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By *ig face 100 OP   Man
over a year ago

newport

Any tips for brand new users ??

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By *mma_EvansTV/TS
over a year ago

Colchester


"Any tips for brand new users ??"

Brand new users to what? xx

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By *ig face 100 OP   Man
over a year ago

newport

The site

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"The site"

Welcome.

The first step is to use the forum search facilities. Look for advice on messaging, profile writing, good photos, etc... it will save you loads of time and effort getting it right.

Generally for single guys on here it can be really hard going as there are 100s of blokes for every woman on here, be patient and expect very little in the way of response.

Taking part in the forums however is a different story. It won't get you laid, but will gives you loads of laughs.

Enjoy.

Cal

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

You've been here for 5 month and already have a verification.

I think you've managed to suss it out on your own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take it all too seriously and have a sense of humour. Just be yourself and don't jump through 1000 hoops to get laid, know your self worth too. Most importantly, don't let someone else's preference dictate your self esteem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can’t give profile advice unless you ask for it.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Just be yourself. Read profiles and respect people's choices x

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Just be yourself really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check out mens profiles, work out why some are successful, and some aren’t. People can give you all the tips in the world. People can give you all the profile advice in the world. But ultimately, you gotta work it out for yourself, which you’ll either do, and be swimming in fanny. Or you’ll not, and your dinkle will stay sad and dry in your pants.

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Don't expect any women to interact with you

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Loads of gay men will contact you though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is my best advice:

1. Avoid asking silly questions on forums. Any such question you ask as a male will be subjected to ridicule and met with hostility “because you’re a man”. It’s ok if a woman asks silly questions though.

2. Ignore the above. Enjoy the forums for advice and giggles they provide, but I’d strongly advise not relying only on forums as a means to meet people, since many - especially in the Lounge - are regulars and “aren’t currently meeting”, using FAB only as a social network.

3. Write a decent profile. Talk about your interests, your sexual orientation, what you’re looking for. Imagine you’re applying for a job - why do you think they should pick you?

4. Approach anyone with respect. Always write a polite and original opening message that in some way links to their profile.

5a. Don’t be a dick when they answer and say no. Which they inevitably will (that’s not a personal insult, it’s just a fact).

5b. Don’t be offended when your message is deleted without reply or left unread. This will happen most of the time. Someone once advised me to delete all sent messages so that you don’t have to wallow in your own self-pity as you watch your yellow unread list grow.

6. Manage your expectations of the amount of replies you will receive. Your starting point ought to be “near zero” and I’m not even joking. Even some of the gym-obsessed sexual tyrannosaurus’s on here have to write as many as 2 messages before they get their end away. Seriously though, be patient and persevere.

7. Do I have to write “don’t send unsolicited dick pics”? Bit obvious?

8. You get out what you put in. True story.

9. Despite how I’ve made this sound, FAB can be a source of endless fun and enjoyment.

Good luck!

Will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed "

Expect disappointment the you’ll never be disappointed.

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London


"This is my best advice:

1. Avoid asking silly questions on forums. Any such question you ask as a male will be subjected to ridicule and met with hostility “because you’re a man”. It’s ok if a woman asks silly questions though.

2. Ignore the above. Enjoy the forums for advice and giggles they provide, but I’d strongly advise not relying only on forums as a means to meet people, since many - especially in the Lounge - are regulars and “aren’t currently meeting”, using FAB only as a social network.

3. Write a decent profile. Talk about your interests, your sexual orientation, what you’re looking for. Imagine you’re applying for a job - why do you think they should pick you?

4. Approach anyone with respect. Always write a polite and original opening message that in some way links to their profile.

5a. Don’t be a dick when they answer and say no. Which they inevitably will (that’s not a personal insult, it’s just a fact).

5b. Don’t be offended when your message is deleted without reply or left unread. This will happen most of the time. Someone once advised me to delete all sent messages so that you don’t have to wallow in your own self-pity as you watch your yellow unread list grow.

6. Manage your expectations of the amount of replies you will receive. Your starting point ought to be “near zero” and I’m not even joking. Even some of the gym-obsessed sexual tyrannosaurus’s on here have to write as many as 2 messages before they get their end away. Seriously though, be patient and persevere.

7. Do I have to write “don’t send unsolicited dick pics”? Bit obvious?

8. You get out what you put in. True story.

9. Despite how I’ve made this sound, FAB can be a source of endless fun and enjoyment.

Good luck!

Will

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This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(Oh and also, check our mens profiles for inspiration. Nobody will think badly of you for looking at a man’s profile and they definitely won’t assume you’re gay.

Some are markedly more interesting than many of the female profiles you’ll look at, which will just be pictures of boobs and minges with a passive-aggressive list of “donts”. (they’ll be the same profiles that will then ridicule your lack of a decent profile).

You’re welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do things your way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any tips for brand new users ??"

Pop I’m up some picture. Don’t leave a silloette. Put some text on your profile. Send out some messages or reply politely to those who send you a Dm that you like. Delete those you don’t want to meet.( it’s a polite no thank you)

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP.

Some good advice so far, but additional points to consider.

You don't accommodate, but don't say why? That can put some people off, so say why you can't.

Your profile content is one line in length. Heed the advice so far and expand the profile content.

You do have one Verification in only a few months already, so you've achieved more than a lot of other guys can expect in a year!

Patience, more Patience and Perseverance are key to your success.

It does work.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Join in with forum/cam room chat. Be polite and patient. Good luck!

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