FabSwingers.com forum: Look at your life

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, weekend before Easter I contracted Covid and was off the whole week from work, over this period I had a major reflection of my life as it currently stands and realised I was actually quite lonely, hence my profile update, seeing what comes of it, who knows.

So my question is this, at what point in your life did you realise that something wasn't right or missing totally?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I do a 5 year evaluate and change, and that includes car, job and house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Late 30’s. When I was turning 40 I knew I needed to mix things up a bit. I think milestones are an eye opener to reflect.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I've just turned 30 and I had 0 birthday wishes off my old mates,, so other then being around my children I am kind of lonely too

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

When I spent my 27th birthday sat on my loo crying my eyes out.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"I've just turned 30 and I had 0 birthday wishes off my old mates,, so other then being around my children I am kind of lonely too

Yup, welcome to life post 30

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

If it ain't broke, don't fix it

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Many times.

The pandemic has made me take serious stock on things, and I've been making significant changes.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Oh and at about age 4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

every 5 years

.. but nothing changes. no reincarnation of tdtf.. just the grim regret

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

When I was 30 and left a toxic relationship, I realised I didn’t recognise myself anymore - my confidence left me completely and I was broken for a while.

I took some time out and focused on myself for 2yrs, I didn’t date anyone seriously and I just filled my time with exercise, good friends, new hobbies and building my dance business in time the old me came back.

Now I set goals each year that I want to achieve and when I feel I’m going off track or feeling low I remind myself why I set them, they help me to focus xx

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It was after a life changing event. It totally changed me as a person. I won't let anyone get close to me anymore x

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By *amantha TSWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

Last time was when I was off with Covid end of October last year. 1st Nov I went and saw the Doc and got on the waiting list for gender reassignment. No looking back now

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I tend to take each day as it comes. I have vague future plans like retiring at 60 but nothing else really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 months before I got the courage to end my marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"3 months before I got the courage to end my marriage. "

your brave

5 years for me... 1st and 2nd

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

The day I lost my husband. I’m not the same person I once was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My brain's totally screwed atm. Realisations during the pandemic. I future operation which some things need to be sorted beforehand. I'm not coping tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My brain's totally screwed atm. Realisations during the pandemic. I future operation which some things need to be sorted beforehand. I'm not coping tbh"

sorry to hear that, i think a lot of people have considered things over covid.. good luck with op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"3 months before I got the courage to end my marriage.

your brave

5 years for me... 1st and 2nd"

Tbh I think I knew for years, but when I finally knew there was no going back it was 3 months to have “that” conversation

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By *bonybucksMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

I realised at Christmas that I’ve only got myself to rely on with no family. I’ve always known that anyway. Having Covid was horrible over New Years as was so unwell with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"3 months before I got the courage to end my marriage.

your brave

5 years for me... 1st and 2nd

Tbh I think I knew for years, but when I finally knew there was no going back it was 3 months to have “that” conversation "

i just watch them leave!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the time

but battle through..it's hard at times..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 yearsish then many times since then. Most recent was yesterday.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"3 months before I got the courage to end my marriage. "

Best of luck. I did it and was so much happier as a single mum.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"The day I lost my husband. I’m not the same person I once was "

You are doing bloody brilliantly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Around january 2021 when i looked back at all id lost the previous year 3 family members dead an old friends suicide and my oldest friend dead too something major had happened to one of the offspring and i was starting to see id never see the love of my life again and i had no control over any of it il admit i wanted the exit but in the end my obsession with loyalty my kids some friends fomo and being able to drive my shoulders into people dragged me out of my pit i was a broken man plagued by nightmares but now im stronger id only ever experienced true grief once as a child is my only excuse emotion was new to me so didnt know how to handle it now i see all i can do is be there for them who need me thats all any man can do and if im needed i will be there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The day I lost my husband. I’m not the same person I once was "
so sorry x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"3 months before I got the courage to end my marriage. "

I hear you

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"The day I lost my husband. I’m not the same person I once was

You are doing bloody brilliantly x"

Thank you beautiful

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"The day I lost my husband. I’m not the same person I once was so sorry x"

Big love to you, just read your post above x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"3 months before I got the courage to end my marriage.

your brave

5 years for me... 1st and 2nd

Tbh I think I knew for years, but when I finally knew there was no going back it was 3 months to have “that” conversation

i just watch them leave! "

yeah. thinking about it now i should of tried harder.. i was a total dick. words for a 30yr old me now i guess

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"3 months before I got the courage to end my marriage. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The day I lost my husband. I’m not the same person I once was so sorry x

Big love to you, just read your post above x "
im alright now just a bit nuts boobs help

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"Last time was when I was off with Covid end of October last year. 1st Nov I went and saw the Doc and got on the waiting list for gender reassignment. No looking back now

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"The day I lost my husband. I’m not the same person I once was so sorry x

Big love to you, just read your post above x im alright now just a bit nuts boobs help

Aren’t we all? Best way to be

Ah I think I can help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The day I lost my husband. I’m not the same person I once was so sorry x

Big love to you, just read your post above x im alright now just a bit nuts boobs help

Aren’t we all? Best way to be

Ah I think I can help

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oh you definitely do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 20/04/22 21:31:44]"

I'm sorry for everyone has posted, being currently very emotional over the slightest thing I really truly feel all your pain and regrets...but I also hope you all feel a sense of release and maybe renewal from opening up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the best forum threads ever here. We all need to think about our objectives as we get older , thanks OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The day I lost my husband. I’m not the same person I once was "

To have lost your husband so young is so sad. Sending love xx

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By *cotty1376Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

so sorry to read some of these posts, my heart goes out to you. I hope you all overcome these things and it makes you stronger people, remember....memories last forever but unfortunately , we don't , and for those struggling at any time, my message box is always open if you need to talk, i will remove all restrictions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"3 months before I got the courage to end my marriage.

Best of luck. I did it and was so much happier as a single mum."

As a single parent it is tough at times, but I’m definitely living my best life now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get me started! Every time I think something good is about to happen something happens that scuppers it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just been reading a few of these posts on here. I feel you people. Love you all as you are. We all just need a lil bit of love ayy?

Well for me, I tend to meditate daily (seasoned veteran so to speak of the phenomenon) and ebb & flow with each moment as it comes. I don't really have solid plans or things I want to achieve, but I do have some ideas about things I'd love to do if the opportunities arise.

I feel the smoothest way to live you're life is, living in the moment and attending to things as they happen. No one knows what's going to happen 2 seconds from now, so no one really has all the answers.. but one thing we can do is be attentive to each moment that occurs and live in the moment, otherwise we lose that moment and can't get it back again.

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