FabSwingers.com forum: Touching others ….

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is a question for both sexes.

Are you ok with being touched by someone?

Does it make a difference if it’s by someone who’s a different sex?

Does it matter where on your body?

If you don’t like it, do you say something….

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not just sexually, could be a hand on your back/bum/arm - anything ….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont mind either...guys are a back slap usually and girls are.usually more gentle in non sexual spots

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t let random strangers touch me and if they do they get some lip.

I don’t mind hugs from those I know and like.

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

J is straight but don’t mind touching tips to get the job done

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By *ovebjsMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"Not just sexually, could be a hand on your back/bum/arm - anything …."

I go out of my way to give others as much space as I can when in close proximity.

I have to work in environments where there are a lot of young females and always ask before invading their space to do something.

I would never assume that it was ok to make contact with anyone without permission

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Unless it's someone I know well, in most cases it's not something I'd appreciate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy to be touched. If I see either male or female friends they're always greeted with a hug

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

Im pretty touchy-feely so yes from me for non-sexual, friendly touching x

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’m a tactile person and I do try and keep my hands to myself especially as my kid is very touch averse and flinches if I even gently touch on the shoulder.

I’m deaf so I am sometimes grateful for a gentle touch on the arm get my attention. Some people are handsy but if this turns to a cheeky grope I will verbally indicate that this is unwelcome. Often though I’m not very gentle about it as I will be quite blunt.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I’m a tactile person so I’m generally happy with it, although I do actually often feel uncomfortable if a female touches me when I’m not really friends with them.

I’m also very awkward with the old kiss on the cheek thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not just sexually, could be a hand on your back/bum/arm - anything ….

I go out of my way to give others as much space as I can when in close proximity.

I have to work in environments where there are a lot of young females and always ask before invading their space to do something.

I would never assume that it was ok to make contact with anyone without permission

Love your answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unless it's someone I know well, in most cases it's not something I'd appreciate "

I’m with you. Do you do/say anything?

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

I am fine with either gender touching my shoulders or arms, so long as it is not a caress (or lingering touch), anywhere else would make me feel uncomfortable if a stranger touched me.

People that I know and care for is a different matter, I am a very physically affectionate person, and love giving and receiving physical touch as a way of connection and affirmation of our relationship (be that friendship or more)

MJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends really on who and the situation example the customer who tried to help me take a piss was not appreciated

but generally i like to touch and be touched

Touch list neck back and nails gently scraped on my head will literally make me shake my leg like a dogs magic spot

Do not touch my ears with fingers tho or il bite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don’t like it. I had a colleague at work kiss me on the cheek once because I helped her with something and it made so uncomfortable. Didn’t say anything because just felt like it would cause more problems than it was worth.

Hate being touched anywhere by anyone unless we’re friends or it’s understood we are heading towards something physical.

Not sure where it comes from because I’m extremely touchy feely with people I’m in relationships with.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I'm not okay with it, unless it's some body that I know well enough. And I certainly do not touch others.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I'm very handsy and huggy with people I am familiar with. with new introductions it's the open armed smile pause first before enveloping them, so a no can be said.

However all contact is to be taken as non sexually though, as it's in the friendzone that I like to play in public. Sexually is for behind closed doors

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Not just sexually, could be a hand on your back/bum/arm - anything …."

Personally I would consider bum to be sexual and I also feel that small of the back can be verging on that territory. Personally I don't mind places like arms, shoulders or upper back. I tend to have more issues with people who get uncomfortably close and my leaning or stepping back is sometimes met with them just moving closer again. I have to admit I'm not always very good at saying something as I'm trying to be polite. If someone touched my bum, boobs or face when it was unwanted I would say something though. I'll also say something if people hang off my shoulders as it makes me feel claustrophobic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like to put my hands on peoples shoulders and say

Youuuuu are my number 1 guuuy

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

"Not just sexually, could be a hand on your back/bum/arm - anything …."

All game really, the swingers handshake isn’t it ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not just sexually, could be a hand on your back/bum/arm - anything ….

This is exactly how I feel. It makes me really uncomfortable, but it’s hard to say, with a stranger isn’t it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind hugs and random touches from friends but what annoys me is when strangers give my trouser bulge a touch or squeeze, is worse on the tube or at the gym, I now know how pregnant women feel when people automatically think they can touch their bump!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not just sexually, could be a hand on your back/bum/arm - anything ….

All game really, the swingers handshake isn’t it ?

So, if you met a swinger socially, would you do that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not great at being touched...I dont mind a hug greeting etc but on the whole I'm a no touching zone.

Someone ruffled my hair at the weekend and I nearly growled at him

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Unless it's someone I know well, in most cases it's not something I'd appreciate

I’m with you. Do you do/say anything? "

I'd like to think that I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not okay with it, unless it's some body that I know well enough. And I certainly do not touch others."

Same

Don’t touch me, I will say something about it too

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

No not really unless it’s someone I know. I don’t even like people getting too close to me when they’re talking. Back off!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unless it's someone I know well, in most cases it's not something I'd appreciate

I’m with you. Do you do/say anything?

I'd like to think that I would "

I’d like to think that I would too, but actually it can be awkward, and I’m not sure I always do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, if it’s someone I like. Then he can touch me as much as he likes. I love contact and yes, even have my bum smacked or felt when I’m trying to do other stuff.

But that’s where it sort of ends. Generally, I do hate when people touch me, u ever had those who try touch when they speak to you?

Maybe cos they are half d*unk. Like no,

Get

Away.

I feel very much like a cat

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I'm very handsy and huggy with people I am familiar with. with new introductions it's the open armed smile pause first before enveloping them, so a no can be said.

However all contact is to be taken as non sexually though, as it's in the friendzone that I like to play in public. Sexually is for behind closed doors

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So, if it’s someone I like. Then he can touch me as much as he likes. I love contact and yes, even have my bum smacked or felt when I’m trying to do other stuff.

But that’s where it sort of ends. Generally, I do hate when people touch me, u ever had those who try touch when they speak to you?

Maybe cos they are half d*unk. Like no,

Get

Away.

I feel very much like a cat

Yes to all this. Hmmm, maybe I’m channeling my inner cat too (miaow)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not comfortable touching or being touched by anyone I don't know and pretty much the same for anyone I do know. I don't see the need for me to ever touch anyones bum, leg, arm, head etc without consent. I would expect the same courtesy from others.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Unless it's someone I know well, in most cases it's not something I'd appreciate

I’m with you. Do you do/say anything?

I'd like to think that I would

I’d like to think that I would too, but actually it can be awkward, and I’m not sure I always do

I can't recall it happening

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

"Not just sexually, could be a hand on your back/bum/arm - anything ….

All game really, the swingers handshake isn’t it ?

So, if you met a swinger socially, would you do that? "

I gave the guy a hug when we left a social meet last weekend and mid week we had an MMF and I was on the ropes so had to edge , I leaned forward and grabbed to dudes shoulder to fight back the climax, he fist pumped me after when I said cheers, but I guess if he had got upset I’d have just apologised, I do t get hung up on these things. Though this thread has showed me I should probably think before being handsy , I’m very tactile by nature so I don’t give a second thought of a hand on someone’s shoulder to get that sweet angle. Thanks for the heads up other posters

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

I’m really tactile so am completely comfortable with it! Bring on the hugs & kisses

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Not comfortable touching or being touched by anyone I don't know and pretty much the same for anyone I do know. I don't see the need for me to ever touch anyones bum, leg, arm, head etc without consent. I would expect the same courtesy from others. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

I like my personal space. I have some friends that are

that annoying hug type, I'm not a fan but I wouldn't tell them to get off. I just grimace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not just sexually, could be a hand on your back/bum/arm - anything ….

I go out of my way to give others as much space as I can when in close proximity.

I have to work in environments where there are a lot of young females and always ask before invading their space to do something.

I would never assume that it was ok to make contact with anyone without permission

Love your answer

Great answer...one of my clients is a womens fashion brand with a lot of young women....they are friendly..but keep my distance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Touch me, touch me now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don’t think you should touch anyone you don’t know or not friends/close with, its stepping over the line in my eyes.

It’s completely different if you are friends and on that level with them, but not someone you’ve just met or don’t know.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"This is a question for both sexes.

Are you ok with being touched by someone?

Does it make a difference if it’s by someone who’s a different sex?

Does it matter where on your body?

If you don’t like it, do you say something…."

Lol we love it, Cherry both sexes, Tony depends as not fully bi...

We love being tactile with others during long, unrushed meets. At one, Tony was sat with the lady and very slowly moved in while chatting. A gentle touch on her hand, stroking her arms, shoulder and leg with feathery touches, then her finally her cheek. This went on for an hour or so when Tony just had to say something as she was sat there frozen like a stone statue !?. "Is this ok ?, should I stop ?"... to which she desperately replied after taking a deep breath "OH GOD NO DON'T STOP !!". Yes her partner was NOT tactile or gentle and she absolutely loved and craved such affection...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m really tactile with friends although have friends who aren’t and respect that. But random strangers or work colleagues coming too close makes me very uncomfortable, and sometimes I’ll even recoil if someone sits next to me on the train.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don’t like it. I had a colleague at work kiss me on the cheek once because I helped her with something and it made so uncomfortable. Didn’t say anything because just felt like it would cause more problems than it was worth.

Hate being touched anywhere by anyone unless we’re friends or it’s understood we are heading towards something physical.

Not sure where it comes from because I’m extremely touchy feely with people I’m in relationships with. "

Same with all this.

We have huggy people at work who think it's funny that I don't want a hug from them and they do it anyway.

Oh how I laugh. Not.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I used to be fairly tactile with friends and family and to some extent I still am. Work is a different matter and it would leave me open to so many conciquences that it has impacted on me touching friends and family.

Although I do still shake hands and kiss F&F when I meet them.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I'm very tactile, so welcome physical contact from others...what and where is acceptable depends on the people and situation. I always shake hands when meeting new people at work, and friends always get a hug and/or kiss. I do also have a tendency to touch arms or hands during a conversation.

Occasionally though, there are people that just give me the creeps, but my body language will usually tell them that they shouldn't touch me...and if they do I have no qualms about asking them not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I don’t think you should touch anyone you don’t know or not friends/close with, its stepping over the line in my eyes.

It’s completely different if you are friends and on that level with them, but not someone you’ve just met or don’t know."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is a question for both sexes.

Are you ok with being touched by someone?

Does it make a difference if it’s by someone who’s a different sex?

Does it matter where on your body?

If you don’t like it, do you say something….

Lol we love it, Cherry both sexes, Tony depends as not fully bi...

It wasn’t referring to meets so much. More when you meet people socially, whether in a swinger environment or not.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

OOOh, quite a touchy subject(no pun intended). I suppose it depends on the circumstances, if it is in company you are familiar with or have been chatting with and getting on well then I suppose a soft touch "not a full on grope" should be seen as a form of affection, I am comfortable with being touched and quite like it as I see it as a form of affection not an intrusion. That said I never touch anyone I'm meeting either socially or for more without first asking as I am nervous of how it would be received. It is so easy to missread how comfortable someone is with you so I think the safe option is to ask or if you are touched first it is a sign you may touch back hopefully. I remember on a social meet once the lady got out of the car, stood in front of me very close but I still felt the need to ask to touch, it went quite well, ladies still like to encounter a gent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hate being touched anywhere by anyone unless we’re friends or it’s understood we are heading towards something physical.

Not sure where it comes from because I’m extremely touchy feely with people I’m in relationships with.

Same with all this.

We have huggy people at work who think it's funny that I don't want a hug from them and they do it anyway.

Oh how I laugh. Not. "

Urgh. I hate that, so disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OOOh, quite a touchy subject(no pun intended). I suppose it depends on the circumstances, if it is in company you are familiar with or have been chatting with and getting on well then I suppose a soft touch "not a full on grope" should be seen as a form of affection, I am comfortable with being touched and quite like it as I see it as a form of affection not an intrusion. That said I never touch anyone I'm meeting either socially or for more without first asking as I am nervous of how it would be received. It is so easy to missread how comfortable someone is with you so I think the safe option is to ask or if you are touched first it is a sign you may touch back hopefully. I remember on a social meet once the lady got out of the car, stood in front of me very close but I still felt the need to ask to touch, it went quite well, ladies still like to encounter a gent."

More people should think like this

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

It depends on the person and my perception of them. Generally, don’t touch me but if I like you on a human level i generally let it slide as I know it’s in good spirits

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Anything more than a handshake then I'd need to know them at least a little bit

I'm not a fan of the literal "good job" pat on the back though, it just feels condescending for some reason.

LvM

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon

Touch is hugely arousing and comforting for me, I’m a massage therapist so it’s a daily occurrence. It never feels like work for me as I enjoy even the clinical approach to relieve and release someone. But in a more intimate setting it’s very primal for me ranging from delicate and gentle touches up to intense and strong.

Being straight I’d say having a man touch me doesn’t excite the senses in the same way. But in a professional manner I’ve had some very good massages from men too that left me totally relaxed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends on the person and my perception of them. Generally, don’t touch me but if I like you on a human level i generally let it slide as I know it’s in good spirits

Where do you stand on being fed cake? asking for a friend?

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I think it's usually obvious when it's a friendly touch or something else. Some people are just naturally warm and friendly. This old lady, a neighbour, always holds my arm when she is chatting. It's just an endearment thing ( unless she is feeling unsteady and needs to hold on to something). There are boundaries of decency that should never be crossed and also important not to make anyone else uncomfortableif its not their thing. Different cultures also have different traditions like when you greet and kiss on one or both cheeks once or more. Its not one size fits all kind of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body language is very important with physical contact. It can either reinforce that connection or is to push someone away.

If someone touches me that we both have open body language then I’m good with that but if it’s closed then it’s not welcomed

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Not a touchy feely person and don’t invade peoples space but don’t mind being touched.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate being touched anywhere by anyone unless we’re friends or it’s understood we are heading towards something physical.

Not sure where it comes from because I’m extremely touchy feely with people I’m in relationships with.

Same with all this.

We have huggy people at work who think it's funny that I don't want a hug from them and they do it anyway.

Oh how I laugh. Not.

Urgh. I hate that, so disrespectful

The fact that they laugh about it and make a big show of how 'frigid' I am to not want them touching me, makes it worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's usually obvious when it's a friendly touch or something else. Some people are just naturally warm and friendly. This old lady, a neighbour, always holds my arm when she is chatting. It's just an endearment thing ( unless she is feeling unsteady and needs to hold on to something). There are boundaries of decency that should never be crossed and also important not to make anyone else uncomfortableif its not their thing. Different cultures also have different traditions like when you greet and kiss on one or both cheeks once or more. Its not one size fits all kind of thing. "

I happily hug my friends when I want to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hate being touched anywhere by anyone unless we’re friends or it’s understood we are heading towards something physical.

Not sure where it comes from because I’m extremely touchy feely with people I’m in relationships with.

Same with all this.

We have huggy people at work who think it's funny that I don't want a hug from them and they do it anyway.

Oh how I laugh. Not.

Urgh. I hate that, so disrespectful

The fact that they laugh about it and make a big show of how 'frigid' I am to not want them touching me, makes it worse.

That’s really awful, I’m so sorry

. I absolutely get how you feel.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Anything more than a handshake then I'd need to know them at least a little bit

I'm not a fan of the literal "good job" pat on the back though, it just feels condescending for some reason.

LvM"

What about sticking a dildo in your ear?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate being touched anywhere by anyone unless we’re friends or it’s understood we are heading towards something physical.

Not sure where it comes from because I’m extremely touchy feely with people I’m in relationships with.

Same with all this.

We have huggy people at work who think it's funny that I don't want a hug from them and they do it anyway.

Oh how I laugh. Not.

Urgh. I hate that, so disrespectful

The fact that they laugh about it and make a big show of how 'frigid' I am to not want them touching me, makes it worse.

Oh this is awful. I hate that you have to deal with this

lots of love

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m also very tactile with people I know well. I love hugging, touching, stroking etc.

The issue is when it’s people I don’t know.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I don't mind being touched! I'm a very touchy Feely person! Was a bit taken aback at a group social I went to a few weeks back when a man I didn't know put his had up my dress!

but actually I liked it

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"Anything more than a handshake then I'd need to know them at least a little bit

I'm not a fan of the literal "good job" pat on the back though, it just feels condescending for some reason.

LvM

What about sticking a dildo in your ear? "

As long as it's evened out by a second in the other ear then I'm good

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't mind being touched! I'm a very touchy Feely person! Was a bit taken aback at a group social I went to a few weeks back when a man I didn't know put his had up my dress!

but actually I liked it

No way, that’s awful though

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Anything more than a handshake then I'd need to know them at least a little bit

I'm not a fan of the literal "good job" pat on the back though, it just feels condescending for some reason.

LvM

What about sticking a dildo in your ear?

As long as it's evened out by a second in the other ear then I'm good

LvM"

Balance

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

It depends on the context, if someone's passing me in a narrow gap and the put their hand on my back I have no issue

But you'll find others that will stand to close, touch and linger and that's just sleazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate being touched anywhere by anyone unless we’re friends or it’s understood we are heading towards something physical.

Not sure where it comes from because I’m extremely touchy feely with people I’m in relationships with.

Same with all this.

We have huggy people at work who think it's funny that I don't want a hug from them and they do it anyway.

Oh how I laugh. Not.

Urgh. I hate that, so disrespectful

The fact that they laugh about it and make a big show of how 'frigid' I am to not want them touching me, makes it worse.

Oh this is awful. I hate that you have to deal with this

lots of love

They don't do it all the time. I have a face like a slapped arse so they avoid even speaking to me now...

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I don't mind being touched! I'm a very touchy Feely person! Was a bit taken aback at a group social I went to a few weeks back when a man I didn't know put his had up my dress!

but actually I liked it

No way, that’s awful though

Actually was quite nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind being touched! I'm a very touchy Feely person! Was a bit taken aback at a group social I went to a few weeks back when a man I didn't know put his had up my dress!

but actually I liked it

That’s horrible, I’d have punched his lights out!

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over a year ago

"I don't mind being touched! I'm a very touchy Feely person! Was a bit taken aback at a group social I went to a few weeks back when a man I didn't know put his had up my dress!

but actually I liked it

No way, that’s awful though

Actually was quite nice

I would have found that very distressing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d prefer it if they didn’t.

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By *itofamouthfullMan
over a year ago

cotswolds/herefordshire

I cannot stand anyone in any context touching me at the bottom of my sternum it completely freaks me out,don’t know why- even the thought of it know makes me feel funny

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I don't mind being touched! I'm a very touchy Feely person! Was a bit taken aback at a group social I went to a few weeks back when a man I didn't know put his had up my dress!

but actually I liked it

That’s horrible, I’d have punched his lights out! "

I would have told him if it offended me b sure of it x

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I am a very tactical person and have to be mindful when I’m chatting to new people.

In a club environment I always ask permission and expect the same in return.

Always say if I’m feeling overcrowded and politely ask the voyeurs to take a step back.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

I like my personal space, so no, prefer not to be touched. Unless it's someone I know/someone who has my permission to touch me.

I really hate it in swingers clubs when some men think a woman is fair game because she's in the club herself. Had a situation very recently when a guy was trying to talk to me in the pool but he couldn't just talk, he had to touch me, too. Granted, it was "just" my arm, but it was enough to put me off.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

In general I think strangers of opposite sex shouldn’t touch eachother

And if you fancy someone of the same sex and don’t know them, that applies too

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By *onyropeukMan
over a year ago

London

I totally get that. As a man I see men in clubs move ultra creepy thinking all single women are fair game and like 'community property'. Its not right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I totally get that. As a man I see men in clubs move ultra creepy thinking all single women are fair game and like 'community property'. Its not right"

It’s really not, and it’s a guaranteed way to do themselves out of any fun too.

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

For me, physical touch equates to intimacy, and I am only comfortable with it with those I am intimate with.

Have you seen the “Blind Date” Mr. Bean? Where the girl moves in to greet him with a hug/kiss and he pushes her away and offers his hand to shake? That’s me.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"This is a question for both sexes.

Are you ok with being touched by someone?

Does it make a difference if it’s by someone who’s a different sex?

Does it matter where on your body?

If you don’t like it, do you say something…."

Not without being asked or asking first.

The exception to that being in a crowded and noisy place where trying to get someones attention may involve a tap on the shoulder or arm.

I certainly wouldn’t touch someones privates, chest or bum without there being an existing relationship there.

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By *onyropeukMan
over a year ago

London

I've started to become a regular at kink parties and clubs and when it comes to touching I'm a bit on the fence.

As a straight man I'm not into being touched by other men but during play things happen.

I'm not adverse to being touched by women as to a degree I can understand why they would want to touch, but it is still slyly annoying.

Especially when they are just Voyeurs

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

If it's someone I don't know being too familiar it annoys me, and sometimes I'll jump a little if I'm not expecting it which makes people think I don't want it when really I'd quite like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a queue yesterday just as I was about to step to the till I felt a hand on my bum and then it was stroked, I immediately turnt and the woman went bright red and apologised. I guess she could tell by the look on my face that I wasn't happy.

I don't like people touching me without my approval.

Nikki x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone i know it's fine, a stranger, absolutely not. I've been out in a bar and had guys grope/slap my bum and try to put their arm around me, sorry but you're getting told to F off and threatened with the Police if you don't back off.

It's about consent and boundaries!

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By *onyropeukMan
over a year ago

London

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By *onyropeukMan
over a year ago

London

"I totally get that. As a man I see men in clubs move ultra creepy thinking all single women are fair game and like 'community property'. Its not right

It’s really not, and it’s a guaranteed way to do themselves out of any fun too. "

I totally agree. I find it highly annoying as it really does kill things for the single guys who do move accordingly.

So it don't surprise me that so many women choose to put on their profiles, it's just couples they play with and rule out single men

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

"Not just sexually, could be a hand on your back/bum/arm - anything …."

When I am dolled up I always take a hand on my bum as being sexual. And I totally love it.

Don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t mean I will end up having sex with the person who has put his or her hand on my bum, in fact I more often end up not having sex.

Never the less, I love the feel of a hand on my bum. I love being in a bar and having someone chatting to me and their hand just cupping my bum… oooh crumbs, I can feel my legs going all jelly like just thinking about it

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By *onyropeukMan
over a year ago

London

"I was in a queue yesterday just as I was about to step to the till I felt a hand on my bum and then it was stroked, I immediately turnt and the woman went bright red and apologised. I guess she could tell by the look on my face that I wasn't happy.

I don't like people touching me without my approval.

Nikki x "

Was this a a queue for a kink event or a normal thing?

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Like Lonely Island feat Lady Gaga said, "It's not gay if it's in a three-way".

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't like people touching me without my approval.

Nikki x

Was this a a queue for a kink event or a normal thing?"

I’m curious, does that make a difference?

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

"So, if it’s someone I like. Then he can touch me as much as he likes. I love contact and yes, even have my bum smacked or felt when I’m trying to do other stuff.

But that’s where it sort of ends. Generally, I do hate when people touch me, u ever had those who try touch when they speak to you?

Maybe cos they are half d*unk. Like no,

Get

Away.

I feel very much like a cat

I think cats have it right if they are in the mood they purr if not welcome they scratch

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By *omer47Man
over a year ago

leigh

If its a random stranger just coming up touching me then I'm not sure I'd like it if its someone I knew or have met before then i don't think I'd mind, depending on where and how they touched me. Obviously if its during a meet then yes I want them to touch me all over.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"I don't mind being touched! I'm a very touchy Feely person! Was a bit taken aback at a group social I went to a few weeks back when a man I didn't know put his had up my dress!

but actually I liked it

I would have completely lost my shit at him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strangers shouldn't touch me in any way, anywhere and I wouldn't touch them. Most of my friends and family are tactile with each other in a non-sexual way. Hugs, hand on the arm etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not been touched in any way for a couple of years ??

Would be quite happy even with a hand on an arm

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I'd rather people touch me first.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm a very tactile person. I love the feel of the human touch by someone who I want to be touched by. However if I don't know you. You may be at risk of my over active reflexes. It's all about consent. People should ask rather than assume.

Although saying that I greeted most of the fabbers at the weekend with a cheek kiss.(although we have been chatting for at least a year) I hope I didn't cross over anybody else's line unknowingly. I apologise whole heartedly if I did.

Jo.Xx

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"I'm a very tactile person. I love the feel of the human touch by someone who I want to be touched by. However if I don't know you. You may be at risk of my over active reflexes. It's all about consent. People should ask rather than assume.

Jo.Xx

I’d touch you both

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I don't mind being touched! I'm a very touchy Feely person! Was a bit taken aback at a group social I went to a few weeks back when a man I didn't know put his had up my dress!

but actually I liked it

I would have completely lost my shit at him "

Yes it could have been a very different situation for sure! But I was OK with it after the initial shock! We had been chating quite naughty for a while first tbh! Not saying that gave him the green light! X

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Jo.Xx

I look forward to more of your delicious hugs Jo

And I definitely did put myself at risk from your overactive reflexes coming at you from behind

which was poor form on my part, over excitedness to envelop you in my arms is not a good excuse xxx

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough

"This is a question for both sexes.

Are you ok with being touched by someone?

Does it make a difference if it’s by someone who’s a different sex?

Does it matter where on your body?

If you don’t like it, do you say something…."

By a complete stranger, NO

By a work colleague - handshakes only

By a friend, YES

In a naughty club - they have to ask!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Depends on my mood to be honest. I don't particularly like people in my space in general. But I realise most people aren't the same. So I'm used to people hugging etc as I understand it's their way to show affection. But if I'm having a bad day it can be a bit too much for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Jo.Xx

You can snog me anytime

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I’m extremely tactile - I can be chatting away with someone and I’ve placed my hand on there knee without realising or I’ve hugged them that bit longer than some deem appropriate - I love the human touch doesn’t matter if it’s from a male or female - what does matter is when it’s from a stranger and it’s a grope of my bum or something more sexualised that’s uncomfortable and over stepping the mark for me however I’d just politely tell them not to do it again and move on.

You pinched my bum OP and I bloody liked it but then we have spoken for ages so it felt like a friendly greeting xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is a question for both sexes.

Are you ok with being touched by someone?

Does it make a difference if it’s by someone who’s a different sex?

Does it matter where on your body?

If you don’t like it, do you say something….

By a complete stranger, NO

By a work colleague - handshakes only

By a friend, YES

In a naughty club - they have to ask!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m extremely tactile - I can be chatting away with someone and I’ve placed my hand on there knee without realising or I’ve hugged them that bit longer than some deem appropriate - I love the human touch doesn’t matter if it’s from a male or female - what does matter is when it’s from a stranger and it’s a grope of my bum or something more sexualised that’s uncomfortable and over stepping the mark for me however I’d just politely tell them not to do it again and move on.

You pinched my bum OP and I bloody liked it but then we have spoken for ages so it felt like a friendly greeting xxx"

You can pinch my bum anytime

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

You pinched my bum OP and I bloody liked it but then we have spoken for ages so it felt like a friendly greeting xxx

You can pinch my bum anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation but I'm generally fine with it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless invited to do so, no.

Probably from being groped by multiple Men in pubs/bars/clubs in the past though...have no tolerance for it.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Only if I know someone. Not into random hugs, unless it's a date, and it's a welcome kind of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unless invited to do so, no.

Probably from being groped by multiple Men in pubs/bars/clubs in the past though...have no tolerance for it."

I should elaborate, not just sexual touching.

Also for example someone touching my arm and back trying to get close to me despite me already saying no, and them trying to justify it because "they're not hurting me", and continuing to try and touch me.

If I have told you no, I expect you to back the fuck off.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Jo.Xx

I look forward to more of your delicious hugs Jo

And I definitely did put myself at risk from your overactive reflexes coming at you from behind

which was poor form on my part, over excitedness to envelop you in my arms is not a good excuse xxx"

Oh shhhh you!

I can't wait either.

And to be fair D had a huge smile on his face so you were obviously someone who I knew. It's fine.

Jo.Xx

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"This is a question for both sexes.

Are you ok with being touched by someone?

Does it make a difference if it’s by someone who’s a different sex?

Does it matter where on your body?

If you don’t like it, do you say something…."

I'm a big respector of people's personal space. I am very aware that even the suggestion of impropriety can have huge ramifications, so I am very careful if I need to encroach and always ask/inform.

On the flip side my background in Jujitsu means I am *very* comfortable when people are in my space, and my job has meant I have had to be in very physically uncomfortable positions in direct contact with others.

If the contact is unwanted - refer back to Jujitsu

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It really does depend on the situation & person.

I’ve been known to touch a stranger on the upper arm when comforting them if upset, but wouldn’t think of taking it further than that.

Friends will get a hug when I met them, but not all

In the right circumstances I can be very tactile, but again comes back to the individual.

Never want to make anyone uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s quite unreal how many men don’t take the hint or notice physical discomfort. I say men, as I haven’t been in appropriately touched by women (with the exception of one time at a club).

For example, I will hold out my hand on meeting a guy at a function, he will bypass this and kiss my cheek/hug.

The same with goodbyes, I’ll wave and make my way to the door but he’ll come over for another kiss on the cheek.

During my entertainment work (fire eater) I am constantly being touched, arm around the waist while chatting etc. I always move away, they never take the hint and I don’t want an atmosphere at a function so only speak up when I absolutely need to but why can’t they take a hint?

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"It depends on the person and my perception of them. Generally, don’t touch me but if I like you on a human level i generally let it slide as I know it’s in good spirits

Where do you stand on being fed cake? asking for a friend?"

Well it totally depends on who your friend and whether there are cuddles and tea involved.

Obviously, this is all on the assumption that the cake being offered isn’t lemon drizzle, in which case I wouldn’t even entertain the conversation

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends on the person and my perception of them. Generally, don’t touch me but if I like you on a human level i generally let it slide as I know it’s in good spirits

Where do you stand on being fed cake? asking for a friend?

Well it totally depends on who your friend and whether there are cuddles and tea involved.

Obviously, this is all on the assumption that the cake being offered isn’t lemon drizzle, in which case I wouldn’t even entertain the conversation

Pfft. Spoil my fun why don’t you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My rule is respect everyone and not treat them them like an object I certainly don't like being touched

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

With family and friends very tactile, strangers I keep my distance, if being introduced it’s a polite handshake or casual hi depending on the situation.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Jo.Xx

I look forward to more of your delicious hugs Jo

And I definitely did put myself at risk from your overactive reflexes coming at you from behind

which was poor form on my part, over excitedness to envelop you in my arms is not a good excuse xxx

Oh shhhh you!

I can't wait either.

And to be fair D had a huge smile on his face so you were obviously someone who I knew. It's fine.

Jo.Xx "

I wanted to say it xxx

And the delight on both of your faces was pure bliss

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No, please don't touch me unless we know each other reasonably well. There's absolutely no need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to keep my hands clasped behind my back when I'm conversing with people. It makes me seem far more formal and unapproachable than I really am hence people tend not to touch me. Likewise, I tend to keep space between us and I don't touch others.

I'm very much the opposite when it is welcomed and I'm invited to touch.

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

No, I don’t like it. But then I worked in a role that hands on was not acceptable for a variety of reasons and that’s ingrained in me now, a touch from a stranger puts me on edge and makes me feel uncomfortable.

I don’t hug or kiss my friends either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, please don't touch me unless we know each other reasonably well. There's absolutely no need. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, I don’t like it. But then I worked in a role that hands on was not acceptable for a variety of reasons and that’s ingrained in me now, a touch from a stranger puts me on edge and makes me feel uncomfortable.

I don’t hug or kiss my friends either."

I hear you

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By *onyropeukMan
over a year ago

London

I don't like people touching me without my approval.

Nikki x

Was this a a queue for a kink event or a normal thing?

I’m curious, does that make a difference?"

I don't think it makes a difference, I wasnjust questioning the brazenness of people

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't like people touching me without my approval.

Nikki x

Was this a a queue for a kink event or a normal thing?

I’m curious, does that make a difference?

I don't think it makes a difference, I wasnjust questioning the brazenness of people"

I was just interested in whether there was a difference, there isn’t for me, but I think some people (not you) might think there is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread has made me feel a lot better about myself. I was starting to think that I was a cold hearted bitch! I think I maybe still am but at least others feel the same as me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread has made me feel a lot better about myself. I was starting to think that I was a cold hearted bitch! I think I maybe still am but at least others feel the same as me!

Hahah definitely not!

People just need to keep their dirty hands away

unless I allow them to touch me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread has made me feel a lot better about myself. I was starting to think that I was a cold hearted bitch! I think I maybe still am but at least others feel the same as me!

Hahah definitely not!

People just need to keep their dirty hands away

unless I allow them to touch me

Correct

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This thread has made me feel a lot better about myself. I was starting to think that I was a cold hearted bitch! I think I maybe still am but at least others feel the same as me!

I don’t think wanting people to respect your body and personal space makes you cold hearted at all.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

" This is exactly how I feel. It makes me really uncomfortable, but it’s hard to say, with a stranger isn’t it. "

But… but… but…. You were quick to slap my hand away and call me a fucking creep at the weekend

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I've started to become a regular at kink parties and clubs and when it comes to touching I'm a bit on the fence."

Most kinksters I know understand that you ask before touching anything, be that a person or a piece of kit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread has made me feel a lot better about myself. I was starting to think that I was a cold hearted bitch! I think I maybe still am but at least others feel the same as me!

I don’t think wanting people to respect your body and personal space makes you cold hearted at all. "

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It’s quite unreal how many men don’t take the hint or notice physical discomfort. I say men, as I haven’t been in appropriately touched by women (with the exception of one time at a club).

For example, I will hold out my hand on meeting a guy at a function, he will bypass this and kiss my cheek/hug.

The same with goodbyes, I’ll wave and make my way to the door but he’ll come over for another kiss on the cheek.

I think the thing I dislike the most about an unwanted arm around the waist isn't even the contact but their ability to easily control my movement (or prevent me leaving) from that position. It's also something many associate with being partners and I sometimes feel like some men do it as a visual claim to you in public when they have no place to do so. I had a random man come over and put his arm around me on a train station platform once and only left because I loudly made a fuss about not knowing him and a group of men in front of me said that at first they thought we were a couple having a row because he so casually sat down and put his arm around me.

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over a year ago

"It’s quite unreal how many men don’t take the hint or notice physical discomfort. I say men, as I haven’t been in appropriately touched by women (with the exception of one time at a club).

For example, I will hold out my hand on meeting a guy at a function, he will bypass this and kiss my cheek/hug.

The same with goodbyes, I’ll wave and make my way to the door but he’ll come over for another kiss on the cheek.

Omg. That’s really awful

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It’s quite unreal how many men don’t take the hint or notice physical discomfort. I say men, as I haven’t been in appropriately touched by women (with the exception of one time at a club).

For example, I will hold out my hand on meeting a guy at a function, he will bypass this and kiss my cheek/hug.

The same with goodbyes, I’ll wave and make my way to the door but he’ll come over for another kiss on the cheek.

People try it on and pretend not to realise it's inappropriate.

And then blame those who call them out.

I'm very bad at calling people out in that situation. I just freeze. Which people think is consent rather than a trauma response

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Nope. Don't touch me. I won't be touching you either.

Socially awkward introvert here so it's not a major issue lol

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By *cotty1376Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

I manage a social club so always have people shaking my hand, hugs and pecks on the cheek from females , never bothered me , wouldn't be too happy if a male stranger tried kissing me on the cheek though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s quite unreal how many men don’t take the hint or notice physical discomfort. I say men, as I haven’t been in appropriately touched by women (with the exception of one time at a club).

For example, I will hold out my hand on meeting a guy at a function, he will bypass this and kiss my cheek/hug.

The same with goodbyes, I’ll wave and make my way to the door but he’ll come over for another kiss on the cheek.

I agree, it’s quite a dominant and territorial move isn’t it. I don’t like it at all but it happens to me more than I can tell you. I’d never dream of putting my arm around someone I don’t know!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It’s quite unreal how many men don’t take the hint or notice physical discomfort. I say men, as I haven’t been in appropriately touched by women (with the exception of one time at a club).

For example, I will hold out my hand on meeting a guy at a function, he will bypass this and kiss my cheek/hug.

The same with goodbyes, I’ll wave and make my way to the door but he’ll come over for another kiss on the cheek.

People try it on and pretend not to realise it's inappropriate.

And then blame those who call them out.

I'm very bad at calling people out in that situation. I just freeze. Which people think is consent rather than a trauma response

I'm pretty sure he knew it was inappropriate, I think the action was more about a display of familiarity to other men in the vicinity and it worked. I think he hoped I was too d*unk or scared to protest as much as I did. I also think he thought I was travelling alone when my partner had just gone to the toilet.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It’s quite unreal how many men don’t take the hint or notice physical discomfort. I say men, as I haven’t been in appropriately touched by women (with the exception of one time at a club).

For example, I will hold out my hand on meeting a guy at a function, he will bypass this and kiss my cheek/hug.

The same with goodbyes, I’ll wave and make my way to the door but he’ll come over for another kiss on the cheek.

People try it on and pretend not to realise it's inappropriate.

And then blame those who call them out.

I'm very bad at calling people out in that situation. I just freeze. Which people think is consent rather than a trauma response

Yeah, I think the vast majority of people who do this know it's inappropriate. But if they pretend not to know, it somehow makes it ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like people touching me without my approval.

Nikki x

Was this a a queue for a kink event or a normal thing?"

Haha.. no I was in a shop x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very weird about being touched. Touchy feely people make my skin crawl. Unless I’m d*unk and then touch away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like people touching me without my approval.

Nikki x

Was this a a queue for a kink event or a normal thing?

Haha.. no I was in a shop x"

To me it’s quite alarming that was even asked.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a queue for a kink venue, a swingers club or anywhere else for that matter. Nobody should be touching you like that without consent…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't like people touching me without my approval.

Nikki x

Was this a a queue for a kink event or a normal thing?

Haha.. no I was in a shop x

To me it’s quite alarming that was even asked.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a queue for a kink venue, a swingers club or anywhere else for that matter. Nobody should be touching you like that without consent…"

No, they shouldn’t, but actually I think a lot of kinksters are less likely to do it, because they are more aware of consent and boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish to be touched but instead im tapped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Touch me in the morning

And last thing at night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to properly tense up at being touched because I just didn't expect it, even if it was a hand on the shoulder. But I think I've got better at letting people become more close and opening up a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Complete stranger, first time speaking?

Not fond of it.

Been gabbing a while...developed a rapport?

Mon gies a cuddle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Touch me in the morning

And last thing at night"

Keep my body warm baby, you know it feels right

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"With family and friends very tactile, strangers I keep my distance, if being introduced it’s a polite handshake or casual hi depending on the situation."

Pretty much this; I'll always greet friends and family with a kiss and a hug (and I really missed that through Covid), and can be tactile when chatting to friends, especially if I know they are too, but can't think of any time where I would do the same with someone I didn't know well or a work colleague etc.

You just know what's appropriate, don't you (or should!), and if in any doubt, don't touch!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not really a touchy-feely person.. I'll hug friends/family... but i can't do extended holds...and if anyone is slightly creepy I'll do my best to avoid contact, even if they are family.

If you were to touch someone at work you'd have a harassment case bought against you

At something like a fab social i would expect strangers at the event to want to hug /kiss /touch my arm and I be relatively relaxed

In the street I'd be like wtf?! Unless there was a reason??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and when I'm aware people are not comfortable i always give them the option!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I know somebody then I don’t mind, a random person on the other hand depends on my mood and what sort of vibe they give off

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