FabSwingers.com forum: Would you go to a wedding alone?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A friend has asked me if I'd chaperone her to a wedding as she doesn't want to go alone.

I've been without a plus one. Made me think, is this a gal/boy thing... Is there more pressure for a gal to have a date ... Or is it a safety thing?

Or have I read a gender thing based on a n=2 sample ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t go alone. Always better to have a plus 1.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not if I was the groom.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'm attending a wedding shortly and I'll be going alone (well without a plus one). It's kind of different because I know some brilliant people also attending.

So, maybe it is a kind of date (but a wedding? Really?). Maybe she just wants company and so there's someone around she can easily talk to.

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

I've been to a few weddings solo when I've been between girlfriends. Did notice a few single girls. Never been asked to chaperone though

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

"A friend has asked me if I'd chaperone her to a wedding as she doesn't want to go alone.

I've been without a plus one. Made me think, is this a gal/boy thing... Is there more pressure for a gal to have a date ... Or is it a safety thing?

Or have I read a gender thing based on a n=2 sample ?"

I’ve been to several weddings without a plus one. It’s not great but if you’re good friends with one or other of the happy couple then you’re blind to know their friends and family so it doesn’t really matter if you’re “alone” however I accept that it’s a big thing for many women. Some friends still won’t sit in a restaurant or pub alone or go to the theatre or cinema alone whereas I happily will just bob along on my own to stuff that I want to do.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

If there was going to be a group of people I knew well then yes I would go alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont go to parties or weddings they bore the shit out of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a man absolutely! Women should also not mind. Weddings are a fantastic way to make new friends as a single and often lead to a great night with someone

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By *isbehavingWoman
over a year ago

Huntly

I have been to weddings and functions alone. It depends who will be there though. If I know plenty of people, I’m more than happy to go alone. If I won’t know many, I would take a friend

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

If you take a chaperone, it reduces the interfering Family trying to play matchmaker...

Or the creeps letching..

But also nice just as company so that you can relax a little.

I've been to weddings alone but much prefer to have someone on my side.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I usually took a female friend so I had someone to dance with

. I love dancing but I’m not hitting that dance floor alone!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I generally go on my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you take a chaperone, it reduces the interfering Family trying to play matchmaker...

Or the creeps letching..

But also nice just as company so that you can relax a little.

I've been to weddings alone but much prefer to have someone on my side."

Fair point about the matchmaking and letching!

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

Depends. If I knew people there, then yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually took a female friend so I had someone to dance with

. I love dancing but I’m not hitting that dance floor alone! "

It’s the wrong crowd I’ve you are not going asked to dance

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I've been alone. No biggie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go to the wedding at all if I could get out of it.

Weddings are usually total bollocks. Social soap operas where people have to act and dress a certain way.

Surely a wedding/ similar ceremony is for 2 people to share their love as they 'join' together.

If they need to have a specific type of day where everyone is coupled up then it's all just for show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps it’s just a confidence thing & would feel more confident if she knew you were around as her friend you’d have each other for chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t go on my own mind nothing worse than feeling like a spare part

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Quite happy to go by myself if invited to a wedding/party.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Would depend if I knew anyone else going.

No one wants to be billy no mates at a shindig!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I wouldn’t go on my own mind nothing worse than feeling like a spare part

Plenty of chance to make friends

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I’ve been to several alone, though there’s always been people I know there other than the bride and groom.

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By *parrow77Man
over a year ago

cheshire

I had to go one last august was supposed go with family and ex but obviously she became ex so I went alone and img it was hell.

Granted had fun and stuff but made me feel so awkward and standout

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’m going to a wedding soon…. On my own …. But there will be others there I already know.

A wedding invite is a very personal thing and there’s usually a group of people/family you would already know but I get the not wanting to go alone thing.

Wedding invites might not be for everyone but I consider it a privilege to be asked to celebrate with the happy couple on their special day. It’s a huge expense to invite guests so it should be regarded as an honour to be part of it.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I’d rather go on my own than take someone who didn’t know anyone else there. I’d be too worried that they were left on their own or were bored if I was chatting to people I know. Especially if it was a family do, so chat would be catch up with relatives. Nowt more boring if the shoe was on the other foot. It’s boring enough if you do know them a lot of the time!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I’d rather go on my own than take someone who didn’t know anyone else there. I’d be too worried that they were left on their own or were bored if I was chatting to people I know. Especially if it was a family do, so chat would be catch up with relatives. Nowt more boring if the shoe was on the other foot. It’s boring enough if you do know them a lot of the time!

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Treat it like a club meet. Get naked after the first hour and everyone will chat

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yes,I have in the past when single.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I wish I'd gone to my first wedding on my own.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Treat it like a club meet. Get naked after the first hour and everyone will chat

Well this is why my answer was hypothetical- I’m now banned from all family functions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am confident to go to the pub on my own, so don't think I would be phased..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to a wedding without a plus one. I knew people there so didn't feel uncomfortable or anything.

Even if I didn't know anyone I'd just talk to people and get to know them.

Weddings are happy times, with lots of booze so people feel sociable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have to be pretty close to someone to go to their wedding so I'd have no issues going alone as the chances are I'd know a lot of people there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was someone close and I wanted to be part of their special day, yes. If not close to them I wouldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm, probably not if I didn't know anyone but the bride and groom. I'd want someone I like to keep me company.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

On the flip side, I've been as a plus one. I knew a couple of people where as she knew almost everyone. I was a complete spare part

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

You sometimes need someone to hold the container to collect the rice.

Joke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go alone. Find it hard enough to go as a couple let alone as a single person

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes and have done! Usually chummy up with another lone guest x

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"On the flip side, I've been as a plus one. I knew a couple of people where as she knew almost everyone. I was a complete spare part"

Same - I’d hate it and wouldn’t want to let anyone else feel like that either.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"On the flip side, I've been as a plus one. I knew a couple of people where as she knew almost everyone. I was a complete spare part

Same - I’d hate it and wouldn’t want to let anyone else feel like that either. "

Me being socially awkward and an introvert didn't help. I don't like large groups at all

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"On the flip side, I've been as a plus one. I knew a couple of people where as she knew almost everyone. I was a complete spare part

Same - I’d hate it and wouldn’t want to let anyone else feel like that either.

Me being socially awkward and an introvert didn't help. I don't like large groups at all"

Kudos to you for even going - I wouldn’t be able to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's quite common now at weddings for people not to be offered a plus one. We didn't offer plus ones because we just couldn't because of numbers. The only people that had been given a plus 1 are people that didn't know anyone else but there's only 3 of those. No only that but to be honest I didn't want a bunch of strangers that my wedding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes - like above free food/drink. Why not. Usually another single guest there you can end up chatting too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes gives me a chance to maybe pull another single gust that’s turned up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and have done. Was a great time....

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes. "

Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.

Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end

That sounds like a shit wedding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.

Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end

Haggis is lovely

Oooooh cola bottles

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.

Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end

That sounds like a shit wedding "

No, it was rather nice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.

Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end

That sounds like a shit wedding "

Really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.

Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end

Haggis is lovely

Oooooh cola bottles

We are having cola bottles at our wedding

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.

Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end

Haggis is lovely

Oooooh cola bottles

Usually, I'm very d*unk when I eat it. It numbs the taste. Cola bottles were fantastic, and they brought the rest to work! Oh, and a free bar!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.

Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end

Haggis is lovely

Oooooh cola bottles

We are having cola bottles at our wedding

They go down so well

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I can see how someone would be more comfy taking a plus one if they didn’t know many of the other guests or if they knew everyone else would be coupled up. If there are for friends going though I wouldn’t mind going without a plus one. In fact it’s easier as otherwise if they don’t know the other people I’d feel like I had to stay with them all night to make sure they didn’t feel awkward.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

I've been to plenty of weddings over the years and have always been single.

It's not through choice, just shit out of luck when it comes to having a girlfriend.

If someone invites you to a wedding, it's a momentous occasion to celebrate their special day. You should always go, even if single.

It's often a shitty feeling being alone but the day is about them, not the singleton.

Theres no shame going as an individual

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

The last 3 couples to get married and who were friends of mine were all second timers who went to the registry office, got married then told everyone a few days later.

The perfect solution,

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By *r WhispererMan
over a year ago

brynmawr

I’ve been alone to a wedding but there was lots of my friends there so no issue.. most girls I know wouldn’t do a lot of things alone, like going into a pub

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By *igerstyle2k2Man
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

I've been to weddings alone. Usually I have my friends meeting me there at some point but it can be annoying going along.

The people I end up speaking to all seem to be in a relationship and it looks like I'm the only single person there!

Thankfully when the seating is being planned they've not had a 'singles' table and everyone was grouped in their friendship circles.

Weddings are fun but they can also be annoying.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

I attended a wedding alone- I only knew the bride, groom & best man. I'm quite happy to do stuff alone

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I've been to a wedding alone and would again. No big deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely. I've had an invitation through the post that I think has come to me by mistake as I don't know the couple. I'm going on my own and I probably won't know anyone there at all but it says there will be food and entertainment so I'm in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes I would. I might leave after the food and speeches though

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Yes I would. I might leave after the food and speeches though"

But that's when it starts getting interesting!! I'd happily turn up at that point & miss the 1st bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I would. I might leave after the food and speeches though"

Exactly. Just there for the food.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes definitely. I've had an invitation through the post that I think has come to me by mistake as I don't know the couple. I'm going on my own and I probably won't know anyone there at all but it says there will be food and entertainment so I'm in. "

Is it a Fab wedding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it a Fab wedding?"

No I don't think so. It might be an invitation for the people that lived here before me. That would be funny though if it was. I'll be the one lurking about the buffet.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I would go alone if I was going to know other people there. If I wasn't I would probably be nervous about going alone, especially if the venue was somewhere that could potentially be difficult to get home from. Lots of wedding venues are quite remote and I would worry about getting stranded somewhere if I wasn't staying. I've been at parties where I can't get a taxi at the end of the night before and that's traumatic enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it a Fab wedding?

No I don't think so. It might be an invitation for the people that lived here before me. That would be funny though if it was. I'll be the one lurking about the buffet. "

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

No I just go on my own, but some people aren’t comfortable with that, no matter the gender.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've often gone alone and found them good experiences

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I would happily go to a wedding alone. If I know them well enough to be invited, there's going to be plenty of people I know there.

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