FabSwingers.com forum: Grower, or a show'er

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Being a bloke, I obviously consider cock size more than (most) women.

Having always been self aware that "he's a grower, not a show'er" - it was great to learn that it's actually a turn on for many, to feel it grow in they're mouth/hands etc during foreplay.

It's nice to have what has always been an insecurity, starting to feel like a positive.

May even do another cheeky video.

Anyway, ot got me wondering, what things any of you lovely lot were insecure about, before getting into this lifestyle that you're now happy, or even confident with?

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I would say sex on a whole. I was fairly innocent before I joined here, and now I'm a filthy bitch and loving it.

Ruby

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

My body. Always felt like my wobbly bits would be a turn off x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would say sex on a whole. I was fairly innocent before I joined here, and now I'm a filthy bitch and loving it.

Ruby"

I hear you, I feel like a bloody virgin again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My body. Always felt like my wobbly bits would be a turn off x"

I can only assume you've realised otherwise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thumper you have nothing to be insecure about

Us on the other hand, our wobbly bits, our age, people finding out, our work

All the above have given us insecurities & cause to worry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hated my body, thought men only made compliments to get sex.

Still do

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"My body. Always felt like my wobbly bits would be a turn off x

I can only assume you've realised otherwise? "

I'm getting there x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thumper you have nothing to be insecure about

Us on the other hand, our wobbly bits, our age, people finding out, our work

All the above have given us insecurities & cause to worry "

I appreciate the reassurance, but I hope this hasn't came across as fishing for compliments... I'm just looking to see what other peoples old insecurities are, which they're now happy or even proud to flaunt

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hated my body, thought men only made compliments to get sex.

Still do

Not all men are the same

Going by my inbox, I do get where you're coming from though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men just like to look but lately girls been loving to show off as it should be xx

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I’m a grower but very insecure about the size when you see women on here in pics sucking on big cocks you feel I can’t compete with that

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Well it's still a work in progress but sexy can come in many forms. So on a personal level it's realising I can be sexy and fat. Sexy and cute. I'm growing confident in myself and sometimes I even feel very desirable. So yes, Fab has been good for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing.

People are shit and will act and behave accordingly regardless of my dick size, 6 pack, dad bod etc.

I realised long ago there’s more important things to concern myself with than whether or not I look shit to the opposite sex.

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I love a grower, feeling it get bigger in my hand or mouth is definitely a turn on!

I'm very insecure about my tummy and bum as they are bigger than I'd like

I used to be very insecure about playing with myself in front of someone but I'm totally over that now and will happily do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well it's still a work in progress but sexy can come in many forms. So on a personal level it's realising I can be sexy and fat. Sexy and cute. I'm growing confident in myself and sometimes I even feel very desirable. So yes, Fab has been good for me.

You get what I was asking, thankyou!

And yes, yes you can

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By *reakbedsnotheartsMan
over a year ago

bedford

I’m definitely a grower

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By *ewby01327Man
over a year ago

Daventry

I’m definitely a grower. Feel small when soft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stretch marks, most people don't really care as much as I do. And the one's that do, shows more about them as a person than my body. We all have flaws, lumps and bumps.. this lifestyle has definitely taught me to embrace who I am a little more.

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By *dventurous biMan
over a year ago

tesside

I’m very much a grower, flaccid there’s very little there. Erect it’s a healthy six inches that one partner wowed at and described as handsome.

In the first decade of my marriage I got used to sex being a perfunctory thing. A cum and done thing. A reward thing…

I read letters in the mags telling of people being at it all night and thought they were fiction.

That all changed one Friday night in Manchester half a lifetime ago.

Nowadays, I’m maybe not so spry, nor quite as flexible as once I was, but my confidence in my ability to please and tease has increased over the years.

Now I could read those letters and think ‘I’ve done that!’

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"My body. Always felt like my wobbly bits would be a turn off x"

This! Exactly this x

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By *reakbedsnotheartsMan
over a year ago

bedford

Love it when I’m sucked from soft

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

My tits after childbirth, loved my DD's then the H's stayed and I had to learn how to love the ladies all over again

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By *reakbedsnotheartsMan
over a year ago

bedford

"My tits after childbirth, loved my DD's then the H's stayed and I had to learn how to love the ladies all over again"

I bet the lady’s are in great shape

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Anybody who comes oh here, showing off their body parts, has confidence way above anyone else. You're all fantastic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grew up hearing statements from women saying.

size matters.

The bigger the better.

Then saw porn with women enjoying sex with big dicks.

Dick shaming drew me closer to sex with men as my mind told me to keep clear of women.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Yeah, it took a while for me to grow my confidence. I used to be insecure about myself especially when comparing myself to other blokes but slowly but surely, I've come to terms that me is me and be proud of who I am so now, my confidence is growing

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Body confidence is always a "huge" issue!

But once it been to a few clubs and seen Bertie Bassett (allsorts) I realised that we're all just normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s up for the woman to find out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That’s up for the woman to find out

Its up to the women to find out, what you were once unsure of or insecure about, but longer are?

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By *for2Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"My body. Always felt like my wobbly bits would be a turn off x"

The'Wobbly Bits' are always the best bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines all show but always felt insecure about other bits due to injuries and that have worn dentures for many years

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I wouldn't say I was massively insecure, but I always took it with a pinch of salt when my husband told me how gorgeous I was. No-one else had seen me naked in 13 years, but since we started swinging loads have, and I'm now confident enough to have naked pictures of myself on here. I've had nothing but positive comments - which is always good for the old confidence (and ego)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s up for the woman to find out

Its up to the women to find out, what you were once unsure of or insecure about, but longer are?"

Grower or shower.

Not really insecure as ‘it is what it is’’.

Yes I know there are bigger, but what can I do about that. So no, I’m not insecure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a grower

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not a bit of both?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say I was massively insecure, but I always took it with a pinch of salt when my husband told me how gorgeous I was. No-one else had seen me naked in 13 years, but since we started swinging loads have, and I'm now confident enough to have naked pictures of myself on here. I've had nothing but positive comments - which is always good for the old confidence (and ego)

I'm glad you can now see what we all see, your husband was always right

Thanks for actually reading and understanding the post too, I get why us men folk get a bad reputation when it comes to reading profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be insecure about my face. I am now less insecure about it although still a bit. But it’s not just being on here. Other apps have also made me feel less ugly.

Glad you’ve found confidence in here OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a grower.

I'm a bit insecure about my stomach. I was really fat in secondary school and lost quite a bit of weight. Sometimes I look in the mirror and think I look great, other times I think I look a bit doughy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a growner and for years i used to think i was on the small side but women have (they could be lying) helped me see that im not. However now ive come to the dad bod age and i hate my body. I dont care how hot the weather is you will never see me in shorts, you will never see my top off and its very rare i go anywhere with just a t-shirt on.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

My stomach. Never liked it, never toned, wobbly and stretch marks.

I’ve grown to like it, but still don’t love it

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Being a bloke, I obviously consider cock size more than (most) women.

Having always been self aware that "he's a grower, not a show'er" - it was great to learn that it's actually a turn on for many, to feel it grow in they're mouth/hands etc during foreplay.

It's nice to have what has always been an insecurity, starting to feel like a positive.

May even do another cheeky video.

Anyway, ot got me wondering, what things any of you lovely lot were insecure about, before getting into this lifestyle that you're now happy, or even confident with? "

Not happy with pretty much all of it before.

Not happy with pretty much all of it now.

But it's the only body I've got so might as well get on with it.

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