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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

your work/leisure/life balance is a healthy one?

Does it have to be a 40 hour week (or there abouts) to have that balance, is it about having enough time to socialise even if you work longer or antisocial hours...

How do you know that you are on the right balance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd prefer to call it a life - work balance, but my employers wouldn't agree

I try to leave work behind at the end of the day, having an hour drive/commute helps

Home is family life, my kids are the number one priority, but sadly leaves little pleasure time, so when I get a chance to pay I try and make the most of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So long as u feel happy with all aspects of ur life I would think u have the balance right, work to live not live to work, take time every day to appreciate the little things and all seems brighter! My dad always says don't sweat the small stuff, enjoy what u have, and I have my family which makes me happy

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Legally a Work Life Balance is 11 hours from finishing to starting again.

So ... that means , travel, eating, family, socialising, shopping, laundry,cleaning, bathing, grooming, exercising, parenting ,resting, sleeping ALL have to be done within 11 hours.....

hardly a balance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work... To make money... To make my life comfortable / enjoyable.... The end...!!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

From the five balls of life ....Spot the Rubber Ball......

1. Friends

2. Family

3. Health

4. Work

5. Spirit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Number 4 it's the one I'd drop first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smug-fuker here,,,, happily retired,,,,

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Number 4 it's the one I'd drop first. "

Yes Lady I have never seen before and have no idea who you are. That's right.

Apparently ...... if you drop the others you never get them back ... but you can drop work.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I'd prefer to call it a life - work balance, but my employers wouldn't agree

I try to leave work behind at the end of the day, having an hour drive/commute helps

Home is family life, my kids are the number one priority, but sadly leaves little pleasure time, so when I get a chance to pay I try and make the most of it

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I cna relate to the importance of family life and that there is never enough time for that.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"So long as u feel happy with all aspects of ur life I would think u have the balance right, work to live not live to work, take time every day to appreciate the little things and all seems brighter! My dad always says don't sweat the small stuff, enjoy what u have, and I have my family which makes me happy

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Agree with you there

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Legally a Work Life Balance is 11 hours from finishing to starting again.

So ... that means , travel, eating, family, socialising, shopping, laundry,cleaning, bathing, grooming, exercising, parenting ,resting, sleeping ALL have to be done within 11 hours.....

hardly a balance.

Good point - it is not a balance. Would you say that a really enjoyable and satisfying "job" could make that a different statement?

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I work... To make money... To make my life comfortable / enjoyable.... The end...!!!

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Yes, we do need some means to make some of the leisure things possible! Agreed

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Number 4 it's the one I'd drop first. "
I am going back to my question to Granny - suippose there is a "work" that gives you enormous pleasure but it happens to be work... would that be counted as work still?

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Smug-fuker here,,,, happily retired,,,,

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I should have known that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I made the decision not to pursue the life of a high flying executive nearly 4 years ago, and have not regretted it.

I do not regret not being the last person to leave the building and still made to feel bad about it.

I do not regret pushing things upwards or sideways for others to deal with.

I do not regret not having anyone reporting to me as I no longer need to perform appraisals.

I do not regret having to make decisions about whom to get rid of in redundancy situations.

I do not regret being told I needed to toe the line and be supportive of others' ideas even if they were not workable.

In return, I drive home every day, not as a physical and mental rack, but as someone who has put in a good days work, and am happy about the results.

I no longer put my job above all else, as I now appreciate there is more to life than my job.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Number 4 it's the one I'd drop first. "

the choice for some is taken away from them

A good work life balance is hard to achieve because sometimes you get on the tread mill and don't realise that stepping off is just a case of pressing the stop button.

Brought to you care of enigmaticphiosophies.com

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Number 4 it's the one I'd drop first.

the choice for some is taken away from them

A good work life balance is hard to achieve because sometimes you get on the tread mill and don't realise that stepping off is just a case of pressing the stop button.

Brought to you care of enigmaticphiosophies.com

Love it!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Number 4 it's the one I'd drop first. I am going back to my question to Granny - suippose there is a "work" that gives you enormous pleasure but it happens to be work... would that be counted as work still? "

An enjoyable job helps. None the less you are compelled to do it. You are not free. It's work.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

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I just mention one thing.... strawberries

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

Don't know what this is about, but sausages

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

Don't know what this is about, but sausages

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Shhhhh I just manage to convince them that I am all innocent!

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By *acreadCouple
over a year ago

central scotland

Worked away from home a lot doing 12 and sometimes 12+ hour shifts now dont work weekends or weekday overtime and dont think I ever will.

Just a pity when I had a young family I was away for a lot of thier lifes.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Worked away from home a lot doing 12 and sometimes 12+ hour shifts now dont work weekends or weekday overtime and dont think I ever will.

Just a pity when I had a young family I was away for a lot of thier lifes."

WHen mine were very young I worked abroad a lot and had to have a nanny - I realised quite soon that I was not doing anybody any justice the job, the family and myself. I only did that for a couple of years and then changed jobs to be more with my family - never looked back.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

I have always stood by the motto

Work to live not live to work

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I have always stood by the motto

Work to live not live to work

I have been lucky and always managed to enjoy my work life, but alot of it was working for my own companies. I have always enjoyed the challenge that comes with work. It is a balancing act that needs constant readjustment. One of my grandfathers once told me that work clothes take less than a minute to put on and a life time to take off so make sure you enjoy your work. "
Absolutely agree. Now I really love parts of my work and I dont even really feel I am working but I hear what Granny was saying about it still being work as I am not free during those times to do other things.

I am also in agreement with you that work can so define who you are and it can be so difficult to shake that off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found that my job was having such a bad effect on my mood and personality - long hours and stressful. Fortunately I had the opportunity to drop my hours per week, not by much, but it was enough to get me back to being me, loving my job again, and being able to be so much happier with life. People say 'but I can't afford to' - I didn't think I could, but I'd rather be the person I am now and cut my cloth accordingly, rather than the worn out, moody wreck I was!

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"I have always stood by the motto

Work to live not live to work

I have been lucky and always managed to enjoy my work life, but alot of it was working for my own companies. I have always enjoyed the challenge that comes with work. It is a balancing act that needs constant readjustment. One of my grandfathers once told me that work clothes take less than a minute to put on and a life time to take off so make sure you enjoy your work. Absolutely agree. Now I really love parts of my work and I dont even really feel I am working but I hear what Granny was saying about it still being work as I am not free during those times to do other things.

I am also in agreement with you that work can so define who you are and it can be so difficult to shake that off."

Most of the people that has worked for me still keep in touch, which I take as a good sign that I was not always the task master

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Twenty years ago I learnt the hard way. I lose a lot more than my health.

It's not exactly balanced at the moment but I am healthier than I have ever been.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

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My hands are tied at this moment in time.. but I will say this... my time will come

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work to live, not live to work. So long as I'm working and I can live, the balance is just right, but once I have to work all the hours God sends just to break even, that's when the balance is wrong and I throw the towel in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess the work thing for me is different cos I live work - not just by doing it but by the job I do - although I can find time for me

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

My hands are tied at this moment in time.. but I will say this... my time will come

I hope mine will too

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I guess the work thing for me is different cos I live work - not just by doing it but by the job I do - although I can find time for me

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

My hands are tied at this moment in time.. but I will say this... my time will come

I hope mine will too

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

My hands are tied at this moment in time.. but I will say this... my time will come

I hope mine will too

I was lost for words you know

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

My hands are tied at this moment in time.. but I will say this... my time will come

I hope mine will too

I was lost for words you know

Never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

My hands are tied at this moment in time.. but I will say this... my time will come

I hope mine will too

I was lost for words you know

very unlike u lol

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

My hands are tied at this moment in time.. but I will say this... my time will come

I hope mine will too

I was lost for words you know

very unlike u lol

I'm lost for words, no really I am

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

My hands are tied at this moment in time.. but I will say this... my time will come

I hope mine will too

I was lost for words you know

very unlike u lol

I'm lost for words, no really I am

"
Have you and Minxie come to some arrangement to bully me this evening ?I will cost ya

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

My hands are tied at this moment in time.. but I will say this... my time will come

I hope mine will too

I was lost for words you know

very unlike u lol

I'm lost for words, no really I am

Have you and Minxie come to some arrangement to bully me this evening ?I will cost ya

Just think we know ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

My hands are tied at this moment in time.. but I will say this... my time will come

I hope mine will too

I was lost for words you know

very unlike u lol

I'm lost for words, no really I am

Have you and Minxie come to some arrangement to bully me this evening ?I will cost ya

Just think we know ya

definitely

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

I'm not part of the rat-race, and never will be. A 'career' doesn't interest me.

I'm happy with my life.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

My hands are tied at this moment in time.. but I will say this... my time will come

I hope mine will too

I was lost for words you know

very unlike u lol

I'm lost for words, no really I am

Have you and Minxie come to some arrangement to bully me this evening ?I will cost ya

Just think we know ya

definitely

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Threesum?

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I'm not part of the rat-race, and never will be. A 'career' doesn't interest me.

I'm happy with my life.

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Sounds like you got is sussed what works for you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

My hands are tied at this moment in time.. but I will say this... my time will come

I hope mine will too

I was lost for words you know

very unlike u lol

I'm lost for words, no really I am

Have you and Minxie come to some arrangement to bully me this evening ?I will cost ya

Just think we know ya

definitely

Threesum?

U reckon the world would cope with all three of us in the same vicinity?????

can see the headlines now ...............

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

My hands are tied at this moment in time.. but I will say this... my time will come

I hope mine will too

I was lost for words you know

very unlike u lol

I'm lost for words, no really I am

Have you and Minxie come to some arrangement to bully me this evening ?I will cost ya

Just think we know ya

definitely

Threesum?

U reckon the world would cope with all three of us in the same vicinity?????

can see the headlines now ...............

"
Yeah but we would have had some real fun

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"I know a good work/life balance but if told you all you would all want it then it would be totally lopsided

I just mention one thing.... strawberries

and I'll mention another Ketchup

My hands are tied at this moment in time.. but I will say this... my time will come

I hope mine will too

I was lost for words you know

very unlike u lol

I'm lost for words, no really I am

Have you and Minxie come to some arrangement to bully me this evening ?I will cost ya

Just think we know ya

definitely

Threesum?

Room for a little one?

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

"I'm not part of the rat-race, and never will be. A 'career' doesn't interest me.

I'm happy with my life.

Sounds like you got is sussed what works for you xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why do u ask such complex questions

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"why do u ask such complex questions

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Haha... my OH alwyas asks me that. I guess I am complex in some ways... so I just follow my natural curiosity about people and what makes them tick...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"your work/leisure/life balance is a healthy one?

Does it have to be a 40 hour week (or there abouts) to have that balance, is it about having enough time to socialise even if you work longer or antisocial hours...

How do you know that you are on the right balance? "

Mines balanced.i do sod all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what balance you want.

Some people thrive on work, some thrive on liesure.

Do what makes you feel comfortable and works for you.

Work to live?

Live to work?

Its a personal choice.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"It depends what balance you want.

Some people thrive on work, some thrive on liesure.

Do what makes you feel comfortable and works for you.

Work to live?

Live to work?

Its a personal choice."

Personally I have had times when it felt as if I was living to work and it did not feel good. Now I have a much better balance and am able to do most of the things I want to do...Plus some of the work I do now is so enjoyable it really does not feel like work

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By *ighclassfunMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

"your work/leisure/life balance is a healthy one?

Does it have to be a 40 hour week (or there abouts) to have that balance, is it about having enough time to socialise even if you work longer or antisocial hours...

How do you know that you are on the right balance? "

Only you know if you have the balance right!

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"your work/leisure/life balance is a healthy one?

Does it have to be a 40 hour week (or there abouts) to have that balance, is it about having enough time to socialise even if you work longer or antisocial hours...

How do you know that you are on the right balance?

Only you know if you have the balance right!"
And I guess it also depends on what stage you are at in your life.?

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"your work/leisure/life balance is a healthy one?

Does it have to be a 40 hour week (or there abouts) to have that balance, is it about having enough time to socialise even if you work longer or antisocial hours...

How do you know that you are on the right balance?

Only you know if you have the balance right!And I guess it also depends on what stage you are at in your life.? "

I remember when I first started sixteen hour days were quite normal, now it would kill me

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"your work/leisure/life balance is a healthy one?

Does it have to be a 40 hour week (or there abouts) to have that balance, is it about having enough time to socialise even if you work longer or antisocial hours...

How do you know that you are on the right balance?

Only you know if you have the balance right!And I guess it also depends on what stage you are at in your life.?

I remember when I first started sixteen hour days were quite normal, now it would kill me"
I still have the energy fortunately but I dont have the motivation these days to put in those hours. Does that make sense?

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"your work/leisure/life balance is a healthy one?

Does it have to be a 40 hour week (or there abouts) to have that balance, is it about having enough time to socialise even if you work longer or antisocial hours...

How do you know that you are on the right balance?

Only you know if you have the balance right!And I guess it also depends on what stage you are at in your life.?

I remember when I first started sixteen hour days were quite normal, now it would kill meI still have the energy fortunately but I dont have the motivation these days to put in those hours. Does that make sense? "

It does I used to do them day after day thinking I was doing what was best

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"your work/leisure/life balance is a healthy one?

Does it have to be a 40 hour week (or there abouts) to have that balance, is it about having enough time to socialise even if you work longer or antisocial hours...

How do you know that you are on the right balance?

Only you know if you have the balance right!And I guess it also depends on what stage you are at in your life.?

It does I used to do them day after day thinking I was doing what was best"
I think if you have your own business and choose to put the hours in for whatever reason that is yet another ball game. I just think for me personally there are som many things I like to do outside work... including being on forums a bit more...;-)

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"your work/leisure/life balance is a healthy one?

Does it have to be a 40 hour week (or there abouts) to have that balance, is it about having enough time to socialise even if you work longer or antisocial hours...

How do you know that you are on the right balance?

Only you know if you have the balance right!And I guess it also depends on what stage you are at in your life.?

It does I used to do them day after day thinking I was doing what was bestI think if you have your own business and choose to put the hours in for whatever reason that is yet another ball game. I just think for me personally there are som many things I like to do outside work... including being on forums a bit more...;-)"

Even if it is your own business you still need to balance things. With a bit of age I learnt never promise something unless you can complete no matter the pressure put under. If a job takes ten hours it takes ten hours not five.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends what balance you want.

Some people thrive on work, some thrive on liesure.

Do what makes you feel comfortable and works for you.

Work to live?

Live to work?

Its a personal choice."

I have a regular job, but I also have a voluntary one that I spend most of my days doing because I love it.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"It depends what balance you want.

Some people thrive on work, some thrive on liesure.

Do what makes you feel comfortable and works for you.

Work to live?

Live to work?

Its a personal choice.

I have a regular job, but I also have a voluntary one that I spend most of my days doing because I love it.

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Same here and I know where you are coming from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends what balance you want.

Some people thrive on work, some thrive on liesure.

Do what makes you feel comfortable and works for you.

Work to live?

Live to work?

Its a personal choice.

I have a regular job, but I also have a voluntary one that I spend most of my days doing because I love it.

Same here and I know where you are coming from. "

I.love it cos it benefits others more than myself, but its a brilliant laugh at the same time.

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