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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I've never been a particularly patient person, but I've noticed lately it's been getting a lot worse...

Like today for example, I was at a family lunch. Just wrangling everyone to the table, getting the kids to sit down, then the adults not knowing where they wanted to sit etc was stressing me out. I wasn't even particularly hungry or anxious to eat, I just wanted everyone to SIT DOWN and get on with it. Then for dessert people were debating for aaages who should cut the cake, so in the end I just grabbed the bloody slicer and plated everyone up myself

It's other little things as well, like watching YouTube on 2x speed, waiting for people to get to the end of their stories, getting annoyed when I have to repeat myself, shouting at the radio when the DJs won't just shut the hell up and play music already like they're supposed to do. Even just getting to the end of this post is getting on my wick

Anyway I'm fully aware it's not good or healthy to get this stressed out when things don't happen quickly, and I would love to be a more patient wholesome being who is just always at peace... Any tips from people who are good at this? Meditation? Medication?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might have some so will come back.

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I’m wondering if you’ve tried getting to the bottom of what the feelings are all about? Maybe try and sit with the discomfort and ask yourself some questions about where it’s coming from and why it feels so uncomfortable for you. I find the only way to really solve these things is to work out the root cause x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly am not always at peace however i would definately recommend meditation, takes a minute to get into it but stick with it and it should help greatly.id recommend guided meditation to begin with.

Also breathing techniques help and maybe look into mindfullness.

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Have you had children OP? Might be worth having your hormone levels checked. Those bastards have so much to answer for

(Hormones that is)

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I don't have any tips to help you, but I just want to say I can totally relate.

I feel people often talk too slowly for me and I can't wait to get to the end of what they are saying sometimes.

I feel the same frustrations. I hate waiting in queues and waiting for people, and feel I can be feeling quite unpatient sometimes. Everything you mentioned that I can relate to.

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By *ociferu69Man
over a year ago

glasgow

same ..but ppl usually annoy me ....maybe ocd a bit as well..?

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

I've found removing one's self from society as much as practical reduces my stress levels - but then I don't like that many people so being a hermit beckons

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"So I've never been a particularly patient person, but I've noticed lately it's been getting a lot worse...

Like today for example, I was at a family lunch. Just wrangling everyone to the table, getting the kids to sit down, then the adults not knowing where they wanted to sit etc was stressing me out. I wasn't even particularly hungry or anxious to eat, I just wanted everyone to SIT DOWN and get on with it. Then for dessert people were debating for aaages who should cut the cake, so in the end I just grabbed the bloody slicer and plated everyone up myself

It's other little things as well, like watching YouTube on 2x speed, waiting for people to get to the end of their stories, getting annoyed when I have to repeat myself, shouting at the radio when the DJs won't just shut the hell up and play music already like they're supposed to do. Even just getting to the end of this post is getting on my wick

Anyway I'm fully aware it's not good or healthy to get this stressed out when things don't happen quickly, and I would love to be a more patient wholesome being who is just always at peace... Any tips from people who are good at this? Meditation? Medication? "

Sounds a bit like Hurry Sickness, a form of anxiety which causes you to always feel like you're in a rush, almost like time is running out?

Might be worth looking into that and take it from there if it sounds like what you're going through

I've always found meditation helpful. Just 5-10 minutes a day, with my eyes closed, focussing on my breathing and nothinf else. Really helps bring me back into the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a wank and/or a biscuit.

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Where's my slice of cake, then?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally relate.. I have to take a deep breath and close my eyes and tell myself to chill.. In effect i 'write' off the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m wondering if you’ve tried getting to the bottom of what the feelings are all about? Maybe try and sit with the discomfort and ask yourself some questions about where it’s coming from and why it feels so uncomfortable for you. I find the only way to really solve these things is to work out the root cause x"

I'm not sure... I have noticed I've been feeling quite anxious and despondent lately but I'm not sure why

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I certainly am not always at peace however i would definately recommend meditation, takes a minute to get into it but stick with it and it should help greatly.id recommend guided meditation to begin with.

Also breathing techniques help and maybe look into mindfullness."

Honestly the thought of just sitting and breathing for 20 minutes is giving me heart palpitations

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you had children OP? Might be worth having your hormone levels checked. Those bastards have so much to answer for

(Hormones that is)"

I don't have children, but I have been worried about my hormones lately as I've been noticing some ~symptoms~

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I've never been a particularly patient person, but I've noticed lately it's been getting a lot worse...

Like today for example, I was at a family lunch. Just wrangling everyone to the table, getting the kids to sit down, then the adults not knowing where they wanted to sit etc was stressing me out. I wasn't even particularly hungry or anxious to eat, I just wanted everyone to SIT DOWN and get on with it. Then for dessert people were debating for aaages who should cut the cake, so in the end I just grabbed the bloody slicer and plated everyone up myself

It's other little things as well, like watching YouTube on 2x speed, waiting for people to get to the end of their stories, getting annoyed when I have to repeat myself, shouting at the radio when the DJs won't just shut the hell up and play music already like they're supposed to do. Even just getting to the end of this post is getting on my wick

Anyway I'm fully aware it's not good or healthy to get this stressed out when things don't happen quickly, and I would love to be a more patient wholesome being who is just always at peace... Any tips from people who are good at this? Meditation? Medication?

Sounds a bit like Hurry Sickness, a form of anxiety which causes you to always feel like you're in a rush, almost like time is running out?

Might be worth looking into that and take it from there if it sounds like what you're going through

I've always found meditation helpful. Just 5-10 minutes a day, with my eyes closed, focussing on my breathing and nothinf else. Really helps bring me back into the moment."

Hmm the thought of running late does give me major anxiety, you might be onto something

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't have any tips to help you, but I just want to say I can totally relate.

I feel people often talk too slowly for me and I can't wait to get to the end of what they are saying sometimes.

I feel the same frustrations. I hate waiting in queues and waiting for people, and feel I can be feeling quite unpatient sometimes. Everything you mentioned that I can relate to."

Thank you, it's nice to know I'm not alone it does make me feel like a bad person sometimes

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath


"So I've never been a particularly patient person, but I've noticed lately it's been getting a lot worse...

Even just getting to the end of this post is getting on my wick "

Have you had your HRT?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I've never been a particularly patient person, but I've noticed lately it's been getting a lot worse...

Even just getting to the end of this post is getting on my wick

Have you had your HRT? "

I'm not menopausal, so no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You might benefit from some neuro linguistic programming (NLP) and NLP counselling. Looking up a chap called David Snyda on you tube might be helpful. He does some introductory workshops there on helping yourself with these kinds of things.

It is very important to not take yourself seriously when absorbing this kind of information though - it helps a lot.

Dry brushing too. When you feel stressed, take a moment to rub your face with your hands and down your torso, arms and legs as though scrubbing off the negative vibes that are sticking to you. People will stare so smile and enjoy it.

Another is to stand arms akimbo (fists on hips with shoulders back and chin up and chest out) for a couple of minutes. Else with your arms in the air like a victory dance for a couple of minutes. People will look and stare but smile through it.

If you want to know why these work, PM us and will tell you.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Go outside for a walk...switch phone onto silent or off. Read a book and/or listen to some classical music.

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

They made wonderful progress with the 'Stepford Wife' conditioning.

Maybe you need a new career? Axe Murderer!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You might benefit from some neuro linguistic programming (NLP) and NLP counselling. Looking up a chap called David Snyda on you tube might be helpful. He does some introductory workshops there on helping yourself with these kinds of things.

It is very important to not take yourself seriously when absorbing this kind of information though - it helps a lot.

Dry brushing too. When you feel stressed, take a moment to rub your face with your hands and down your torso, arms and legs as though scrubbing off the negative vibes that are sticking to you. People will stare so smile and enjoy it.

Another is to stand arms akimbo (fists on hips with shoulders back and chin up and chest out) for a couple of minutes. Else with your arms in the air like a victory dance for a couple of minutes. People will look and stare but smile through it.

If you want to know why these work, PM us and will tell you."

These all sound like they will get me far more attention than I'd be comfortable with

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go outside for a walk...switch phone onto silent or off. Read a book and/or listen to some classical music."

Appreciate the advice but I can't just leave my car/family dinner etc and go for a walk haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They made wonderful progress with the 'Stepford Wife' conditioning.

Maybe you need a new career? Axe Murderer! "

I'd actually love to be a robot and just be pre-programmed to make every appropriate decision and feel every appropriate emotion

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