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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Looking for my first fab experience and not having much luck but one lovely lady told me to look in the forum so here I am.

Any advice or chats welcome and appreciated

Happy fabbing as they say!

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Morning OP. And welcome. I hope you have a positive experience.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks Jo I am trying to but most women have ignored me tbh.

So I'm assuming I'm not their cup of tea which is fine but it's making me wonder if I'm in the right place lol.

you know when you walk onto a local country pub and everyone stares at you thinking "who the fuck are they and what the fuck are they doing here"?

This website feels a bit like that atm which is strange I've never been made to feel like that by a website lol

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

It’s almost always a slow process for solo guys on here, OP. Just be decent, get involved (both here and clubs) and stick with it….things will happen in time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I imagined it would be I just didn't realise quite how bad the men to women ratio is lol.

I will keep at it because I really wanna have some fun and meet new people.

Bit nervous to go to a club on my own so that's not an option atm

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Find a social…..you’ll meet folks there who will probably be happy to be friendly faces for a club visit.

It’s taken me years to get my arse to a social, doing my first one next month. It’s part-and-parcel of this lifestyle and it’s honestly been a bit stupid of me to leave it that long.

Basically, don’t be me….

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks the advice! How do I find a social? Lol I will get on the case asap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the way

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton


"This is the way"

This is the way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

On the forums?

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"On the forums? "

There’s a ‘Meet Requests and Parties’ section; socials pop up regularly there.

There’s also a clubs section where they advertise event nights.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Perfect thank you! This is exactly the sort of advice I need lol cheers for this lads!

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Welcome 2 the jungle .av fun join in on the forums. Dont take things 2 seriously. The woman on here are friendly just don't meet them after dark lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I will do thank you Thats a shame that's when I was hoping to meet them :p lol I look more attractive in the darkness lmao

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I will do thank you Thats a shame that's when I was hoping to meet them :p lol I look more attractive in the darkness lmao "

If you do reply and quote OP people will know who you are responding too x

Welcome to the forums and I hope you find what you are looking for x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I will do thank you Thats a shame that's when I was hoping to meet them :p lol I look more attractive in the darkness lmao

If you do reply and quote OP people will know who you are responding too x

Welcome to the forums and I hope you find what you are looking for x"

Thats a really good tip thanks for that! I think I've got a lot of thinking to do about pics and bio as well lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking for my first fab experience and not having much luck but one lovely lady told me to look in the forum so here I am.

Any advice or chats welcome and appreciated

Happy fabbing as they say! "

Hi OP. As I have understood on here, this website is saturated with many men. So you will have to be patient and respectful to potential meets as they most probably get hounded by other men.

The only tips I have for you:

Make sure to make you're profile and bio all of you're personality and character so people know you a little clearer.

Put effort into profile e.g photo's and bio, etc.

Chat on forums to show you're active and genuine.

You can go to clubs if you're not having much luck on here, and clubs are apparently great from others responses. The social side is big obviously and who knows! You may get to play if they agree to it.

Happy fabing dude. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking for my first fab experience and not having much luck but one lovely lady told me to look in the forum so here I am.

Any advice or chats welcome and appreciated

Happy fabbing as they say!

Hi OP. As I have understood on here, this website is saturated with many men. So you will have to be patient and respectful to potential meets as they most probably get hounded by other men.

The only tips I have for you:

Make sure to make you're profile and bio all of you're personality and character so people know you a little clearer.

Put effort into profile e.g photo's and bio, etc.

Chat on forums to show you're active and genuine.

You can go to clubs if you're not having much luck on here, and clubs are apparently great from others responses. The social side is big obviously and who knows! You may get to play if they agree to it.

Happy fabing dude. x"

Yeah I completely understand and it seems like I'm getting similar advice from everyone.

Like I said before I'm too nervous to go to a club on my own so I'm looking to make a friend I can go with...

I will definitely take it all on board and think about what I'm going to put in my bio and what pics to take.

Thanks for taking the time to reply, that goes for everyone, all the help hugely appreciated!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Be proactive and join in the conversations that are happening around the forums, but don't think that every time someone responds to you that they're wanting a message.

Just enjoy the forums for what they are.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take this place too seriously and have no expectations. Don't jump through hoops or pretend to be someone your not, be you and know your worth. The most important thing is don't let someone else's preference dictate your self esteem.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Be proactive and join in the conversations that are happening around the forums, but don't think that every time someone responds to you that they're wanting a message.

Just enjoy the forums for what they are.

Cal"

Thank you for advice! I will try and join in where I can

I don't expect anything from anyone I completely understand everyone has the right to ignore and even be rude if they wanted to.

But this is meant to be a fun community site and it seems that if you're not part of a couple or already in the scene in some way you've got a very slim chance of getting even a friendly conversation let alone sex of any kind lol.

It doesn't help that the ratio is so off. Anyway, thanks again for the reply its much appreciated!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't take this place too seriously and have no expectations. Don't jump through hoops or pretend to be someone your not, be you and know your worth. The most important thing is don't let someone else's preference dictate your self esteem.

Good luck!"

Thank you! I have been trying to keep in mind trust me but it difficult when so many women do the same thing to you it makes you feel like you're doing something wrong and I already feel like I'm being myself so that's why it feels so shitty but I will do what I can to bring out my personality a bit, I've been on the site a while but I have only recently become single so have only just started to build my profile.

Thanks again for the reply!

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