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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Read today in paper column...

M/F became friends, developed into sexual liaisons, still not officially a couple.

Guy plucks up courage to ask girl to be girlfriend, girl agrees though states ....

" Answer is yes though to be clear there will be no sexual activity between us " ??

Infatuated the guy agrees.....only to find two years later that ,female has had sexual encounters with other guys without his consent .

Complicated ....!!!

Begs the question from me.

If ever Guy approached you as female ...but made it clear that would like you as girlfriend but with no sex .... how would you innitially interpret that?

Hope this makes sence...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read today in paper column...

M/F became friends, developed into sexual liaisons, still not officially a couple.

Guy plucks up courage to ask girl to be girlfriend, girl agrees though states ....

" Answer is yes though to be clear there will be no sexual activity between us " ??

Infatuated the guy agrees.....only to find two years later that ,female has had sexual encounters with other guys without his consent .

Complicated ....!!!

Begs the question from me.

If ever Guy approached you as female ...but made it clear that would like you as girlfriend but with no sex .... how would you innitially interpret that?

Hope this makes sence..."

It would be a no from me. Sex is an important part of my relationships.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would find that very strange and I would walk away. What sort of relationship is it if you don't have sex...not a relationship that I would be happy in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No sex would make that person my friend (perhaps even a best friend), but would never be a bf/gf relationship for me if there were no sexual interactions.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

She doesn’t need consent from anyone else to have sex….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would interpret that as him wanting me as a girlfriend just so he could say he had one, or wanted his cooking and cleaning etc done, was possibly gay and not out yet and wanted others to think he was hetro, or was a virgin and too scared to do anything to change the fact, or he had someone else, or he he was impotent, or....

God knows! I'd think all sorts and be totally confused. But I wouldn't say yes to it that's for sure unless I was completely in love with the guy.

But then some people can exist beautifully together with no sex involved and be very much in love, so who am I to judge or make assumptions. He could just be Asexual.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Depends what his reasoning was for not wanting to have sex x

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'd find it strange and realise we weren't compatible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read today in paper column...

M/F became friends, developed into sexual liaisons, still not officially a couple.

Guy plucks up courage to ask girl to be girlfriend, girl agrees though states ....

" Answer is yes though to be clear there will be no sexual activity between us " ??

Infatuated the guy agrees.....only to find two years later that ,female has had sexual encounters with other guys without his consent .

Complicated ....!!!

Begs the question from me.

If ever Guy approached you as female ...but made it clear that would like you as girlfriend but with no sex .... how would you innitially interpret that?

Hope this makes sence..."

This is an old classic story. I feel sorry for the young man. Its a lesson in life for him.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If a man asked me to be his girlfriend but didn't want to have sex with me I would ask several questions.

What does he mean by no sex?

Is it cultural or religious and he would want whatever he means by sex after he was married?

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"Read today in paper column...

M/F became friends, developed into sexual liaisons, still not officially a couple.

Guy plucks up courage to ask girl to be girlfriend, girl agrees though states ....

" Answer is yes though to be clear there will be no sexual activity between us " ??

Infatuated the guy agrees.....only to find two years later that ,female has had sexual encounters with other guys without his consent .

Complicated ....!!!

Begs the question from me.

If ever Guy approached you as female ...but made it clear that would like you as girlfriend but with no sex .... how would you innitially interpret that?

Hope this makes sence..."

She wanted to simply use him, for money or property, status..

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

It would be a no from me. I wouldn’t read anything into it, I’d just think it was odd.

Plus, he wouldn’t want me as a gf with no sex as I’m a miserable bitch when I’m not getting any

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Why did she stop sexual activity once he asked her to be his girlfriend?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Women! Am right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would be a no from me. I wouldn’t read anything into it, I’d just think it was odd.

Plus, he wouldn’t want me as a gf with no sex as I’m a miserable bitch when I’m not getting any

Haha me too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she didn't feel they were sexually compatible, but liked spending time with him?

Maybe she assumed he was also getting sex elsewhere

I mean, with communication anything is possible??

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Maybe she knew what he diddbt , he was gay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If person wants sex but agrees to a sexless relationship, they are making an unrealistic decision & choosing an unhealthy situation IMO. Bound to lead to trouble.

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