FabSwingers.com forum: Dating

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating

and downloaded bumble

Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here

Do I stay quiet ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run and hide

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By *hatEscalatedQuicklyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating

and downloaded bumble

Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here

Do I stay quiet ?"

I'd say something, maybe not that you recognise him but even that you're on and see what he says? Surely having a partner who would be open to a fab life is a bonus? The fact he already knows what it is would make that conversation easier.

Good luck

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By *heArrowsCouple
over a year ago

If i was going to keep talking to him then no. I would want there to be openess and honesty.

If you have no interest in talking to them then you can just let it go.

And don't be ashamed about traditional dating. You need to look after your own happiness

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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago

Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove

Presumably he has a face photo on public display here so doesn’t mind being recognised from Fab in the outside world

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By *heArrowsCouple
over a year ago

"If i was going to keep talking to him then no. I would want there to be openess and honesty.

If you have no interest in talking to them then you can just let it go.

And don't be ashamed about traditional dating. You need to look after your own happiness "

No I wouldn't stay quiet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating

and downloaded bumble

Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here

Do I stay quiet ?

Good luck

Thx

I did actually say i recognise you but I didn’t twig til earlier

Maybe I’ll venture the conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The app where women messages first. Hopefully op is aware of this

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By *artender_onthelooseMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating

and downloaded bumble

Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here

Do I stay quiet ?"

Bring it up you could be onto a winner

just talk about Fab see if he will mention he has a profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Presumably he has a face photo on public display here so doesn’t mind being recognised from Fab in the outside world "

Yeah it’s a public pic

He won’t have seen mine as face pics are friends only

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The app where women messages first. Hopefully op is aware of this "

Yep

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

Date him and then see if he stays active on here.

You will find out if he’s a cheater quick enough

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Why not? What have you got to lose lovely?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I wouldn't mention it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Date him and then see if he stays active on here.

You will find out if he’s a cheater quick enough

Hahaha true

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’ve had the same but I’ll always broach it because I prefer transparency. I’m not ashamed of being here and it’s a conversation I’d rather have sooner rather than later if there was any potential.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not? What have you got to lose lovely?

Case he assumes I’m going to be an easy lay and nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Date him and then see if he stays active on here.

You will find out if he’s a cheater quick enough

Or he’s polyamorous

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Why not? What have you got to lose lovely?

Case he assumes I’m going to be an easy lay and nothing more "

Oh no....I didn't mean that! You choose what to do x

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

"Date him and then see if he stays active on here.

You will find out if he’s a cheater quick enough

Or he’s polyamorous"

Possibly but that should come up in convo early on and if it doesn't then cheat cheat cheater

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating

and downloaded bumble

Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here

Do I stay quiet ?"

If I was in your shoe's. I'd play innocent. Stealth.

Then if and when I really know him take her hand to the dark side and enjoy!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Starting a potential relationship with testing him to see if he stays on fab, or to see if his reaction changes to you, or any other reason, baffles me.

If you'd seen him on Tinder, or wherever, at the gym or in the supermarket, would you tell him then?

Just be honest. Don't tell him if you don't want him knowing you're on here but own that as the reason. And don't do it to test him. Being on fab doesn't make a person "easy" or "a sure thing". And if he thinks it does, that says something about him that you then get to make a decision about.

Honesty is the way in my view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Presumably he has a face photo on public display here so doesn’t mind being recognised from Fab in the outside world "

I was going to ask how you recognised him

J xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Presumably he has a face photo on public display here so doesn’t mind being recognised from Fab in the outside world

I was going to ask how you recognised him

J xx "

He is local and I’ve noticed him on my ‘ viewed me ‘ several times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating

and downloaded bumble

Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here

Do I stay quiet ?"

But I don't understand, you found him attractive on bumble but not here. Bad lighting?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating

and downloaded bumble

Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here

Do I stay quiet ?

But I don't understand, you found him attractive on bumble but not here. Bad lighting? "

No it’s the same pic , he’s never got in touch with me on here and I don’t tend to approach men on here first ( sad but true )

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I’m also on dating sites and it really grinds my gears when men pop up and say “oh if it isn’t _onkeynut” or similar and then don’t offer their own fab name for viewing.

If they have seen me on here then I’d rather just say it and have a normal conversation about it and not be all cloak and dagger.

What I will say though is that once they know I'm on here I go from ‘dating potential’ to ‘shag potential’

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd say nothing and see if he mentions anything x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m also on dating sites and it really grinds my gears when men pop up and say “oh if it isn’t _onkeynut” or similar and then don’t offer their own fab name for viewing.

If they have seen me on here then I’d rather just say it and have a normal conversation about it and not be all cloak and dagger.

What I will say though is that once they know I'm on here I go from ‘dating potential’ to ‘shag potential’

That is my issue !!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating

and downloaded bumble

Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here

Do I stay quiet ?

But I don't understand, you found him attractive on bumble but not here. Bad lighting? "

Thr OP didn't say she didn't find him attractive on here x

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

You could ask him how broad minded he is and if he uses any other dating sites?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could ask him how broad minded he is and if he uses any other dating sites? "

Hold on fab is a dating site?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You could ask him how broad minded he is and if he uses any other dating sites?

Hold on fab is a dating site?"

It can be anything you want it to be !!

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"You could ask him how broad minded he is and if he uses any other dating sites?

Hold on fab is a dating site?"

Sone people use it as that, yes. No reason it can't be. It's a great place to find like minded people and I know of a number of couples who have met on here.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I’m also on dating sites and it really grinds my gears when men pop up and say “oh if it isn’t _onkeynut” or similar and then don’t offer their own fab name for viewing.

If they have seen me on here then I’d rather just say it and have a normal conversation about it and not be all cloak and dagger.

What I will say though is that once they know I'm on here I go from ‘dating potential’ to ‘shag potential’

That is my issue !!"

If he switches gear because you’re both in here then that’s on him.

I’ve dabble for fun on Bumble and Tinder (mostly out of curiosity tbh) and my profile is uber transparent. Quite clear I’m in poly relationships and have several lovely friends that I’ve no intention of giving up. Saves a lot of BS dancing around the pole as it were. Be straight and open. Like any relationship should be.

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By *elight 99Woman
over a year ago

richmond

No tell him you didn’t recognise him with clothes on

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

He's on here, you're on here. It could be a great thing you have in common.

Or he could run a mile and save you time.

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Nah don't stay quiet he maybe the one you've been looking for!Plenty of ppl are on fab and other websites getting their kicks as such...wait to meet him and see if you like him then maybe tell him your on here! Or play stupid and ask if he's on any other decent sites ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating

and downloaded bumble

Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here

Sorry I was wrong. I'd talk to him about it. I don't have any problems with fab. Nothing to hide? We're all adults and we all love sex. How simple could it be?

Do I stay quiet ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's on here, you're on here. It could be a great thing you have in common.

Or he could run a mile and save you time."

Totall agree.

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