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"I’m a very good judge of character, and my first impression is rarely wrong. I know if I’m attracted to someone straight away. " I’m still upset about this fact *crying emoji’s | |||
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"I can usually tell quite early on whether I will like them or not. Sometimes you can know just by observing how they interact with others and their behaviour in general." Very. Do you find you clash more often. As in, they are not really dicks, but you personalities are just too similar or too different to get along. They clash! ? | |||
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"Iv found im good at reading people both in real life and online had lots of practice it makes me better at the sex and my job " I need to be a better judge. Better judge = better sex | |||
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"I change my mind about them as I get to know them/ more information. People can have shit days. They may be nervous at first. I may misunderstand something they said. People are living breathing thinking beings. " This | |||
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"I change my mind about them as I get to know them/ more information. People can have shit days. They may be nervous at first. I may misunderstand something they said. People are living breathing thinking beings. " Very much this. My opinions fluctuate and change, people change. Everyone is flawed in one way or another, I try and keep a relatively open mind. So no, I'm not a good judge of character but I do know those who I'd be more compatible with over time. | |||
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"I always considered myself a shrewd judge of character until fairly recently. ……. …. I try not to judge on first impressions, people have bad days and you never know what they’re going through " Someone said the same above you, I think that’s really good for us to try to remember that. | |||
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"In real life? - in my actual job it's a hard call! I generally meet folk for the first time face-to-face who either know the 'craic' so to speak? Or are highly distressed (freaked out). Sooo zero judgement call from me either way. I just roll with the punches. Generally there's a decent outcome for all " Fab wise... Yeah, I know in the first 5mins | |||
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"In real life? - in my actual job it's a hard call! I generally meet folk for the first time face-to-face who either know the 'craic' so to speak? Or are highly distressed (freaked out). Sooo zero judgement call from me either way. I just roll with the punches. Generally there's a decent outcome for all Fab wise... Yeah, I know in the first 5mins " 5mins? Does that include foreplay? Seriously though, I can’t online. Text is so difficult to read a personality. Example, if all I read was the humour post (and not the more serious topics) I would never see their intellect. Maybe they are too serious for me , or the other way around. Online is difficult for me. In person it’s a lot quicker to gauge. Maybe, just thinking over a coffee. | |||
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"I change my mind about them as I get to know them/ more information. People can have shit days. They may be nervous at first. I may misunderstand something they said. People are living breathing thinking beings. Very much this. My opinions fluctuate and change, people change. Everyone is flawed in one way or another, I try and keep a relatively open mind. So no, I'm not a good judge of character but I do know those who I'd be more compatible with over time." This is more me too | |||
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"I've changed my mind often so I try to stay open. There are people who just rub me up the wrong way and that's hard to come back from." Yep. This is true. Feelings stick. | |||
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"I've got a very finely tuned bs detector but I need time to know a person before I can say much about their character. " My career has taught me to do exactly the same. Most of the time I get it right but never make that 'instant' decision to swipe. | |||
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"I've got a very finely tuned bs detector but I need time to know a person before I can say much about their character. My career has taught me to do exactly the same. Most of the time I get it right but never make that 'instant' decision to swipe." I think you can tell if you're going to like someone or not pretty quickly but that (to me at least) isn't the same as being able to judge their character. | |||
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"I change my mind about them as I get to know them/ more information. People can have shit days. They may be nervous at first. I may misunderstand something they said. People are living breathing thinking beings. " This is me too. I don't ignore my gut reactions but I don't rush to judge people because I've been wrong before. And I find people attractive aside from their looks so it can grow. | |||
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"In real life? - in my actual job it's a hard call! I generally meet folk for the first time face-to-face who either know the 'craic' so to speak? Or are highly distressed (freaked out). Sooo zero judgement call from me either way. I just roll with the punches. Generally there's a decent outcome for all Fab wise... Yeah, I know in the first 5mins 5mins? Does that include foreplay? Seriously though, I can’t online. Text is so difficult to read a personality. Example, if all I read was the humour post (and not the more serious topics) I would never see their intellect. Maybe they are too serious for me , or the other way around. Online is difficult for me. In person it’s a lot quicker to gauge. Maybe, just thinking over a coffee. " Coffee. It's much easier for them to tell I'm a fuckwit in person. | |||
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"I can usually tell quite early on whether I will like them or not. Sometimes you can know just by observing how they interact with others and their behaviour in general. Very. Do you find you clash more often. As in, they are not really dicks, but you personalities are just too similar or too different to get along. They clash! ?" Yeah a few times, usually within the first couple of minutes within speaking it's just yeah we aren't a match at all and I just move on | |||
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"Most of my meets (dates mostly away from fab) have been fine and we got on very well. However don't judge that the norm as a couple of times I was ghosted despite those dates being great!" Ah ghosted. it’s easy though isn’t it, I expect it as much as anything else now. | |||
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"It's always good to read a thread like this then one asking questions about people's ex's. Is amazing how many brilliant judges of character fall in love with and marry utter arseholes. I'm shit at it, I *know* most people are cunts yet I still think they're nice from a superficial acquaintance. I also wonder how much of our judgement is self fulfilling, again going back to ex partners, the same person can display traits that make us love them and others we despise. How much of our "judgement" is a choice which of these two sets of behaviors we want to acknowledge in a particular person? Mr" Good point!! | |||
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"Plus, thinking you won't like someone within a few minutes of meeting, then confirming that over a number of years, simply means you're good at knowing what you like about other people and in no way reflects your ability to objectively judge their character. Start a thread about pretty much any celebrity and you'll have people calling them everything from amazing to revolting. It's one of our biggest conceits as humans that things we don't like are automatically bad or wrong. Mr" Conscious bias!! | |||
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"Plus, thinking you won't like someone within a few minutes of meeting, then confirming that over a number of years, simply means you're good at knowing what you like about other people and in no way reflects your ability to objectively judge their character. Start a thread about pretty much any celebrity and you'll have people calling them everything from amazing to revolting. It's one of our biggest conceits as humans that things we don't like are automatically bad or wrong. Mr" I can't quite explain how much I love this response and wholeheartedly agree with it so here's some flattering words acknowledging that and not doing it quite justice. Perfect. | |||
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"I think we all unconsciously recognise when things are right and by the same token when something is off and that applies to people too. There have been certain people I have immediately recognised I need to stay away from, that's probably down to tiny tells that I can't articulate. " A gut feeling some people call it don’t they? | |||
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"I think we all unconsciously recognise when things are right and by the same token when something is off and that applies to people too. There have been certain people I have immediately recognised I need to stay away from, that's probably down to tiny tells that I can't articulate. A gut feeling some people call it don’t they? " Yep. This doesn't mean that I think I can know a person's character in an instant but sometimes it's possible to recognise a certain aspect of it that might cause problems between the two of you. | |||
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