FabSwingers.com forum: Kisses from tradesmen

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, I sent a text to a tradesman this evening telling him I'd like him to go ahead with some work he quoted me on.

He messaged me back saying he would order some stuff in and hopefully he can start next week. And he put a kiss at the end of the message. Then I asked a question about the work and he replied with the answer. And another kiss.

His quote was cheaper than the others. And now I think I've got myself into a bit of a pickle. What do you think? Is this a situation?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Little alarm bells would be ringing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean maybe he really likes putting x at the end of the text with girls?

Did he start this?

Also, I recently did have the mover make a move on me after he moved all my things into my new home.

It all started very innocent with him asking me out for coffee.

And he eventually got a bit too obsessive for my likings I just didn’t know how to handle the situation.. so I had to abort it ..

All I’m gonna say, thread carefully

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Little alarm bells would be ringing. "

Yeh, I don't know what to do now. How do I cancel after telling him to go ahead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're overthinking it

You see a x on the end of all sorts of things these days

Most of my female customers sign off their emails with a x

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

Maybe he's a greek dude called Xerxes and that's like his text sig

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By *erb51Man
over a year ago

northants/Blackpool

As a tradesman I've done this by complete accident and felt terrible and embarrassed and didn't do it again even though I received a kiss back. If he's done it twice then probably not a mistake, he might be a bit cheeky trying his luck maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Little alarm bells would be ringing.

Yeh, I don't know what to do now. How do I cancel after telling him to go ahead? "

Have someone with you when he comes to do the work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're overthinking it

You see a x on the end of all sorts of things these days

Most of my female customers sign off their emails with a x "

But before he came to my house and we were organising for him to come and measure and quote, he didn't put kisses. But now he's met me, he's started to put kisses. I'm thinking it's weird.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe he's a greek dude called Xerxes and that's like his text sig"

He signed off Steve before

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

It’s not very professional but I wouldn’t think much of it unless there were other aspects of his behaviour that bothered you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your overthinking it

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By *ale32Man
over a year ago

blackburn

Bricky here xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awkward.

Now you have to suck him off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I've got myself into a bit of a pickle. What do you think? Is this a situation?! "

You really shouldn't have told him you'd prefer him to use the tradesmen's entrance.

You've only got yourself to blame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bricky here xx"

I’m not sure this was a call-out to all tradesman?

Like a dog whistle.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Its inappropriate, and if you are uncomfortable with it then you can say so.

Its unprofessional and overly familiar, I wouldn’t sign off with an x when dealing with anyone especially a client.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're overthinking it

You see a x on the end of all sorts of things these days

Most of my female customers sign off their emails with a x

But before he came to my house and we were organising for him to come and measure and quote, he didn't put kisses. But now he's met me, he's started to put kisses. I'm thinking it's weird. "

Now you've met he probably feels more comfortable around you and is trying to demonstrate a friendly approach to his messages

It doesn't mean he fancies you or will make a move as soon as he's in your house

I doubt he lowered his prices to get in your knickers, it is probably what he charges everyone

If an x on a message makes you uncomfortable, cancel him and go elsewhere

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It would ring alarm bells with me especially if it's a new thing he is doing since he met you. I would either ask to him to stop doing it as you find it uncomfortable and not appropriate or I'd go elsewhere even if I had to pay more.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

My experience that women put way too much stock and thought into the X.

So much so I never add them anymore because if I added one before and then forget the next time it's all out world war 3!!!

Best to play safe and never add them.

Some guys do it automatically out of habit. He could just be friendly and thought you were nice. Might not mean he wants to jump your bones.

I'd say you're overthinking it.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

Just say what’s with the kisses you cheeky fekker!!!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I put kisses at the end of texts to my stop smoking clinic lady, I think you're looking into it way too much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I put kisses at the end of texts to my stop smoking clinic lady, I think you're looking into it way too much x"

Dirty bird….

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I put kisses at the end of texts to my stop smoking clinic lady, I think you're looking into it way too much x

Dirty bird….

I've only spoken to her on the phone but she sounds nice, I might ask her out when she phones tomorrow

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

It’s not professional and not the way to respond to a client but seeing as everything is done by a form of txt nowadays it probably seems natural to him.

If he was quoting you face to face, he wouldn’t say it’ll be £200, I’ll order some bits, then move in to kiss you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're over thinking it by a mile!!

Carry a bottle of perfume around the house while he's there or maybe your keys between your fingers just incase?

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I put kisses on the end of every message sometimes purely out of habit .Maybe people don’t find it so weird as I’m a female .x

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By *rafficvanMan
over a year ago

Middletown

Only a x I've done to to my garden costumes nothing..... Not like its loads of xxx not do it on purpose through

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

UPDATE: the tradesman has texted me to say he's lost the details from the job and can he pop over. No kisses this time but he's started calling me the shortened version of my name which I find a bit over familiar.

How can he lose the details? Is he coming back to try it on?!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Do you have someone who can be there if you tell him to come over?

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

Have a mate there.

Hes what I would call an opportunist.

Or tell him your bf has Covid...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"UPDATE: the tradesman has texted me to say he's lost the details from the job and can he pop over. No kisses this time but he's started calling me the shortened version of my name which I find a bit over familiar.

How can he lose the details? Is he coming back to try it on?! "
if hes lost measurements maybe but maybe your in if he tries it on either enjoy or jab to the throat kick to the nuts should work well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think I'm going to get someone else. It's a bit unprofessional to lose all the details of a job, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm going to get someone else. It's a bit unprofessional to lose all the details of a job, isn't it? "
not great care and attention

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Definitely have someone else there, a male if possible, there if you can.

Though he might just be young and stupid?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Block him. It's all very creepy and definitely unprofessional.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can he lose the details? Is he coming back to try it on?! "

I’d just get another person in to do the work. Someone a bit more organised and doesn’t need to ‘pop over’ to refresh themselves on details of a job.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Mmm have you checked his references? He sounds a bit dodge.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

How can he lose the details? Is he coming back to try it on?! "

Dodgy and unorganised if lost them, just say you've changed your mind about having him do the job

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely have someone else there, a male if possible, there if you can.

Though he might just be young and stupid?"

He's actually quite a bit older than me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm going to find someone else. Thanks everyone!

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