FabSwingers.com forum: Trust

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Profiles with couples saying they have to trust someone before they can let them join in within their marriage/ relationship and have fun with them. Single profiles (usually females) saying they need to trust people before they will meet.

On the planned babies thread, people get together, say they love each other and want to start a family... Then a few months later the woman is a single mum wondering why she trusted him.

Vanilla dating threads... People on 'dating sites' saying they have seen others on here. Are they dating or swinging?

Can we ever really trust anyone? Would you really trust someone you met online? Or even in real life??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profiles with couples saying they have to trust someone before they can let them join in within their marriage/ relationship and have fun with them. Single profiles (usually females) saying they need to trust people before they will meet.

On the planned babies thread, people get together, say they love each other and want to start a family... Then a few months later the woman is a single mum wondering why she trusted him.

Vanilla dating threads... People on 'dating sites' saying they have seen others on here. Are they dating or swinging?

Can we ever really trust anyone? Would you really trust someone you met online? Or even in real life??

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without soundingikeca bitter and twisted wman garing woman, nope, i will never trust another man! Doesn't stop me from still enjoying them though because they are phwoar!!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

why are you untrustworthy if you are on a datin site and a swinging site?

who i sleep with and how i meet them does not make me untrustworthy

if i say that i am exclusive to someone on a site and i am not, that makes me untrustworthy

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By *riskygazMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Mmm on a site like this it would be a bit hard to fully trust anyone, lots off people telling little fibs i bet lol, as for every day life, not sure you can be a 100% sure of people there either

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"why are you untrustworthy if you are on a datin site and a swinging site?

who i sleep with and how i meet them does not make me untrustworthy

if i say that i am exclusive to someone on a site and i am not, that makes me untrustworthy"

Yes, sorry, your last sentence is what I meant to say. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this will be a bundle of joy!

To answer the question - trust anyone online, only if you're a moron. Trust anyone in real life, absolutely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this will be a bundle of joy!

To answer the question - trust anyone online, only if you're a moron. Trust anyone in real life, absolutely."
trust anyone in real life? Really? Anyone???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this will be a bundle of joy!

To answer the question - trust anyone online, only if you're a moron. Trust anyone in real life, absolutely.trust anyone in real life? Really? Anyone???"

Nothing like a pedantic semantic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually, my gut feel is very accurate about a person whether I can trust him/her or not.

However, it has been known to fail on the rare occasions.

If I find out the person whom I have trusted as betrayed my trust, then I will drop him/her like a hot potato.

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By *orkieMan
over a year ago

Who knows

On the planned babies thread, people get together, say they love each other and want to start a family... Then a few months later the woman is a single mum wondering why she trusted him.

Vanilla dating threads... People on 'dating sites' saying they have seen others on here. Are they dating or swinging?

Can we ever really trust anyone? Would you really trust someone you met online? Or even in real life??

You can trust anyone...... its the degree of trust that comes into question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is a temporary madness,

it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides.

And when it subsides you have to make a decision.

You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together

that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.

Because this is what love is.

Love is not breathlessness,

it is not excitement,

it is not the promulgation of eternal passion.

That is just being "in love" which any fool can do.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away,

and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

Those that truly love, have roots that grow towards each other underground,

and when all the pretty blossom have fallen from their branches,

they find that they are one tree and not two.

From Captain Corellis Mandolin

Trust is earned, on this site the trust is that you are seeking the same thing Friendship and NSA thrills and fun.

Dating sites you earn trust towards the the topic of the verse.

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By *orkieMan
over a year ago

Who knows

"Well this will be a bundle of joy!

To answer the question - trust anyone online, only if you're a moron. Trust anyone in real life, absolutely."

Have met people on line who after meeting them in real time would trust them more than certain people I have met in real life... throw that one into your equation

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

I only trust the face I see staring back at me when I'm looking in the mirror.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only trust the face I see staring back at me when I'm looking in the mirror."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this will be a bundle of joy!

To answer the question - trust anyone online, only if you're a moron. Trust anyone in real life, absolutely.

Have met people on line who after meeting them in real time would trust them more than certain people I have met in real life... throw that one into your equation"

Agreed with that in the first place, point being AFTER you've met them face to face. Obviously degrees of trust as people have mentioned etc. etc.

I suspect this thread is less about trust and rather more about lack of it however.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this will be a bundle of joy!

To answer the question - trust anyone online, only if you're a moron. Trust anyone in real life, absolutely.

Have met people on line who after meeting them in real time would trust them more than certain people I have met in real life... throw that one into your equation"
wonder what tour smart arsed comment will be now that you have questioned his/her/their post??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this will be a bundle of joy!

To answer the question - trust anyone online, only if you're a moron. Trust anyone in real life, absolutely.

Have met people on line who after meeting them in real time would trust them more than certain people I have met in real life... throw that one into your equation

Agreed with that in the first place, point being AFTER you've met them face to face. Obviously degrees of trust as people have mentioned etc. etc.

I suspect this thread is less about trust and rather more about lack of it however."

Stop being so pedantic for goodness sake!

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Trust me i will turn up if we plan to meet and you worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop being so pedantic for goodness sake!"

Good advice, now well taken. Will try to avoid tripping over the soft spot on my way out..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day the vast majority of people on here state the truth except for small discrepancies i.e town name or area of city where they they live, and that is just as a precautionary measure for fear of neighbours/locals possibly recognising them. What really bugs me is when people lie and are way out on their profile ages. Grrr

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By *orkieMan
over a year ago

Who knows

"Well this will be a bundle of joy!

To answer the question - trust anyone online, only if you're a moron. Trust anyone in real life, absolutely.

Have met people on line who after meeting them in real time would trust them more than certain people I have met in real life... throw that one into your equation wonder what tour smart arsed comment will be now that you have questioned his/her/their post??"

It was an opinion, everyone has them and are entitled to air them, if you read my response correctly you would see that I was not questioning them nor making a smart arsed comment, your call lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this will be a bundle of joy!

To answer the question - trust anyone online, only if you're a moron. Trust anyone in real life, absolutely.

It was an opinion, everyone has them and are entitled to air them, if you read my response correctly you would see that I was not questioning them nor making a smart arsed comment, your call lady "

I wasn't referring to your post, I was referring to pepper and spice, as I was expecting him/her to make a smart arsed comment which he/she did

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Trust...hmmmmm for a meet? No not really depending where the meet took place, our house, club, house party...depends if i would be required to give any personal details as in address etc....then the level of trust would go up from zero to one...after that...dunno.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well this will be a bundle of joy!

To answer the question - trust anyone online, only if you're a moron. Trust anyone in real life, absolutely.

Have met people on line who after meeting them in real time would trust them more than certain people I have met in real life... throw that one into your equation

Agreed with that in the first place, point being AFTER you've met them face to face. Obviously degrees of trust as people have mentioned etc. etc.

I suspect this thread is less about trust and rather more about lack of it however."

About both. Trust... Or the lack of it....

Can we trust anyone? Does that trust have to be earned? Or is it the wrong word entirely for on a site such as this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually, my gut feel is very accurate about a person whether I can trust him/her or not.

However, it has been known to fail on the rare occasions.

If I find out the person whom I have trusted as betrayed my trust, then I will drop him/her like a hot potato.

This is how I am too. My gut feeling about someone is usually right and the few times I've gone against it I've wished I hadn't.

Yes some would say I'm too trusting and caring but it's me. For those we have met and become close friends with its been worth the pain from those who turned out to be not for us.

I value the very few people I feel close to snd can trust. Some are vanilla some are playmates. I don't judge where I met them but the person.

Sure there are some I know straight away I wouldn't trust. But others I've built close friendships up with snd would trust them completely.

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

There are degrees of trust...as in... if I've arranged to meet someone I will trust that they will turn up. On here we all surely start from this basic level of trust (and sometimes it turns out that some individuals cannot be trusted, even at this basic level - thankfully hasn't happened often, lol).

Trust in a relationship (romantic or otherwise) surely increases as you get to know someone. It's based on honesty, and that includes being honest with yourself. Pearl said it - go with your gut feelings...they're rarely wrong....and when they are it's usually because you've not really listened to them - or have chosen to ignore them. If I look back over failed relationships (romantic, friendshps, even family) in retrospect I can see things I chose to ignore...sometimes for a considerable time.

I think most people have trusted and had that trust betrayed on some level at some time, but I would not distrust automatically because of past experiences with individuals. I prefer to expect trustability until given reason not to....but obviously would be sensible about the degree of trust I would give. I would not like to be unable to trust anyone.......I think that must be a very sad place to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I trust my own instincts around people. If I feel I can trust them, I will - until I start feeling I can't, then I won't

People don't set off to betray a trust (most people anyhoo) they're just not often brave enough to be be honest.

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By *ctavius StuntMan
over a year ago

london

Its not only about who you trust its what you are trusting then with. Im a misanthrope so i dont really have a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have to trust people a bit to invite them to my house.

i dont trust anyone completly though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the planned babies thread, people get together, say they love each other and want to start a family... Then a few months later the woman is a single mum wondering why she trusted him.

Vanilla dating threads... People on 'dating sites' saying they have seen others on here. Are they dating or swinging?

Can we ever really trust anyone? Would you really trust someone you met online? Or even in real life??

Life is littered with people who are despondent after trusting someone and then being let down. But if nobody trusted then life would be shit too. There are also different levels of trust so really its not a single plain emotion/event/situation. In the end you should do what your head says as more often than not it will be right.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On the planned babies thread, people get together, say they love each other and want to start a family... Then a few months later the woman is a single mum wondering why she trusted him.

Vanilla dating threads... People on 'dating sites' saying they have seen others on here. Are they dating or swinging?

Can we ever really trust anyone? Would you really trust someone you met online? Or even in real life??

I like that.

I do trust my instincts... Well most of the time. And they are usually right. I'm still surprised when I'm right though.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

on the tinternet, hardly anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust, the hardest thing to earn, the easiest thing to lose.

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