FabSwingers.com forum: I think im being set up

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Got a meet on wednesday 3 hour journey, profile is a couple but the lady is messeging me, says she wants to meet seperatly but at her home, husband is working but knows and is very excited about the meet, she wont send me any updated pics just the one on there profile, i need to be there after 10 but leave before lunch time before hubby comes home and only given me postcode not house number, what are your thoughts guys ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never go without a phone chat at least. Tell someone where you are going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’ve got doubts it’s probably fake.

The pictures alone would tell me it’s fake. Everyone had a smartphone so there’s no excuse that she can’t send a pic holding up your username to prove she’s genuine.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

Has she got any verifications?

I you think you’re being set up then I wouldn’t go three hours to meet her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worse case you can tell us about it here.

I say go for it.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think you're being set up for disappointment

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I think im being set up"

Me too

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you really need to ask.....don't go as it sounds like it will be a wasted trip x

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

It could be a set up but what you got to lose

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By *ake-Me-FeelWoman
over a year ago

Sussex

Sorry OP. This sounds really dodgy. So many red flags there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it smells fishy it probably is.

You could just go for the halibut?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It could be a set up but what you got to lose"

A 3 hour drive!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

That sounds dodgy to me, that’s quite a round trip on the basis of an old photo and a post code, ask to speak on the phone or for them to send an updated photo, if that’s a no go then politely decline and save your fuel money

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know, i dont even mind if she looked differant than the pic at least id know she was real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you find the profile not quite right enough that you have to ask people's opinions then that tells you all you need know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It could be a set up but what you got to lose

A 3 hour drive!"

With petrol at these prices?!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I think this shows up more red flags than a red flag convention.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"It could be a set up but what you got to lose

A 3 hour drive!

With petrol at these prices?!"

Exactly

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Think about it from the opposite side for a moment. A married woman has a two hour window to meet a guy for fun. Rather than look closer to home, she messages a guy three hours away.

Admittedly you could be everything she’s been looking for in a meet. But do you feel that the interactions you’ve had with her, brings you to that conclusion ?

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Definitely have a phone call, "she" can call you on number withheld if "she" doesn't want to give "her" number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay home dude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would consider giving a swerve. Myself and another gent on here planned a mmf with lady of couple from here. I travelled three hour roubd trip, he bought all the 'provisions' she stipulated...no show from her despite us all chattinv and planning for weeks.

We messaged her to say we were both there, etc. Radio silence...

Then in the evening after I had driven home, she said it was because we had not responded to her message at lunchtime, when I was driving to the meet that we had all chatted about earlier that morning.

Learning experience!

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

She is taking a risk as you are unverified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You already have doubts, trust your instincts.

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By *ake-Me-FeelWoman
over a year ago

Sussex

"I think this shows up more red flags than a red flag convention."

100%

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Definitely have a phone call, "she" can call you on number withheld if "she" doesn't want to give "her" number."

And I'd ask to speak to them both as it's coming across as though the hubby doesn't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely have a phone call, "she" can call you on number withheld if "she" doesn't want to give "her" number."

Yep! Absolutely this advice...

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

I think the very fact you've posted the thread and titled it as you have has really spoken volumes.

It is a long way to go for someone you don't know is the person in the one picture you have seen.

Follow your head, not your peen, is the best advice I can give.

Posh

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Honestly I agree it's likely a fake especially if they approached you

Most couples won't go near an account with a sillohette profile and no verifications

The not giving out an address wouldn't faze me as I don't give that out until an hour or so before a meet as I've found the longer in advance people have it the more likely they are to no show, I also wouldn't give out my phone number for a phone conversation and I've never webcamed but why can't she send over a more recent photo

3hrs is a long way to travel if you have suspicions they are a fake account, I've always found my gut has served me well on FAB if it sounds to good to be true it likely is

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By *osey WalesMan
over a year ago

Surrey

No reason why you cant exchange pictures or as you have set the meet up exchange phone numbes and actually speak to each other.

Sounds sketchy to me

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Don't go,

It'll be a wrong address they give you and 3hours is a long way to go to be given the run around.

No reason you can't be sent up to date pics ,unless it's a single male who doesn't have any .

Most women I know wouldn't invite a stranger round 1st meet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always go with your gut instinct if it sounds fishy pull away

Without getting in to details

I made a decision not to go to a club night because they wouldn’t give the adress off the club before hand was told I would receive it the day before or on the day

So completely decided it am not going at all

Red flags were reased

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone, im fairly new to fab and this would have been my 1st meet, been speaking for a couple of weeks and seemed to get on, i just dont get why i would be set up what would they get out of it? But will deffinatly politly decline, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you doubt it why are you bothering

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

You’re seriously considering driving three hours to fuck a random married woman you barely know abs who sounds dodgy as fuck , are you insane or really desperate for sex ?

Honest advice , Just block it.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Thank you everyone, im fairly new to fab and this would have been my 1st meet, been speaking for a couple of weeks and seemed to get on, i just dont get why i would be set up what would they get out of it? But will deffinatly politly decline, thank you"

Because they might want to mug you.

Folk do that you know!

Could also be a fella.

All sorts of possibilities.

Be careful and proceed on Fab with caution.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Omg

This makes me feel extremely lazy ..

My travel limit would probably be 20 mins tops..

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

So many red flags. The fact she contacted you when you bad no pics up its extremely rare a woman will contact a blank profile like that, and they won't give you any info or any recent pics and wants you to call to her house when her husband is out would be a massive red flag. It's most likely a guy you are talking to. 3 hours is a long drive for a meet like that especially with someone who is being so secretive. I know if it was me I'd walk away and it sounds like it's just someone playing games.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I wouldn't be meeting anyone for the first, second or third time in their own home so if they sent me a postcode I would politely thank them and move on.

I've had numerous offers over the years that I've turned down because of concerns over personal safety and not just my own.

They didn't know me either and were inviting me into their home after just a few messages. I don't think so!

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

They get a kick out of leading people on. We often get messages off fake profiles. One was a "Birmingham hot wife", but an image search showed she was an American model, "she" had fake verifications too.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I wonder how many times you can call yourself a silly .... in 3 hours?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Got a meet on wednesday 3 hour journey, profile is a couple but the lady is messeging me, says she wants to meet seperatly but at her home, husband is working but knows and is very excited about the meet, she wont send me any updated pics just the one on there profile, i need to be there after 10 but leave before lunch time before hubby comes home and only given me postcode not house number, what are your thoughts guys ?????? "
Definitely sounds like a set up. Don't waste your time.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Op go with your gut instinct… it’s a set up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with what everyone else has said

Personally i would try closer to home to begin with

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"It could be a set up but what you got to lose"

Time

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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago

wirral

I wouldn't entertain it.

Just say you are there and see if they give you a house number.

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Set up for what? Maybe a good blow job

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By *imkev76Couple
over a year ago

GOSPORT

Trust your gut feeling hun, there’s too many red flags!

Better to be safe than sorry!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds a bit too dodgy for me.

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Imagine chatting to someone for weeks. They agree to meet you then out the blue tell you they are not meeting. I hope this is a fake account and you've not just wasted her time

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Trust your gut.

And always do a social first!

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Personally I wouldn't travel 3 hours for someone I'd never met unless I had video called them and even then I'd be a bit hmmmm. What if you don't get on and its awkward ect. No thanks. Now if I had previously met the person then it wouldn't be a problem

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

Something similar happened to me, but was only 40 minutes drive..

Wouldn’t give any info except a name of a car park across the road from their house, they’d give me the number when I was there… It all seemed very suspicious but went along with... she ended up blocking me because I read their message and didn’t reply straight away..

Shame as if the pictures were actually her she was hot..

They were also verified so don’t be fooled by that..

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

"Imagine chatting to someone for weeks. They agree to meet you then out the blue tell you they are not meeting. I hope this is a fake account and you've not just wasted her time"
as said everyone has a smart phone or access to one especially as they're using fab. So if they were serious they would prive they're real

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Don't go

If it smells fishy, it most likely is fish

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

No confirmation, no phone calls, not even a house number? Yeah I'm gonna pass on losing six hours of my life there

LvM

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Imagine chatting to someone for weeks. They agree to meet you then out the blue tell you they are not meeting. I hope this is a fake account and you've not just wasted her timeas said everyone has a smart phone or access to one especially as they're using fab. So if they were serious they would prive they're real"

I wouldn't video call or send a pic online. Ever

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I wouldn't be meeting anyone for the first, second or third time in their own home so if they sent me a postcode I would politely thank them and move on.

I've had numerous offers over the years that I've turned down because of concerns over personal safety and not just my own.

They didn't know me either and were inviting me into their home after just a few messages. I don't think so! "

Even after 100 meets, no-one comes to my home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't be meeting anyone for the first, second or third time in their own home so if they sent me a postcode I would politely thank them and move on.

I've had numerous offers over the years that I've turned down because of concerns over personal safety and not just my own.

They didn't know me either and were inviting me into their home after just a few messages. I don't think so!

Even after 100 meets, no-one comes to my home

Don't I know it, we was married and wasn't allowed in!!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I wouldn't be meeting anyone for the first, second or third time in their own home so if they sent me a postcode I would politely thank them and move on.

I've had numerous offers over the years that I've turned down because of concerns over personal safety and not just my own.

They didn't know me either and were inviting me into their home after just a few messages. I don't think so!

Even after 100 meets, no-one comes to my home

Don't I know it, we was married and wasn't allowed in!!

Made for a better relationship though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't be meeting anyone for the first, second or third time in their own home so if they sent me a postcode I would politely thank them and move on.

I've had numerous offers over the years that I've turned down because of concerns over personal safety and not just my own.

They didn't know me either and were inviting me into their home after just a few messages. I don't think so!

Even after 100 meets, no-one comes to my home

Don't I know it, we was married and wasn't allowed in!!

Made for a better relationship though

Fucking dog kennel was freezing during the winter!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 hour drive and wont show you up to date pics ....wouldn't be worth the risk

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

What's wrong with you man. Why are you getting involved with a profile 3 hours away

They should be as sceptical of you as you are of them

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Have you spoken to her on the phone?….honestly don’t be fooled and go, you could turn up and something bad may happen, just avoid it at all costs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know, i dont even mind if she looked differant than the pic at least id know she was real "

Really, even if she resembles Bo Selector?

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"What's wrong with you man. Why are you getting involved with a profile 3 hours away

They should be as sceptical of you as you are of them "

This ^^^^^^^^^^

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

They get wank fodder out if it

Likely photos from you, the chat the thrill of a potential meet with no intention of following through with it

There's a dozen posts a week from single guys saying the can't get a meet so why would a genuine couple pick someone 3hrs away, no profile pic or verifications when there's very likely 100 similar men only 10 minutes away

There's a lot of odd folk on here, as soon as alarm bells ring run a mile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 hours drive huh. Got wife and kids at home or you on a farm?

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

Sounds proper dodgy to me. I wouldn’t do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her you feel uncomfortable meeting without some reassurance. if she doesn’t try to help with that in some way, think, do I want to meet someone who makes you feel uncomfortable?

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

I see it slightly differently. She's inviting a random unverified man off t'internet into her home, I'm guessing she will give you the house number on the day? But it's an awful long round trip and as others have said, I wouldn't attempt it without having a chat on the phone. If you genuinely don't mind what she looks like maybe you're being blinded by your hopes a bit.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Would you advise a friend to do this?

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Well it's still half term, 3 hours drive would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t go J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're having doubts, go with your gut feeling and don't go OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6hrs of driving? Fuck that! I’ve never wanted sex that badly to drive 6hrs!

20 mins or I’m going nowhere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t go! If she can’t send you a recent photo or do a video call there’s something not right

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