FabSwingers.com forum: What has love got to do with it?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it just a second-hand emotion?

Do you believe in love?

Have you been in love?

Personally I dislike love and refuse to fall for that tosh ever again.

What say you?

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Love just happens, you can't stop yourself falling in love.

You can still love someone but hate the person they are, children are and example of tha. t. You love them but don't always like them!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I believe in friendship, companionship. Love like relationships, it's not for me. If I ever feel it again I'll run for the hills

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Love is wonderful when it's unconditional. The issue is with unrequited love, I feel. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I believe in friendship, companionship. Love like relationships, it's not for me. If I ever feel it again I'll run for the hills"

I feel the same. Love my family and friends but anything else....nah

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I often wonder what "second hand emotion" means

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I have never felt love like I have felt for my children so maybe not.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

"Is it just a second-hand emotion?

Do you believe in love?

Have you been in love?

Personally I dislike love and refuse to fall for that tosh ever again.

What say you?

Depends on what you mean by love

I'm kind of sceptical about TV/movie/novel romantic love

But I have friends and family that I would literally lay down my life for - or at least donate a kidney for

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I do believe in love

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’ve loved, been loved and still love a few people, I don’t believe in falling in love though, it misses the point about hard work sacrifice. If love comes too easy or quick it’s probably lust or infatuation

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Love is a gift, and should be given freely and without strings or caveats.

"I love you" should be purely fact rather than having the question "do you love me?" attached silently to it. If you can give love without expecting an answer it is a beautiful thing and so fulfilling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is an amazing thing and should never be given up on easily. Life is not the same without it

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I'd vowed never to let myself love again, it hurts too much..... I had my mind changed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd vowed never to let myself love again, it hurts too much..... I had my mind changed

That is lovely to hear

I'm pleased you found love x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is the best. Greatest ever feeling and I hope I never go without it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love is the best. Greatest ever feeling and I hope I never go without it. "

I’m young and hopeful though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Falling in love hurts to much, don’t like the heartache that comes with it, avoid at all cost

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Love is the best. Greatest ever feeling and I hope I never go without it.

I’m young and hopeful though. "

*Shakes walking stick*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just a second-hand emotion?

Do you believe in love?

Have you been in love?

Personally I dislike love and refuse to fall for that tosh ever again.

What say you?

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being a young lad and having that mind state I did fall in love on one night stands, but learning the hard way, love has nothing to do with it, once everything is on the table. If both parties are honest then everyone knows what it's about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've badly hurt and my heart broken by someone who said he loved me but despite that I'll always have a part of me that still believes in love. Although if love did happen again for me, I'd be very wary and take things very slowly x

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm not jaded to the idea of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agreed.. absolutely bullshit.

cold-hearted whore enjoying life, and will never fall for it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've badly hurt and my heart broken by someone who said he loved me but despite that I'll always have a part of me that still believes in love. Although if love did happen again for me, I'd be very wary and take things very slowly x"
I've been there but I fell in love with a one night stand/fling but I didn't know it was just fun. Now from experience i make my intentions clear from the start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love is the best. Greatest ever feeling and I hope I never go without it.

I’m young and hopeful though.

*Shakes walking stick*"

. Was I on your lawn again? Ooops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^ very much similar experience to this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just a second-hand emotion?

Do you believe in love?

Have you been in love?

Personally I dislike love and refuse to fall for that tosh ever again.

What say you?

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yes i believe

Yes i have and do love

Like you il never fall again but not because i dont want to feel it or because it doesn't matter to me tho but because i choose to only have room in my heart for one woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely believe in it and had it, got my heart shredded but I live in hope It'll happen again for me when I'm ready

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spent 18 years being badly treated by someone that was suppose to love me. I vowed never again then BOOM met Mr and real love commenced

J xx

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I was madly in love with my ex husband and now I love him in a different way. Wouldn’t change a thing so yes 100% believe it when I see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I believe in it and yes I’m in love.

Even after all these years.

Viv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't believe in it. And then I met someone whom I loved conditionally. I hope to feel that again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe , I've had it , I've lost it and wish everyone at least once in their life gets to experience proper true love

have a lovely day people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I didn't believe in it. And then I met someone whom I loved conditionally. I hope to feel that again. "

Do you believe in fairytales by any chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my, where do I start

I did and do, but apparently ‘it ran its course’ *tell my heart that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in love with my hubby since I was 14 years old and 15 years later we are still going. I very much believe in love and finding your person

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Tosh? No Quimmy, keep your heart open.

I do believe in love, I'm afraid I'm a softie with eternal optimism. Sadly my self doubt can mean I doubt whether people do love me or could. But I still believe in it and think it's a beautiful thing when found.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ffs i do turn into a bloody big girly sap of a wet lettuce on these kind of threads

forgive me being pathetic

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’ve loved. My first long term relationship was the only relationship I’ve had where I feel the love was mutual. And it was a great love. And he is the man who taught me what love feels like and more importantly, looks like. His actions mirrored his words.

I am a hopeful romantic. But somewhat doubtful that kind of love can happen more than once.

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

I can deeply ‘care’ for someone, but from anecdotal experience, love is just a word, loyalty, trust and affection will do just fine for me

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

There are different kinds of love, the love of a child, a partner, a swinging friend. Many are afraid of love, most are hurt by its loss in whatever form it took. We love long term naughty friendships and yes in a way we love the people too and hurt somewhat when it ends, especially if unreasonably. We are very loving, caring, yet seem to find many are quite the opposite. How deep is your love ?...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let me sleep on it - I'll give you an answer in the morning.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’ve definitely felt love.

I’m not too bothered if I don’t find it again. Lust will do just fine as a replacement

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

Can’t pick or choose who you fall in love with, find it just happens!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I do believe in love.

I don't love easily, be that platonic or romantic love. But when I do I do it freely and openly, with no expectations of reciprocation....you can't make somebody love you back, no matter what you do.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Yes I've been in love but it was not given back. Luckily I always find out before committing myself. I move on quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I didn't believe in it. And then I met someone whom I loved unconditionally. I hope to feel that again.

Do you believe in fairytales by any chance?

Still no. He left me.

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough

I believe in love and have been in love less than a handful of times

and it was amazing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d rather be alone and sad than with someone and sad.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes I do believe in love and have been. Would I again...yes x

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yes I believe in love. I love my boys until I could literally burst. I have dear friends whom I have loved for decades. I think the problem is people focus too much on romantic love only and not the love they see around them.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I have all the love I need from family & friends and the odd companion.

I don’t need or want what I can only describe as the all consuming love, feeling caged & controlled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have all the love I need from family & friends and the odd companion.

I don’t need or want what I can only describe as the all consuming love, feeling caged & controlled. "

Do you find romantic love all consuming, caging and controlling?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh my, where do I start

I did and do, but apparently ‘it ran its course’ *tell my heart that.

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hope the next one is another great one but lasts longer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Let me sleep on it - I'll give you an answer in the morning. "

I've got to know right now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe in love and have so much love for my friends and family. However I’m more likely to be in lust with a sexual partner than I am to actually be in love with them.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Yes I believe in love, when it’s unforced, when it comes without expectation or ideal, when it’s not keeping up with the Jones’s and posting elaborate gestures, when it’s pure and comes out of nowhere, when it hits you right in the gut and you just know! The kind of love that enhances you, that makes you feel alive that allows you to still be you that’s the kind of love you’d bottle and sell!

None of this pre conceived ideal that it’s all a bed of roses the kind where you are smothered, controlled or worse still you change for another human being that can take a fuck to itself!

But when it’s real it’s the best feeling there is - be it in a romantic or purely platonic sense xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd vowed never to let myself love again, it hurts too much..... I had my mind changed

I vowed the same and then fell helplessly into love. Still together after 30 years but got the scars to prove it!

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"I'd vowed never to let myself love again, it hurts too much..... I had my mind changed

Snap!! And I kept him at a distance for a while to protect myself. But he persevered. Now I can’t imagine my life without him.

J x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I have all the love I need from family & friends and the odd companion.

I don’t need or want what I can only describe as the all consuming love, feeling caged & controlled.

Do you find romantic love all consuming, caging and controlling? "

You don’t realise when in that situation until you step out of it, how controlled & changed you had become.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't tell me what it's all about

'Cause I've been there and I'm glad I'm out

Out of those chains, those chains that bind you

That is why I'm here to remind you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't tell me what it's all about

'Cause I've been there and I'm glad I'm out

Out of those chains, those chains that bind you

That is why I'm here to remind you

I can't work out whether rhyming pneumonia with phone ya is fucking awful or a stroke of genius.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have all the love I need from family & friends and the odd companion.

I don’t need or want what I can only describe as the all consuming love, feeling caged & controlled.

Do you find romantic love all consuming, caging and controlling?

You don’t realise when in that situation until you step out of it, how controlled & changed you had become. "

And they call it love but it's not love when they make you feel like that

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I have all the love I need from family & friends and the odd companion.

I don’t need or want what I can only describe as the all consuming love, feeling caged & controlled.

Do you find romantic love all consuming, caging and controlling?

You don’t realise when in that situation until you step out of it, how controlled & changed you had become.

And they call it love but it's not love when they make you feel like that

I was lucky and didn’t feel like that in the relationship, I know different from others. It was only when I left I realised the difference in myself. I’m now back to the true me, but took time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have all the love I need from family & friends and the odd companion.

I don’t need or want what I can only describe as the all consuming love, feeling caged & controlled.

Do you find romantic love all consuming, caging and controlling?

You don’t realise when in that situation until you step out of it, how controlled & changed you had become. "

Sorry about this. I hope you found yourself again. And that if you do find Love again it’ll be more beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have all the love I need from family & friends and the odd companion.

I don’t need or want what I can only describe as the all consuming love, feeling caged & controlled.

Do you find romantic love all consuming, caging and controlling?

You don’t realise when in that situation until you step out of it, how controlled & changed you had become.

And they call it love but it's not love when they make you feel like that

I was lucky and didn’t feel like that in the relationship, I know different from others. It was only when I left I realised the difference in myself. I’m now back to the true me, but took time. "

It took a year out for me to notice how different I was. And how I wasn't the person he said I was for years. It's lovely to be the true you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh my, where do I start

I did and do, but apparently ‘it ran its course’ *tell my heart that.

hope the next one is another great one but lasts longer

Last longer?

. Haha. I Don’t think that’s possible.

Quite a serious thread op, I think I’ll pop back to a FAF themed one now.

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