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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've never felt this way in the past but I just feel no affinity towards work colleagues in my job that I started 3 months ago. Has anyone else been this way?

If I never saw them again I couldn't care less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully you’re not put in charge of arranging any leaving do’s.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hopefully you’re not put in charge of arranging any leaving do’s."

Mine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In one job I had that. Look for another job is my advice.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Only one job which was my first full time job in a school.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Luckily no, they have all been my mentality and I've made some longterm friends.

Hope you find an answer soon

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I jump into bed with one of my work colleagues every night... So no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I jump into bed with one of my work colleagues every night... So no "

Whose turn is it tomorrow night?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I've never felt this way in the past but I just feel no affinity towards work colleagues in my job that I started 3 months ago. Has anyone else been this way?

If I never saw them again I couldn't care less"

Why do you think that is?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I jump into bed with one of my work colleagues every night... So no

Whose turn is it tomorrow night?"

I stick with the same work colleague nightly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never have i dont have friends at work i have contacts i have no interest in any of them ever

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I had a connection with all of my colleagues but that has changed after lockdown. Now it is only a few of them. I should have been out with them today but I didn't go because I can't be bothered to listen to their shite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I jump into bed with one of my work colleagues every night... So no

Whose turn is it tomorrow night?

I stick with the same work colleague nightly "

favouritism

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I jump into bed with one of my work colleagues every night... So no

Whose turn is it tomorrow night?

I stick with the same work colleague nightly

favouritism"

You could call it that, yes

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I the guys in my team, they are like having extra family as we’ve been a together for quite a few years now

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

3 months is still early days OP. I've been in my job for 10 months now and there's only a few people I really click with. They are a funny bunch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people thrive and what's more need a certain social table to sit at. It gives them ballast, comfort and and some meaning to all this.

I'm a loner, always have been. I'm happy that way too. I have few possessions or friends and I'm very aware how quick our visit here is.

I do make lots of magical "connections" along the way but nothing deep and meaningful. I might wake up tomorrow and make plans to go see what living in Morroco is like, or see how far I can get in a boat.

You have to listen to that uneasy feeling at times and not worry when it challenges life's "norms' it's very often looking out for you.

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

I never feel like I'm friends with colleagues. I will always have a laugh and a chat etc but don't ever add on social media or expect to stay in contact with anyone if I leave. Maybe I'm just weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a Supervisor so no, my work relationships don't go deep I have empathy and I'm supportive. But I can't be an objective leader if I'm too close because how so you pull back when people need pulling up

I won't accept social media requests or socialise with them either other than at work partys

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Can I just say we've had more disapproving comments/messages on here because we are colleagues, but not because, for example, I like to be tied up and wear a collar. It's hilarious

We were a couple LONG before we were colleagues, for any disapprovers. And I outrank him at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I knew a football manager once who wouldn't have a drink with the team cause if he was bought a pint by one of the players , that player would be expecting to play next week ...always keep your friends and work separate.

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By *ukeM8519Man
over a year ago

Sandymount

Maybe they all don’t like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My work colleagues are exactly that. I rarely make "friends" with work colleagues and dont generally stay in touch. You cant choose who you work with usually, so I just do my best to get along with everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe they all don’t like you"

Good, hope they don't

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Maybe they all don’t like you"

Total sidetrack but love the Touch & Go ref on your profile

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Yup, dealt with that for about two years at my last place. Safe to say it didn't help my thoughts toward the work place.

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one friend at work who I get on really well with. The other 4 I could quite happily live without. Nothing in common what so ever. Always had friends I have kept after switching jobs but not this bunch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I've really liked the teams I worked with in both of the places I worked so in a way, I've been lucky. Although they're also the reason I've been in no rush to leave despite the work being shit.

What is it you don't like about them OP?

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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To me work is the same as any other part of life, there are people that I get along with, and people that I don't...the only thing is that I have to be in contact with them and be nice to them at work or I get in trouble with HR

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just work. I know lots of people who I can have a good laugh with, get on with in work or out but there are very very few in my life I would be genuinely hurt to loose.

I don't know if it's my natural personality or growing up in a sect that strongly discouraged any friendship with outsiders but I find I just don't form lasting friendships with anyone.

I'm not bothered by this - it doesn't seem to matter really.

Mr

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