FabSwingers.com forum: Fab friends

By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

The term friends is used a lot on fab and is often a coverall from everything from someone I’d die for, to meeting them once and they smelled of biscuits.

What does that term mean for you?

Are people from fab actually friends or is it a vague term for someone you know and might have sex with?

If the sex stopped, would you still be friends?

I’m wondering if we need new terms!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a few that am friends with in person and never will have sex with them

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

If I consider someone a friend, the possibility of sex is irrelevant. Sometimes I fuck my friends which is nice but I'm there for them not the sex.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

We've not had sex with our Fab friends. They're people we like to socialise with, eat pizza and brownies with

and do Parkrun with

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Good question this tbf .....

Yes I class all my fab friends as real friends I.e I spend actual social time with them and go on adventures...

I'm not good with occasional acquaintances....

I'm a loyal friend and would like to think my fab friends are too

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I tend to make friends that I occasionally get to enjoy intimacy with. I am as happy with someone popping round for a cuppa and a chat as a night of debauchery. The activity is secondary to the company.

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

All the people I have met off fab have remained as good friends if I'm honest.

Fab was just the place I first started to speak to them from.

Some I've had naughties with, some I haven't and don't intend too.

Some like Grumpy above have always been a good mate, but he no longer has decent biscuits at his house so his quite crap now to be fair.

And Nora is on another level, I've had to give up trying to be naughty with her, her standards are too high to meet .... so nights out it is for our Nora only!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I wouldn't describe a friend as someone I met once to be honest.

I'm not sure how to describe them very well but the best friendships for me I don't think of as Fab friendships. They're my friends at the end of the day, through bad times or good. I can talk to them about any and everything.

As far as sex goes? I guess I do have sex with my friends sometimes but there's more to our friendship than how beautifully our bodies smush together.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Friend is a general term I would use for someone who I’ve spent time with and gotten to know, whether that’s sexually or socially or indeed both. I’ve met some wonderful people on here who I have no desire to get naked with and some I’d happily ride into next week - it’s the company of the person more than the activity but regardless there all friends x

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

Not sure these days I've learnt the hard way knowing if people on here are actually friends

Though I keep trying because I always think the glass is half full and never half empty

Chatting to some really lovely people lately so here's hoping it blossoms into a lovely friendship

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"All the people I have met off fab have remained as good friends if I'm honest.

Fab was just the place I first started to speak to them from.

Some I've had naughties with, some I haven't and don't intend too.

Some like Grumpy above have always been a good mate, but he no longer has decent biscuits at his house so his quite crap now to be fair.

And Nora is on another level, I've had to give up trying to be naughty with her, her standards are too high to meet .... so nights out it is for our Nora only!

Ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Online friends and friends online are different and there’s blurry line there.

Friend on fab? I’d like to think they want sex, I mean who wouldn’t right?

but I everyone on my friends list have never had me naked….yet

So, friends on fab again, is a fuzzy term.

I do think you can find good friends anywhere though, as proven to me wether online or not.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Since I've been here I've noticed that not everyone's definition of friendship is the same.

For me, friendship is a much higher priority than sex and I've been surprised at how many people don't understand that and tell me I'm doing it all wrong.

In the real world I've grown tired of one way friendships and being supportive of people who don't reciprocate at all and for that reason I don't have any old school friends and very few work colleagues that I would call friends.

On here some people like to be tagged with others and use perceived fab popularity as a way of getting ahead.

In my opinion a fab friend is someone who isn't a hanger-on or who uses people for their own benefit.

A fab friendship isn't always based on sex but it should always be based on trust.

My circle of friends is small in the real world and positively miniscule on here because my trust has been abused and I learn from my mistakes.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

I keep my personal life and play life strictly seperate, none of my fab friends will know about my family. Where as my real life friends can, it all boils down to trust essentially and whether I want to transition that friend that I met from fab into my real life

But yes I do call them fab friends because they are kinky sexual deviants

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

"The term friends is used a lot on fab and is often a coverall from everything from someone I’d die for, to meeting them once and they smelled of biscuits.

What does that term mean for you?

Are people from fab actually friends or is it a vague term for someone you know and might have sex with?

If the sex stopped, would you still be friends?

I’m wondering if we need new terms! "

What sort of biscuits? There is a huge difference between fig rolls and choc digestives. And we mustn't mention Jaffa Cakes...

As far as still being friends if the sex stopped, I'm still waiting for the sex to start but I've got friends anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friendship with my fwb was already there before sex. Over the last couple of years she has become the best friend I've ever hoped for and she will be someone I wish to have in my life until the day I'm pushing up the daisies! Granted, the day the sexual aspect stops it will be hard but the friendship WILL go on

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Friends is a broad term but for me it fits into separate pockets and it’s rare the other pockets meet each other, but occasionally there has been a cross.

Fab wise, yes you can have true friends without getting jiggy with them (although it happens occasionally). There are some that I love spending social time with and we chat generally in between meeting up. There are a rare few that know a lot about me, I know they are there come rain or shine and vice versa, it’s just a shame we don’t live nearer.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm not very good at building or maintaining virtual friendships, so I'd say I'm friendly rather than friends with the majority of those I've met

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Friends means different things to me both on here and on real life.

I've fab friends who are more friendly acquaintances who I like and chat to but that's a far as it goes.

I've fab friends who I consider to be mates and who I meet when I can and chat to in between and we get on well .

And then I have real friends both on here and in real they are very small in number but are people whom I completely trust and they know a lot more about me than anyone else. I know I can tell them things and it will never be told on or used against me.These people are a rarity tho and life has taught me to never trust too soon as some people just play games. But once you are a true friend then you are for life and even with a person on here that I do have great sex with at times as well as him being a friend I know if the sex stopped the friendship would continue.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I don't think it is just on fab that people use the term "friends" differently.

Some people see friendship in different ways, for some it is all about what they can get from the other person or people, for some it is more about what they give out.

In rare cases friendship can be equally give and take, and that's whe it lasts. It doesn't mean that it has to be equal all the time, sometimes one person will need to take more and sometimes it'll switch over. But when that is what happens, a friendship will last.

For me, I have made actual, lasting friendships, fully give and take, from fab. Because it is like anywhere else, and you can make friends here. I've also been used for various reasons by people I thought were that sort of friend, and that's a harsh lesson.

I've also got "fab forum friends", who I bounce off, flirt with, mess about with and all the usual. Mostly I've not met them and maybe I won't ever, maybe we will meet and get on, on a surface level, but they're unlikely to ever know my last name or where I live.

As for the people I get nekkid with... they tend to be the former. People I really like, who like me for me, and who happen to have had a smack to the head and find me attractive (and I find them attractive too). I don't want to do the bow chicka wow wow (I've now said that 3 times in my life) with someone I don't like and trust.

I'm hard work to become friends with, and that is my failing. But get over the fact I'm crap at keeping in touch (mainly because I assume I'm interrupting something more important, or the person doesn't actually want to hear from me so I talk myself out of messaging for ages), and I'm yours. Stuck with me until you shake me off, or really hurt me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think it is just on fab that people use the term "friends" differently.

Some people see friendship in different ways, for some it is all about what they can get from the other person or people, for some it is more about what they give out.

I has been on your actual bed, am I proper friends yet …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

This is something I've been pondering.

I'm a pretty rubbish friend. I'll presume people would rather speak or meet with others rather than me.

I did try and be a bit less like that on here. But fingers been burnt, thought someone was a friend and then they disappeared without a goodbye. I'm too soft for that kind of thing.

So probably keep things friendly rather than friends from now on I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait, you have to have sex with your fab friendlist?

I thought it was just there so people could masturbate over strangers genitals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend to me is a sacred thing if a count you as one it means i will do anything in my power to be there when im needed whether you want it or not whether i fuck you or not even if it causes my own ruin and to help insure there happiness thats how i see it and its a very very exclusive club if it gets to that point

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Wait, you have to have sex with your fab friendlist?

I thought it was just there so people could masturbate over strangers genitals.

You do you, if that’s what makes you happy.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

People from fabs are acquaintances not friends as such! X

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I don't think it is just on fab that people use the term "friends" differently.

Some people see friendship in different ways, for some it is all about what they can get from the other person or people, for some it is more about what they give out.

I has been on your actual bed, am I proper friends yet …

Shh... don't tell anyone. I don't accommodate, remember

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I don't class people as friends very easily in any part of my life, for me being a friend involves a high level of compatibility and trust. So on here, I mainly have acquaintances who I like to chat to, be that virtually or in person, and may even have bumped uglies with some of them. But I wouldn't call them friends.

There are, however, a smattering of people from here who have got past my fortress-like walls who I would class as friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have some fantastic fab friends, people who I maintain regular contact with away from Fab.

Having recently gone through a big operation I have felt genuine care from these friends and I am truly thankful to have such lovely people around me.

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly have only met a few of my Fab friends but I'd like to meet all of them for a social

There are a few on my friends list whom I hope remain friends even if I were to leave Fab.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Wife is looking for a female Fab friend to play and social with.

The hunt is worse than looking for ttge Holly Grail.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

People that I meet more than once.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

My friends list only consist of people I've met and have gotten to know well. I don't just add anyone willy nilly just for the sake of it x

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

My Fab friends are generally people I like to get naked with.

I have friends that I met on Fab which generally I don’t get naked with. I do however go on weekends away, go to gigs, have meals with and do the normal things friends do. I’m lucky to have them!

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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago

Sent to Coventry

I have fab friends- genuine friends, some I get naked with others I don’t.

Many of them I have known for years. It’s one if the best things about Fab life

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over a year ago

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Well, there's the friends list, and then there are people I'd call friends. Having someone on my friends list rarely means more than I enjoy their pictures. A friend is someone I like, care about and trust. No one on Fab makes the cut there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say if I have meet you and we are still in contact and want to meet again some time then we are friends .

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If the sex stopped, would you still be friends? "

That’s what counts to me, people I’ve met here and chat to about normal and quite personal stuff , who know what’s going on , but haven’t had sex with or we have but we’d carry on chatting and he friends if we didn’t continue to have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the sex stopped, would you still be friends?

I’m wondering if we need new terms! "

Yes.

If the sex started I’d still be friends.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Hi OP,

A friend to me is someone who you’ve shared a connection with and build on it to exchange a moment of intimacy from your life. Not necessarily sexual intimacy.

For example we have never met but we have exchanged conversations of a personal nature at a time we both needed someone to have those exchanges with. I’d still consider you a friend despite having not met in person.

Sometimes those connections and conversations spill into real life meetings and life long friendships. Sometimes they are a short lived moment of shared joy before we move along different paths in life.

Some have done bad things

with me and now we are just regular friends and some still get to do bad things with me and also be my friend.

I think we are ok to keep things simple and hold onto the term friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friendships are forged from connection and trust and yes I have formed friendships with people from Fab, have known my oldest Fab friend for over 10 years, he is someone I trust and he trusts me, we know each others secrets

Some guys I have remained friends with after the sex stopped...we have lunch dates and coffee when we can

I find it sad that connections can be lost after you've had sex with someone. If you get on well enough to want to have sex with them then why not continue a friendship

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Hi OP,

A friend to me is someone who you’ve shared a connection with and build on it to exchange a moment of intimacy from your life. Not necessarily sexual intimacy.

Some have done bad things

with me and now we are just regular friends and some still get to do bad things with me and also be my friend.

I think we are ok to keep things simple and hold onto the term friends.

Everything from the word Sometimes in your post is so spot on ..

My take on things exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My friendships are forged from connection and trust and yes I have formed friendships with people from Fab, have known my oldest Fab friend for over 10 years, he is someone I trust and he trusts me, we know each others secrets

Some guys I have remained friends with after the sex stopped...we have lunch dates and coffee when we can

I find it sad that connections can be lost after you've had sex with someone. If you get on well enough to want to have sex with them then why not continue a friendship"

I love to be able to continue the friendship. That's why I take a long time to decide to have sex with someone to start with. I'm still friends with a few men I've had sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met one or two guys on here that I've formed a really close friendship with. I value that as much as the amazing sex we have. True FWBs

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Fweinds! Fab Fweinds!

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