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10% off my coffee please

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I watched an interesting clip, suggesting that next time you order a coffee, you should ask for discount.

But this isn't to simply get discount, it's to build resilience in learning to be refused, and to be comfortable enough to ask awkward questions.

What's the most awkward question you've asked, which put you out of your comfort zone and what was the result?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a fuck?

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).


" I watched an interesting clip, suggesting that next time you order a coffee, you should ask for discount.

But this isn't to simply get discount, it's to build resilience in learning to be refused, and to be comfortable enough to ask awkward questions.

What's the most awkward question you've asked, which put you out of your comfort zone and what was the result?"

I'm looking for a new job.

As an "experienced hire", I'm expensive. It's hard to stand your ground and name your price. But its ultimately worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fancy a fuck? "

That seemed to roll off the tongue, to be fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I watched an interesting clip, suggesting that next time you order a coffee, you should ask for discount.

But this isn't to simply get discount, it's to build resilience in learning to be refused, and to be comfortable enough to ask awkward questions.

What's the most awkward question you've asked, which put you out of your comfort zone and what was the result?

I'm looking for a new job.

As an "experienced hire", I'm expensive. It's hard to stand your ground and name your price. But its ultimately worth it. "

Is that consultancy work?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I wouldn't want to embarrass the barista. Is it a good thing to get used to asking awkward questions, can you get used to it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10% off my coffee please.

If price is an issue I can do you 10% less coffee for 10% less.

V

Can I get an Americano?

2.95 please.

Can I get an espresso and some hot water on the side?

1.80 for the espresso. Water is free.

Hardly challenging stuff

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).


" I watched an interesting clip, suggesting that next time you order a coffee, you should ask for discount.

But this isn't to simply get discount, it's to build resilience in learning to be refused, and to be comfortable enough to ask awkward questions.

What's the most awkward question you've asked, which put you out of your comfort zone and what was the result?

I'm looking for a new job.

As an "experienced hire", I'm expensive. It's hard to stand your ground and name your price. But its ultimately worth it.

Is that consultancy work? "

Pretty much.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Asking a lady if she’d like to peg me would definitely put me out of my comfort zone

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


" build resilience in learning to be refused, and to be comfortable enough to ask awkward questions.

What's the most awkward question you've asked, which put you out of your comfort zone and what was the result?"

Think I've done enough of that in nightclubs when I was younger!

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Lots of places will give you a discount if you ask. We are just not used to doing that although I am learning fast

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm still trying to think of the most awkward question I've asked. I think I actively avoid it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is value in learning to ask what you want and process / experience things beyond conventional society issues or self-doubt problems. I know a guy who works in a huge place, fancies a woman and has never asked her out, and he’s been in this situation for years. He is a grey guy, but he’s never got to the point of courage. And in reality there is not a terrible consequence if she says no, or yes.

The coffee one is still a bit daft, but to get to the original point - I have asked very personal and direct questions in tense situations, often related to professional scenarios. I think if anything it makes you more relaxed overall, as most things truly don’t matter, in the sense of impact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Asking a lady if she’d like to peg me would definitely put me out of my comfort zone "

Try it you might like it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't want to embarrass the barista. Is it a good thing to get used to asking awkward questions, can you get used to it?"

Obviously the clip wasn't providing advice on coffee discount tactics as you know, but I think it's good to challenge our comfort zones and politely say what we want.

How many times have we politely rolled over and accepted something instead of speaking out, even though it may feel awkward?

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).


"I wouldn't want to embarrass the barista. Is it a good thing to get used to asking awkward questions, can you get used to it?

Obviously the clip wasn't providing advice on coffee discount tactics as you know, but I think it's good to challenge our comfort zones and politely say what we want.

How many times have we politely rolled over and accepted something instead of speaking out, even though it may feel awkward? "

Totally agree.

Although I doubt Baristas will appreciate the tactics.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I wouldn't want to embarrass the barista. Is it a good thing to get used to asking awkward questions, can you get used to it?

Obviously the clip wasn't providing advice on coffee discount tactics as you know, but I think it's good to challenge our comfort zones and politely say what we want.

How many times have we politely rolled over and accepted something instead of speaking out, even though it may feel awkward?

Totally agree.

Although I doubt Baristas will appreciate the tactics. "

There's no way I'd use a captive audience like that to try to develop my skills. It doesn't seem fair on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't want to embarrass the barista. Is it a good thing to get used to asking awkward questions, can you get used to it?

Obviously the clip wasn't providing advice on coffee discount tactics as you know, but I think it's good to challenge our comfort zones and politely say what we want.

How many times have we politely rolled over and accepted something instead of speaking out, even though it may feel awkward?

Totally agree.

Although I doubt Baristas will appreciate the tactics.

There's no way I'd use a captive audience like that to try to develop my skills. It doesn't seem fair on them"

Back when I was studying (and then subsequently got a job in the same area) in the city I would always pop down to the nearest Pret around 3/4pm, make some conversation, a joke or two, and lo and behold my pastry would be on the house I learned it was company policy to start giving out certain perishables around late afternoon if they weren't going to sell, but that baristas can pick and choose who they give them to. I made sure to put my friendliest face on and got a TON of free pastry that year (gained a lot of weight too...)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I wouldn't want to embarrass the barista. Is it a good thing to get used to asking awkward questions, can you get used to it?

Obviously the clip wasn't providing advice on coffee discount tactics as you know, but I think it's good to challenge our comfort zones and politely say what we want.

How many times have we politely rolled over and accepted something instead of speaking out, even though it may feel awkward?

Totally agree.

Although I doubt Baristas will appreciate the tactics.

There's no way I'd use a captive audience like that to try to develop my skills. It doesn't seem fair on them

Back when I was studying (and then subsequently got a job in the same area) in the city I would always pop down to the nearest Pret around 3/4pm, make some conversation, a joke or two, and lo and behold my pastry would be on the house I learned it was company policy to start giving out certain perishables around late afternoon if they weren't going to sell, but that baristas can pick and choose who they give them to. I made sure to put my friendliest face on and got a TON of free pastry that year (gained a lot of weight too...) "

Haha!

I think there's a difference between being nice to people and demanding discounts they can't give though

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I wouldn't want to embarrass the barista. Is it a good thing to get used to asking awkward questions, can you get used to it?

Obviously the clip wasn't providing advice on coffee discount tactics as you know, but I think it's good to challenge our comfort zones and politely say what we want.

How many times have we politely rolled over and accepted something instead of speaking out, even though it may feel awkward? "

I agree we should politely ask for what we want

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