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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I asked this on a different site once and most people said no they didn't. Most meant they didn't like how they look, and that had a major effect on how they felt about themselves. Some even went so far as saying they hate themselves. That seems really sad.

I like bits of how I look and dislike other bits. But I'm happy being 'me'. I'm not perfect ('perfect' is subjective after all) and I have my faults, but I still like myself.

Do you like yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love myself.................. regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like you I have bits I don't like and bits I do. Others like different things about me that I don't. But I am me and in not perfect, I like to think I have a good personality to go with my lack of good looks or self esteem!!

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By *acciWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I dnt like certain bits of my body,but hey all women n men for that matter feel that way,but im happy with who i am as a person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see myself as a work in progress. When I'm finished I'll be perfect. And 2 minutes later I'll die.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yeah, I am cool with myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im very body confident and i like the way i look ....ididnt 8 years ago when my ex left me for one of my younger blonder friends !!! but i spent a year learning to love myself and it worked ...im not vain or obsessed but i like being me ...ive recently lost nearly 20lbs in weight and im feeling more and more happy with who \i am ...its taken time but im getting there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like myself, if I didn't like myself I wouldn't try so hard to improve myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I see myself as a work in progress. When I'm finished I'll be perfect. And 2 minutes later I'll die."

Love it!! Enjoy that 2 minutes. Then spontaneous hotty combustion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I like who I am as a person

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I love myself.. well someone has too...

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I know I have flaws, especially around confidence in myself and my abilities, over thinking things, thinking people don't like me all the time etc

However I accept these and am working to change them.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

There are bits of my body I like and bits I don't but I do like my personality and I am proud of who I am as a person and how I treat others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are what we are, if other people don't like it, tough

Love yourself, be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am what I am

I am my own special creation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do like myself.

Most of us have bodywork flaws and many of us accept that we are not perfect.

Personality wise we again cannot appeal to everyone and we should accept that and continue being who we are

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By *uyuksno1Man
over a year ago

poole

we like ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am what I am

I am my own special creation.

"

Ahhh... The Brummie anthem....

Oi yam worr oi yam...

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By *upitersmileCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm not going to comment on my body/looks. But as a person for the most part yes I do like myself. I'm a very compassionate and empathic person but unfortunately this at times makes me a pushover as if I can I'll go out of my way to help someone in need, just ashame people don't offen do the same for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am happy with me as a person.

I can be quite self derisory of myself looks wise, which stems from a lack of both body and self confidence in my formative years.

Overall tho, I am happy in myself, with my life and with how I look.

Whilst none are 'perfect', there are certainly more positives than negatives, but that's a who;e new different thread, define 'perfection' and how do you achieve it (if you ever do).

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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I get knocked down

But I get up again

You're never going to keep me down

Sometimes, I like myself, sometimes I dislike myself. I've let people hurt me and walk all over me, those days now are gone.

Someone has taught me that I'm a nice person, which has made me a stronger person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like myself, love bein` a unique one off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get knocked down

But I get up again

You're never going to keep me down

Sometimes, I like myself, sometimes I dislike myself. I've let people hurt me and walk all over me, those days now are gone.

Someone has taught me that I'm a nice person, which has made me a stronger person.

"

Same here. My someone gave me my confidence back and I'll be forever grateful for that.

It's not that I don't trust people... I'm just suspicious of everyone until they show me I don't have to be. Which for me is the best way to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like me, don't like mirrors or make up much but that's cos I'm happier 'as is'. Feel uncomfortable dressing up. But yeah I do like me muchly hehe

Littlebit

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Most of my personalities are alright. Not Derek though. Derek is bad.

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By *atinaBabeCouple
over a year ago

casa caliente

i love m always and always do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some days I do, some days I don't.

On the days I don't, it's because I am focusing on the aspects in which I feel I don't measure up and placing more value on them than on the numerous positive things about me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See my reply in

"big girl turn on of off" thread

Being serious for a min, im dead similar to the OP; im just "me" nowt special and people have to take me as they find me. I think if you asked my friends here; they might say that "Pete is gentle and considerate" id be pleased with that i guess

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im very comfortable in my own skin. Im far from perfect, but then what is perfect? I hate it when im unwell as i become a different person.

But Ive got some bloody wonderful friends that i always feel lucky to have, so i must have good qualities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all have days where our moods are different and we feel.different about ourselves.

So, being honest, it depends what mood I'm in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was younger I didn't like the way I looked, over the years I've gotten more confident and that seems to make a huge difference with the ladies!

Gonna go for a jog in a min as I'm looking to shift a few pounds which is my only looks concern at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do try to be the best person I can be. I do have two down falls, one is I cant say no to people and the other is my wieght but only I can do something about that, oh snd wobbly bits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a person yes i like myself, take me as i am, if im not your cup of tea then no offence taken.

Now there are may other things i dislike... Body parts, being a pushover, doormat ... But certain things have made me stronger and who i am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never felt entirely comfortable with what I am on the outside - but always had the self-awareness to know who I am on the inside and I'm very comfortable with that!

As the person above said, I try to be the best human being I can be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who else is going to love me if I do not love myself?

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By *ctavius StuntMan
over a year ago

london

Could someone define "self" please ?

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I dont want to change... That must mean i like me..

physically there are things i see that if i could change i would, thankfully as my need for glasses hastens, until i buy them... im looking better and better ..

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

I like too think I am compassionate to other, where help is needed if I can I help. I think of others sometimes at my own cost but send no bill. I give love and respect to my family freely never asking for anything in return. To my friends I give friendship without motive except that they are friends. All in all I think I am ok but then again there's always space to improve.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I am happy with what I am today - not perfect, far from it... but hopefully striving to be the best I can be in relationships with other people. I try to tread carefully and follow the principle of first doing no harm.

Do I always like myself? Of course not, there are moments when I think retrospectively I could have handled this better....

Do I accept myself? Yep I think I do now.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Yes 99% of the time I do!

There are parts of the body than I like and others bits that I'm not so happy with. (like most people)

Same as I think that I am generally a nice person. Yes I have my moments when I can be a bitch and not very nice at all but then everyone has bad days and moods.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like me ..... I've gotten used to me over the years and accepted who/what I am.

I can't change how others feel about me so I'm past wondering about that.

I know who I am, flaws and all, recognise them for what they are, but balance this with knowing what my good points are and continue to develop those to the best of my ability.

Lastly think about it ....... how can you expect others to like you if you don't like yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in a happy place at the moment compared to 20 odd years ago when I wasn't. I'm no supermodel but I'm no ogre either. However, I observe people around me who are in a similar age bracket and consider myself more fortunate to have a focused self belief and be more than happy within my inner and outer body. Granted I appreciate people have suffered ill health but with a minority it's self inflicted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in a happy place at the moment compared to 20 odd years ago when I wasn't. I'm no supermodel but I'm no ogre either. However, I observe people around me who are in a similar age bracket and consider myself more fortunate to have a focused self belief and be more than happy within my inner and outer body. Granted I appreciate people have suffered ill health but with a minority it's self inflicted.

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

not really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took a nervous break down for me to leave behind the person I did not like and grow into the person that I am now.

I know who I am and thank everyone who has come in to my life to introduce something that makes me as a person.

Yes, I like myself, lots room for improvement.... But I am getting there and loving the journey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate who I once was and even though I've turned my life round to be who I'd like to think is a good person I still don't feel I know who I actually am.

I don't feel like me, it's as if something is missing but don't no what!!

So until I find what it is and who I am I honestly couldn't say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate who I once was and even though I've turned my life round to be who I'd like to think is a good person I still don't feel I know who I actually am.

I don't feel like me, it's as if something is missing but don't no what!!

So until I find what it is and who I am I honestly couldn't say. "

At 29, I felt the same

By the time I was 31/32, I knew !

At 42, I have found the self belief, confidence and contentment that I knew was there.

Could there still be more ? Maybe ? Probably ?

Eventually tho, I think everything either slots into place, the worrying as to why it doesn't dissipates or you just start accept what you have and think 'fuck it, am not a bad old bastard when all said and done'

Sometimes you find the person you are on your own, sometimes it takes someone else to make you realise who or what that person is.

And even if you don't think you are as complete as you perhaps could be, you can still love the pieces of the jigsaw that you do have

Very deep for me all that. I need a brew now

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"I hate who I once was and even though I've turned my life round to be who I'd like to think is a good person I still don't feel I know who I actually am.

I don't feel like me, it's as if something is missing but don't no what!!

So until I find what it is and who I am I honestly couldn't say.

At 29, I felt the same

By the time I was 31/32, I knew !

At 42, I have found the self belief, confidence and contentment that I knew was there.

Could there still be more ? Maybe ? Probably ?

Eventually tho, I think everything either slots into place, the worrying as to why it doesn't dissipates or you just start accept what you have and think 'fuck it, am not a bad old bastard when all said and done'

Sometimes you find the person you are on your own, sometimes it takes someone else to make you realise who or what that person is.

And even if you don't think you are as complete as you perhaps could be, you can still love the pieces of the jigsaw that you do have

Very deep for me all that. I need a brew now "

Yes and maybe a sit down in a dark room.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I like myself - and have no part of me I dislike. It took me the best part of 4 decades to get there though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate who I once was and even though I've turned my life round to be who I'd like to think is a good person I still don't feel I know who I actually am.

I don't feel like me, it's as if something is missing but don't no what!!

So until I find what it is and who I am I honestly couldn't say.

At 29, I felt the same

By the time I was 31/32, I knew !

At 42, I have found the self belief, confidence and contentment that I knew was there.

Could there still be more ? Maybe ? Probably ?

Eventually tho, I think everything either slots into place, the worrying as to why it doesn't dissipates or you just start accept what you have and think 'fuck it, am not a bad old bastard when all said and done'

Sometimes you find the person you are on your own, sometimes it takes someone else to make you realise who or what that person is.

And even if you don't think you are as complete as you perhaps could be, you can still love the pieces of the jigsaw that you do have

Very deep for me all that. I need a brew now "

Thanks that's made more sense than most.

Still other factors and I suppose unanswered questions. Eventually I'll learn to and figure it all out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Very deep for me all that. I need a brew now

Yes and maybe a sit down in a dark room. "

Oh no

I've heard all about these Dark Rooms

Not the type of places you will see a respectable man like myself frequenting !

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

am getting there shall we say...better as i get older i think, can still be very critical about myself looks wise but that comes with being told that from an early age i guess...happiness comes from within and i like myself most when i can help or do something worthwhile...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate who I once was and even though I've turned my life round to be who I'd like to think is a good person I still don't feel I know who I actually am.

I don't feel like me, it's as if something is missing but don't no what!!

So until I find what it is and who I am I honestly couldn't say. "

some cunts in fur a wild ride! Hehe!

i've felt that way my whole life, for me i think what was missing was Meaning, working most of your life to pay over inflated bills just so you can exist in this depressing world, it didn't make sense to me, i felt i was wasting time, wasting my chance at enjoying life....so at the moment i'm have a thirst for knowledge that i can bearly contain...i love being part of life, and cant wait to find my next path, i hope you find what you're looking for! i can tell you tho, the struggle is defo worth the effort! good luck big man! (Pauline) Xx

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Yes. Nothing to change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate who I once was and even though I've turned my life round to be who I'd like to think is a good person I still don't feel I know who I actually am.

I don't feel like me, it's as if something is missing but don't no what!!

So until I find what it is and who I am I honestly couldn't say.

some cunts in fur a wild ride! Hehe!

i've felt that way my whole life, for me i think what was missing was Meaning, working most of your life to pay over inflated bills just so you can exist in this depressing world, it didn't make sense to me, i felt i was wasting time, wasting my chance at enjoying life....so at the moment i'm have a thirst for knowledge that i can bearly contain...i love being part of life, and cant wait to find my next path, i hope you find what you're looking for! i can tell you tho, the struggle is defo worth the effort! good luck big man! (Pauline) Xx"

Thanks I'll get there in the end one way or another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who else is going to love me if I do not love myself? "
me :p, well for a few hours anyway...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of my personalities are alright. Not Derek though. Derek is bad."

Bhahaha! what kinda chicks does Derek like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right now I like myself a lot.

I'm going to write about it later, to read back when I'm having a bad day.

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By *umsuckMan
over a year ago

Gateshead


"Right now I like myself a lot.

I'm going to write about it later, to read back when I'm having a bad day."

Seriously Kinky that is a very good thing to do. I spent a few months I re-hab 3 yrs ago recovering from alcoholism. One thing they had us do was just that,write down the positive and good things about ourselves. It isn't easy because the natural thing is to focus on negative rather than positive. Whenever I'm having a down day I bring out those scawny notes I wrote down and it makes me realise that...yeah,basicaly I'm a good person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It didn't last long.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It didn't last long."

Do you really care what other people think? Do they know you? Do they know anything about you? Then their opinion doesn't.... Shouldn't matter.

No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent. If you rise above them and don't let them bother you then their words are empty.

You said earlier that you like yourself. It's not that long ago, why did you like yourself? Why has that changed? You're still the same person.

There are billions of people in the world. Some will like you, some won't. It's your choice who you pay attention to. YOUR opinion matters. YOU matter. X

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