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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Every woman I've messaged has not replied or messaged back,I always read their profile to make sure I fit what they are looking for before I do. I send clear face and body pictures,I'm tall, in shape and I understand not every woman likes that and that's totally fine but to not recieve one single reply is strange.

Is fab just not the place for me?

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By *igDickSubMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'd say start with a profile pic

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Your profile doesn't say a lot about you, and that's what I'd look at first.

You might think you match what someone is looking for, but there is no way of them knowing if that's the case based on what they can see.

Only you can decide if fab is the place for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Offer cake and irn bru next message and go from there really

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd say start with a profile pic "

Does it really affect getting a reply even after having sent pictures?

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By *omoxfordMan
over a year ago

leeds

I think the guy to ladies ratio is not in our favour

Maybe go to social an meet people that way who knows it could lead to more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Add more text to your profile, more pics will help too

Remember men outnumber women here by a long way so it will take time to get a reply.

And try to start a conversation with them rather than just asking to meet straight away, thats what I have found works.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your profile doesn't say a lot about you, and that's what I'd look at first.

You might think you match what someone is looking for, but there is no way of them knowing if that's the case based on what they can see.

Only you can decide if fab is the place for you."

Yeah I'm going to look at maybe making my profile a little more interesting! Thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get some pics and make sure they are decent pics…if you don’t take a decent pic then…..well…..you could try a filter I suppose but if you do this you instantly lose masculinity points

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Maybe they ain't into Fab Ninjas my man,,

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Every woman I've messaged has not replied or messaged back,I always read their profile to make sure I fit what they are looking for before I do. I send clear face and body pictures,I'm tall, in shape and I understand not every woman likes that and that's totally fine but to not recieve one single reply is strange.

Is fab just not the place for me?"

--You need a profile to back you up... a picture (or two), some text, ticked interests, a non-lazy age range of 18-99 too maybe. People look for attentiveness not laziness.

And even then it's hard work. You need to browse Search and reach out. There are many more women than men on here I'm afraid.--

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

If you don’t understand that your profile is part of what sells you to potential partners on here, then Fab may not be the place for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also forget the text. Women are not interested if you have no pics

Get some decent pics and forget all the shyte about profile text

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"I'd say start with a profile pic

Does it really affect getting a reply even after having sent pictures? "

Pics in a message don't matter to me I look at a profile before I even open a message if the profile doesn't appeal then I may not even open the message or reply even if I do open it.

Look at it another way would you be interested in a profile that shows or tells you absolutely nothing about the person .

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Every woman I've messaged has not replied or messaged back,I always read their profile to make sure I fit what they are looking for before I do. I send clear face and body pictures,I'm tall, in shape and I understand not every woman likes that and that's totally fine but to not recieve one single reply is strange.

Is fab just not the place for me?

--You need a profile to back you up... a picture (or two), some text, ticked interests, a non-lazy age range of 18-99 too maybe. People look for attentiveness not laziness.

And even then it's hard work. You need to browse Search and reach out. There are many more women than men on here I'm afraid.--"

-Lol I mean many more men than women! -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile dosent have any context

No profile pic

And the one pic you do have is locked behind friends only

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Also forget the text. Women are not interested if you have no pics

Get some decent pics and forget all the shyte about profile text

"

--Got that from women did you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd say start with a profile pic

Does it really affect getting a reply even after having sent pictures?

Pics in a message don't matter to me I look at a profile before I even open a message if the profile doesn't appeal then I may not even open the message or reply even if I do open it.

Look at it another way would you be interested in a profile that shows or tells you absolutely nothing about the person ."

Very true I just thought sending picture over worked just as well but I appreciate the advice thanks

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"

Does it really affect getting a reply even after having sent pictures? "

I wouldn't know you had sent pics as I wouldn't open the message or look at the profile of a silhouette

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Your profile doesn't say a lot about you, and that's what I'd look at first.

You might think you match what someone is looking for, but there is no way of them knowing if that's the case based on what they can see.

Only you can decide if fab is the place for you.

Yeah I'm going to look at maybe making my profile a little more interesting! Thanks for the advice"

Any time.

A lot of people don't look at a message before checking out a profile, and so any pictures you send will that message are likely to be unseen if they aren't intrigued by the profile itself.

Happy fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put on a Dress and learn to walk in 8 inch heels worked for me

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield


"Yeah I'm going to look at maybe making my profile a little more interesting! Thanks for the advice"

Yeah pics (doesn’t have to be face or cock!) and some words about you and what you want and what you like and what you can offer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Put on a Dress and learn to walk in 8 inch heels worked for me "

Haha If it means getting a meet then I might have to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give up now it doesnt get any better

Ever!

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara


"Put on a Dress and learn to walk in 8 inch heels worked for me "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Give up now it doesnt get any better

Ever!"

I like being on fab for the forum so I think i'll stick around ,a meet would just be a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put on a Dress and learn to walk in 8 inch heels worked for me

Haha If it means getting a meet then I might have to! "

It worked for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put on a Dress and learn to walk in 8 inch heels worked for me "

It’s the truth after have 2 profiles

One medocer and one abusely awesome

And I am not talking about this one

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

OP

You have a serious chance of flipping this around here right+ now, there are enough fabalicious ladies on here reading this thread right now than can advise you on building a profile, so bite the bullet, dump the ninja pic and get yourself on the right road.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

. (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"Offer cake and irn bru next message and go from there really "

Ah, it can't just be any old cake though ...

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara


"Put on a Dress and learn to walk in 8 inch heels worked for me

It’s the truth after have 2 profiles

One medocer and one abusely awesome

And I am not talking about this one "
not for 1 sec did I doubt you,

I just tried to picture the OP in heels when he lives in and is afraid to come out of the shadows.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

. (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"Put on a Dress and learn to walk in 8 inch heels worked for me

It’s the truth after have 2 profiles

One medocer and one abusely awesome

And I am not talking about this one "

Nah, it was the way you served cake that time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send someone else's face and body pic

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"OP

You have a serious chance of flipping this around here right+ now, there are enough fabalicious ladies on here reading this thread right now than can advise you on building a profile, so bite the bullet, dump the ninja pic and get yourself on the right road. "

Impressed with how you slipped the flattery in with the help for the OP there you absolute smoothie

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Women rule this site it’s as simple as that, why have bone when they can have steak ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put on a Dress and learn to walk in 8 inch heels worked for me

It’s the truth after have 2 profiles

One medocer and one abusely awesome

And I am not talking about this one not for 1 sec did I doubt you,

I just tried to picture the OP in heels when he lives in and is afraid to come out of the shadows. "

Couple off years ago I done a experiment on hear

Done a perfect man’s profile no copy and paste messages

Read profiles

Took 10 minutes to craft message

Got 0 return rate out off about 60-70 profiles

Done a tv/ts profile couple off medocor pics no much writing and a copy and paste messages

Message the same people got a 70% return rate

It’s all a bunch off bs ha ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP

You have a serious chance of flipping this around here right+ now, there are enough fabalicious ladies on here reading this thread right now than can advise you on building a profile, so bite the bullet, dump the ninja pic and get yourself on the right road. "

Yeah I think i'll work on my profile, I just usually do the pictures and chat through messages but I'm going to have a photoshoot tonight

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Like others have said, you got to show yourself in public as a guy and write a good bio.

It's a struggle here for most guys but just enjoy the forums and social events and rest will follow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put on a Dress and learn to walk in 8 inch heels worked for me

It’s the truth after have 2 profiles

One medocer and one abusely awesome

And I am not talking about this one

Nah, it was the way you served cake that time "

Thanks but this was more a expement I done years go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t see your profile to comment as it’s hidden but your username sounds very tasty

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By *reamblueMan
over a year ago

London


"

Is fab just not the place for me?"

It depends on your expectations.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"Every woman I've messaged has not replied or messaged back,I always read their profile to make sure I fit what they are looking for before I do. I send clear face and body pictures,I'm tall, in shape and I understand not every woman likes that and that's totally fine but to not recieve one single reply is strange.

Personally if a profile with a blank pic messages we always ask for a pic, also think about what you are writing within that first message, I can’t comment on your profile as you have hidden it

Is fab just not the place for me?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say start with a profile pic

Does it really affect getting a reply even after having sent pictures? "

Absolutely it’s the first thing anyone sees…

Think of your profile like a shop window…

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I'd say start with a profile pic

Does it really affect getting a reply even after having sent pictures? "

Yes

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"Every woman I've messaged has not replied or messaged back,I always read their profile to make sure I fit what they are looking for before I do. I send clear face and body pictures,I'm tall, in shape and I understand not every woman likes that and that's totally fine but to not recieve one single reply is strange.

Is fab just not the place for me?

--You need a profile to back you up... a picture (or two), some text, ticked interests, a non-lazy age range of 18-99 too maybe. People look for attentiveness not laziness.

And even then it's hard work. You need to browse Search and reach out. There are many more women than men on here I'm afraid.--"

I have to disagree I personally think there are a lot more men on here, there are couple profiles that state they are a couple and it’s just a guy and there are woman's profiles that are actually a guy trying to get pics lol

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk

Personally if a profile with a blank pic messages we always ask for a pic, think about that very first message as well, the content of that message is the recipients first impression of you and your personality, I can’t comment on your profile as you have hidden it.

First impressions count so…

Profile pic

A good write up

A good first message

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say start with a profile pic

Does it really affect getting a reply even after having sent pictures? "

Have you had a reply?

Then try popping a photo on and then see if you have an increase in reply’s.

It’s not rocket science! And do you know why? Because we are not building rockets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn’t agree more with you, I deliberately don’t have a face pic on my public photos because of my job, I am happy to share a face pic once I know the person doesn’t know me or isn’t one of my clients ??

But I am not getting any luck either, apart from hundreds of men wanting to suck a golf ball through a hose ???????

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Profile pic

Can't tell you anymore because like most people we didn't look any furthe.

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara


"OP

You have a serious chance of flipping this around here right+ now, there are enough fabalicious ladies on here reading this thread right now than can advise you on building a profile, so bite the bullet, dump the ninja pic and get yourself on the right road.

Impressed with how you slipped the flattery in with the help for the OP there you absolute smoothie "
it's an art form, truely

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Every woman I've messaged has not replied or messaged back,I always read their profile to make sure I fit what they are looking for before I do. I send clear face and body pictures,I'm tall, in shape and I understand not every woman likes that and that's totally fine but to not recieve one single reply is strange.

Is fab just not the place for me?

--You need a profile to back you up... a picture (or two), some text, ticked interests, a non-lazy age range of 18-99 too maybe. People look for attentiveness not laziness.

And even then it's hard work. You need to browse Search and reach out. There are many more women than men on here I'm afraid.--

I have to disagree I personally think there are a lot more men on here, there are couple profiles that state they are a couple and it’s just a guy and there are woman's profiles that are actually a guy trying to get pics lol "

--I meant more men than women obviously! There is a huge discrepancy with singles anyway (couples obviously not).

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