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"Good morning and happy bank holiday Monday! How are we all? I had some anxiety in the night and an feel it growing this morning. Wondered what was going on but then realised I’m back at uni tomorrow and have lots of hard work ahead as I have three assignments due between now and June. Still, it’s good to recognise a source for the feelings as all too often I can’t manage to do that. So, how are you feeling today? x " Health is everything , the rest don't matter  | |||
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"Good morning and happy bank holiday Monday! How are we all? I had some anxiety in the night and an feel it growing this morning. Wondered what was going on but then realised I’m back at uni tomorrow and have lots of hard work ahead as I have three assignments due between now and June. Still, it’s good to recognise a source for the feelings as all too often I can’t manage to do that. So, how are you feeling today? x Health is everything , the rest don't matter "I completely agree, but I refuse to let my anxiety stop me doing my course, I love it! | |||
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 due to my actions I was also feeling quite low anyway as I come up to the anniversary of my Father's death.
Still in time I know I will be fine as I have good friends still around me
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"I'm now on tablets for my anxiety and I'm having less panic attacks so doing alot better now x" That’s good news 
I was prescribed propranolol a few weeks back but I haven’t needed to take them for a week or so, I haven’t missed these stomach churning sensations! | |||
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"Good luck for your assignments Lou
Another great week here, happily focused on future projects "Thank you! They’ll probably get a few more mentions on these check-ins yet haha! I’m glad all is good for you  x | |||
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"Had a really up and down weekend where a friendship has been lost due to my actions I was also feeling quite low anyway as I come up to the anniversary of my Father's death.
Still in time I know I will be fine as I have good friends still around me
"I’m sorry to hear things are difficult for you at the moment, that does sound tough. I think there’s something positive about owning responsibility for situations, it takes strength to do that. It’s good to hear you have a good support network
I hope you start to feel a little better soon, don’t be afraid to check back in if you need to x | |||
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"I'm now on tablets for my anxiety and I'm having less panic attacks so doing alot better now x That’s good news
I was prescribed propranolol a few weeks back but I haven’t needed to take them for a week or so, I haven’t missed these stomach churning sensations!"aww brilliant glad they help x | |||
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"Had a really up and down weekend where a friendship has been lost due to my actions I was also feeling quite low anyway as I come up to the anniversary of my Father's death.
Still in time I know I will be fine as I have good friends still around me
I’m sorry to hear things are difficult for you at the moment, that does sound tough. I think there’s something positive about owning responsibility for situations, it takes strength to do that.
It’s good to hear you have a good support network
I hope you start to feel a little better soon, don’t be afraid to check back in if you need to x"I've had such a good day today I feel much better thank you | |||
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"Had a really up and down weekend where a friendship has been lost due to my actions I was also feeling quite low anyway as I come up to the anniversary of my Father's death.
Still in time I know I will be fine as I have good friends still around me
I’m sorry to hear things are difficult for you at the moment, that does sound tough. I think there’s something positive about owning responsibility for situations, it takes strength to do that.
It’s good to hear you have a good support network
I hope you start to feel a little better soon, don’t be afraid to check back in if you need to x
I've had such a good day today I feel much better thank you "I love this! x | |||
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"It's been a while since I've posted on one of these, or indeed posted on fab. Largely I'm well. My doc has put me on some different medication that seems to be doing it's trick and mentally I'm fine. Had some shock news before the weekend that a chap I knew (albeit not too well) had died suddenly, but other than that i'm ok "I’m sorry to hear about your sad news, but glad you’re otherwise doing ok x | |||
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"How am I feeling today? Don't think I can put it into words..." Sending hugs, hope you’re ok x | |||
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"OP I hope your anxiety is dissipating. I agree, it does help to at least know what's causing it. Does anyone else have this issue - I will seek out help (I've gone for counselling twice in recent times) but I'll downplay things to the point where I manage to convince them and myself I'm alright. It's like I know I need a bit of support but then I feel like I can manage on my own! It's frustrating me. " There will be something at the heart of that response - you should go back again and tell them at the start that it’s what you do so you can unpack it together, that would hopefully allow you to make some better progress. Have you looked into attachment styles? People with avoidant attachment styles can have issues around trust and independence, I wonder if there’s some of that at play? I hope you can manage to get to the bottom of it! x | |||
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"Hope uni goes well for you OP Mixed week here physically and mentally, physically as caught covid, mentally as being having too many dark thoughts and though currently won't act on them, tired of having and not knowing why I have them " Thank you! I’m sorry to hear you’ve been under the weather, I hope the covid doesn’t leave you too poorly. Do you have somebody you can go to for support around the dark thoughts? That can be tough to shoulder alone x | |||
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"Had a really up and down weekend where a friendship has been lost due to my actions I was also feeling quite low anyway as I come up to the anniversary of my Father's death.
Still in time I know I will be fine as I have good friends still around me
I’m sorry to hear things are difficult for you at the moment, that does sound tough. I think there’s something positive about owning responsibility for situations, it takes strength to do that.
It’s good to hear you have a good support network
I hope you start to feel a little better soon, don’t be afraid to check back in if you need to x
I've had such a good day today I feel much better thank you
I love this! x" | |||
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"I'm worried. Anxiety and over-thinking the fuck out of everything is kind of my thing. I have been diagnosed as bipolar in the past - but as my best friend's wife (who is clinical psychologist) told me: "EVERYONE gets diagnosed with that!" For the last 9 months I have been an unstopable unquenchable font of energy, positivity, and love. I've been promoted once and I'm on the verge of a second - I've been randomly asked out by 2 different women, I seem to have become the rock arond which my lovely but flakey friends have come to rely upon to get shit done. But today after finishing my regular 4 day shift pattern - for the first time in 9 months I felt exhausted. Not tired But exhausted Pessimistic - filled with ennui - feeling that I'm feeling the beginning of the end - or worse the beginning of the downward spiral, but there's nothin I can do about it" I can understand you feeling that way given the circumstances. That sounds like quite a scary place to be. I hope it doesn’t turn out to be a turn in mood for you x | |||
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"Board line today... Tomorrows another day upwards and onwards" I hope it’s a better one for you! x | |||
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"Hope uni goes well for you OP Mixed week here physically and mentally, physically as caught covid, mentally as being having too many dark thoughts and though currently won't act on them, tired of having and not knowing why I have them Thank you! I’m sorry to hear you’ve been under the weather, I hope the covid doesn’t leave you too poorly. Do you have somebody you can go to for support around the dark thoughts? That can be tough to shoulder alone x" I have friends and in therapy but would have hoped to have had a better understanding by now. And at times there is only so much you can say to friends without fearing they will think am calling wolf | |||
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"Hope uni goes well for you OP Mixed week here physically and mentally, physically as caught covid, mentally as being having too many dark thoughts and though currently won't act on them, tired of having and not knowing why I have them Thank you! I’m sorry to hear you’ve been under the weather, I hope the covid doesn’t leave you too poorly. Do you have somebody you can go to for support around the dark thoughts? That can be tough to shoulder alone x I have friends and in therapy but would have hoped to have had a better understanding by now. And at times there is only so much you can say to friends without fearing they will think am calling wolf " Maybe you need a change of therapist? Not everyone is a good match, sometimes we need somebody different to progress further x | |||
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" I can understand you feeling that way given the circumstances. That sounds like quite a scary place to be. I hope it doesn’t turn out to be a turn in mood for you x" Thank you The funny thing is that in the team I run at work, my go-to guy to get shit done when the chips are down, is the most textbook case of fast-cycling bipolar I have ever seen in my life (if I am BP I'm slow cycling). And I'm forever putting my arm around him giving him pep talks about how we all love him and rely on him and how he shouldn't be so hard on himself. But I can't take my own advice | |||
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" I can understand you feeling that way given the circumstances. That sounds like quite a scary place to be. I hope it doesn’t turn out to be a turn in mood for you x Thank you The funny thing is that in the team I run at work, my go-to guy to get shit done when the chips are down, is the most textbook case of fast-cycling bipolar I have ever seen in my life (if I am BP I'm slow cycling). And I'm forever putting my arm around him giving him pep talks about how we all love him and rely on him and how he shouldn't be so hard on himself. But I can't take my own advice" I don’t think it’s unusual for us to be able to be kinder to others than we are ourselves sadly x | |||
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" I don’t think it’s unusual for us to be able to be kinder to others than we are ourselves sadly x" That i something I will never be sad about Kindness for others is not a failing | |||
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" I don’t think it’s unusual for us to be able to be kinder to others than we are ourselves sadly x That i something I will never be sad about Kindness for others is not a failing" I never said it was, the sad part is being unable to apply the same compassion to ourselves x | |||
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"I'm trying to shake the demons of "useless mum and wife", triggered by me being unable to do pretty much anything yesterday and today. I took our daughter out on two solo day trips on consecutive days last week, then pushed a lot off-road on my regular wheelchair, so I've overdone things. That equals loads of pain, most easily relieved by lying on my right side, but that's not possible if you're to do Bank Holiday activities with your family, on a sunny weekend. I spent most of yesterday on my own, as Mr KC took our daughter to the park and out for an adventure. Then he came home and tidied up and made the tea. It's stuff like this that plays with my head "It sounds like you’re trying to cope with a lot of things there, the physical pain and the emotional. I’m sorry you feel under so much pressure, feeling like a ‘good enough’ mum is tough at the best of times, and you have so much more to contend with. To put yourself through what you have for your family though sounds far from useless to me. I hope you’re feeling a bit better on all fronts very soon, sending lots of love X | |||
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"I've had covid this week which has really rattled my mental health lots of time to think and overthink, which is never good. "I’m sorry you’ve had a rough week, I hope you start to feel better on all fronts soon x | |||
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"Thanks for these threads Lou "You’re very welcome
I’d hope people would feel able to pop back and use them throughout the week and not just on a Monday when they’re posted x | |||
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"OP I hope your anxiety is dissipating. I agree, it does help to at least know what's causing it. Does anyone else have this issue - I will seek out help (I've gone for counselling twice in recent times) but I'll downplay things to the point where I manage to convince them and myself I'm alright. It's like I know I need a bit of support but then I feel like I can manage on my own! It's frustrating me. There will be something at the heart of that response - you should go back again and tell them at the start that it’s what you do so you can unpack it together, that would hopefully allow you to make some better progress. Have you looked into attachment styles? People with avoidant attachment styles can have issues around trust and independence, I wonder if there’s some of that at play? I hope you can manage to get to the bottom of it! x" Thank you! That makes a lot of sense. I find it easier to talk about things like this, sort of anonymous, than face to face. I suspect I have an anxious attachment style but I didn't even think there could be some avoidant in there too. Will do some research - much appreciated. How are you feeling Starflylou? | |||
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"OP I hope your anxiety is dissipating. I agree, it does help to at least know what's causing it. Does anyone else have this issue - I will seek out help (I've gone for counselling twice in recent times) but I'll downplay things to the point where I manage to convince them and myself I'm alright. It's like I know I need a bit of support but then I feel like I can manage on my own! It's frustrating me. There will be something at the heart of that response - you should go back again and tell them at the start that it’s what you do so you can unpack it together, that would hopefully allow you to make some better progress. Have you looked into attachment styles? People with avoidant attachment styles can have issues around trust and independence, I wonder if there’s some of that at play? I hope you can manage to get to the bottom of it! x Thank you! That makes a lot of sense. I find it easier to talk about things like this, sort of anonymous, than face to face. I suspect I have an anxious attachment style but I didn't even think there could be some avoidant in there too. Will do some research - much appreciated. How are you feeling Starflylou? "I’m not too bad thanks, had a horrible night with restless legs and anxiety, uni day today which I love but which seems to be the cause of the anxiety atm (it disappeared over Easter!) | |||
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"Most days I find it hard to look in the mirror. At times, I convince myself that nobody would miss me If I were gone. My scars tell stories that I wish I could keep To myself. I cry for no reason, And have trouble figuring out the way I'm Supposed to function, When my mind is such a scary place. But, I got out of bed this morning. And that's a start." I’m sorry that things are feeling that way for you, sending love x | |||
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"I’ve been struggling a lot recently with a lot of things. Uncertainty and anxiety mainly, a fair chunk of depression and feeling unworthy of anyone or anything, like I’m a failure. I’m trying to pull myself up, whilst getting things done but I won’t lie, it’s really hard and it’s affecting me massively. My usual go to’s for personal management aren’t available to me or don’t help, so I’m trying to contact MH support services, which takes a long time. It’s a long road and some days are better than others" That all sounds pretty tough, I know waiting times are stupidly long x | |||
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"OP I hope your anxiety is dissipating. I agree, it does help to at least know what's causing it. Does anyone else have this issue - I will seek out help (I've gone for counselling twice in recent times) but I'll downplay things to the point where I manage to convince them and myself I'm alright. It's like I know I need a bit of support but then I feel like I can manage on my own! It's frustrating me. There will be something at the heart of that response - you should go back again and tell them at the start that it’s what you do so you can unpack it together, that would hopefully allow you to make some better progress. Have you looked into attachment styles? People with avoidant attachment styles can have issues around trust and independence, I wonder if there’s some of that at play? I hope you can manage to get to the bottom of it! x Thank you! That makes a lot of sense. I find it easier to talk about things like this, sort of anonymous, than face to face. I suspect I have an anxious attachment style but I didn't even think there could be some avoidant in there too. Will do some research - much appreciated. How are you feeling Starflylou?
I’m not too bad thanks, had a horrible night with restless legs and anxiety, uni day today which I love but which seems to be the cause of the anxiety atm (it disappeared over Easter!)"I loved uni and it was also the most stressful time of my life. You are doing amazingly, I have no doubt! If you ever need to chat please feel free to drop me a dm xx | |||
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"OP I hope your anxiety is dissipating. I agree, it does help to at least know what's causing it. Does anyone else have this issue - I will seek out help (I've gone for counselling twice in recent times) but I'll downplay things to the point where I manage to convince them and myself I'm alright. It's like I know I need a bit of support but then I feel like I can manage on my own! It's frustrating me. There will be something at the heart of that response - you should go back again and tell them at the start that it’s what you do so you can unpack it together, that would hopefully allow you to make some better progress. Have you looked into attachment styles? People with avoidant attachment styles can have issues around trust and independence, I wonder if there’s some of that at play? I hope you can manage to get to the bottom of it! x Thank you! That makes a lot of sense. I find it easier to talk about things like this, sort of anonymous, than face to face. I suspect I have an anxious attachment style but I didn't even think there could be some avoidant in there too. Will do some research - much appreciated. How are you feeling Starflylou?
I’m not too bad thanks, had a horrible night with restless legs and anxiety, uni day today which I love but which seems to be the cause of the anxiety atm (it disappeared over Easter!)
I loved uni and it was also the most stressful time of my life. You are doing amazingly, I have no doubt! If you ever need to chat please feel free to drop me a dm xx"Thank you, that’s really kind x | |||
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"Most days I find it hard to look in the mirror. At times, I convince myself that nobody would miss me If I were gone. My scars tell stories that I wish I could keep To myself. I cry for no reason, And have trouble figuring out the way I'm Supposed to function, When my mind is such a scary place. But, I got out of bed this morning. And that's a start. I’m sorry that things are feeling that way for you, sending love x" Thanks OP x | |||
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"Hope uni goes well for you OP Mixed week here physically and mentally, physically as caught covid, mentally as being having too many dark thoughts and though currently won't act on them, tired of having and not knowing why I have them Thank you! I’m sorry to hear you’ve been under the weather, I hope the covid doesn’t leave you too poorly. Do you have somebody you can go to for support around the dark thoughts? That can be tough to shoulder alone x I have friends and in therapy but would have hoped to have had a better understanding by now. And at times there is only so much you can say to friends without fearing they will think am calling wolf Maybe you need a change of therapist? Not everyone is a good match, sometimes we need somebody different to progress further x" Think it's just a case of taking time to dig down and understand why I don't see what others do when they look at me. I have the thoughts but find reasons for not doing it. Think also this week is just worse because of covid. | |||
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"March and April have been a huge challenge for me physically and emotionally with the outcome being my mental health gets a bit of a battering, I’m down but not out at the moment tho x had a funeral today for a much loved colleague who died suddenly and unexpectedly but I’m hoping just the act of going to celebrate his life today with his family and friends will bring some solace. "I’m sorry for your loss, I hope easier days are coming your way x | |||
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"Today's been pretty bad for me. Feeling very low and crying most of the afternoon "I’m sorry to hear this I hope today is a better day x | |||
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"Right no OP I'm in a fuckin quandary and I hate the feeling, work or strike tomorrow. " I hope you managed to make a decision that sits ok with you x | |||
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"Hope uni goes well for you OP Mixed week here physically and mentally, physically as caught covid, mentally as being having too many dark thoughts and though currently won't act on them, tired of having and not knowing why I have them Thank you! I’m sorry to hear you’ve been under the weather, I hope the covid doesn’t leave you too poorly. Do you have somebody you can go to for support around the dark thoughts? That can be tough to shoulder alone x I have friends and in therapy but would have hoped to have had a better understanding by now. And at times there is only so much you can say to friends without fearing they will think am calling wolf Maybe you need a change of therapist? Not everyone is a good match, sometimes we need somebody different to progress further x Think it's just a case of taking time to dig down and understand why I don't see what others do when they look at me. I have the thoughts but find reasons for not doing it. Think also this week is just worse because of covid. " Ah, ok. It can be a tough thing to do x Hope you’re feeling better soon x | |||
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"110% stressed house hunting there's either nothing about or the ones I put offers on are out bid they end.up well.over the asking price. Trying to pack a house n work and deal with so much pressure not sure I can take much more" That does sound like a lot to be coping with, I hope you can manage to find a bit of time for yourself in all of that xx | |||
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"Realising that 6 months counseling did not help my depression. Antidepressants just make me yawn. I don't see any way out" I’m sorry to hear that, it sounds like it’s all feeling pretty hopeless to you. There’s more than one type of counselling out there, have you looked into alternatives? It might be worth a try? x | |||
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"I’m kinda feeling in limbo at the moment. Life is good, and I should be bouncing, but I feel a bit flat. I’ve no idea what’s causing it, or why. It just is. " Why should you? Is that your expectation or society’s? There’ll be something there, have a little dig around x | |||
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"Realising that 6 months counseling did not help my depression. Antidepressants just make me yawn. I don't see any way out I’m sorry to hear that, it sounds like it’s all feeling pretty hopeless to you. There’s more than one type of counselling out there, have you looked into alternatives? It might be worth a try? x" I may try to call EAP again to check but all my efforts look pointless. I'm exhausted | |||
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"Realising that 6 months counseling did not help my depression. Antidepressants just make me yawn. I don't see any way out I’m sorry to hear that, it sounds like it’s all feeling pretty hopeless to you. There’s more than one type of counselling out there, have you looked into alternatives? It might be worth a try? x I may try to call EAP again to check but all my efforts look pointless. I'm exhausted " I get the exhaustion completely x | |||
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