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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not talking about in D/s sense here, so stand down (or not, depending on whether you do as you’re told

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Another thread made me think about whether as adults we do as we are told.

If someone tells we have to do something, do we/should we do it…

Do you follow rules regardless, because they benefit you, because you feel you should…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I tend to question rules but not break them. I worked as a consultant for a very long time and quickly realised that just because I couldn't see a purpose to a rule didn't mean there wasn't one.

I will question until I can see the sense of it. If it's senseless then I will try my damnedest to change it.

I'm pretty compliant at heart though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do follow rules mostly out of fear of the consequences of not doing so. But it’s funny because I despise the idea of social control and being controlled.

If it’s being told by another adult I’d do it only if I want to or it’s for a greater good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I observed all the rules, I’d never get anywhere…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I broke all the rules, I’d never get anywhere...

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Sometimes yes, sometimes no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rules change as we change. The Bible was written over 2000 years ago. The rules made then were for that period in time, but most has changed.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I adore structure amd boundaries as that lets me flex myself within those constraints. But....I bend rules to suit my needs, this is why I am self employed, cannot blame anyone else but myself then. Law, health and safety rules are there for my well being and I trust in them, but no in answer to your question I hate being told what to do and will question them if they cannot give me a valid answer. Why is one of my most favourite words

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

It depends if I agree with them.

I even agree with some rules that get in my way and irritate me, but I understand them, so follow them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally abide by laws but if someone is telling me what to do I have a tendency to do the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I've had my whole life being told what to do. Doesn't work anymore. I'll do what I want, when I want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I broke all the rules, I’d never get anywhere... "

Cheeky!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I broke all the rules, I’d never get anywhere...

Cheeky!"

I don't know what you mean

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Yes. I'm too much of a goodie-goodie...

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I would say mostly yes. There are some rare exceptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I broke all the rules, I’d never get anywhere...

Cheeky!

I don't know what you mean

You know exactly what you are doing

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes I think so x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I broke all the rules, I’d never get anywhere...

Cheeky!

I don't know what you mean

You know exactly what you are doing

Well of course.. Otherwise I'd never get spanked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally I do not break the rules, however there are times when I may bend them.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

I question those rules which obviously don't make any sense and break them if I need to as long as it doesn't cause any harm to others.

Critical thinking is lost in many people these days.

Missus

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

No rules are there to be bent or broken.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very much depends.

Sometimes you have no choice, sometimes you do.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"Not talking about in D/s sense here, so stand down (or not, depending on whether you do as you’re told

)

Another thread made me think about whether as adults we do as we are told.

If someone tells we have to do something, do we/should we do it…

Do you follow rules regardless, because they benefit you, because you feel you should…"

I have been known to apply creative interpretation and common sense filters to rules. Made me quite unpopular with management on occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I broke all the rules, I’d never get anywhere...

Cheeky!

I don't know what you mean

You know exactly what you are doing

Well of course.. Otherwise I'd never get spanked

You make me laugh.. That’s a good answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I broke all the rules, I’d never get anywhere...

Cheeky!

I don't know what you mean

You know exactly what you are doing

Well of course.. Otherwise I'd never get spanked

You make me laugh.. That’s a good answer

It's hard work being an angel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m told to do something and I agree I do it, if I hear them keep telling me trying to asset their authority, we’ll, they now have a problem in their hands.

I don’t like bossy people, we don’t match up.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Depends what and who is telling me to do or not to do something.

If it's "you shouldn't try to push in your wheelchair up there" or something, then you've just shaken a red rag at a bull and I'll be off to prove you wrong.

If it's a Police officer telling me to exit the motorway at the next junction due to an accident, then I'll follow their direction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By and large yes. If we all decide to only abide by rules that we think we agree with,then it all descends into chaos.

Sometimes there's a bigger picture that your opinion (lowest for of intelligence) really hasn't knowledge of, even if it appears a bit pointless?

Sometimes, people have a few chips on their shoulders and simply have difficulty conforming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not talking about in D/s sense here, so stand down (or not, depending on whether you do as you’re told

)

Another thread made me think about whether as adults we do as we are told.

If someone tells we have to do something, do we/should we do it…

Do you follow rules regardless, because they benefit you, because you feel you should…"

NO, I always carved my own path whether right or wrong. And I’m glad I did follow my own instincts

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I’m pretty compliant…unless it’s a rule that has absolutely no point and someone is trying to enforce it, then it gets my back up.

In work there’s plenty of rules that make no sense but I’m a contractor and in the type of job that if everything worked I’d be out of a job quicker, so I like to see some pointless rules, that ensure the work takes longer

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I follow the rules in my professional life and the laws of the land.

A few times my father has tried to tell me to do so & so and I flatly tell him no. I may be your child but I am an adult, have my own mind and make my own choices.

I do something because I choose to, not because someone tells me to do it or not to do something, that is likely to have the opposite effect.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Depends what it is. If it’s going to get me arrested I won’t break rules. In general life I don’t tend to do what I’m told much, no.

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

"Depends what it is. If it’s going to get me arrested I won’t break rules. In general life I don’t tend to do what I’m told much, no. "

Do not send me a pic of those lovely boobs!

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

I tend to follow rules, as I don't feel the need to not do so, and I figure there is probably a reason for them whether I can see it or not.

I don't always do as I'm told though, but that's me fighting against my natural instinct because I've spent too long just doing what other people want me to without question.

And... sometimes not doing as I'm told can be really fun

Posh

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

Don’t really like being told what to do…. But depends on situation

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

"Not talking about in D/s sense here, so stand down (or not, depending on whether you do as you’re told

)

Another thread made me think about whether as adults we do as we are told.

If someone tells we have to do something, do we/should we do it…

Do you follow rules regardless, because they benefit you, because you feel you should…"

I’m too much of a “goody two shoes”

to not do as I’m told

I wish I was more of a rebel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very contrary, and will always default to doing what I am told in the most obtuse manner possible

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Really depends what it is, the moment someone tells me to do or not to do something, I want to do the opposite!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always been a rebel

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If they make sense or very high consequences I’m happy to follow them. Here is Dubai there’s lots abs lots of rules and most make perfect sense and lead to very comfortable and safe life. People follow them because it works…. I still find a corner to drink and smoke during Ramadan but am very careful! . In the U.K. I’m a total rule breaker unless they make sense to me

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"If they make sense or very high consequences I’m happy to follow them. Here is Dubai there’s lots abs lots of rules and most make perfect sense and lead to very comfortable and safe life. People follow them because it works…. I still find a corner to drink and smoke during Ramadan but am very careful! . In the U.K. I’m a total rule breaker unless they make sense to me"

Why do you follow the rules in Dubai but not in the UK? What's different about Dubai rules vs UK rules? Feel free to cite examples.

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London

"Not talking about in D/s sense here, so stand down (or not, depending on whether you do as you’re told

)

Another thread made me think about whether as adults we do as we are told.

If someone tells we have to do something, do we/should we do it…

Do you follow rules regardless, because they benefit you, because you feel you should…"

Try telling a Dom to do something... the outcome is not quite desired for the rulemaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to follow rules, as I don't feel the need to not do so, and I figure there is probably a reason for them whether I can see it or not.

I don't always do as I'm told though, but that's me fighting against my natural instinct because I've spent too long just doing what other people want me to without question.

And... sometimes not doing as I'm told can be really fun

Posh

What Posh said

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By *cotty1376Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

I will park on double yellows to go to the cash point , i'm a real rebel

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tend to follow rules, as I don't feel the need to not do so, and I figure there is probably a reason for them whether I can see it or not.

I don't always do as I'm told though, but that's me fighting against my natural instinct because I've spent too long just doing what other people want me to without question.

And... sometimes not doing as I'm told can be really fun

Posh

This is really what I’m talking about. Our conditioning to do as others wish

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Nope

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By *elight 99Woman
over a year ago

richmond

Nope

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

In day to day life, I behave in the way that's expected in the majority of situations.

I can't really bring to mind instances where I'm specifically told, rather than asked,what to do

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

As with many things, it will depend on the people, situation and instructions being issued

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I tend to be a rule maker and rule breaker (in cheeky ways).

I don't want people breaking my rules though!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I will park on double yellows to go to the cash point , i'm a real rebel

I don't even park on double yellows with my Blue Badge, and I'm allowed to

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"Not talking about in D/s sense here, so stand down (or not, depending on whether you do as you’re told

)

Another thread made me think about whether as adults we do as we are told.

If someone tells we have to do something, do we/should we do it…

Do you follow rules regardless, because they benefit you, because you feel you should…"

I follow nothing sadly. It doesn't always bode well for me either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not always, no. Depends on the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what I'm told to do and who by.

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By *irmhandmancMan
over a year ago

Bolton

This is where nipple clamps come in handy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not talking about in D/s sense here, so stand down (or not, depending on whether you do as you’re told

)

Another thread made me think about whether as adults we do as we are told.

If someone tells we have to do something, do we/should we do it…

Do you follow rules regardless, because they benefit you, because you feel you should…"

Rules , they say are made to be broken , but some rules you have to obey or they can lead to serious fatalities if not , like a rule you HAVE to obey is what side of the road you drive on whatever country you drive in , you must obey that one cause if you don't , well then ,there sadly is only one outcome.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Why do you follow the rules in Dubai but not in the UK? What's different about Dubai rules vs UK rules? Feel free to cite examples. "

So for example eating, drinking , chewing gum isn’t allowed in any kind of public transport and smoking is limited to designated areas on streets with seats and ashtrays. The place is so spotless clean and maintained everyone is happy to keep these rules. You get the odd tourist smoking in the wrong place, throwing a cigarette down and it makes you quite angry they are disrespecting our home.

I’m sure a lot of these rules exist in the U.K. too but they aren’t clearly communicated , enforced, places aren’t clean and well maintained and so generally the rules have no use.

Same with alcohol, you wouldn’t risk carrying outside it without packaging or drinking in a street or park because no one does it, and the reasons you can’t are valid - there’s zero alcohol related crime - it would just be so odd and disrespectful to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends entirely on potential benefit versus consequential risk.

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

Fuck you I won’t do what you tell me

Sorry, this isn’t the song lyrics thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rules only apply to certain demographics in most cases.

I’m generally a rule follower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I followed rules all the time, I wouldn’t have had timeouts on here

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London

I do stand behind the yellow line so I think that makes me compliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not talking about in D/s sense here, so stand down (or not, depending on whether you do as you’re told

)

Another thread made me think about whether as adults we do as we are told.

If someone tells we have to do something, do we/should we do it…

Do you follow rules regardless, because they benefit you, because you feel you should…"

Depends on what I’m being asked to do

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