbed by the throat either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of them do some dont who dont and some who do but wont announce it

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I don’t. I don’t like being grabbed by the throat either."

Nothing like this should occur by surprise in a sexual scenario. If it’s going to be enjoyed it should be made clear before or during, and if it hasn’t been made clear it’s non-consensual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve met some that like a light slapping, some that like being really hurt and others that would rip your fucking head off if you even attempted it.

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By *urtyDoggerMan
over a year ago

Colchester and surrounding

Why are we only talking about what the women like? It’s 2022 guys lol

I’m male and I really enjoy having my face slapped, it can be used in many ways.

Consent is always key

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"Why do women find this a turn on?

As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.

No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this

Any thoughts?"

What makes you think they do ?

Cos you met one woman who does ?

Cos you saw a film about a woman that did ?

Cos you like it ?

If someone slapped me in the face they'd die...... ( okay the real me would probably walk out but I'd want to harm them for sure )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men" too find it a turn on to receive face slapping. Just saying

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


""Some men" too find it a turn on to receive face slapping. Just saying "

This is true. I don’t like to receive but give yes. Nothing nicer than my hand round a man’s throat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know why Granny's thread was removed when this one is still active?

But in response to what Granny asked in her thread.

I honestly don't know why I enjoy it so much. I always find pain during sex turns me on if I'm in that kind of mood. I love hard choking, slapping and biting and being degraded, name calling, being bossed around and told what to do.

I've never thought too much about. I don't know why my partner enjoys it, I've never really spoken to him about it but I don't think he would know why. Maybe he enjoys the power play aspect.

I'd only ever enjoy this type of sex with someone I have a lot of trust in, otherwise it would completely turn my stomach which makes me wonder even more where this desire truly stemmed from.

I have sometimes wondered if it has any connection to physical and sexual abuse I went through as a child. Maybe I like knowing I have some control over it in a loving way?

I couldn't tell you and be 100% sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Some men" too find it a turn on to receive face slapping. Just saying

This is true. I don’t like to receive but give yes. Nothing nicer than my hand round a man’s throat "

Rare to find people genuinely into it. Some people try hard to do it and you can see they aren't into it. But when someone does it naturally well, there is nothing else that can beat that chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know why Granny's thread was removed when this one is still active?

But in response to what Granny asked in her thread.

I honestly don't know why I enjoy it so much. I always find pain during sex turns me on if I'm in that kind of mood. I love hard choking, slapping and biting and being degraded, name calling, being bossed around and told what to do.

I've never thought too much about. I don't know why my partner enjoys it, I've never really spoken to him about it but I don't think he would know why. Maybe he enjoys the power play aspect.

I'd only ever enjoy this type of sex with someone I have a lot of trust in, otherwise it would completely turn my stomach which makes me wonder even more where this desire truly stemmed from.

I have sometimes wondered if it has any connection to physical and sexual abuse I went through as a child. Maybe I like knowing I have some control over it in a loving way?

I couldn't tell you and be 100% sure.

"

Granny's thread was removed? That's unfortunate. Some interesting discussions were happening there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t enjoy it, I don’t like seeing it. I personally find it degrading. I know others won’t see it that way.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton


"I don’t enjoy it, I don’t like seeing it. I personally find it degrading. I know others won’t see it that way. "

You are entitled to have your view of how you should be treated, and there will be many that agree with you.

What a number of us have been stating for years is that there should be no shaming of people whether they are into something or not into something. Saying "I am not into X" is fine, however saying "People who like X are weird" and the other variants, is not acceptable.

My own view apart from the prior consent requirement, is that people should get educated or do the research before accepting such acts or asking for such acts. This stuff is edgeplay and can be dangerous and needs treating with respect from both the physical and psychological aspects.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I had an ex bf who liked it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different strokes for different folks. As long as its safe, sane & consensual then go for it, no shame/ judgement here.

Though definitely not for me - face is a limit, I prefer arse/ pussy/ boob spanking in moderation & the right moment.

I find bdsm play liberating. It becomes a safe, trusted space for taking back power, & either taking or relinquishing control, centring/ focusing your mind away from your life stresses/ anxieties into a physical/ sensory experience.

For me it looks a certain way, to others it will look different. Sexual liberation comes from an absence of shame/shaming & judgement though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know why Granny's thread was removed when this one is still active?

But in response to what Granny asked in her thread.

I honestly don't know why I enjoy it so much. I always find pain during sex turns me on if I'm in that kind of mood. I love hard choking, slapping and biting and being degraded, name calling, being bossed around and told what to do.

I've never thought too much about. I don't know why my partner enjoys it, I've never really spoken to him about it but I don't think he would know why. Maybe he enjoys the power play aspect.

I'd only ever enjoy this type of sex with someone I have a lot of trust in, otherwise it would completely turn my stomach which makes me wonder even more where this desire truly stemmed from.

I have sometimes wondered if it has any connection to physical and sexual abuse I went through as a child. Maybe I like knowing I have some control over it in a loving way?

I couldn't tell you and be 100% sure.

"

It's really interesting that you say growing up in an abusive environment may have possibly contributed to your sexual preferences now.

My violent childhood has had the opposite effect, I believe. Being dominated, especially physically with slaps and hair pulling, fills me with fear. I'm definitely more of a princess than a sub.

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

Slapping her arse, yes. Slapping her face, no thanks. It doesn't do anything for me.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Why do women find this a turn on?

As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.

No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this

Any thoughts?"

My thought is: Why on earth would you find this a turn on? I'm not in any way divided on the issue. I would hate to do it. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t enjoy it, I don’t like seeing it. I personally find it degrading. I know others won’t see it that way.

You are entitled to have your view of how you should be treated, and there will be many that agree with you.

What a number of us have been stating for years is that there should be no shaming of people whether they are into something or not into something. Saying "I am not into X" is fine, however saying "People who like X are weird" and the other variants, is not acceptable.

My own view apart from the prior consent requirement, is that people should get educated or do the research before accepting such acts or asking for such acts. This stuff is edgeplay and can be dangerous and needs treating with respect from both the physical and psychological aspects."

Agreed. I once had someone do it to me without my consent. He also had his arm around my neck to the point my eyes felt like they were popping out. Also spat in my mouth too. All without my consent. Horrible experience. So my views probably stem form that experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t enjoy it, I don’t like seeing it. I personally find it degrading. I know others won’t see it that way.

You are entitled to have your view of how you should be treated, and there will be many that agree with you.

What a number of us have been stating for years is that there should be no shaming of people whether they are into something or not into something. Saying "I am not into X" is fine, however saying "People who like X are weird" and the other variants, is not acceptable.

My own view apart from the prior consent requirement, is that people should get educated or do the research before accepting such acts or asking for such acts. This stuff is edgeplay and can be dangerous and needs treating with respect from both the physical and psychological aspects.

Agreed. I once had someone do it to me without my consent. He also had his arm around my neck to the point my eyes felt like they were popping out. Also spat in my mouth too. All without my consent. Horrible experience. So my views probably stem form that experience. "

True. Consent is the most important. The next part is sanity. Face slapping if done wrongly can lead to ear drums being ruptured. It's insane to let a random person who doesn't know anything about it to do it.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


""Some men" too find it a turn on to receive face slapping. Just saying

This is true. I don’t like to receive but give yes. Nothing nicer than my hand round a man’s throat

Rare to find people genuinely into it. Some people try hard to do it and you can see they aren't into it. But when someone does it naturally well, there is nothing else that can beat that chemistry."

Ive never been submissive just turn me off when met try it on

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By *ittyDaggerWoman
over a year ago

Near Taunton

It’s not something I think should happen without a fair bit of conversation first! And I’m not in to it, except in very specific circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing like slapping her awake if she falls asleep during.

Somnophilia not your thing then "

She seems to not mind…. Well, she’s never complained …..

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