FabSwingers.com forum: Moving in together..?

By *al kal OP Man
over a year ago

london

I thought occurred to me this morning, and wanted to share it with the Fab community to gauge their views and/or experience...

How long after dating someone do you find/did find it was appropriate to move in together?

Was it your suggestion or theirs?

I am not seeing anyone, I just wondered for future reference.

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as you get older it looks less attractive to move in together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me …. never again

Previously I’ve found I’ve done it rather quickly, within a year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another here saying never...think I'm too old for that now

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Previously too fast… I have no wish to cohabitate ever again.

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I've only lived with one person. We got together on new year Eve. I was already in the process of buying my house, which completed in the March. He moved in at the start of May. So 4 months. Might have been quicker if I'd already had the house.

Maybe quick, but it felt right. It was a mutual decision. And we've now been married over 10 years

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By *al kal OP Man
over a year ago

london

"Never"

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By *al kal OP Man
over a year ago

london

"I think as you get older it looks less attractive to move in together. "

Well darn it…

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Never! I don’t think I could live with anyone now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I think we moved in after a year or so.

LvM

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Asap

I’m not cooking and cleaning for myself if I can get someone else to do it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife just gradually brought more and more of her stuff to my house over the first few months and then one day just didn’t go home. I don’t think we ever really had a discussion about it.

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By *al kal OP Man
over a year ago

london

"I've only lived with one person. We got together on new year Eve. I was already in the process of buying my house, which completed in the March. He moved in at the start of May. So 4 months. Might have been quicker if I'd already had the house.

Maybe quick, but it felt right. It was a mutual decision. And we've now been married over 10 years

Well done for your perseverance

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

For us it was 3 years. We tested the water first with flat sitting for some friends for 2 weeks. We had stayed at each others places before that of course but I feel its different as you're in that resident and guest dynamic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to move in before they are aware. There’s loads of space in the attic….

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By *al kal OP Man
over a year ago

london

"My wife just gradually brought more and more of her stuff to my house over the first few months and then one day just didn’t go home. I don’t think we ever really had a discussion about it."

Sounds like a form of invasion…..

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

When it feels right, there is never an optimal time after meeting somebody for them to move in with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My wife just gradually brought more and more of her stuff to my house over the first few months and then one day just didn’t go home. I don’t think we ever really had a discussion about it.

Sounds like a form of invasion…..

That was 10 years ago so I guess I surrendered pretty early.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

"My wife just gradually brought more and more of her stuff to my house over the first few months and then one day just didn’t go home. I don’t think we ever really had a discussion about it.

Sounds like a form of invasion…..

That was 10 years ago so I guess I surrendered pretty early."

They don't claim to be a British spy do they?

*coughs* The Puppet Master documentary on Netflix

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My wife just gradually brought more and more of her stuff to my house over the first few months and then one day just didn’t go home. I don’t think we ever really had a discussion about it.

Sounds like a form of invasion…..

That was 10 years ago so I guess I surrendered pretty early.

They don't claim to be a British spy do they?

*coughs* The Puppet Master documentary on Netflix

That’s on our watchlist so I don’t get the reference. If she is she must be playing the long game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve always done it very quickly … like within a year or so. Sometimes less.

But If I had to do it again, I’d rather him moving in with me than other way around.

My house, my rules, my coffee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've both done it too quickly and one of us has taken their time. It works out how it works out though if you want things to work, don't put off discussions till you have moved in. Discuss finance, responsibilities to the home and each other, how you will deal with problems and what flexibility you have within those boundaries. If it is important to one of you then it is important to both and you should discuss it and if you cannot find something that will work then moving in will end horribly.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Last time, three years

Probably never again

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By *al kal OP Man
over a year ago

london

"I like to move in before they are aware. There’s loads of space in the attic…."

This remind me of that scene from Shallow Grave!

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Minimum 6months to a year

Shit gets real when you move in together

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By *al kal OP Man
over a year ago

london

"I’ve always done it very quickly … like within a year or so. Sometimes less.

But If I had to do it again, I’d rather him moving in with me than other way around.

My house, my rules, my coffee

You keep tea also?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More economical if you do it once your both comfortable but if I had the choice to live with someone I’d turn it down

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I let a fwb stay here overnight once, I was astonished to find myself prowling like a territorial tiger.

So I think he'd have to pretty darn special to get through my mindset tbf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We got our own place together 7 years into our relationship. Do it whenever it feels right for you every couple is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve always done it very quickly … like within a year or so. Sometimes less.

But If I had to do it again, I’d rather him moving in with me than other way around.

My house, my rules, my coffee

You keep tea also?

You can keep the tea

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By *al kal OP Man
over a year ago

london

"I let a fwb stay here overnight once, I was astonished to find myself prowling like a territorial tiger.

So I think he'd have to pretty darn special to get through my mindset tbf."

Would he need to be a Star Wars fan as a minimum?

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By *al kal OP Man
over a year ago

london

"I’ve always done it very quickly … like within a year or so. Sometimes less.

But If I had to do it again, I’d rather him moving in with me than other way around.

My house, my rules, my coffee

You keep tea also?

You can keep the tea

Awww bless you

The sugar will be mine too!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Never x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr NBVN and I moved in after almost 2 years of dating. We have been living together for over 4 years.

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very unlikely. Staying over few nights week but got too used to my own space now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to move in before they are aware. There’s loads of space in the attic….

This remind me of that scene from Shallow Grave!"

Haha. That is such an underrated film.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dated someone for 6 years and it never happened, so I reckon if it doesn't happen after 2 years it's never going to

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

I relocated and moved in 6 months after we met. Six months later, on the anniversary of us meeting, he proposed and we’ll be celebrating our 7th wedding anniversary in two weeks. Not bad for a fab meet

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

Last time I was with someone about a year and then we moved in together. Lived together for 10 years.

If it was to happen again it would be longer then a year as I now have kids and I wouldn’t want someone moving in unless I thought I was set for life with them.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"I relocated and moved in 6 months after we met. Six months later, on the anniversary of us meeting, he proposed and we’ll be celebrating our 7th wedding anniversary in two weeks. Not bad for a fab meet

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By *al kal OP Man
over a year ago

london

"Mr NBVN and I moved in after almost 2 years of dating. We have been living together for over 4 years.

NBVN x"

He is very lucky indeed..

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By *al kal OP Man
over a year ago

london

"I like to move in before they are aware. There’s loads of space in the attic….

This remind me of that scene from Shallow Grave!

Haha. That is such an underrated film.

It was rather good

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