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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I nearly always wear leggings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what makes you happy

Sod anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m offended that you just called it a social.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

I would hope they are tight leggings lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m offended that you just called it a social."

Ssshhh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would hope they are tight leggings lol. "

Leggings by very nature are tight. Else they'd be joggers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I nearly always wear leggings. "

Same!!

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

As far as I’m concerned, a social is for introducing yourself to someone and seeing if you both get on, with obviously a view to potentially more…

If most of the time you’re a hoody and leggings person then by all means be YOU rather than put on an act

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m offended that you just called it a social.

Ssshhh"

I’m wearing sandals.

And a coat, with a hood up, like a knobber.

Not because of the hoody, because of the word “social”.

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

Wear what you like and feel comfortable in.

Me, I'll be wearing my "I Hate Myself" tee shirt and a pair of shorts!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wear what you like and feel comfortable in.

Me, I'll be wearing my "I Hate Myself" tee shirt and a pair of shorts!"

Awesome!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with a hoodie and leggings unless it’s a posh spar day type social.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I've turned up for a social in the past in my gym gear. Was meeting for a coffee after work on my way to the gym. Yeah it is nice to dress up but I don't see the need to dress up to the nines either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just out of interest…

What would you wear on a meet?

Or a meet with play?

Or to meet a playmate?

Or a pre social meet?

Or a pre social social with play?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with a hoodie and leggings unless it’s a posh spar day type social. "

I don't do spa days

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've turned up for a social in the past in my gym gear. Was meeting for a coffee after work on my way to the gym. Yeah it is nice to dress up but I don't see the need to dress up to the nines either. "

Me either!

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe


"Wear what you like and feel comfortable in.

Me, I'll be wearing my "I Hate Myself" tee shirt and a pair of shorts!

Awesome!!"

I knew you'd like the shirt!

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

Sounds perfectly fine! Is there a small hole in the crotch? Worn seams from inner thigh chafing? Pilling?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just out of interest…

What would you wear on a meet? Dress

Or a meet with play? Dress no underwear

Or to meet a playmate? Just underwear

Or a pre social meet? The ore mentioned hoody and leggings

Or a pre social social with play? Hoody leggings and no underwear

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds perfectly fine! Is there a small hole in the crotch? Worn seams from inner thigh chafing? Pilling? "

If I answer yes am I still allowed to wear them? Or do I need to buy new? Dilemma!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of interest…

What would you wear on a meet? Dress

Or a meet with play? Dress no underwear

Or to meet a playmate? Just underwear

Or a pre social meet? The ore mentioned hoody and leggings

Or a pre social social with play? Hoody leggings and no underwear

"

You might get hot wearing all that.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"Sounds perfectly fine! Is there a small hole in the crotch? Worn seams from inner thigh chafing? Pilling?

If I answer yes am I still allowed to wear them? Or do I need to buy new? Dilemma!!"

I can only relate to the leggings I have - all shit ones! I’d probably buy a new pair!

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Casual is perfect for a social. I mean I'm casual all the time but I can do posh casual sometimes ha

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I've turned up for a social in the past in my gym gear. Was meeting for a coffee after work on my way to the gym. Yeah it is nice to dress up but I don't see the need to dress up to the nines either.

Me either!

"

I've thought about it I've never dressed up for anything on here. I've either as above been in my gym gear or in clothes I would wear for work. So thinking about it I never make an effort. Can't decide if I should be proud or ashamed now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds perfectly fine! Is there a small hole in the crotch? Worn seams from inner thigh chafing? Pilling?

If I answer yes am I still allowed to wear them? Or do I need to buy new? Dilemma!!

I can only relate to the leggings I have - all shit ones! I’d probably buy a new pair! "

I feared this would be the case.

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By *ice But Very NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

My first meet with her ladyship was supposed to be a social, I was wearing rigger boots, cargo trousers and a polo with my employers logo on. She didn't seem to mind.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most blokes on here would just be happy that you’re actually a woman.

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By *ubmissive guyMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Couldnt care less what you wore as long as your genuine and clean

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By *ice But Very NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

Swansea


"I've turned up for a social in the past in my gym gear. Was meeting for a coffee after work on my way to the gym. Yeah it is nice to dress up but I don't see the need to dress up to the nines either.

Me either!

I've thought about it I've never dressed up for anything on here. I've either as above been in my gym gear or in clothes I would wear for work. So thinking about it I never make an effort. Can't decide if I should be proud or ashamed now "

Proud. This is definitely a case of those who care don't matter and those who matter don't care.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldnt care less what you wore as long as your genuine and clean"

Like showered?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldnt care less what you wore as long as your genuine and clean

Like showered?"

Obviously he meant not on smack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These leggings… are they those ones that show off your vagina lips?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer a relaxed atmosphere, not stressing over getting dressed up. Plus I want the person I'm meeting to feel comfortable, and if that extends into their choice of outfit, that's fine by me.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Only if our outfits match

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Can I wear a hoodie too though?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"These leggings… are they those ones that show off your vagina lips?"

Are there any other kind?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most blokes on here would just be happy that you’re actually a woman."

Surprise!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've turned up for a social in the past in my gym gear. Was meeting for a coffee after work on my way to the gym. Yeah it is nice to dress up but I don't see the need to dress up to the nines either.

Me either!

I've thought about it I've never dressed up for anything on here. I've either as above been in my gym gear or in clothes I would wear for work. So thinking about it I never make an effort. Can't decide if I should be proud or ashamed now "

Proud!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My first meet with her ladyship was supposed to be a social, I was wearing rigger boots, cargo trousers and a polo with my employers logo on. She didn't seem to mind.

Mr"

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No. Can I wear a hoodie too though? "

Is it a nice hoodie? Chances are I'll pinch it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always wear jeans on a social, but also let the other person know I’m going to be casual (just to set expectations ()).

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I never dress up for anything here.. it’s socialising to see if I like them in person so it’s a very chilled out affair. It only gets worse from that point so don’t want to raise expectations.

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

Hoody and leggings is fine.

I had someone once turn up in his work gear including his high vis jacket

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These leggings… are they those ones that show off your vagina lips?

Are there any other kind?"

I can’t imagine being offended by your vagina lips.

This hoody… does it say “I’m with stupid” in fancy text on the front?

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath


"I’m offended that you just called it a social."

What is it supposed to be called?

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Most blokes on here would just be happy that you’re actually a woman."

Very true!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"These leggings… are they those ones that show off your vagina lips?

Are there any other kind?

I can’t imagine being offended by your vagina lips.

This hoody… does it say “I’m with stupid” in fancy text on the front?"

With added diamantes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most blokes on here would just be happy that you’re actually a woman.

Very true!"

Men on here are so picky.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I never dress to the nines, though may do jeans with a top and heels and a bit of lippy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m offended that you just called it a social.

What is it supposed to be called? "

“A coffee”.

“A drink”.

“A night out”.

“A date”.

Take your pick.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I've turned up for a social in the past in my gym gear. Was meeting for a coffee after work on my way to the gym. Yeah it is nice to dress up but I don't see the need to dress up to the nines either.

Me either!

I've thought about it I've never dressed up for anything on here. I've either as above been in my gym gear or in clothes I would wear for work. So thinking about it I never make an effort. Can't decide if I should be proud or ashamed now

Proud. This is definitely a case of those who care don't matter and those who matter don't care.

Mr"

True enough, but I sometimes think maybe Fab gives the impression women dress up a lot more than they probably do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I never dress up for anything here.. it’s socialising to see if I like them in person so it’s a very chilled out affair. It only gets worse from that point so don’t want to raise expectations. "

Start expectations off low. I like it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m offended that you just called it a social.

What is it supposed to be called?

“A coffee”.

“A drink”.

“A night out”.

“A date”.

Take your pick."

I'll take all 4, my hoody and leggings are functional for all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These leggings… are they those ones that show off your vagina lips?

Are there any other kind?

I can’t imagine being offended by your vagina lips.

This hoody… does it say “I’m with stupid” in fancy text on the front?

With added diamantes.

"

Offended… no.

Sounds delicious, if you had some big silver hoop earrings in as well then we’d never let you go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be pissed off. A woman should be wearing a low cut top, mini skirt, stockings and heels for a social.

I'd still get a blow job off her but it would be crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would sooner you be comfortable and relaxed than trying to make an impression. It's not a job interview and your life doesn't depend on how we get along. I certainly won't complain if you turn up in Leggings ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hoody and leggings is fine.

I had someone once turn up in his work gear including his high vis jacket "

I think I'd like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"These leggings… are they those ones that show off your vagina lips?

Are there any other kind?

I can’t imagine being offended by your vagina lips.

This hoody… does it say “I’m with stupid” in fancy text on the front?

With added diamantes.

Offended… no.

Sounds delicious, if you had some big silver hoop earrings in as well then we’d never let you go."

Well,as it happens...

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Most blokes on here would just be happy that you’re actually a woman.

Surprise!!!!"

You could always do just that, simply by placing a small banana down the front of your leggings.

That would be a good observation test for a social.

A

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

I used to get dolled up stockings and lingerie but can’t be arsed now after so many time wasters who don’t turn up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd be pissed off. A woman should be wearing a low cut top, mini skirt, stockings and heels for a social.

I'd still get a blow job off her but it would be crap. "

To be fair the blow job would be crap regardless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most blokes on here would just be happy that you’re actually a woman.

Surprise!!!!

You could always do just that, simply by placing a small banana down the front of your leggings.

That would be a good observation test for a social.

A"

What makes you think I need a banana...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends where it is but I'd rather someone be comfortable so I don't judge on what they are wearing

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath


"I’m offended that you just called it a social.

What is it supposed to be called?

“A coffee”.

“A drink”.

“A night out”.

“A date”.

Take your pick."

Can’t say date, most men don’t like that. They like to point out it’s not a date.

Don’t drink coffee.

Looks like il have to stick to A drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not at all

Could be lounge ware leggings and hoody combo

I have seen some velvet and satin hoody lounge ware combos runing in to the £200-300 pounds mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These leggings… are they those ones that show off your vagina lips?

Are there any other kind?

I can’t imagine being offended by your vagina lips.

This hoody… does it say “I’m with stupid” in fancy text on the front?

With added diamantes.

Offended… no.

Sounds delicious, if you had some big silver hoop earrings in as well then we’d never let you go.

Well,as it happens..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn up with a smile, don’t bother with your clothes

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

I wouldn't be offended as such, but if you make the effort to do your hair and make up, then clothes can't be that difficult to slightly improve on....

I'll run away now....

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle somewhere

I’m sure most would just be happy to get a “social”

Wear whatever you are comfortable in

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No not at all

Could be lounge ware leggings and hoody combo

I have seen some velvet and satin hoody lounge ware combos runing in to the £200-300 pounds mark "

Yeah, mine are about the £2-3 Primark version.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always dress up for my meets but that's because it makes me feel comfortable. I'm not too bothered what the other person does, whatever makes them comfortable is fine by me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. Can I wear a hoodie too though?

Is it a nice hoodie? Chances are I'll pinch it. "

I’ll wear my less nice ones

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Turn up with a smile, don’t bother with your clothes "

Now you're pushing it.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Not in the slightest x

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Most blokes on here would just be happy that you’re actually a woman.

Surprise!!!!

You could always do just that, simply by placing a small banana down the front of your leggings.

That would be a good observation test for a social.

A

What makes you think I need a banana..."

Well otherwise you wouldn't be able to pull it out when they say "Is that a banana in your leggings.......", before replying with "and this is my cock."

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most blokes on here would just be happy that you’re actually a woman.

Surprise!!!!

You could always do just that, simply by placing a small banana down the front of your leggings.

That would be a good observation test for a social.

A

What makes you think I need a banana...

Well otherwise you wouldn't be able to pull it out when they say "Is that a banana in your leggings.......", before replying with "and this is my cock."

A"

I like your thinking

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.

This animal doesn't wear makeup when she goes on a social. Terrible I know.

I don't mind what people wear as long as they're clean, comfortable and presentable. It's nice when people have confidence in what they're wearing.

I wouldn't wear what you do OP, only because I don't own any hoodies or leggings, but I do wear dresses, skirts and cardigans day to day so would tend to wear them at a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This animal doesn't wear makeup when she goes on a social. Terrible I know.

I don't mind what people wear as long as they're clean, comfortable and presentable. It's nice when people have confidence in what they're wearing.

I wouldn't wear what you do OP, only because I don't own any hoodies or leggings, but I do wear dresses, skirts and cardigans day to day so would tend to wear them at a social. "

I like those cardigans you wear that show off your vagina lips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No not at all

Could be lounge ware leggings and hoody combo

I have seen some velvet and satin hoody lounge ware combos runing in to the £200-300 pounds mark

Yeah, mine are about the £2-3 Primark version. "

That’s fine also was just spitballing that just because it’s a hoody and leggings combo it’s the in fashion these days marked as what they call lounge ware

Littler PLT and all that have made a market on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Turn up with a smile, don’t bother with your clothes

Now you're pushing it. "

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

What ever makes you feel comfortable on your social meet

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

If it's down at the local Costa Coffee or Dog & Duck, then it's OK.

But if it were at the Ritz then I would be disappointed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This animal doesn't wear makeup when she goes on a social. Terrible I know.

I don't mind what people wear as long as they're clean, comfortable and presentable. It's nice when people have confidence in what they're wearing.

I wouldn't wear what you do OP, only because I don't own any hoodies or leggings, but I do wear dresses, skirts and cardigans day to day so would tend to wear them at a social. "

I need the make up though. Wearing make up is my idea of dressing up!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What ever makes you feel comfortable on your social meet "

Him not running out would do that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it's down at the local Costa Coffee or Dog & Duck, then it's OK.

But if it were at the Ritz then I would be disappointed

The Ritz!! Are we doing bingo??

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont wear makeup... i just can't do it, i never learned so my eyelashes are fake and my eyeliner tattood on.. i might put lipbalm on if i want to kiss you... but other then that i can only dress up with my clothes i wear!

I would have no problem meeting a lady in leggings and a hoodie if that is what made her comfortable!

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london


"What ever makes you feel comfortable on your social meet

Him not running out would do that. "

Who ran

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold


"If it's down at the local Costa Coffee or Dog & Duck, then it's OK.

But if it were at the Ritz then I would be disappointed

The Ritz!! Are we doing bingo??

"

Only at the Mecca

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd prefer you be yourself and feel comfortable

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

99.99% of Men NO 99.99% of women Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m offended that you just called it a social.

What is it supposed to be called?

“A coffee”.

“A drink”.

“A night out”.

“A date”.

Take your pick.

I'll take all 4, my hoody and leggings are functional for all. "

Stop asking me to finger you in Costa then!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally dress up, that’s how I portray myself on my profile. The getting ready and dressing up is a big part of the whole scenario for me.

I don’t do socials unless I’m out of the area anyway.

I really think you do what makes you feel confidant and sexy( male or female). I mean the whole point of this is to hopefully have sex, isn’t it?

Jx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

I wouldn't care if you turned up in a bin bag

But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I personally dress up, that’s how I portray myself on my profile. The getting ready and dressing up is a big part of the whole scenario for me.

I don’t do socials unless I’m out of the area anyway.

I really think you do what makes you feel confidant and sexy( male or female). I mean the whole point of this is to hopefully have sex, isn’t it?

Jx "

Oh, I'm just after cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wearing what you wear is individual. Doing things around the house I am fairly casual. However, if I or we go out I like to dress smart as it makes me feel good. If a hoody and leggings make you feel good, who is to argue?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m offended that you just called it a social.

What is it supposed to be called?

“A coffee”.

“A drink”.

“A night out”.

“A date”.

Take your pick.

I'll take all 4, my hoody and leggings are functional for all.

Stop asking me to finger you in Costa then!!"

Right I won't ask again!!

How about Starbucks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."

no offence take OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont wear makeup... i just can't do it, i never learned so my eyelashes are fake and my eyeliner tattood on.. i might put lipbalm on if i want to kiss you... but other then that i can only dress up with my clothes i wear!

I would have no problem meeting a lady in leggings and a hoodie if that is what made her comfortable!"

Lip balm is my fav.

I feel very unsexy dressed up!

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I wouldn’t be offended after all it’s a social I would want you to feel relaxed so I get to see the real you. If you would to then take it further then maybe dress up for a second social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."

I would like more effort than that, if it was a coffee social then OK but if it was a night out I would hope to see someone looking at their best!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally dress up, that’s how I portray myself on my profile. The getting ready and dressing up is a big part of the whole scenario for me.

I don’t do socials unless I’m out of the area anyway.

I really think you do what makes you feel confidant and sexy( male or female). I mean the whole point of this is to hopefully have sex, isn’t it?

Jx

Oh, I'm just after cake. "

I know a good cake site but better not mention it J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."

Not at all. Whatever makes someone feel more confident and comfortable then go for it, in my eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont wear makeup... i just can't do it, i never learned so my eyelashes are fake and my eyeliner tattood on.. i might put lipbalm on if i want to kiss you... but other then that i can only dress up with my clothes i wear!

I would have no problem meeting a lady in leggings and a hoodie if that is what made her comfortable!

Lip balm is my fav.

I feel very unsexy dressed up! "

Again. I refer you to my first suggestion

Hope this helps.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont wear makeup... i just can't do it, i never learned so my eyelashes are fake and my eyeliner tattood on.. i might put lipbalm on if i want to kiss you... but other then that i can only dress up with my clothes i wear!

I would have no problem meeting a lady in leggings and a hoodie if that is what made her comfortable!

Lip balm is my fav.

I feel very unsexy dressed up!

Again. I refer you to my first suggestion

Hope this helps. "

It's the smile part I'd struggle with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv never got it why people get funny about how you dress, always say come as you are because it shows the real you dress how you want and what makes you happy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so....

I would like more effort than that, if it was a coffee social then OK but if it was a night out I would hope to see someone looking at their best!"

So I'll save my best hoody for the second date?

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By *i_fwb_76Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Nope! It’s a social - casual!

I’d expect dress up if we were going out for drinks and getting naughty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont wear makeup... i just can't do it, i never learned so my eyelashes are fake and my eyeliner tattood on.. i might put lipbalm on if i want to kiss you... but other then that i can only dress up with my clothes i wear!

I would have no problem meeting a lady in leggings and a hoodie if that is what made her comfortable!

Lip balm is my fav.

I feel very unsexy dressed up!

Again. I refer you to my first suggestion

Hope this helps.

It's the smile part I'd struggle with. "

Someone else could help with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont wear makeup... i just can't do it, i never learned so my eyelashes are fake and my eyeliner tattood on.. i might put lipbalm on if i want to kiss you... but other then that i can only dress up with my clothes i wear!

I would have no problem meeting a lady in leggings and a hoodie if that is what made her comfortable!"

Eyeliner tattooed on ? That must of hurt ?

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

After perusing your profile I’m more interested in what the 99 year old guy wants to see you wearing and will you assist if he requires pushing in his wheelchair , help with his walking up stairs or cardiac massage if your beauty takes his breath away ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."

I’d be chuffed to bits that you turned up

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

Maybe is different for a girl…. The guy can check out your body more

But I wouldn’t be happy with a guy turning up in trackies…

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Nope!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope! It’s a social - casual!

I’d expect dress up if we were going out for drinks and getting naughty!

"

Oh dam, so if it's a combination of all 3??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After perusing your profile I’m more interested in what the 99 year old guy wants to see you wearing and will you assist if he requires pushing in his wheelchair , help with his walking up stairs or cardiac massage if your beauty takes his breath away ? "

I'll be drinking coffee

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope!

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."

No.

Where are we going?

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

As long as you’ve washed your pits and foofage- just in case things get fruity...nobody likes a whiffy minge

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."

If we are answering this question honestly then yes. I don't expect full on formal dress etc but a bit of effort would be nice otherwise we would assume that you don't think we are worth your time or effort.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Port talbot


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."

I'd pretty much expect you to turn up wearing just that

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I'd be more offended if someone turned up stinking of BO or ....yuk! I'd prefer my companion was comfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so....

If we are answering this question honestly then yes. I don't expect full on formal dress etc but a bit of effort would be nice otherwise we would assume that you don't think we are worth your time or effort. "

I love the honesty, but wonder if the other person was clear ahead of the social that they would be dressed casually would you still be offended?

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

God no, casual all the time. It's not like it's a job interview. In fact if somebody was that hung up on what a person is wearing I'm not sure I'd be that interested in going forward.

Obviously clean would be expected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't think many men will care what you're wearing on a date! I think most are just interested in what's underneath.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."

I didn’t realise we’d organised a time yet, but a hoody is 100% acceptable, thanks in advance

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Nope...I'd be delighted if you turned up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, sometimes I forget lippy so I may require a bit of lip service.

Make sure our outfits don’t match. Last thing you want is for people think we’re a happy couple

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I really don't think many men will care what you're wearing on a date! I think most are just interested in what's underneath. "

Some of us actually want to know more about the person we could potentially be getting intimate with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."

Nothing wrong with that at all

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By *ary 121Man
over a year ago

East Bergholt

Most of you lady’s look super horny in leggings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wear what you're comfortable in. It's the real you people want to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."

Well I know u but I guess if you did turn up, any way anytime is just perfect

If u genuine

You've seen the little mate in me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the elephant in the room here is deodorant: will you stretch to it?

IS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so....

I would like more effort than that, if it was a coffee social then OK but if it was a night out I would hope to see someone looking at their best!

So I'll save my best hoody for the second date? "

Maybe go for your best onesie instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I've had a social in my gym kit before, not my usual attire mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No id be in a hoodie and shorts so all good

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By *ndecentexposureMan
over a year ago

north london


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."

would you be offended if I turned up in a hoodie and track bottoms? You wear what you feel comfortable wearing. I'd want to know the real you and not you pretending to be somebody else . Can I get you a pint?

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By *dventurous biMan
over a year ago

tesside

I met a woman from here for a social a year or so back. She chose the venue, which was the cafe at the local railway station.

Turned up in a mini skirt, fishnet tights (with extra holes) and a very tight off-white blouse.

Wish she’d worn joggers and a hoody!

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."

I'd turn up in jeans and either a tee or shirt. Be comfortable and be you. P would likely make the extra effort but I'd tell her to dial it back.

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to a social once in leggings and a t shirt, a longish one so it covered my bum etc.

Later was told I should have dressed up more and most women on fab did by the guy I'd met.

I just didn't want to go dressed like a hooker or so dressed in a way that made me looked desperate, in a cafe! If you don't like the look of me in normal attire then you can forget anything else.

PW

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"I went to a social once in leggings and a t shirt, a longish one so it covered my bum etc.

Later was told I should have dressed up more and most women on fab did by the guy I'd met.

I just didn't want to go dressed like a hooker or so dressed in a way that made me looked desperate, in a cafe! If you don't like the look of me in normal attire then you can forget anything else.

PW

"

I don't need to say it but I will anyway

That guy is a dick.

C

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Its a social, does it matter how comfortable you dress.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

If someone is themself and comfortable in their own skin then that is attractive to me. Not too bothered what someone wears, I'll take them as I find them once I get to know them a bit.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Not at all. Easy access for me

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

You should never make too much effort to do or be something different than your norm as that would really hide from others the real you and that is never a good thing in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You should never make too much effort to do or be something different than your norm as that would really hide from others the real you and that is never a good thing in my opinion. "

Real me = hoodies/joggers/leggings, low maintenance, I can do my make up in 2mins, never get my nails done, only dye my hair to cover the grey's, and unless anybody is going to see, hardly shave/wax.

He's a lucky guy!!!

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"You should never make too much effort to do or be something different than your norm as that would really hide from others the real you and that is never a good thing in my opinion.

Real me = hoodies/joggers/leggings, low maintenance, I can do my make up in 2mins, never get my nails done, only dye my hair to cover the grey's, and unless anybody is going to see, hardly shave/wax.

He's a lucky guy!!! "

A ‘low maintenance’ woman, is there ever truly such a thing, sounds a bit like the mythical unicorn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so....

I'd turn up in jeans and either a tee or shirt. Be comfortable and be you. P would likely make the extra effort but I'd tell her to dial it back.

C "

Women should wear what men tell them to.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

There are sub Reddit’s dedicated to women in leggings and another for women in hoodies. Mind it? Men love it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they feel comfortable that’s all that matters

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

In general I try to dress to the occasion, look nice, but that’s what makes me comfortable. It’s always about personal comfort.

If the person you’re meeting has an issue with your own personal comfort levels, then they’re not the right person for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should never make too much effort to do or be something different than your norm as that would really hide from others the real you and that is never a good thing in my opinion.

Real me = hoodies/joggers/leggings, low maintenance, I can do my make up in 2mins, never get my nails done, only dye my hair to cover the grey's, and unless anybody is going to see, hardly shave/wax.

He's a lucky guy!!! "

Rather see the real you than something you don't like being

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've turned up for a social in the past in my gym gear. Was meeting for a coffee after work on my way to the gym. Yeah it is nice to dress up but I don't see the need to dress up to the nines either. "

Bloody hell just realised i did too

I was enroute to a class at the gym and it was the only way i could fit it in

I looked fit as fuck in my gym leggings lol... Oooo maybe that is the way to always dress

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I go in between jeans and a nice top. I think that if you are judged harshly you aren't a good match so job done.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Wouldn’t be even slightly offended

D.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

I met someone for a coffee in gym leggings and a tee shirt.

I don't think he minded

I do usually make an effort but on that occasion doing a 4 hrs drive so needed to be comfy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not offended, hope you don't mind the onesie I'd wear. Mmmm, so comfy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wear what I told you to wear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better to present the real you than have someone fall for the idea of you

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

If I were meeting you for a cuppa then no, wear what you like.

If a sexual interest did it however... I'd be pissed

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Depends. How tight are these leggings?

LvM

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By *rive u crazyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Is there anything better than leggings and a hoodie?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Leggings are hot!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."

Perfectly fine it’s a social not a restaurant dinner date

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By *ooking for SubmissivesMan
over a year ago

Close by

If it’s a social then it should be more about seeing if there’s a spark or flow to the conversation.

Being dressed up (or undressed) can come later

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By *i_fwb_76Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Nope! It’s a social - casual!

I’d expect dress up if we were going out for drinks and getting naughty!

Oh dam, so if it's a combination of all 3??"

We’ll under the dress up is casual and under the casual is naughty great day I’d say haha.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?

Or do you expect more effort?

I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.

But me 99% of the time is super casual so....

I'd turn up in jeans and either a tee or shirt. Be comfortable and be you. P would likely make the extra effort but I'd tell her to dial it back.

C

Women should wear what men tell them to. "

Nah but with P there is the chance of her tryibg to hard and feeling bad about herself. I'd rather P didn't burn herself out and was instead comfortable.

C

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