FabSwingers.com forum: Dirty

By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I see this word used all the time on fab, in general with relation to sex or to some form of sexual activity.

Personally I think that sex isn’t dirty, it’s not rude or negative, yet the words that are associated with it often have negative connotations; filthy, dirty, nasty, etc.

Why is this?

Are we a nation of prudes and we can’t communicate what we want without expressing that? Is our language so unwieldy that we can’t find a different way to express ourselves?

Thoughts folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's more those words are a turn on for some. Or the thought that it's somehow wrong or bad is a turn on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like descriptive words. I use filthy, (just recently on a post) I also like sensual or groovy even funky. I think it invokes levels of my hornyness when using them to describe sex.

Sex. It might be just missionary.

Groovy - hours of rolling around naked.

Sensual - your mind will travel somewhere you’ve never known.

Filthy - there’s going to be a little bit of clean up and apology after.

Funky - well, what did we just do?

I like descriptive words.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think it's more those words are a turn on for some. Or the thought that it's somehow wrong or bad is a turn on.

I can understand that.

Is it wrong or bad though?

That leads me back to the belief that sex is something that we shouldn’t be doing, which makes it taboo and lends that level of excitement maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends wat folk are into. Personally u find it a turn on wen ppl are calling me dirty, filthy etc.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I like descriptive words. I use filthy, (just recently on a post) I also like sensual or groovy even funky. I think it invokes levels of my hornyness when using them to describe sex.

Sex. It might be just missionary.

Groovy - hours of rolling around naked.

Sensual - your mind will travel somewhere you’ve never known.

Filthy - there’s going to be a little bit of clean up and apology after.

Funky - well, what did we just do?

I like descriptive words.

I like the sliding scale of sex that you’ve created there. I’d probably use the word ‘messy’ to replace dirty but that’s nitpicking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like descriptive words. I use filthy, (just recently on a post) I also like sensual or groovy even funky. I think it invokes levels of my hornyness when using them to describe sex.

Sex. It might be just missionary.

Groovy - hours of rolling around naked.

Sensual - your mind will travel somewhere you’ve never known.

Filthy - there’s going to be a little bit of clean up and apology after.

Funky - well, what did we just do?

I like descriptive words.

I like the sliding scale of sex that you’ve created there. I’d probably use the word ‘messy’ to replace dirty but that’s nitpicking "

Did you just mark that with a red pen?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Let's be honest. They are all more acceptable than using a positive word like "fun".

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I prefer to use the terms hot and passionate x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally enjoy a bit of naughty, filthy, fun

J xx

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I personally enjoy a bit of naughty, filthy, fun

J xx "

Is it naughty and filthy though?

Naughty sounds like a bad child and filthy is covered in muck?

Words are weird

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Let's be honest. They are all more acceptable than using a positive word like "fun". "

Isn’t it fun?

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I like descriptive words. I use filthy, (just recently on a post) I also like sensual or groovy even funky. I think it invokes levels of my hornyness when using them to describe sex.

Sex. It might be just missionary.

Groovy - hours of rolling around naked.

Sensual - your mind will travel somewhere you’ve never known.

Filthy - there’s going to be a little bit of clean up and apology after.

Funky - well, what did we just do?

I like descriptive words.

I like the sliding scale of sex that you’ve created there. I’d probably use the word ‘messy’ to replace dirty but that’s nitpicking

Did you just mark that with a red pen?"

*wipes screen*

No…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's more those words are a turn on for some. Or the thought that it's somehow wrong or bad is a turn on.

I can understand that.

Is it wrong or bad though?

That leads me back to the belief that sex is something that we shouldn’t be doing, which makes it taboo and lends that level of excitement maybe? "

Agree with the 'taboo' aspect making it seem horny.

Swingers are filthy because they like sex.... so the papers say.

Oddly, the general public are also fucking around at weekends or with colleagues or neighbours or strangers etc, but that's seen as ok...!

Perhaps it's the planning stages that's so filthy dirty. Just falling into a sticky fanny or onto a cheesy cock is a happy accident.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think it's more those words are a turn on for some. Or the thought that it's somehow wrong or bad is a turn on.

I can understand that.

Is it wrong or bad though?

That leads me back to the belief that sex is something that we shouldn’t be doing, which makes it taboo and lends that level of excitement maybe?

Agree with the 'taboo' aspect making it seem horny.

Swingers are filthy because they like sex.... so the papers say.

Oddly, the general public are also fucking around at weekends or with colleagues or neighbours or strangers etc, but that's seen as ok...!

Perhaps it's the planning stages that's so filthy dirty. Just falling into a sticky fanny or onto a cheesy cock is a happy accident. "

I tend to agree about the hypocrisy of attitudes towards swingers, although that’s moving far away from the question.

Whatever words the papers may use regarding sex, do we have to use them ourselves?

I guess it highlights how they are negative and derogatory?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's be honest. They are all more acceptable than using a positive word like "fun". "

. I've come to despise that word!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's more those words are a turn on for some. Or the thought that it's somehow wrong or bad is a turn on.

I can understand that.

Is it wrong or bad though?

That leads me back to the belief that sex is something that we shouldn’t be doing, which makes it taboo and lends that level of excitement maybe? "

Yes, it's bad, very very bad. That's the thrill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's more those words are a turn on for some. Or the thought that it's somehow wrong or bad is a turn on.

I can understand that.

Is it wrong or bad though?

That leads me back to the belief that sex is something that we shouldn’t be doing, which makes it taboo and lends that level of excitement maybe?

Agree with the 'taboo' aspect making it seem horny.

Swingers are filthy because they like sex.... so the papers say….

"
hahaha.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I've had men say to me "I bet you're really dirty" or "I love how dirty you are ".

All I did was suck their cock and have sex. I don't know why they think that's dirty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had men say to me "I bet you're really dirty" or "I love how dirty you are ".

All I did was suck their cock and have sex. I don't know why they think that's dirty.

The church would have you think it is

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I've had men say to me "I bet you're really dirty" or "I love how dirty you are ".

All I did was suck their cock and have sex. I don't know why they think that's dirty.

The church would have you think it is

They would say I've sinned. I think it's probably a synonymous with dirty for some.

For people who only have basic sex with partners I suppose casual sex might seem dirty to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally enjoy a bit of naughty, filthy, fun

J xx

Is it naughty and filthy though?

Naughty sounds like a bad child and filthy is covered in muck?

Words are weird"

Depends if you have a dirty mind

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had men say to me "I bet you're really dirty" or "I love how dirty you are ".

All I did was suck their cock and have sex. I don't know why they think that's dirty.

The church would have you think it is

Yep my priest definitely does when I’m at confession.. forgive me father for I have ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're evocative words, if you describe someone's home as filthy it's certainly more than untidy. If you describe sex as filthy, it's probably not going to be vanilla. Our use of words evolve constantly, with many gaining alternative meanings both positive and negative, snowflake and sick for example. I Don't think it's lazy, just evolution.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's more those words are a turn on for some. Or the thought that it's somehow wrong or bad is a turn on.

I can understand that.

Is it wrong or bad though?

That leads me back to the belief that sex is something that we shouldn’t be doing, which makes it taboo and lends that level of excitement maybe?

Agree with the 'taboo' aspect making it seem horny.

Swingers are filthy because they like sex.... so the papers say.

Oddly, the general public are also fucking around at weekends or with colleagues or neighbours or strangers etc, but that's seen as ok...!

Perhaps it's the planning stages that's so filthy dirty. Just falling into a sticky fanny or onto a cheesy cock is a happy accident.

I tend to agree about the hypocrisy of attitudes towards swingers, although that’s moving far away from the question.

Whatever words the papers may use regarding sex, do we have to use them ourselves?

I guess it highlights how they are negative and derogatory? "

I use the words because they are ridiculous. I reclaim them. Same as 'Queer' was reclaimed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had men say to me "I bet you're really dirty" or "I love how dirty you are ".

All I did was suck their cock and have sex. I don't know why they think that's dirty.

The church would have you think it is

Yep my priest definitely does when I’m at confession.. forgive me father for I have ???? "

You need to get down on your knees……and pray.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had men say to me "I bet you're really dirty" or "I love how dirty you are ".

All I did was suck their cock and have sex. I don't know why they think that's dirty.

Wives don't suck cock. Sex is at Christmas with the lights off.

Lights on and bj's are therefore something that "dirty" women do.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I saw a thread just now that made me think exactly the same.

I started reply on it but then backed out and didn't bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I saw a thread just now that made me think exactly the same.

I started reply on it but then backed out and didn't bother.

Every day. Every single day.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I've had men say to me "I bet you're really dirty" or "I love how dirty you are ".

All I did was suck their cock and have sex. I don't know why they think that's dirty.

Wives don't suck cock. Sex is at Christmas with the lights off.

Lights on and bj's are therefore something that "dirty" women do. "

Where would someone find women like that?

Asking for a friend

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I personally enjoy a bit of naughty, filthy, fun

J xx

Is it naughty and filthy though?

Naughty sounds like a bad child and filthy is covered in muck?

Words are weird

Depends if you have a dirty mind

J x"

My mind is like an old mans house; cluttered, disorganised and filthy

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I've had men say to me "I bet you're really dirty" or "I love how dirty you are ".

All I did was suck their cock and have sex. I don't know why they think that's dirty.

The church would have you think it is

As much as this is a joke, the church and it’s influence would have an awful lot to do with societal attitudes towards sex.

As much as we’re moving towards non secular and agnostic attitudes, the views of the churches approach to controlling sex still remain

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, as descriptors for sex, words like filthy don't do much for me.

Animalistic, passionate, hedonistic, yes.

I just don't connect with the sense of taboo and forbidden. I'm not going to discuss it with my local church group, but my sexuality is something I celebrate.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Is sex dirty? Only if it's done right.

Woody Allen

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Is sex dirty? Only if it's done right.

Woody Allen "

I’m not sure that we should be taking advice on sex from Woody Allen…

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

If I'm promised filthy fucking I know it's going to messy, raw and sooo far from vanilla!

Nasty is a favourite of mine

That to me incorporates slutty role-playing, dirty little wh*re fucking

Primal means my hair will be a mess

Cherry x

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

I didn't even get anywhere near the op....

I think dirty fuckers have taken ownership of the negative words and phrases commonly used to describe any sex other than vanilla. Yes we are filthy dirty fuckers who have nasty primal sex and we're proud!

Cherry x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is sex dirty? Only if it's done right.

Woody Allen

I’m not sure that we should be taking advice on sex from Woody Allen…"

Yes, but do from Woody b???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I didn't even get anywhere near the op....

Cherry x"

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