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By *Iex OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Hi all,

I've only just got set up and verified here after neglecting the site for some time, and I have a very newbie question.

For people who have on their profile comments saying any first message must contain a face pic, is it silly to ask if you'd still want that if someone is verified, with a profile picture and has friends only photos? I can see a lot of profiles don't have a profile picture anyway, so not sure if it's just targeted at that.

Any input is appreciated, or any other advice for a new person here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can ask for what you like. The other party can choose to respond or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they demand a face pic with the first message then that's what they want.

Even if you send one it doesn't guarantee a reply.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Just look at the photos mate, don't read the profiles. That is what I do

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

They can ask for whatever they want . Even if your face pic is your profile pic they may still want you to send them on a face pic. Only you can decide if you want to send them one. Personally I tend to skip past profiles that demand things from others on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone asks you to send a face pic in the first message? That's a paddlin'

Someone asks for one and isn't verified? That's a paddlin'

Someone messages you out of the blue and asks for a face pic? Oh, you better believe that's a paddlin'

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Hi all,

I've only just got set up and verified here after neglecting the site for some time, and I have a very newbie question.

For people who have on their profile comments saying any first message must contain a face pic, is it silly to ask if you'd still want that if someone is verified, with a profile picture and has friends only photos? I can see a lot of profiles don't have a profile picture anyway, so not sure if it's just targeted at that.

Any input is appreciated, or any other advice for a new person here!"

It does strike me as double standards when someone without a picture on their profile demand a face pic.

I get people have their reasons, but theybshoukd understand the reverse is true.

Never bothered me on e way or another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't send one on to anyone who demands one and won't send first.

Always feels a bit off to me.

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath


"Hi all,

I've only just got set up and verified here after neglecting the site for some time, and I have a very newbie question.

For people who have on their profile comments saying any first message must contain a face pic, is it silly to ask if you'd still want that if someone is verified, with a profile picture and has friends only photos? I can see a lot of profiles don't have a profile picture anyway, so not sure if it's just targeted at that.

Any input is appreciated, or any other advice for a new person here!"

I have this on my profile.

I’d still like a face pic attached. I can’t see your friends only pictures and I’m not looking if you are verified or not. I have it to see if I’m attracted to whoever sends me a message. Saves everyone time.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"Hi all,

I've only just got set up and verified here after neglecting the site for some time, and I have a very newbie question.

For people who have on their profile comments saying any first message must contain a face pic, is it silly to ask if you'd still want that if someone is verified, with a profile picture and has friends only photos? I can see a lot of profiles don't have a profile picture anyway, so not sure if it's just targeted at that.

Any input is appreciated, or any other advice for a new person here!"

Photo verified means nothing tbh, you don't have to have your face in the picture for it, I've seen verified profiles use stock pictures of models that I'm pretty sure ain't on here

For me it's more a case of putting a face to who I'm talking to and not just a stranger, the last thing I would want is to talk to someone, and then find I'm potentially not attracted to them and then have to let them down

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

M1 J22

I think only the individual profile can answer really? Everyone’s interpretation will be different. Lovely eye by the way

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I ask for cake - hardly ever get it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I looked at a profile last week of a guy who had "no face pic, no reply" on his profile. He had a face picture on his profile and was a hot handsome hunk.

I didn't message him as I wasn't going to send a face pic, even though I fancied him rotten.

Later on he messages me and we chatted and now he wants to meet me. Even though I still haven't sent a face pic lol. So clearly not a deal breaker.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I would still want a face pic.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I need a face pic first, in case it's someone who knows me or my family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can ask for what you like. The other party can choose to respond or not.

"

This is true, I ask for a breakdown of their usual weekly shop. How much they spend on groceries, toiletries etc. everyone who doesn’t supply this is fake.

*I once asked for someone to tell me how they separated their re-cycling. She did, I was super impressed. true story, I liked her.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I send one. They might not fancy me

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I like a face pic, but I'll talk to someone who doesn't have one as long as I find them interesting.

I won't do flirting or sexy talk though, partly because I'm not flirting with a faceless person, partly because I'm not on the hunt and partly because I'm crap at the flirting and sexy talk.

My face is quite clearly in my gallery and usually my profile pic, so I don't think it is too much to ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need a face pic first, in case it's someone who knows me or my family.

"

Mum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask for a face pic on the first message, if they don’t and I like them I will still reply but will need one at some point. It’s a little embarrassing if you’ve chatted for a while and then you see a face and it’s not what either of you are expecting so better to get it over with J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

I've only just got set up and verified here after neglecting the site for some time, and I have a very newbie question.

For people who have on their profile comments saying any first message must contain a face pic, is it silly to ask if you'd still want that if someone is verified, with a profile picture and has friends only photos? I can see a lot of profiles don't have a profile picture anyway, so not sure if it's just targeted at that.

Any input is appreciated, or any other advice for a new person here!"

If you want to send a face pic do.

If you don't want to, don't.

I'm not jumping through hoops (or tickling hoops) for anyone.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Hi all,

I've only just got set up and verified here after neglecting the site for some time, and I have a very newbie question.

For people who have on their profile comments saying any first message must contain a face pic, is it silly to ask if you'd still want that if someone is verified, with a profile picture and has friends only photos? I can see a lot of profiles don't have a profile picture anyway, so not sure if it's just targeted at that.

Any input is appreciated, or any other advice for a new person here!

If you want to send a face pic do.

If you don't want to, don't.

I'm not jumping through hoops (or tickling hoops) for anyone."

Is that what you were tickling? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never requested or sent a face pic on first message, I've always believed personality over looks is more attractive.

Gotta say tho ... Jasmine has both!!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We won’t insist on a face pic straight away but we’ll want one before we start talking about sexy stuff…

No point talking to someone for ages to then find you don’t fancy them. No one’s ever going to get anywhere with personality alone…that spark has to be there too…the eyes reveal all!

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We ask (not demand) a face pic is sent with an opening message. We will still chat if we don’t get one but it’s a massive waste of time if they send it later and Mrs NE doesn’t find them attractive.

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By *ate_BMan
over a year ago

London

I’ve never sent a face pic to those asking for one especially if there’s no face or body pics on theirs. Generally speaking I’ll only send if we’ve struck up good convo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never requested or sent a face pic on first message, I've always believed personality over looks is more attractive.

Gotta say tho ... Jasmine has both!! "

Oh my J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually ask for a recent and clear one within a few messages. Don’t see the point in continuing without knowing I’m attracted. I’m lucky enough that I can put mine in public gallery so seems fair to ask x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually ask for a recent and clear one within a few messages. Don’t see the point in continuing without knowing I’m attracted. I’m lucky enough that I can put mine in public gallery so seems fair to ask x"

Anyone who shows me theirs I show mine. It’s only fair.

What I can’t get my head around is the demand for one off me, without me seeing them first.

I don’t mean if I contact them, but rather the first way around. It’s odd…. I would expect someone who wants to call hand they should go first

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere


"Hi all,

I've only just got set up and verified here after neglecting the site for some time, and I have a very newbie question.

For people who have on their profile comments saying any first message must contain a face pic, is it silly to ask if you'd still want that if someone is verified, with a profile picture and has friends only photos? I can see a lot of profiles don't have a profile picture anyway, so not sure if it's just targeted at that.

Any input is appreciated, or any other advice for a new person here!

It does strike me as double standards when someone without a picture on their profile demand a face pic.

I get people have their reasons, but theybshoukd understand the reverse is true.

Never bothered me on e way or another "

It’s not double standards for a profile to state they want a face picture attached if you message. They aren’t messaging, you are the one initiating contact.

I much prefer a face pic straight away or very early on in chatting. If someone attaches one to the first message and I’m interested then I will always send one in return. If I have to ask for one then I attach mine (when it’s not public) along with my request.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask for a face picture with the first message. If I'm interested then I'll return the favour.

This isn't blind date. I don't want to chat for ages to find we don't fancy each other.

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford


"Hi all,

I've only just got set up and verified here after neglecting the site for some time, and I have a very newbie question.

For people who have on their profile comments saying any first message must contain a face pic, is it silly to ask if you'd still want that if someone is verified, with a profile picture and has friends only photos? I can see a lot of profiles don't have a profile picture anyway, so not sure if it's just targeted at that.

Any input is appreciated, or any other advice for a new person here!

I have this on my profile.

I’d still like a face pic attached. I can’t see your friends only pictures and I’m not looking if you are verified or not. I have it to see if I’m attracted to whoever sends me a message. Saves everyone time. "

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