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By *Liam OP   Man
over a year ago

Midlands

So you start chatting to a new person on here, all is going well. You know when the conversation is flowing and it is pretty effortless. (This is still the first day or night).. the convo ends, say you have gone to bed.. do you message the next day or do you let them wait a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That comes across as manipulative, and it’s something that would annoy me and put me off

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"So you start chatting to a new person on here, all is going well. You know when the conversation is flowing and it is pretty effortless. (This is still the first day or night).. the convo ends, say you have gone to bed.. do you message the next day or do you let them wait a while "

Message the next day, of course. Strike while the iron is hot! X

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Well I'm lonely, so I'd message them as soon as I wake up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a conversation is flowing then you can just pick it back up the next day. If they enjoy chatting with you and you enjoy chatting with them just keep it natural.

My advice is to not overthink it and definitely don't start playing games.

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message them again, no reason not too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow your heart.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Follow your heart."

My heart is a cold shard of ice. Considering this, what should I do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you start chatting to a new person on here, all is going well. You know when the conversation is flowing and it is pretty effortless. (This is still the first day or night).. the convo ends, say you have gone to bed.. do you message the next day or do you let them wait a while "

Reply as soon as I have something to say to them if I can which would normally be the next day. Try to avoid mindgames, both doing them and being the victim of them.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"So you start chatting to a new person on here, all is going well. You know when the conversation is flowing and it is pretty effortless. (This is still the first day or night).. the convo ends, say you have gone to bed.. do you message the next day or do you let them wait a while "

Message !, it's now 6pm

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By *r easy1981Man
over a year ago

leeds

It is what it is move on

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By *Liam OP   Man
over a year ago

Midlands


"That comes across as manipulative, and it’s something that would annoy me and put me off "
abit extreme but noted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what your intentions are. Usually the guys that message me all the time and act super keen at first suddenly go dead silent and elusive after we have sex so now it just tends to make me a bit wary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you start chatting to a new person on here, all is going well. You know when the conversation is flowing and it is pretty effortless. (This is still the first day or night).. the convo ends, say you have gone to bed.. do you message the next day or do you let them wait a while "

Message when you want to.... Why play games; with someone you're getting along with?

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By *Liam OP   Man
over a year ago

Midlands


"So you start chatting to a new person on here, all is going well. You know when the conversation is flowing and it is pretty effortless. (This is still the first day or night).. the convo ends, say you have gone to bed.. do you message the next day or do you let them wait a while

Message when you want to.... Why play games; with someone you're getting along with? "
I wouldn't say it is playing games but fab is a whole different life to the real world. I probably won't contact them again anyway

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"So you start chatting to a new person on here, all is going well. You know when the conversation is flowing and it is pretty effortless. (This is still the first day or night).. the convo ends, say you have gone to bed.. do you message the next day or do you let them wait a while

Message when you want to.... Why play games; with someone you're getting along with? I wouldn't say it is playing games but fab is a whole different life to the real world. I probably won't contact them again anyway"

Then why make this thread about it?

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

You're the man, you should lead.

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By *Liam OP   Man
over a year ago

Midlands


"You're the man, you should lead. "
don't

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"You're the man, you should lead. "

Why?

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Personally if you want to message them then do it - it’s not a case of being a man and messaging first people seem to think men should always make the first move it’s rather old fashioned I think.

Equally making someone wait when you actually want to message them is odd to me and a bit mind game like - just send the message your getting along anyway, nothing to loose xx

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

...............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you start chatting to a new person on here, all is going well. You know when the conversation is flowing and it is pretty effortless. (This is still the first day or night).. the convo ends, say you have gone to bed.. do you message the next day or do you let them wait a while "

In these situations, I always think ‘what would I do?’

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I wouldn't say it is playing games "

Analysing when and how to reply to someone is playing games. However it's disguised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you start chatting to a new person on here, all is going well. You know when the conversation is flowing and it is pretty effortless. (This is still the first day or night).. the convo ends, say you have gone to bed.. do you message the next day or do you let them wait a while

Message when you want to.... Why play games; with someone you're getting along with? I wouldn't say it is playing games but fab is a whole different life to the real world. I probably won't contact them again anyway"

Does fab have to be different ?

If you meet someone and get on, why is it different where you met ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to think that my first message the following morning would indicate I'm genuinely interested in the lady ... but perhaps I've been reading that approach all wrong, I know how fickle fab can be and conversations only last az long as the next person.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

If they don’t send me tits (o)(o) the next day then I usually end the conversation.

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By *cotty1376Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

Yes, just a polite good morning, if they reply , all is good

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

As I'm not usually an early riser I tend to wake up with a message or text waiting for me.

Until we've had sex a couple of times. The novelty wears off very quickly for some people.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"You're the man, you should lead.

Why? "

Double why?

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By *Liam OP   Man
over a year ago

Midlands


"You're the man, you should lead.

Why?

Double why? "

You have to pay for dinner too obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That comes across as manipulative, and it’s something that would annoy me and put me off abit extreme but noted "

I don’t know why it’s extreme, I don’t like people playing games, and I like regular contact to build a connection

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP, if you thought things were going well why stop?

Have you got imposter syndrome?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"That comes across as manipulative, and it’s something that would annoy me and put me off "

Me too. Too gamey for me

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I dislike game playing, although it seems endemic in the vanilla dating apps too (no longer on any of them). Disappointing and unnecessary

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Flip a coin

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"So you start chatting to a new person on here, all is going well. You know when the conversation is flowing and it is pretty effortless. (This is still the first day or night).. the convo ends, say you have gone to bed.. do you message the next day or do you let them wait a while "

First thing next morning.

Then if they haven't replied again an hour later.

If there's still nothing by lunchtime then send another one asking what's for lunch.

They might be busy at work of course but on the off chance they're not - send another around teatime asking what they've been up to.

If you've still had nothing come 8pm then send a final message of the day asking if they're still alive/have been abducted by aliens/have fallen down a well, and also to tell them you're off to make a papier mache head based on their profile photo and that once it's done you're going to fuck it's pretty little mouth all night whilst thinking of them and crying because they've not replied to any of your messages all day.

A

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"So you start chatting to a new person on here, all is going well. You know when the conversation is flowing and it is pretty effortless. (This is still the first day or night).. the convo ends, say you have gone to bed.. do you message the next day or do you let them wait a while

First thing next morning.

Then if they haven't replied again an hour later.

If there's still nothing by lunchtime then send another one asking what's for lunch.

They might be busy at work of course but on the off chance they're not - send another around teatime asking what they've been up to.

If you've still had nothing come 8pm then send a final message of the day asking if they're still alive/have been abducted by aliens/have fallen down a well, and also to tell them you're off to make a papier mache head based on their profile photo and that once it's done you're going to fuck it's pretty little mouth all night whilst thinking of them and crying because they've not replied to any of your messages all day.

A"

Have you been reading my messages again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv had text conversations last years

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