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Misunderstood by vanilla friends...what do you lot think?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was having a girly chat with some friends and we got to talking about romantic things our other halves had said/done

i told them my OH had told me when we first met he had decided that while he could probably shag me (as i was going through a ,even for me,very promiscuous stage) he wanted to shag me more than once , so he waited a year to make his move.Then when we were getting closer and it was obvious that we were going to do the deed that he had a wank so he would last longer!

There was a stunned silence and the topic was swiftly changed!

Well i thought that was romantic xxxx

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By *averiMan
over a year ago

Swindon to bristol


"I was having a girly chat with some friends and we got to talking about romantic things our other halves had said/done

i told them my OH had told me when we first met he had decided that while he could probably shag me (as i was going through a ,even for me,very promiscuous stage) he wanted to shag me more than once , so he waited a year to make his move.Then when we were getting closer and it was obvious that we were going to do the deed that he had a wank so he would last longer!

There was a stunned silence and the topic was swiftly changed!

Well i thought that was romantic xxxx"

I have often done that myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Commonly known as a safety wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

different strokes for different folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was having a girly chat with some friends and we got to talking about romantic things our other halves had said/done

i told them my OH had told me when we first met he had decided that while he could probably shag me (as i was going through a ,even for me,very promiscuous stage) he wanted to shag me more than once , so he waited a year to make his move.Then when we were getting closer and it was obvious that we were going to do the deed that he had a wank so he would last longer!

There was a stunned silence and the topic was swiftly changed!

Well i thought that was romantic xxxx"

Can't say I have done that but I hardly ever last less than 30 mins and often repeat at least twice.. Even gone 6 times in one night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's Something About Mary

- watch out for the Hair Gel

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I was having a girly chat with some friends and we got to talking about romantic things our other halves had said/done

i told them my OH had told me when we first met he had decided that while he could probably shag me (as i was going through a ,even for me,very promiscuous stage) he wanted to shag me more than once , so he waited a year to make his move.Then when we were getting closer and it was obvious that we were going to do the deed that he had a wank so he would last longer!

There was a stunned silence and the topic was swiftly changed!

Well i thought that was romantic xxxx"
I would agree with you but then the vanilla world sometimes has a bit of tunnel vision...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks Aphrodite... i did feel like pointing out that amongst that group of friends we are the couple that have been together the longest and that my OH still does what i consider to be romantic things and surely its my opinion that matters most in that case!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Thanks Aphrodite... i did feel like pointing out that amongst that group of friends we are the couple that have been together the longest and that my OH still does what i consider to be romantic things and surely its my opinion that matters most in that case!"
You nailed it on the head.. it is what you consider important. I am wondering whether maybe just maybe there might be an element of jealousy amongst the vanilla friends? I have come across that before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks Aphrodite... i did feel like pointing out that amongst that group of friends we are the couple that have been together the longest and that my OH still does what i consider to be romantic things and surely its my opinion that matters most in that case!"

You often find that the vanilla folks often choose companions in life based on a persons looks, personality and their lifestyles whilst the sex life is at the bottom of the agenda. From my experience with friends and family when couples split up, more often than not the poor sex life that wasn't there in the first place is often stated as one of the critical factors in the relationship breakdown.. Gone off on a slight tangent there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you are about right ther. Sex is the sticky bit that helps glue back together all the little cracks that life inflicts on a relationship.

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By *rightloonMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Lets face it..... we are all sexaholics on here.

A chunk of the population are quite prudish and something you say off the cuff can broadside them somewhat.

You just have to tread a bit more carefully around the rest of the population....LOL

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

My "vanilla" (hate that saying) friends would have laughed at that!!

Doesn't make your friends "vanilla"...Makes them prudes!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you forget who you were talking too. As we are pretty open with our conversations on here or even at a club I kind of think our conversations are the norm lol and then in the real world I have to bite my tongue sometimes or should say most of the time lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with a safety wank. I feel sorry for the guys having the pressure of making it last long enough.....unless they are quick to recover lol

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"My "vanilla" (hate that saying) friends would have laughed at that!!

Doesn't make your friends "vanilla"...Makes them prudes!!!"

+1

Even my religious nilla friends would have been amused by that! Though the lesbian ones might have shuddered and squirmed a bit (their default reaction to any discussion about sex that includes male genitalia)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did you forget who you were talking too. As we are pretty open with our conversations on here or even at a club I kind of think our conversations are the norm lol and then in the real world I have to bite my tongue sometimes or should say most of the time lol x"

yeah i did forget! you're right i feel more open to this kind of conversation cos we have them on here and with swinging friends all the time, but once you experience the openess its hard to contain it all isnt it?xx

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By *rightloonMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Some of us have been living a double life for decades....

The difference now is that I finally have a community where I can say (and do) all the stuff that I used to think silently to myself anyway.

This outlet has stopped me going half crazy so if I let the odd "vindaloo" slip out in vanilla environment; Well hey: I can live with that.

If you have true vanilla friends (rather than acquaintances) then they will accept this side of you if and when you choose to open up to them.

Of course it takes "a big pair of hangers" to open up on this and what always happens is that the friendship either deepens significantly or just ends there and then.

The former reaction makes it extremely rewarding and You will know in yourself how far you can go with somebody you know reasonably well (or at least thought you knew...LOL).

I have a few good "pillars of salt" that I spill the beans to on this and although it is not for them: they are still interested by the journey I am on right now and they help to keep my feet on the ground too.

Bottom line: It takes a broad minds to celebrate our differences so choose carefully....

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By * starr -Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.

my stepmum justs thinks im a slag (jee thanks!) so i guess she doesnt understand at all!!

but i can be open with people on here, and that, i totally enjoy.you dont feel like an alien on here for having kinks but in the 'nilla world you would be taken away in a straight jacket.

mmm now theres a thought......

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By *rightloonMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Hmmm family: Now there's a topic.

You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family. They can be the greatest supporters you have or the worst enemy you can think of. Some are even both at the same time ..LOL.

These relationships need the greatest care and often require the most work. This needs considerable grace on both sides. One side cannot do all the running and has a right to grievance if they are made to.

Here endeth the sermon....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was having a girly chat with some friends and we got to talking about romantic things our other halves had said/done

i told them my OH had told me when we first met he had decided that while he could probably shag me (as i was going through a ,even for me,very promiscuous stage) he wanted to shag me more than once , so he waited a year to make his move.Then when we were getting closer and it was obvious that we were going to do the deed that he had a wank so he would last longer!

There was a stunned silence and the topic was swiftly changed!

Well i thought that was romantic xxxx"

Aww I love that!! I think both things are really romantic.

That kind of thing means more to me than flowers and all that rubbish. You're very lucky!! xx

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