FabSwingers.com forum: Why so rude?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So why is it that some guys are rude and almost Neanderthal in their messages?

It shocks me that guys think they can open communication with lines like "How about I come round and empty my load in you" or "are you on the pill?" and expect an answer. Obviously, we laugh, delete and block anyone that sends messages like that.

I would like to understand if these are just trolls, or do they really think it is acceptable and that knickers will just fall off?

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

I used to ponder this ,I came to the conclusion that these individuals just like to offended so I don't respond at all as it might feed into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately a free website is always going to attract a certain level of scum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually really struggle to understand the mindset and what response they expect to receive back, now I completely get we are all different but some messages really are offensive !! I’ve had my fair share since joining so can only imagine what it’s like for couples and single Ladies x

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

"I used to ponder this ,I came to the conclusion that these individuals just like to offended so I don't respond at all as it might feed into it.

X "

I'd say that's about right. It's more about getting a reaction because they're tired of being ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think its mixed

looking at my local updates some (not many) like rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not shour what they think at all when sending some messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is a reflection upon all kinds kinds in society, pretty much.

Some understand swinging and the likes, others don't.

Some only really understand sex through what porn taught them.

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Sadly this site seems to attract these young men who seem to thing they are god's gift to to women and are in love with themselves.

Sadly society is becoming more and more like this

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By *heron212Man
over a year ago

London

While I am sure the men here are rude, I get more than my fair share of messages from women here that obviously have not read my profile and just make assumptions based on my skin color alone.

So, both sexes are far from innocent here in this regard.

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By *orders CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Kelso

Perhaps it's a reflection on poor social skills and lack of respect for others that appear to be prevalent in much of society.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men presume that this is a site where sex is handed to them on a plate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly this site seems to attract these young men who seem to thing they are god's gift to to women and are in love with themselves.

Sadly society is becoming more and more like this"

Why do people always blame the young? We get more rude messages from older gents than we do from the younger generation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The general assumption is that because we are on a sex site, little effort is needed. They can say what they want and think I'll run towards them with my knickers around my ankles. Respect costs nothing!

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By *ookie doughMan
over a year ago

leic

They're generally the guys that lack certain social skills but believe they are gods gift and a rejection is unacceptable so therefore met with aggression.

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I think it's all just a big misunderstanding. I can't believe there are really people like that on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only recently heard of the term, Incel. Involuntarily celibate. Interesting to read about!

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

Yep, we’ve had our fair share of crass messages but they do give us a laugh! It’s an easy delete too!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Yep, we’ve had our fair share of crass messages but they do give us a laugh! It’s an easy delete too! "

Shhhhh.....that's our secret about my use of custard and cherries

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sadly this site seems to attract these young men who seem to thing they are god's gift to to women and are in love with themselves.

Sadly society is becoming more and more like this

Why do people always blame the young? We get more rude messages from older gents than we do from the younger generation."

Totally agree, it 30's and 40's that are the rudest.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"Yep, we’ve had our fair share of crass messages but they do give us a laugh! It’s an easy delete too!

Shhhhh.....that's our secret about my use of custard and cherries

xx"

I just didn’t fancy the custard cold

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Sadly this site seems to attract these young men who seem to thing they are god's gift to to women and are in love with themselves.

Sadly society is becoming more and more like this

Why do people always blame the young? We get more rude messages from older gents than we do from the younger generation.

Totally agree, it 30's and 40's that are the rudest."

Us 50s are gents

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Yep, we’ve had our fair share of crass messages but they do give us a laugh! It’s an easy delete too!

Shhhhh.....that's our secret about my use of custard and cherries

I just didn’t fancy the custard cold

It'll singe your bits hot though. I'll bring ice too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly this site seems to attract these young men who seem to thing they are god's gift to to women and are in love with themselves.

Sadly society is becoming more and more like this

Why do people always blame the young? We get more rude messages from older gents than we do from the younger generation.

Totally agree, it 30's and 40's that are the rudest."

Most the messages we get from younger men are very respectful.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

After 100s of message where they read the profile and put something witty go unopened or dejected, they decide it’s not worth their time trying too hard and just shoot their shot

It’s a time/effort thing. You can only fail so many times before you lower what your willing to put forward

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I used to ponder this ,I came to the conclusion that these individuals just like to offended so I don't respond at all as it might feed into it.

I'd say that's about right. It's more about getting a reaction because they're tired of being ignored"

In my opinion its this.

Better to be told to fuck off than ignored, at least that way they can have an angry wank pretending that it was their decision not to want to hook up.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"Yep, we’ve had our fair share of crass messages but they do give us a laugh! It’s an easy delete too!

Shhhhh.....that's our secret about my use of custard and cherries

I just didn’t fancy the custard cold

It'll singe your bits hot though. I'll bring ice too

xx"

Glacé cherries or fresh?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Yep, we’ve had our fair share of crass messages but they do give us a laugh! It’s an easy delete too!

Shhhhh.....that's our secret about my use of custard and cherries

I just didn’t fancy the custard cold

It'll singe your bits hot though. I'll bring ice too

Glacé cherries or fresh? "

Glacé....they stick better

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"Yep, we’ve had our fair share of crass messages but they do give us a laugh! It’s an easy delete too!

Shhhhh.....that's our secret about my use of custard and cherries

I just didn’t fancy the custard cold

It'll singe your bits hot though. I'll bring ice too

Glacé cherries or fresh?

Glacé....they stick better

xx"

…..To everything!!!

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We just laugh and block as it’s obvious from the messages we have received from all different age groups that they have no clue about the lifestyle in general.Messages like do you want a real man etc ..

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Some men presume that this is a site where sex is handed to them on a plate."

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Yep, we’ve had our fair share of crass messages but they do give us a laugh! It’s an easy delete too!

Shhhhh.....that's our secret about my use of custard and cherries

I just didn’t fancy the custard cold

It'll singe your bits hot though. I'll bring ice too

Glacé cherries or fresh?

Glacé....they stick better

…..To everything!!!

I'll nibble, it'll be fine

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Some men presume that this is a site where sex is handed to them on a plate.

It's not? Awks......

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

As long as dick meets minge who cares what's said? I mean, we're ALL here for the same thing ain't we.

A bit like gumtree. I want it, you got it, give me it.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Some men are like that but luckily not all o/p. Hope you get some nice messages.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"As long as dick meets minge who cares what's said? I mean, we're ALL here for the same thing ain't we.

A bit like gumtree. I want it, you got it, give me it."

Do you have an old vcr too. Looked on gumtree, but they only had attractive ladies available

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people dont know how to speak to folks its that simple but unlikely to be the worst thing to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why bother with words? My dick pic should answer all the questions you need.

*it’s a lie. I don’t even send messages anymore.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I think a lot do it for a reaction. X

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Some men on here are obviously roleplaying and it's highly likely that being abrupt and rude isn't their natural demeanor.

While there are plenty who are definitely like that in their daily lives there are many who feel they have to act that way because that's what they think a "real man" would do based on whatever porn they've been watching.

Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen approach.

It works both ways though because there are a number of men I know on here who are extremely misogynistic in real life but are able to project a different image online.

Just as there are many women who can be equally as rude and demanding and approach every conversation with a certain level of expectation as to how that conversation should go and become very abusive when it doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's naked tits/ cunts/ cocks on a profile they are hardly going to discuss the weather.

The site is full of sex chat and sex reviews "give her a try, she sucks and swallows!!" so it's not a surprise when they start with sex chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After 100s of message where they read the profile and put something witty go unopened or dejected, they decide it’s not worth their time trying too hard and just shoot their shot

It’s a time/effort thing. You can only fail so many times before you lower what your willing to put forward "

An angry reply is better than no reply.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

" ….. I'll run towards them with my knickers around my ankles. "

I guess it would be more of a hop rather than run. Unless they are giant clown pants!

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly this site seems to attract these young men who seem to thing they are god's gift to to women and are in love with themselves.

Sadly society is becoming more and more like this"

I get plenty of men in their fifties writing sordid messages to me. When I have challenged them, they say it's acceptable because of the kind of site we are on. It's the mindset that some people have here - if you're on the site, you're a slut and you don't need to be spoken to politely.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

"Perhaps it's a reflection on poor social skills and lack of respect for others that appear to be prevalent in much of society. "

On the nail here. Also when their cock gets bigger their brain gets smaller sadly

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

If someone uses a particular approach the only avenue to take is to say 'no thanks'or to block.

Why shouldn't someone be direct ? At least you are clear as to what they want and you can decline.

I'd prefer that to someone with 'social skills' as it's been put above.... The person with 'social skills' wants to empty his load in you but just takes a slightly longer way round.

It's true I wouldn't find it a come on but why blame the reality instead of the ones that are conditioned to want everything painted pretty ?

Fottimi amore mio OR Fuck me luv...

Same thing.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Let's be fair , for those blokes that haven't yet learned that women need tempting they just assume we want what they want and as they want uncomplicated relief they don't see the harm in asking for it.

Much simpler in a blokey world

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By *ixiePoisonWoman
over a year ago

Darlington

Ive had 2 disgusting messages in the last 24 hours, I'm seriously thinking about leaving, I don't need this shit...

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Well, first of all I obviously wouldn't write something like that. But I've written enough proper replies, eloquent, with big words and everything, and never got a reply back, which is pretty rude in itself. In the end you just give up. Did exchange a few mails with someone earlier this week, and then they just stopped replying. I sent one more, just a comment on an update to their profile, but both my previous mail and that one are still unread, and they've been online several times. Don't want to keep mailing so just taking the hint and walking away as usual.

So rudeness is rampant on here. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So why is it that some guys are rude and almost Neanderthal in their messages?

I would like to understand if these are just trolls, or do they really think it is acceptable and that knickers will just fall off?"

It's done to get a reaction... Which means a dialogue has started when you reply. They stand out but for the wrong reasons.

I've replied to a few before. They change their tune once you're talking.

One conversation I had with one that asked to get me pregnant was very amusing. It ended with him saying he'd absolutely shit himself if actually got someone pregnant. He still made the block list though of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive had 2 disgusting messages in the last 24 hours, I'm seriously thinking about leaving, I don't need this shit... "

Don't let them get to you.

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By *ixiePoisonWoman
over a year ago

Darlington

"Ive had 2 disgusting messages in the last 24 hours, I'm seriously thinking about leaving, I don't need this shit...

Don't let them get to you.

Thanks, think I need a thicker skin

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Honestly, Fab is an enormous free database, unwanted messages to some degree will go with the show.

Also, people forget what a huge

kink

it is for some people to ruffle or upset strangers!

And it's worth remembering that some people are often rather-tragically bad at communicating too.

BUT...

If a message is genuinely offensive (ie it's not because you just haven't built a skin yet) - then do other people a favour and report it!

Fab can only act sometimes if they have enough data.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Ive had 2 disgusting messages in the last 24 hours, I'm seriously thinking about leaving, I don't need this shit...

Don't let them get to you.

Thanks, think I need a thicker skin

yeah, it's the skin

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon

I do love a rude message, oh wait wrong kind of rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had similar from women or couples at times. Not just men who are like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So why is it that some guys are rude and almost Neanderthal in their messages?

I would like to understand if these are just trolls, or do they really think it is acceptable and that knickers will just fall off?"

We’re not all that bad I promise you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone uses a particular approach the only avenue to take is to say 'no thanks'or to block.

Why shouldn't someone be direct ? At least you are clear as to what they want and you can decline.

I'd prefer that to someone with 'social skills' as it's been put above.... The person with 'social skills' wants to empty his load in you but just takes a slightly longer way round.

It's true I wouldn't find it a come on but why blame the reality instead of the ones that are conditioned to want everything painted pretty ?

Fottimi amore mio OR Fuck me luv...

Same thing.

I don't often disagree with you but I do here. There's being direct "Hi, I'd love to have sex with you" which I have no problem with. And then there's "I'd love to smear my cum all over those fat tits". I don't think many of us want poetry in our messages but FFS nobody here deserves to be treated like an object and not worthy of respect.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

"So why is it that some guys are rude and almost Neanderthal in their messages?

I would like to understand if these are just trolls, or do they really think it is acceptable and that knickers will just fall off?"

Those messages just makes life easier. It a quick and easy fall at filter number one. It's surprising but soon water off a ducks back.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

And that's why single guys struggle to get meets.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Sadly this site seems to attract these young men who seem to thing they are god's gift to to women and are in love with themselves.

Sadly society is becoming more and more like this"

Not all young men... Some of the worst messages I've had are from 45+

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly this site seems to attract these young men who seem to thing they are god's gift to to women and are in love with themselves.

Sadly society is becoming more and more like this

Not all young men... Some of the worst messages I've had are from 45+"

Same here. And I find younger guys are more likely to change their attitude when challenged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, first of all I obviously wouldn't write something like that. But I've written enough proper replies, eloquent, with big words and everything, and never got a reply back, which is pretty rude in itself. In the end you just give up. Did exchange a few mails with someone earlier this week, and then they just stopped replying. I sent one more, just a comment on an update to their profile, but both my previous mail and that one are still unread, and they've been online several times. Don't want to keep mailing so just taking the hint and walking away as usual.

So rudeness is rampant on here. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed."

It isn’t rude. People have the choice whether or not to reply.

I spend my time on this site as I wish, not replying to unwanted messages.

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By *age500Woman
over a year ago

ashton-under-lyne

"Sadly this site seems to attract these young men who seem to thing they are god's gift to to women and are in love with themselves.

Sadly society is becoming more and more like this

Not all young men... Some of the worst messages I've had are from 45+"

Thought the same myself…. Had a 40 year old bloke tell me I shouldn’t be on the site the other day because I didn’t appreciate him asking if I was on the pill.

I seem to find that older men (older than myself) seem to think they can speak to me how they wish because of my age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So rudeness is rampant on here. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.

It isn’t rude. People have the choice whether or not to reply.

I spend my time on this site as I wish, not replying to unwanted messages."

Not replying to first messages is one thing but wouldn't you say ignoring a chat that's started is rude?

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Can you see that by not sending him a message you are sending him amessage

The truth is that its not about you really. These guys send those messages when they are in the process of masturbating

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By *age500Woman
over a year ago

ashton-under-lyne

So rudeness is rampant on here. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.

It isn’t rude. People have the choice whether or not to reply.

I spend my time on this site as I wish, not replying to unwanted messages.

Not replying to first messages is one thing but wouldn't you say ignoring a chat that's started is rude? "

I’m all for not replying to unwanted messages but do find it rude if you’ve started a conversation with someone and suddenly stop responding

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By *amekeeper82Man
over a year ago

Alton

I'm always very respectful and honest but some guys well .

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

It’s a message that will instantly be deleted to be honest. Likewise the ridiculous names some accounts have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This morning I've had messages about my bra size and whether I really love anal. I'm not a walking wank bank.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"I used to ponder this ,I came to the conclusion that these individuals just like to offended so I don't respond at all as it might feed into it.

I'd say that's about right. It's more about getting a reaction because they're tired of being ignored"

It’s this they want a reaction or they are into a breeding fantasy. But either way it’s just meh honestly the guys that do it

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Some people just can't handle rejection.

Others just don't have a humanity filter

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

We get so many messages like this. I just think they have no respect for women and just see them as a breathing talking flashlight.

And they're certainly not capable of learning from their lack of success as we get the same messages over and over from the same guys. You'd think at some point they'd go "this isn't working, I'll try a different tact" but no, apparently not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So rudeness is rampant on here. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.

It isn’t rude. People have the choice whether or not to reply.

I spend my time on this site as I wish, not replying to unwanted messages.

Not replying to first messages is one thing but wouldn't you say ignoring a chat that's started is rude? "

Personally I wouldn’t say it is rude. If you don’t want to carry on chatting then I don’t think you should have to explain why - You might have got talking then the chat suddenly changes to being weird or creepy (just an example) or you are just not interested anymore…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So rudeness is rampant on here. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.

It isn’t rude. People have the choice whether or not to reply.

I spend my time on this site as I wish, not replying to unwanted messages.

Not replying to first messages is one thing but wouldn't you say ignoring a chat that's started is rude?

It’s not rude at all.

I’ll often reply to first messages if they are nice enough. I explain that I won’t be meeting them etc but thank them for their message. 9/10 try to continue the chat regardless. I may reply once or twice more but often I just stop opening them.

Ignoring messages, deleting messages or anything if the sort is not rude at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So rudeness is rampant on here. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.

It isn’t rude. People have the choice whether or not to reply.

I spend my time on this site as I wish, not replying to unwanted messages.

Not replying to first messages is one thing but wouldn't you say ignoring a chat that's started is rude?

It’s not rude at all.

Ignoring messages, deleting messages or anything if the sort is not rude at all. "

Yes exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So rudeness is rampant on here. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.

It isn’t rude. People have the choice whether or not to reply.

I spend my time on this site as I wish, not replying to unwanted messages.

Not replying to first messages is one thing but wouldn't you say ignoring a chat that's started is rude?

I’m all for not replying to unwanted messages but do find it rude if you’ve started a conversation with someone and suddenly stop responding"

The trouble is, there are times when I don’t want to continue chatting, times a message gets lost further down or even times I just don’t check my inbox.

It probably is rude, but if I don’t want to continue talking, then what…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This morning I've had messages about my bra size and whether I really love anal. I'm not a walking wank bank. "

I’m laughing but, really, I’m tired of it.

Have a rest and block the single guys xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So rudeness is rampant on here. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.

It isn’t rude. People have the choice whether or not to reply.

I spend my time on this site as I wish, not replying to unwanted messages.

Not replying to first messages is one thing but wouldn't you say ignoring a chat that's started is rude?

I’m all for not replying to unwanted messages but do find it rude if you’ve started a conversation with someone and suddenly stop responding

The trouble is, there are times when I don’t want to continue chatting, times a message gets lost further down or even times I just don’t check my inbox.

It probably is rude, but if I don’t want to continue talking, then what…

I take on board what you've all said - I guess for me I'd feel rude. But I don't want to keep talking because often a guy has messaged saying something nice, I've felt I need to say thank you but I am not interested when they keep going with a desultory chat. I usually say "I'm not interested in chatting anymore, good luck". If they keep on messaging, I just delete. But I suspect it's just numbers for you Hippy - you will get a lot more messages than I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This morning I've had messages about my bra size and whether I really love anal. I'm not a walking wank bank.

I’m laughing but, really, I’m tired of it.

Have a rest and block the single guys xx"

Yeah, I do periodically. Or just change my age limit to 98-99

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This morning I've had messages about my bra size and whether I really love anal. I'm not a walking wank bank.

I’m laughing but, really, I’m tired of it.

Have a rest and block the single guys xx

Yeah, I do periodically. Or just change my age limit to 98-99

Oooo that’s a good tip! Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This morning I've had messages about my bra size and whether I really love anal. I'm not a walking wank bank.

I’m laughing but, really, I’m tired of it.

Have a rest and block the single guys xx

Yeah, I do periodically. Or just change my age limit to 98-99

Oooo that’s a good tip! Thanks

It was a tip passed onto me!

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

They think it's a sex site and that any woman on here will just be happy to open their legs for them

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By *reakbedsnotheartsMan
over a year ago

bedford

"They think it's a sex site and that any woman on here will just be happy to open their legs for them "

I’ve had some strange messages on here myself. Manners go a long way and one step at a time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They think it's a sex site and that any woman on here will just be happy to open their legs for them "

Well they have to ask nicely!!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Because people are. It's what they do.

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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago

Sent to Coventry

"Sadly this site seems to attract these young men who seem to thing they are god's gift to to women and are in love with themselves.

Sadly society is becoming more and more like this

Why do people always blame the young? We get more rude messages from older gents than we do from the younger generation."

I only allow messages from over 50’s and still a lot of rude/graphic first messages

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"So why is it that some guys are rude and almost Neanderthal in their messages?

I would like to understand if these are just trolls, or do they really think it is acceptable and that knickers will just fall off?"

I'm sure there are people that would respond to those sort of messages. What they are guilty of is not knowing there audience.

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By *oublethefunMan
over a year ago

royston

A guy will look at a profiles pictures, start to get an erection and all there blood ends up in their cock hence guys thinking with their dicks and not there brains.!!!!

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By *reakbedsnotheartsMan
over a year ago

bedford

"A guy will look at a profiles pictures, start to get an erection and all there blood ends up in their cock hence guys thinking with their dicks and not there brains.!!!! "

Your profile is a boner alert

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I often wonder if they'd walk up to someone in RL and come out with some of the opening messages I get on here. I'm not offended by them as the delete and block button are there to use x

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"The general assumption is that because we are on a sex site, little effort is needed. They can say what they want and think I'll run towards them with my knickers around my ankles. Respect costs nothing!"

Beat me to it….it’s predominantly laziness and misinterpreting the nature of this site to mean that being utterly direct is the way to go.

Not far behind that however is that some guys are just semi-evolved knuckledraggers and couldn’t manage any better.

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