FabSwingers.com forum: How do you look after your mental health?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Time with others?

Time alone?

Exercise?

Mindfulness or meditation?

Heard an interview on BBC Scotland where they were talking about someone who actually meditates on a roller coaster

Genuinely interested to hear what folks do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need both time alone and time with others. Too much alone time and I get drowned by the noise of my head. Too much time with others and I get my energy sucked out so i need balance.

Best way is to find things that I enjoy doing, particularly playing music and being creative.

I’m crap at meditation, I fidget so much it’s unreal, but I tried

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Time alone preferably in the countryside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mixture of time alone and with others , exercise and mindfulness

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I'll tell you when I find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the past not very well.

Since the turn of the year though I’ve found something a lot more positive to help me so now that and the gym.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Time alone. Although that also leads to over thinking, which doesn't help.

I'm not a talker. I bottle it up, place things in boxes on a shelf in the corner of my mind and bimble along aimlessly.

I'm pragmatic. I've done well so far rationalising what's happened in my life and around me.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I do a few things, some work better than others.

I run and go to the gym and I've recently bought a bike.

I make me time every day for a coffee and watch the world go by.

I have a camera that I go out walking with, but I haven't done that for ages because of the pissin rain.

I read every day, sometimes just for 10 minutes other times for a lot longer.

I trying not to bottle things up and say what I think to others, this has come about because of lockdown.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I need both time alone and time with others. Too much alone time and I get drowned by the noise of my head. Too much time with others and I get my energy sucked out so i need balance.

Best way is to find things that I enjoy doing, particularly playing music and being creative.

I’m crap at meditation, I fidget so much it’s unreal, but I tried

I didn't realise how much I enjoyed others' company until the lockdowns. Think the trick is just finding the right people to be around. The ones who don't suck the life out of you.

I'm getting better at the meditation/mindfulness stuff. Recommend the boom Ten to Zen. Doesn't need to feel all "new age" and out there. You can do it in the shower!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

A big breakthrough for me was holding things purely for their own sake, refusing to count lengths in a pool is a really good one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have t9 stay busy time alone with my thoughts is not good for me anymore so iv made myself extremely busy to keep the devil out of my ear with his bad ideas and stoking up my self hatred moments

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Fresh air, exercise, time with friends and occasion mediation via the Calm app

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Time alone. Although that also leads to over thinking, which doesn't help.

I'm not a talker. I bottle it up, place things in boxes on a shelf in the corner of my mind and bimble along aimlessly.

I'm pragmatic. I've done well so far rationalising what's happened in my life and around me."

That's still a way of coping though until you find a better way. We can all be a wee bit too hard on ourselves sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fresh air, exercise, time with friends and occasion mediation via the Calm app

Me feeding you Jaffa cakes up ur bum

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Bit of exercise, mainly metaphorically booting myself up the arse and a spot of putting things in little mental boxes and burying them in brain concrete.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A big breakthrough for me was holding things purely for their own sake, refusing to count lengths in a pool is a really good one "

I can be like that sometimes. If it's not getting 100% then it's not getting done....so nothing gets done. Better just to enjoy the ride sometimes.

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By *aught by natureMan
over a year ago

Kingston

Very badly recently. But im back on my way up. So it's all good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very badly recently. But im back on my way up. So it's all good. "

Glad to hear it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do a few things, some work better than others.

I run and go to the gym and I've recently bought a bike.

I make me time every day for a coffee and watch the world go by.

I have a camera that I go out walking with, but I haven't done that for ages because of the pissin rain.

I read every day, sometimes just for 10 minutes other times for a lot longer.

I trying not to bottle things up and say what I think to others, this has come about because of lockdown. "

Fuck sake.

Check you Yoda

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need both time alone and time with others. Too much alone time and I get drowned by the noise of my head. Too much time with others and I get my energy sucked out so i need balance.

Best way is to find things that I enjoy doing, particularly playing music and being creative.

I’m crap at meditation, I fidget so much it’s unreal, but I tried

I didn't realise how much I enjoyed others' company until the lockdowns. Think the trick is just finding the right people to be around. The ones who don't suck the life out of you.

I'm getting better at the meditation/mindfulness stuff. Recommend the boom Ten to Zen. Doesn't need to feel all "new age" and out there. You can do it in the shower!"

I agree with that, some good people actually can give energy while others suck it out. But I think I’m also one person who really needs SOME time alone. But i enjoy company loads too

And I do it mainly with my yoga teacher and it’s very simple , mostly counting and focusing on certain things. It isn’t easy tho

Especially if your mind is a cluster fuck that thinks 50 different things at once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading, Wordsearches, gardening and my fave, camping.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I soon recognise the signs and I act upon them immediately by talking to my boyfriend and taking myself outdoors for exercise, whether a short walk or a long run.

NBVN x

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Fresh air, exercise, time with friends and occasion mediation via the Calm app

Me feeding you Jaffa cakes up ur bum

I need therapy

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By *ustlooking900Man
over a year ago

Donegal

Struggling to at the minute everything is building up but I'll get there exercise was always my go to thing but can't train the last few years unfortunately

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

Balance.

Solitude, excursions, activity, socialising.

Anything but worry.

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By *aught by natureMan
over a year ago

Kingston

"Very badly recently. But im back on my way up. So it's all good.

Glad to hear it."

Thanks. I tend to go into self destruct mode which eventually leads me into a dark place. I can see the signs now, although things went particularly wonky a couple of months ago.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I soon recognise the signs and I act upon them immediately by talking to my boyfriend and taking myself outdoors for exercise, whether a short walk or a long run.

NBVN x"

At the risk of sounding like I've disappeared it my own bumhole....it's quite empowering when you realise you can recognise the signs and act on them, isn't it.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I get offline, read my books, get outdoors and spend some quiet time alone with my dogs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not going to lie currently struggling a little with my mh but I know I'm OK as I'm aware I'm not finding it easy.

The last few days I've been focusing on spending time in the garden pottering. The fresh air , the exercise, the sense of achievement when I've done something helps.

It got me through lockdowns and will help me again, I just need the wear to be kind

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I eat well

I sleep well

I laugh a lot

I find joy in the ordinary

I don't spend any more time than I need to with people who sap the life out of me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very badly recently. But im back on my way up. So it's all good.

Glad to hear it.

Thanks. I tend to go into self destruct mode which eventually leads me into a dark place. I can see the signs now, although things went particularly wonky a couple of months ago. "

Keep at it Mr.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I eat well

I sleep well

I laugh a lot

I find joy in the ordinary

I don't spend any more time than I need to with people who sap the life out of me "

You always were sensible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Balance.

Solitude, excursions, activity, socialising.

Anything but worry."

Wise words here I do exactly the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for a walk, go to the gym, try to find what got me in the rut and think of ways to change it and starting small

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

Work is good for me. And driving. I feel relaxed and can switch off and listen to music.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I shoot barebow archery 3 times a week it pushes all thoughts from my mind and gives me focus and I send a lot of time either on the beach or in the fores sitting eyes closed just listening

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

Excercise to get the endorphins pumping.

Some solitude not too much. Some time with friends and family, again not too much.

Not spending too much time watching news, surfing net, social media and fabbing…

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

First step is to recognise that I'm not OK. And allow myself to not be. Fuck knows I'm not ok most of the time to be honest.

Second is to try and do something, just to try and unfreeze my brain. Maybe going to the gym or a project or something.

Third is to be kind to myself, not let negative self talk get too much. Just keep shuffling through and maybe tomorrow it will be better.

It never is.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

"I need both time alone and time with others. Too much alone time and I get drowned by the noise of my head. Too much time with others and I get my energy sucked out so i need balance.

Best way is to find things that I enjoy doing, particularly playing music and being creative.

I’m crap at meditation, I fidget so much it’s unreal, but I tried

Do you suffer from tinnitus?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to go to the gym to clear my mind. I’m also starting to go out with friends a bit more often and I’m finding that I’m a lot happier.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"Time with others?

Time alone?

Exercise?

Mindfulness or meditation?

Heard an interview on BBC Scotland where they were talking about someone who actually meditates on a roller coaster

Genuinely interested to hear what folks do.

Fire away

Best thing I ever did for my mental health and my life in general, was to give up alcohol.

Everything else got a whole lot easier after that.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

"Time with others?

Time alone?

Exercise?

Mindfulness or meditation?

Heard an interview on BBC Scotland where they were talking about someone who actually meditates on a roller coaster

Genuinely interested to hear what folks do.

Fire away

Yes all the above (my exercise of choice is yoga) and medication and talking therapy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you be more specific on mental health.? Have a friend who deals with mental health issues and the majority of the people she sees are experiencing what is know as simply life situations. So please be more specific. I take life situations as they come, death in the family equals sadness and not depression as often bounded around, family party equals happiness. With whole lot of situations in between.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exercise and making time to do things that I like. Taking breaks from my phone. Spending time in nature. I like to socialise a lot too.

I'm going to switch my phone off now and snuggle up in bed with a book that I'm really enjoying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"First step is to recognise that I'm not OK. And allow myself to not be. Fuck knows I'm not ok most of the time to be honest.

Second is to try and do something, just to try and unfreeze my brain. Maybe going to the gym or a project or something.

Third is to be kind to myself, not let negative self talk get too much. Just keep shuffling through and maybe tomorrow it will be better.

It never is."

A cliché, I know, but you get another day to try at least.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I need both time alone and time with others. Too much alone time and I get drowned by the noise of my head. Too much time with others and I get my energy sucked out so i need balance.

Best way is to find things that I enjoy doing, particularly playing music and being creative.

I’m crap at meditation, I fidget so much it’s unreal, but I tried

Meditation can be quite dangerous if you struggle with mental wellbeing, it’s best avoided. Simple mindfulness / being present and practising gratitude is a much better option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, I keep a gratitude journal.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"Time with others?

Time alone?

Exercise?

Mindfulness or meditation?

Heard an interview on BBC Scotland where they were talking about someone who actually meditates on a roller coaster

Genuinely interested to hear what folks do.

Fire away

1. Thinking positively as much as possible

2. Learning to avoid/block the deep black sea of timewasters on here

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Time alone to reevaluate and use an distraction something that I'd either enjoy doing or not but grows to enjoy which i end up learning something new

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

I don’t really.

I just do stuff I like when I can and get on with everything.

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Time away from fab can actually be quite rejuvenating. This site continually reminds me of my insignificant size, which is really important to women for sex, and it can be pretty depressing.

Detaching from the phone/social media can be very helpful otherwise

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"Time alone. Although that also leads to over thinking, which doesn't help.

I'm not a talker. I bottle it up, place things in boxes on a shelf in the corner of my mind and bimble along aimlessly.

I'm pragmatic. I've done well so far rationalising what's happened in my life and around me.

That's still a way of coping though until you find a better way. We can all be a wee bit too hard on ourselves sometimes."

Do I need a better way? If it ain't broke and all that schnizzle

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"I do a few things, some work better than others.

I run and go to the gym and I've recently bought a bike.

I make me time every day for a coffee and watch the world go by.

I have a camera that I go out walking with, but I haven't done that for ages because of the pissin rain.

I read every day, sometimes just for 10 minutes other times for a lot longer.

I trying not to bottle things up and say what I think to others, this has come about because of lockdown.

Fuck sake.

Check you Yoda

Well we are both small.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can you be more specific on mental health.? Have a friend who deals with mental health issues and the majority of the people she sees are experiencing what is know as simply life situations. So please be more specific. I take life situations as they come, death in the family equals sadness and not depression as often bounded around, family party equals happiness. With whole lot of situations in between. "

By mental health, I mean how people look after their mind and emotions, in the sane way that someone can post on here asking about how to improve their physical health.

Mental health automatically conjures up negative connotations but every has it. In the same way we all have physical health.

I get what you're saying about "simple life situations". But if people are now looking for professional help for situations and life events that were once deemed normal or taken for granted, then something in our lives and society must have changed quite significantly.

You're lucky to have the outlook you have and I genuinely mean that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fresh air, exercise, time with friends and occasion mediation via the Calm app

Me feeding you Jaffa cakes up ur bum

I need therapy

When are you coming to Landaaan

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Time away from fab can actually be quite rejuvenating. This site continually reminds me of my insignificant size, which is really important to women for sex, and it can be pretty depressing.

Detaching from the phone/social media can be very helpful otherwise"

If anyone directly comments on your dick size tell them to "get to fuck", no holds barred. Your insecurities are possibly just that...your insecurities. Some want a raging massive boabie. But most women on here want a personality and a guy who's confident in his own skin. That goes a long way

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Walking. Long walks away from anybody. Need some time to think things through

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Walking. Long walks away from anybody. Need some time to think things through

And a pint of fresh milk

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Walking. Long walks away from anybody. Need some time to think things through

And a pint of fresh milk

If you're offering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Combination of exercise, some time with family and friends. I am also lucky enough to work in a creative industry which is my form of mindfulness.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

Citalopram and music

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Citalopram and music

If it ain't broke!

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"Citalopram and music

If it ain't broke!

Exactly

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

" If anyone directly comments on your dick size tell them to "get to fuck", no holds barred. Your insecurities are possibly just that...your insecurities. Some want a raging massive boabie. But most women on here want a personality and a guy who's confident in his own skin. That goes a long way

Considering most profiles have "Hung Only" painted across them, that's not likely what they want. Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By mental health, I mean how people look after their mind and emotions, in the sane way that someone can post on here asking about how to improve their physical health.

Mental health automatically conjures up negative connotations but every has it. In the same way we all have physical health.

You're lucky to have the outlook you have and I genuinely mean that."

I get what your saying and I'm not thinking negative of it , I asked a guy in the work just yesterday if he was OK as he looked tired and fucked right at the start of the shift and he said he was fine, clearly he wasn't fine and I get it he's not alone but I also think it's a get out of jail card for GPS to palm off natural life feelings and experiences as a mental health issue and pass it onto hard stretched services that are struggling to deal with the more serious cases. I googled what is classed as a possible mental health issue and I don't meet the normal standard definition as shown on quote a few different websites and I wonder how many above on this thread are the same. Its like a comfort blanket now for GPS , oh it's depression I'll schedule you a therapist. Just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Considering most profiles have "Hung Only" painted across them, that's not likely what they want. Haha"

There are just as many who don't put as big an emphasis on this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

By mental health, I mean how people look after their mind and emotions, in the sane way that someone can post on here asking about how to improve their physical health.

Mental health automatically conjures up negative connotations but every has it. In the same way we all have physical health.

You're lucky to have the outlook you have and I genuinely mean that.

Mind me not to message you when I'm feeling shite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Combination of exercise, some time with family and friends. I am also lucky enough to work in a creative industry which is my form of mindfulness."
can you explain, sounds to me you enjoy the gym , enjoy your family and your job. Your happy with your life, what's that got to do with mental health. ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently started doing poi again, sucked for a couple of days but now I’m flowing it feels good especially now the sun is coming out and I can spin in the warmth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone that’s let my mental health get bad a wile back I now focus on small things that make me happy, I’ve noticed it really helps to spend time with other people doing something it and when I want alone time I put on my Xbox and play some games, I know it’s nothing wile but I have found it’s really helped me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By mental health, I mean how people look after their mind and emotions, in the sane way that someone can post on here asking about how to improve their physical health.

Mental health automatically conjures up negative connotations but every has it. In the same way we all have physical health.

You're lucky to have the outlook you have and I genuinely mean that.

Mind me not to message you when I'm feeling shite

Tell your GP, Love to be a fly on the wall with you and a therapist, the therapist would need a therapist after meeting you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

By mental health, I mean how people look after their mind and emotions, in the sane way that someone can post on here asking about how to improve their physical health.

Mental health automatically conjures up negative connotations but every has it. In the same way we all have physical health.

You're lucky to have the outlook you have and I genuinely mean that.

Mind me not to message you when I'm feeling shite

Tell your GP, Love to be a fly on the wall with you and a therapist, the therapist would need a therapist after meeting you.

Probably spot on there to be fair

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

"Citalopram and music

Hugs!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Combination of exercise, some time with family and friends. I am also lucky enough to work in a creative industry which is my form of mindfulness. can you explain, sounds to me you enjoy the gym , enjoy your family and your job. Your happy with your life, what's that got to do with mental health. ? "

Fuck sake Sigmund....gonnae fuck off and stop spoiling my thread!

Let folk speak without grilling them.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Inner trauma healing and emotional literacy.

Plus gardening, walking, spending time with family and friends and a good amount of alone time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not very well at the moment too many triggers

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I just cope. But its significantly better these days. Gone are the days of suicidal feelings and abject misery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck sake Sigmund....gonnae fuck off and stop spoiling my thread!

Let folk speak without grilling them."

I diagnose anger issues.

congratulations you've found a sign.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

Mental health problems/depression very often don’t have a reason.

That kind of comment is why people won’t talk about it - ‘well you have this and that and good job etc, what reason do you have to feel rubbish?’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get regular fresh air.

Write “to do” lists and goals, for organising mind.

Count my blessings.

Turn off digital/phones.

Stop drinking alcohol.

Just be outside in nature

Do something good to your body daily (exercise it vigorously, feed it healthy food, teach it something).

Eat home made biscuits.

Your profile is very good, OP X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get regular fresh air.

Write “to do” lists and goals, for organising mind.

Count my blessings.

Turn off digital/phones.

Stop drinking alcohol.

Just be outside in nature

Do something good to your body daily (exercise it vigorously, feed it healthy food, teach it something).

Eat home made biscuits.

Your profile is very good, OP X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Writing. That saves me. I have a folder in my notes called ‘writing to stay sane’ where I keep poems/ stories/ rants/ letters/ ramblings. It’s really useful.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Yoga and meditation most weeks and I find swimming very relaxing when I can.

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over a year ago

I bit of both, time alone and time with others. A good balance of the two can sometimes help. I'm a writer, I like to write down my thoughts and feelings. I've done that for years and it gets everything out of my head. Meditation helps too and so does getting out for a walk as it clears my head too x

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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago

North West, Outer Letterkenny area

Keeping a diary for years now. But to be honest it just shows not much has changed. Letting go of things and trying to feel the pain or void and learning as much as possible. Still haven't got it figured out. Never will. But incremental getting by does the trick.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

For me I like to be busy. I find cooking calming, although I do miss the sharing aspect of food. (I suppose one good thing about a meet with me is I will probably cook you dinner). I enjoy challenging myself, especially with training. Headphones in, I can de-stress easily.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Multifactorially: a busy daily schedule; exercise regime-walking; decisive problem-solving; lots of high quality sleep; no alcohol or tobacco; good quality food and the ability to forget past mistakes, indiscretions and disappointments.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Depends what mood I am in.

Go out on the bike and get some miles in my legs, I usually find it helps to get a lot of aggression out of me.

Go play airsoft or paintball, as shooting people can be very therapeutic.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore all warning signs and crack on with work.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lifting heavy things in the gym

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay single

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough

"I need both time alone and time with others. Too much alone time and I get drowned by the noise of my head. Too much time with others and I get my energy sucked out so i need balance.

Best way is to find things that I enjoy doing, particularly playing music and being creative.

I’m crap at meditation, I fidget so much it’s unreal, but I tried

this. However, I fall asleep when I try to meditate!

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

Gym and sports mainly, but on bad days can actually make it worse - getting annoyed/down I'm not doing enough etc. But the doggo is pure joy!

I need to do better; definitely better at looking after my physical health than mental. Can now access Headspace through work - anyone used it? Recommended?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By going to the gym, I've also started reading again.

Nikki x

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm not doing too well at the moment with anxiety and tears.

I tell myself the small problems building up will be dealt with one by one, and I'll feel better.

I'm trying to cut down the Lucozade consumption as it isn't helping.

I try to go out most days, even for a short walk to the shops.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Very basic but the birds singing in the trees outside my house cheer me up.

I was watching a robin today and it dive bombed my daughter who was digging up s in my garden.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Mindfulness and meditation with yoga and tai chi incorporated

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

"Time with others?

Time alone?

Exercise?

Mindfulness or meditation?

Heard an interview on BBC Scotland where they were talking about someone who actually meditates on a roller coaster

Genuinely interested to hear what folks do.

Fire away

Not opening up or expressing my struggles on these God forsaken forums anymore, so that people like yourself won't be able to judge me and impulsively tell me to "man up" or "grow up", without knowing me or understanding my struggles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cycling oZo

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By *ivek68Man
over a year ago

york

Stay of the drink helped alot. The odd pint with friends but don't go silly

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Time with others?

Time alone?

Exercise?

Mindfulness or meditation?

Heard an interview on BBC Scotland where they were talking about someone who actually meditates on a roller coaster

Genuinely interested to hear what folks do.

Fire away

I have not been following this but seriously hope that nobody said to anyone to man up. That to me would be a despicable response to someone expressing the fact they are struggling. As I said, I am not sure what it refers to but I would hope that most people on here would not judge but comfort and share what they do to cope.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Time with others?

Time alone?

Exercise?

Mindfulness or meditation?

Heard an interview on BBC Scotland where they were talking about someone who actually meditates on a roller coaster

Genuinely interested to hear what folks do.

Fire away

I wouldn't ever say that if someone was trying to open up about their mental health.

Think the only time I've told a guy to man up on here was when he was being a total dick after being knocked back by a woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I'm in low mood, I tend to spend a lot of time walking, with or without the dogs. I don't like to interact too much with others when like this. Simple breathing exercises while trying to observe thoughts that arise.

Past few months have been a bit of a struggle as seem to have gotten into a bit of a hole, but managing it pretty well for now.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

A couple of years ago my gf told me to man up a week or so after we split up. I was during lockdown and my last family member had died about 6 weeks before and my daughter was struggling with Long Covid.

I had been thinking we would get back together but when she sent that message her erse was history.

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Badly, at the moment.

I try to do little things that help it, but in all honesty it needs some serious work. I can gloss over it most of the time and act like nothing is wrong, but it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mix between time alone and in others company. Going for walks with music on and the fresh air helps me as well when the mood gets low.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A couple of years ago my gf told me to man up a week or so after we split up. I was during lockdown and my last family member had died about 6 weeks before and my daughter was struggling with Long Covid.

I had been thinking we would get back together but when she sent that message her erse was history. "

Quite right too.

"Bolt hen!".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to the gym, submerge myself in work, I love going into the hills or the woods and just surrounding myself with calm. Sitting on the beach or just having a cuddle, a mindless, endless cuddle.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I had been thinking we would get back together but when she sent that message her erse was history.

Quite right too.

"Bolt hen!"."

Yip. That was after we had been chatting about MH in general a few weeks before and I told her it was a horrible saying.

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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago

Sent to Coventry

I’m training as a mental health first aider.

It’s fascinating and as well as giving you the ability to help others with mental health issues, it also helps you to help yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Currently my usual ways are out of bounds so using music and painting to help with mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay off social media.

Don't compare yourself to others.

Treat yourself as though you're someone you're responsible for looking after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over the weekend. I don’t wear my Apple Watch. Have DnD turned on perpetually and stay away from emails.

I spend my time cooking, baking and with actual friends, not work friends or acquaintances.

Do keep a journal next to me at all times so I can mind-vomit into it and scratch out ideas. Spend a few minutes in the day reading whatever book I’m carrying at that time.

Those are a few things I do in a week to look after my mental health.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Go for a walk or read in the garden.

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