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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As a single man can I go to Cupids ? Would anyone talk to me there ? Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you can. People talking to you is 100% down to you.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"Yes you can. People talking to you is 100% down to you. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was not an excuse to send a private message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People talk it's up to you if they keep talking

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes you can. People talking to you is 100% down to you. "

How do you mean? I'm not being rude but is it really 100% down to him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes you can. People talking to you is 100% down to you.

How do you mean? I'm not being rude but is it really 100% down to him?"

Yes. Other people may have experienced different but based on our experience we would and have talked to anyone who’s well presented and can hold a conversation. Having sex with them is a completely different matter but he only asked about conversation.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes you can. People talking to you is 100% down to you.

How do you mean? I'm not being rude but is it really 100% down to him?

Yes. Other people may have experienced different but based on our experience we would and have talked to anyone who’s well presented and can hold a conversation. Having sex with them is a completely different matter but he only asked about conversation."

Oh right I understand, thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes you can. People talking to you is 100% down to you.

How do you mean? I'm not being rude but is it really 100% down to him?

Yes. Other people may have experienced different but based on our experience we would and have talked to anyone who’s well presented and can hold a conversation. Having sex with them is a completely different matter but he only asked about conversation.

Oh right I understand, thank you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you can go. Treat it as a social event, mingle and make an effort to chat to people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes you can. People talking to you is 100% down to you.

How do you mean? I'm not being rude but is it really 100% down to him?"

That was my experience. If I didn’t approach anyone, I would have no interaction. The reason why I find it hard to recommend to a single guy who might already feel out of his depth before he goes.

You gotta have confidence, and be ready to be in line to talk to the few ‘none single blokes’ there.

*just my opinion and it means nothing

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes you can. People talking to you is 100% down to you.

How do you mean? I'm not being rude but is it really 100% down to him?

That was my experience. If I didn’t approach anyone, I would have no interaction. The reason why I find it hard to recommend to a single guy who might already feel out of his depth before he goes.

You gotta have confidence, and be ready to be in line to talk to the few ‘none single blokes’ there.

*just my opinion and it means nothing "

Thinking about it I can imagine that it would be so.

We have found that as an older couple we have be prepared to be the ones to make the effort at socials etc. People with notable exceptions and present company excepted, tend to only really engage with the ones they want to have sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes you can. People talking to you is 100% down to you.

How do you mean? I'm not being rude but is it really 100% down to him?

That was my experience. If I didn’t approach anyone, I would have no interaction. The reason why I find it hard to recommend to a single guy who might already feel out of his depth before he goes.

You gotta have confidence, and be ready to be in line to talk to the few ‘none single blokes’ there.

*just my opinion and it means nothing "

The best way of looking at it is single women and couples are there to be approached. Most will at least talk to you a bit even if they aren’t interested. If people see you talking to others you instantly look more interesting so just sit in the bar area and try and strike up conversation with anyone, not just the people you find attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As those above have said, treat it as a social. Make an effort to present yourself well and be proactive and engaging in conversation. Don't be 'pushy' or expect a good conversation to lead to more. All common sense and decent behaviour really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let us know how it goes I have been as cpl before not as a single tho but want to try as a single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes you can. People talking to you is 100% down to you.

How do you mean? I'm not being rude but is it really 100% down to him?

That was my experience. If I didn’t approach anyone, I would have no interaction. The reason why I find it hard to recommend to a single guy who might already feel out of his depth before he goes.

You gotta have confidence, and be ready to be in line to talk to the few ‘none single blokes’ there.

*just my opinion and it means nothing

The best way of looking at it is single women and couples are there to be approached. Most will at least talk to you a bit even if they aren’t interested. If people see you talking to others you instantly look more interesting so just sit in the bar area and try and strike up conversation with anyone, not just the people you find attractive."

Wait…. Why are women and couples there to be approached?

The second part I understand, that’s attractive for me. Someone who looks friendly and approachable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Above. *adding- Shouldn’t a man feel he is there to be approached too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes you can. People talking to you is 100% down to you.

How do you mean? I'm not being rude but is it really 100% down to him?

That was my experience. If I didn’t approach anyone, I would have no interaction. The reason why I find it hard to recommend to a single guy who might already feel out of his depth before he goes.

You gotta have confidence, and be ready to be in line to talk to the few ‘none single blokes’ there.

*just my opinion and it means nothing

The best way of looking at it is single women and couples are there to be approached. Most will at least talk to you a bit even if they aren’t interested. If people see you talking to others you instantly look more interesting so just sit in the bar area and try and strike up conversation with anyone, not just the people you find attractive.

Wait…. Why are women and couples there to be approached?

The second part I understand, that’s attractive for me. Someone who looks friendly and approachable. "

Obviously I know some will only be playing with each other or have prearranged meets but the rest are there to meet people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Above. *adding- Shouldn’t a man feel he is there to be approached too? "

Yes but this is advice for a straight single male. He’s probably not wanting to approach other single men.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Above. *adding- Shouldn’t a man feel he is there to be approached too?

Yes but this is advice for a straight single male. He’s probably not wanting to approach other single men."

But couldn't couples or women approach single men? We don't go to clubs is why I'm asking, is there an unwritten rule?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Above. *adding- Shouldn’t a man feel he is there to be approached too?

Yes but this is advice for a straight single male. He’s probably not wanting to approach other single men.

But couldn't couples or women approach single men? We don't go to clubs is why I'm asking, is there an unwritten rule?"

Yes and some do but if I gave that advice to a single man he might go and wait to be approached which will more than likely result in a disappointing night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Above. *adding- Shouldn’t a man feel he is there to be approached too?

Yes but this is advice for a straight single male. He’s probably not wanting to approach other single men.

But couldn't couples or women approach single men? We don't go to clubs is why I'm asking, is there an unwritten rule?

Yes and some do but if I gave that advice to a single man he might go and wait to be approached which will more than likely result in a disappointing night."

That right. As on here, there are more men than anyone else. So there’s that ‘get in first’ type attitude. And then you find your in a que, or worse. Wait and never be approached.

Anyway. Just wanted to give my view. As I said, personal view only and not based on any other research.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Above. *adding- Shouldn’t a man feel he is there to be approached too?

Yes but this is advice for a straight single male. He’s probably not wanting to approach other single men.

But couldn't couples or women approach single men? We don't go to clubs is why I'm asking, is there an unwritten rule?

Yes and some do but if I gave that advice to a single man he might go and wait to be approached which will more than likely result in a disappointing night."

Got it.

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