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"I can’t always orgasm and still enjoy it. Knowing my partner stresses about that makes the sex worse for me. Orgasm is part of the journey, not the sole goal. I treat women the same way. So no pressure on me. A great partner will direct me if she needs/wants certain things to help her cum. If she doesn’t, that’s on her " Makes sense tho it seems like there’s this pressure from both sides. Tho I always perceived it a bit different as in, I think (maybe?) a guy might find it easier to orgasm… I’m a bit gutted if I don’t make a guy cum. It happened maybe 2-3 times and it was cos of particular circumstances… (like too much to drink etc ) | |||
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"I’m similar. The whole sexual experience is wonderful. The big O is a bonus and usually only happens after more than one meet. I don’t like it when my partner puts pressure on themselves to make me come. But similarly, I feel like somewhat of a failure if they don’t. Probably because (generally speaking) it’s a lot easier for men to orgasm, and then I wonder if I’m just not doing it for them. I don’t make a big deal out of it though. If everyone has had fun, great. I usually lick my insecure wounds privately, rather than bringing it to their door to deal with. " Omg totes!! I felt crap about myself when I didn’t make the cum but then it was to do with what they took that didn’t help. But I felt not sexy enough or good enough it’s fucked up But I also came to conclusion that sometimes sex can feel amazing even with no orgasm so x | |||
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"I’m similar. The whole sexual experience is wonderful. The big O is a bonus and usually only happens after more than one meet. I don’t like it when my partner puts pressure on themselves to make me come. But similarly, I feel like somewhat of a failure if they don’t. Probably because (generally speaking) it’s a lot easier for men to orgasm, and then I wonder if I’m just not doing it for them. I don’t make a big deal out of it though. If everyone has had fun, great. I usually lick my insecure wounds privately, rather than bringing it to their door to deal with. Omg totes!! I felt crap about myself when I didn’t make the cum but then it was to do with what they took that didn’t help. But I felt not sexy enough or good enough it’s fucked up But I also came to conclusion that sometimes sex can feel amazing even with no orgasm so x " Exactly. My knee jerk response is usually tempered with my logic. Sex feels good even without orgasms. If it’s like that for me, surely to GOD it must be like that for them | |||
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"I’m not a man last time I checked but I think it’s fine not to orgasm as long as you’ve had fun together. Orgasms are just a cherry on top kinda things " Not to be hypocritical but I assume that I’ll make the guy cum by the end of it Excluding particular circumstances that can prevent him to orgasm | |||
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"No pressure, if she hard to please she better bring her toys " What If her toy is your dick tho | |||
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"I’m not a man last time I checked but I think it’s fine not to orgasm as long as you’ve had fun together. Orgasms are just a cherry on top kinda things Not to be hypocritical but I assume that I’ll make the guy cum by the end of it Excluding particular circumstances that can prevent him to orgasm " So do you prefer when a guy who makes a lot of noise during sex to as can be a sign if he will orgasm to? | |||
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"I could say I've never failed to make anyone orgasm but women lie " Alright Casanova , pipe down | |||
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"I’m not a man last time I checked but I think it’s fine not to orgasm as long as you’ve had fun together. Orgasms are just a cherry on top kinda things Not to be hypocritical but I assume that I’ll make the guy cum by the end of it Excluding particular circumstances that can prevent him to orgasm So do you prefer when a guy who makes a lot of noise during sex to as can be a sign if he will orgasm to?" I do love a noisy guy but not because it’s a sign of him enjoying himself. Just that it’s horny to hear a guy loving my body so much and how it feels x it’s a turn on | |||
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"I feel that there's always pressure on the guy to make the woman orgasm. It takes a female longer to climax than it does a man so if I'm not hitting the right spot, I'd like her to direct me to where I should be hitting. Most guys will say they know if she's faking an orgasm but females have been doing it for ages just to make the guy feel good about himself. They've said before that it doesn't matter how big his cock is, but when he's not near they say something completely different...and if that's the case why do so many women on here only want to meet a guy who is 8inches plus?" If your flicking the clit right she’d cum in no time at all, it’s always taken me longer to cum than the female involved | |||
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"I’m not a man last time I checked but I think it’s fine not to orgasm as long as you’ve had fun together. Orgasms are just a cherry on top kinda things Not to be hypocritical but I assume that I’ll make the guy cum by the end of it Excluding particular circumstances that can prevent him to orgasm " Nope I don’t feel that way anymore. I used to but felt it sometimes added pressure to the situation and everyone has off days sometimes. Plus I met a guy who didn’t always cum when he had sex and at first it felt odd not achieving that goal but we talked about it and he made me realise that it’s still great fun even if he didn’t orgasm all the time. I felt less pressured to achieve them too which actually helped me reach more. Minds and bodies are weird things | |||
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"I feel that there's always pressure on the guy to make the woman orgasm. It takes a female longer to climax than it does a man so if I'm not hitting the right spot, I'd like her to direct me to where I should be hitting. Most guys will say they know if she's faking an orgasm but females have been doing it for ages just to make the guy feel good about himself. They've said before that it doesn't matter how big his cock is, but when he's not near they say something completely different...and if that's the case why do so many women on here only want to meet a guy who is 8inches plus? If your flicking the clit right she’d cum in no time at all, it’s always taken me longer to cum than the female involved " What is this clit you speak of? | |||
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"God I feel like I haven’t done one of these in AGES! Anyway, Im back again asking for your thoughts and pick your brain Today I wanna touch on sex and the big O! So, when you have sex with ladies, how much pressure do you feel to give her an orgasm? Do you crumble from pressure? Also what if they don’t orgasm? Would you be disappointed? And do you feel you can tell when an orgasm is faked? Personally, I always like to tell my men, that regardless, I enjoy the sensation of being fucked. So I always perceived an orgasm as the cherry on top. Rather than the all end all. But for me, being penetrated feels amazing and that’s enough of a sensation. And guys are cool with that. I’ve had this discussion with some of my girl friends and some even said “what’s the point of having sex if they can’t make me cum” Which I didn’t totally agree and thought it was harsh. Sex can be amazing regardless Anyway, guys.. on the set . Go! " I ALWAYS try to ensure the lady has at least one orgasm during an encounter. Nothing like getting pleasure from giving... Oh my god when she orgasms or squirts while you're fucking !!, the best (next to when you're giving her oral of course) | |||
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"I don’t feel any pressure to orgasm or give an orgasm,,it almost always happens for both, several times, but sometimes it just isn’t to be and it doesn’t bother me if the sex and company is good thats more than enough. Some women who don’t orgasm easily will subtly let you know beforehand , almost managing your disappointment in them , it makes me a bit sad like they been hurt by guys reactions in the past. Makes me even more patient and understanding but not determined, determination is often just the same as pressure. Some women , usually younger less experienced, are obsessed with giving you multiple orgasms, like they are so hot you should just squirt every 100 strokes , it’s very tedious continually being asked have you come yet, why not, what am I doing wrong etc " I do always warn a guy that I struggle with the big O, so I get it. But I want to let him know that sex is amazing regardless so there’s no pressure on him ! X good sex is amazing for me | |||
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"I could say I've never failed to make anyone orgasm but women lie Alright Casanova , pipe down " | |||
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"No pressure, if she hard to please she better bring her toys What If her toy is your dick tho " Well I've been told I have one of those magic cocks so it does all the job for me | |||
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"Sorry I kinda agree with your girlfriends, especially if it is a monogamous relationship and she only has sex with one man ...regardless of how good the sex act is, if there is no orgasm, it will become frustrating after a while. If I can't make a woman orgasm (by any means- penetration/oral/fingers/toys) I simply think we are not sexually compatible. But I do think there is more pressure on men when it comes to sexual performance (just my opinion). I will always ask a woman after sex, how many times she had orgasmed (and I expect an honest answer) - if the answer is none, I would be gutted...if the answer is once, that is still very much a disappointment for me ...if the answer is twice, I think to myself I need to do better...if the answer is 3 times, that's acceptable " If you need to ask, the number is probably zero | |||
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"No pressure, if she hard to please she better bring her toys What If her toy is your dick tho Well I've been told I have one of those magic cocks so it does all the job for me " They called him the magician | |||
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"Oh wait, I do feel pressure. The uncontrollable grip on my cock when she orgasms " confident are we | |||
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"Oh wait, I do feel pressure. The uncontrollable grip on my cock when she orgasms confident are we " Not at all | |||
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"Oh wait, I do feel pressure. The uncontrollable grip on my cock when she orgasms confident are we " That’s just fanny fart pressure | |||
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"Sorry I kinda agree with your girlfriends, especially if it is a monogamous relationship and she only has sex with one man ...regardless of how good the sex act is, if there is no orgasm, it will become frustrating after a while. If I can't make a woman orgasm (by any means- penetration/oral/fingers/toys) I simply think we are not sexually compatible. But I do think there is more pressure on men when it comes to sexual performance (just my opinion). I will always ask a woman after sex, how many times she had orgasmed (and I expect an honest answer) - if the answer is none, I would be gutted...if the answer is once, that is still very much a disappointment for me ...if the answer is twice, I think to myself I need to do better...if the answer is 3 times, that's acceptable " If I can think enough to count past one... I've not had a proper orgasm | |||
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"Oh wait, I do feel pressure. The uncontrollable grip on my cock when she orgasms confident are we That’s just fanny fart pressure " | |||
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"Oh wait, I do feel pressure. The uncontrollable grip on my cock when she orgasms confident are we That’s just fanny fart pressure " | |||
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