FabSwingers.com forum: Last time you canceled a date and why?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

About 6 years ago I was talking to this girl (she was in her 30's) via a dating site. So after a couple of weeks of chatting. We decided to meet up. Now because she doesn't drive, I thought I could drive to her and we could go for a drink/coffee. Obviously not to her actual house but a meeting place in public. So we got all tarted up for the big day. And ready. However it was her that was to decide where we were to meet up. But she just wouldn't tell(where). She just basically told me to go to her town and wait for further instructions as to where to go next. I thought, but its only a date dear. I mean it's not a marriage proposal or anything serious. I don't know, to me it felt like she was (going to) leading me on a wild goose chase. Sat in my room all ready to go, I messaged her to cancel the date. Oh my the poor girl was fuming. 'why, but, how...'. I'm sorry but you've worn me out physically and mentally. Wow did she give me some stick or what. Told my friends about it. 'you are so cruel Toan' was how one put it.

So yeah I just stayed in and bashed myself silly.

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

Chances are she would have been crap in bed and reached orgasm too soon and then you'd have dumped her after 7- 9 months!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

January because I had covid. The frightening thing was that he said he was not bothered and would still meet me.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I dont think I ever have. I get them so infrequently it just wouldnt occur to me to cancel. I've had a few cancel on me though.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I don’t cancel. They don’t either…. If they know whats good for them….

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It'll have been Covid related

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Chances are she would have been crap in bed and reached orgasm too soon and then you'd have dumped her after 7- 9 months!"

Well I never did find out.

I would only 'dump' her if it was mission impossible. However that won't happen!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Chances are she would have been crap in bed and reached orgasm too soon and then you'd have dumped her after 7- 9 months!

Well I never did find out.

I would only 'dump' her if it was mission impossible. However that won't happen! "

. Mission impossible as in if she can’t orgasm? And that won’t happen as in you can guarantee it?

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I had just painted outside steps and forgot about them. Opened door later and twisted ankle stepping over and trying to avoid them.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Drinks & dancing couple of weeks ago, as I had covid

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

A few weeks ago. I had a horrid eye infection. Even though it would just have been a social it was really uncomfortable and I probably wouldn't have been good company.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had just painted outside steps and forgot about them. Opened door later and twisted ankle stepping over and trying to avoid them. "

Don't forget the skirting boards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Literally yesterday, I was meant to have a third date with someone at the weekend but I realised I wasn't feeling it.

I think Fab is enough for me for now.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

April...covid related

Plenty of cuppa socials though but they are easy to rebook if we choose to

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By *onewolf444Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I've never cancelled on a date.

Fortunately I've never had a date cancel on me either.

I guess I'm one of the lucky few.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Chances are she would have been crap in bed and reached orgasm too soon and then you'd have dumped her after 7- 9 months!

Well I never did find out.

I would only 'dump' her if it was mission impossible. However that won't happen!

. Mission impossible as in if she can’t orgasm? And that won’t happen as in you can guarantee it? "

Yes(95%)

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

I don’t think I ever have. If I commit to a date I will still attend. But pinning me down to set one…that’s a whole different story…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Chances are she would have been crap in bed and reached orgasm too soon and then you'd have dumped her after 7- 9 months!

Well I never did find out.

I would only 'dump' her if it was mission impossible. However that won't happen!

. Mission impossible as in if she can’t orgasm? And that won’t happen as in you can guarantee it?

Yes(95%)

For the second question.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

. (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

I've never cancelled but I've been cancelled on with various excuses or just ghosted ...none of which worth dwelling on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a meet so never been cancelled on

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

If someone you do not already know is giving potentially creepy vibes, then it is best to cancel.

Her reaction suggests you may have dodged a bullet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv never been on a date

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Iv never been on a date"

Date is a better word than meet. “A meet”‘just makes me cringe. Ugh

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Iv never been on a date

Date is a better word than meet. “A meet”‘just makes me cringe. Ugh"

Unless it’s a play date!

. Even worse!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"Iv never been on a date

Date is a better word than meet. “A meet”‘just makes me cringe. Ugh

Unless it’s a play date!

. Even worse!"

Sounds like spending the day with toddlers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv never been on a date

Date is a better word than meet. “A meet”‘just makes me cringe. Ugh"
dont call it a meet either its either a bru a drink a joy ride or straight to bed honestly never dated in my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv never been on a date

Date is a better word than meet. “A meet”‘just makes me cringe. Ugh

Unless it’s a play date!

. Even worse!

Sounds like spending the day with toddlers

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Iv never been on a date

Date is a better word than meet. “A meet”‘just makes me cringe. Ugh

Unless it’s a play date!

. Even worse!

Sounds like spending the day with toddlers

. That would actually put me off someone if they said play date

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Iv never been on a date

Date is a better word than meet. “A meet”‘just makes me cringe. Ughdont call it a meet either its either a bru a drink a joy ride or straight to bed honestly never dated in my life"

Not even our little rendez vous in maccies. Was that not a date

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"Iv never been on a date

Date is a better word than meet. “A meet”‘just makes me cringe. Ugh

Unless it’s a play date!

. Even worse!

Sounds like spending the day with toddlers

. That would actually put me off someone if they said play date "

I just imagine a brightly coloured padded room, but aye not exactly going to get me in the mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv never been on a date

Date is a better word than meet. “A meet”‘just makes me cringe. Ughdont call it a meet either its either a bru a drink a joy ride or straight to bed honestly never dated in my life

Not even our little rendez vous in maccies. Was that not a date

"
that was a bru a giggle and a natter deffo no randy views tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So how would people classify a "date", "meet" or "social" - just curious as I see them all differently but looks as though a few posters on here conflate them. Just curious! I wouldn't call a meet or social with someone from fab a date personally.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Iv never been on a date

Date is a better word than meet. “A meet”‘just makes me cringe. Ughdont call it a meet either its either a bru a drink a joy ride or straight to bed honestly never dated in my life

Not even our little rendez vous in maccies. Was that not a date

that was a bru a giggle and a natter deffo no randy views tho

you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv never been on a date

Date is a better word than meet. “A meet”‘just makes me cringe. Ughdont call it a meet either its either a bru a drink a joy ride or straight to bed honestly never dated in my life

Not even our little rendez vous in maccies. Was that not a date

that was a bru a giggle and a natter deffo no randy views tho

you "
like you too

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Iv never been on a date

Date is a better word than meet. “A meet”‘just makes me cringe. Ughdont call it a meet either its either a bru a drink a joy ride or straight to bed honestly never dated in my life

Not even our little rendez vous in maccies. Was that not a date

that was a bru a giggle and a natter deffo no randy views tho

you like you too

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By *ingly_minx1Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

"About 6 years ago I was talking to this girl (she was in her 30's) via a dating site. So after a couple of weeks of chatting. We decided to meet up. Now because she doesn't drive, I thought I could drive to her and we could go for a drink/coffee. Obviously not to her actual house but a meeting place in public. So we got all tarted up for the big day. And ready. However it was her that was to decide where we were to meet up. But she just wouldn't tell(where). She just basically told me to go to her town and wait for further instructions as to where to go next. I thought, but its only a date dear. I mean it's not a marriage proposal or anything serious. I don't know, to me it felt like she was (going to) leading me on a wild goose chase. Sat in my room all ready to go, I messaged her to cancel the date. Oh my the poor girl was fuming. 'why, but, how...'. I'm sorry but you've worn me out physically and mentally. Wow did she give me some stick or what. Told my friends about it. 'you are so cruel Toan' was how one put it.

So yeah I just stayed in and bashed myself silly. "

I really don't like situations like this. If I'm travelling for the date I want to know where, when, best place to park etc a couple of days before.

Leaving stuff to the last minute or not replying to confirm that it's actually going ahead bugs the hell out of me.

Lately I've cancelled a lot of things (not just dates/meets) because of my fatigue and migraine combos.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

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"So how would people classify a "date", "meet" or "social" - just curious as I see them all differently but looks as though a few posters on here conflate them. Just curious! I wouldn't call a meet or social with someone from fab a date personally. "

For Me.

Date is dressed up for dinner and going out out

Meet is sexual

Playtime (yes Nora

) Is kink related

Socials are generally friendzones unless our chemistry is apparent then it escalates rapidly

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Play time and meet...

I don't want to word shame anyone though...

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Play time and meet...

I don't want to word shame anyone though...

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By *cotty1376Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

I don't think i have ever cancelled one, i have walked out on a few though

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By *reamblueMan
over a year ago

London

"I don't think i have ever cancelled one, i have walked out on a few though "

Ooh, sounds juicy. What happened?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For Me.

Date is dressed up for dinner and going out out

Meet is sexual

Playtime (yes Nora

) Is kink related

Socials are generally friendzones unless our chemistry is apparent then it escalates rapidly"

That's the same as I see them, totally agree on those

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By *cotty1376Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

"I don't think i have ever cancelled one, i have walked out on a few though

Ooh, sounds juicy. What happened?"

Just not the person i knew before we went on dates, people act a lot differently when around others than when on there own, like they need to be somebody they are not, and had 1 that just got so d*unk i had to ring her a taxi and left it at that

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By *reamblueMan
over a year ago

London

"I don't think i have ever cancelled one, i have walked out on a few though

Ooh, sounds juicy. What happened?

Oh, how disappointing.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Very rarely I do! But last month was meeting someone from a group social I went to! He was coming to mine but daughter was of work sick was gutted I had to cancel x

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

I've been cancelled on a few times, twice quite recently.

The only time I did it was last summer with a previous FB, I'd had an awful day and just wasn't in the mood for anything but an early night

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I'm not dating.

But had to cancel a meet tonight because I got my period this morning

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Play time and meet...

I don't want to word shame anyone though...

Did I word shame?

. I hate “play time” and “meet”. Always have.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Play time and meet...

I don't want to word shame anyone though...

Did I word shame?

. I hate “play time” and “meet”. Always have. "

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"Play time and meet...

I don't want to word shame anyone though...

Did I word shame?

. I hate “play time” and “meet”. Always have. "

"Meat" on the other hand...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Iv never been on a date"

Wow, you've never really been on a date. Is really shocking. I do hope you will find someone nice(unless you already have).

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