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"Is Discretion a dying art form?" I can't answer that without being indiscrete  | |||
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"In what way?" As in not being discreet x | |||
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"Is Discretion a dying art form?" Not according to the woman I was queuing behind at the tills at Asda this morning, who was discussing the exact question with the checkout chick serving her because apparently someone at the local swingers club she went to last night had claimed that people there were being really indiscreet and talking about the guy who owns the local bakery and how much he likes shoving warm baguettes up his chuff whilst knocking one out into a cream horn. A | |||
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"On here discretion is a must. Just being here could get you/me/anyone dismissed x" It might be must but it certainly doesn't happen lol x | |||
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"On here discretion is a must. Just being here could get you/me/anyone dismissed x It might be must but it certainly doesn't happen lol x" I'm a discrete ninja  x | |||
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"In our experience discretion is a big part of the swinging world." You would think it would be the same for others x | |||
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"In our experience discretion is a big part of the swinging world. You would think it would be the same for others x" I'm telling nobody what I'm upto. The looks of disdain when I mentioned it to one person where enough to tell me to stay quiet x | |||
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"In our experience discretion is a big part of the swinging world. You would think it would be the same for others x" You would think and hope so. We haven't come across someone who isn't discrete so far. Perhaps we've just been lucky, or perhaps how we conduct ourselves is a big part of how others treat us. | |||
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"Is Discretion a dying art form? Not according to the woman I was queuing behind at the tills at Asda this morning, who was discussing the exact question with the checkout chick serving her because apparently someone at the local swingers club she went to last night had claimed that people there were being really indiscreet and talking about the guy who owns the local bakery and how much he likes shoving warm baguettes up his chuff whilst knocking one out into a cream horn. A" You'd never get that in Waitrose.
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"Lots say it, hardly any mean it unfortunately. " So it seems x | |||
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"Is Discretion a dying art form?" Better part of valour i thought....sparkles nice to see you again lol. Discretion has never been a problem for me....being and receiving | |||
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"In our experience discretion is a big part of the swinging world. You would think it would be the same for others x" Has been so far with everyone we've encountered even when people we know from day to day life have seen us at a club...not a word spoken in the outside world. | |||
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"In our experience discretion is a big part of the swinging world. You would think it would be the same for others x Has been so far with everyone we've encountered even when people we know from day to day life have seen us at a club...not a word spoken in the outside world." Exactly the way it should be too....we are all adults (allegedly) here!! | |||
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"On here discretion is a must. Just being here could get you/me/anyone dismissed x" Dismissed | |||
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"In our experience discretion is a big part of the swinging world. You would think it would be the same for others x Has been so far with everyone we've encountered even when people we know from day to day life have seen us at a club...not a word spoken in the outside world." Must admit I've never mentioned names as to whom I've met...can't say though if those guys have done the same x | |||
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"People talk. Assuming otherwise is naïve." I was just going to put that x | |||
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"On here discretion is a must. Just being here could get you/me/anyone dismissed x Dismissed "No job tends to lead to being careful x | |||
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"People talk. Assuming otherwise is naïve." Exactly this. Never assume just because you may not talk about those you met that others don't .So only give out info that you don't mind being out in public.I learnt that fast on here that a lot are not discreet at all which is a pity. | |||
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"Most people don't even know the difference between "discreet" and "discrete". " Discreet and discrete are homophones. They sound the same but they have different definitions. Discreet means careful or intentionally unobtrusive. Discrete means distinct or unconnected. For those that don't..... | |||
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"Most people don't even know the difference between "discreet" and "discrete". Discreet and discrete are homophones. They sound the same but they have different definitions. Discreet means careful or intentionally unobtrusive. Discrete means distinct or unconnected. For those that don't..... "i dont know what those other 4 words are so thats me fucked  | |||
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"Most people don't even know the difference between "discreet" and "discrete". Discreet and discrete are homophones. They sound the same but they have different definitions. Discreet means careful or intentionally unobtrusive. Discrete means distinct or unconnected. For those that don't..... i dont know what those other 4 words are so thats me fucked "Google is your friend | |||
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"Most people don't even know the difference between "discreet" and "discrete". " At least it isn't being mixed up with excrete | |||
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"Most people don't even know the difference between "discreet" and "discrete". Discreet and discrete are homophones. They sound the same but they have different definitions. Discreet means careful or intentionally unobtrusive. Discrete means distinct or unconnected. For those that don't..... i dont know what those other 4 words are so thats me fucked
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"Most people don't even know the difference between "discreet" and "discrete". At least it isn't being mixed up with excrete" That's a whole other topic | |||
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"Is Discretion a dying art form? Not according to the woman I was queuing behind at the tills at Asda this morning, who was discussing the exact question with the checkout chick serving her because apparently someone at the local swingers club she went to last night had claimed that people there were being really indiscreet and talking about the guy who owns the local bakery and how much he likes shoving warm baguettes up his chuff whilst knocking one out into a cream horn. A You'd never get that in Waitrose.
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"Most people don't even know the difference between "discreet" and "discrete". At least it isn't being mixed up with excrete That's a whole other topic ""Is excretion a dying art form?" | |||
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"Most people don't even know the difference between "discreet" and "discrete". At least it isn't being mixed up with excrete That's a whole other topic
"Is excretion a dying art form?" "It's shit if it is.......
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"There is an audience on here for indiscretion with some people using their ability to tell other people's stories as their USP. It must work for them as their entire social circle has changed beyond recognition. " Yep, and not sure which is the saddest, those spreading the shit or those stupid enough to believe what they hear lol... | |||
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"Is Discretion a dying art form?" It seems to be lovely x | |||
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"There is an audience on here for indiscretion with some people using their ability to tell other people's stories as their USP. It must work for them as their entire social circle has changed beyond recognition. Yep, and not sure which is the saddest, those spreading the shit or those stupid enough to believe what they hear lol..." I'd say 50/50 x | |||
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"There is an audience on here for indiscretion with some people using their ability to tell other people's stories as their USP. It must work for them as their entire social circle has changed beyond recognition. Yep, and not sure which is the saddest, those spreading the shit or those stupid enough to believe what they hear lol..." Unfortunately some of what I have witnessed people share at group socials is actually true such as the real names of other fabbers who aren't at the event. | |||
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"There is an audience on here for indiscretion with some people using their ability to tell other people's stories as their USP. It must work for them as their entire social circle has changed beyond recognition. Yep, and not sure which is the saddest, those spreading the shit or those stupid enough to believe what they hear lol... Unfortunately some of what I have witnessed people share at group socials is actually true such as the real names of other fabbers who aren't at the event. " That is disgusting | |||
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"There is an audience on here for indiscretion with some people using their ability to tell other people's stories as their USP. It must work for them as their entire social circle has changed beyond recognition. Yep, and not sure which is the saddest, those spreading the shit or those stupid enough to believe what they hear lol... Unfortunately some of what I have witnessed people share at group socials is actually true such as the real names of other fabbers who aren't at the event. " And what happens behind the scenes on group chats. But I guess you will get gossip mongers everywhere so its not surprising that they are alive and well on here x | |||
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"There is an audience on here for indiscretion with some people using their ability to tell other people's stories as their USP. It must work for them as their entire social circle has changed beyond recognition. Yep, and not sure which is the saddest, those spreading the shit or those stupid enough to believe what they hear lol... Unfortunately some of what I have witnessed people share at group socials is actually true such as the real names of other fabbers who aren't at the event. That is disgusting " I started a thread a few weeks ago about online security and people's inability to recognise the dangers of sharing certain things here in the forums. I thought it ironic that some people who responded were guilty of sharing others info and even more ironic when shortly after there were a number of threads and comments about fabbers contacting them either on social media or knowing their names. | |||
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"I think some people have to be discrete due to cultural reasons….." They may be but maybe the people they meet aren't as discreet x | |||
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"I think some people have to be discrete due to cultural reasons….. They may be but maybe the people they meet aren't as discreet x" I tell nobody nothing x | |||
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"As with everything, there will be decent people that know that what happens wherever stays wherever. And gossipy fools "So true | |||
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"Is Discretion a dying art form?" I’d imagine it is. Esp for the younger generation(s) - seemingly everything’s on display on social media. In some respects that’s a good thing as it breaks down barriers and avoids taboos (mental health for example). But in other respects It could be detrimental int he long term. Then again in the woke world anything seems to go so maybe it is no big deal. | |||
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"Have you been a victim of a big mouthed gossip OP? "Not that I know off | |||
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"I have actually heard of some serious lack of discretion in group chats with photos and screenshot of personal messages being passed around. One reason I don't get involved in them." That's when it stops being fun and turns to shit. I keep out of that x | |||
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"I have actually heard of some serious lack of discretion in group chats with photos and screenshot of personal messages being passed around. One reason I don't get involved in them." This is why I asked the question. Seen it/heard it first hand x | |||
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"I’ve had someone who I’ve played with walk into my place of work, I’ve served them and they were totally discreet, only winking at me on the way out. My heart was racing, but I messaged them and thank them. Luckily it’s only happened that one occasion since I joined 4.5 years ago " I wouldn't even do that x | |||
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"I think some people have to be discrete due to cultural reasons….. They may be but maybe the people they meet aren't as discreet x" 100% correct OP and that’s why I like to vet my meets xxx | |||
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"I have actually heard of some serious lack of discretion in group chats with photos and screenshot of personal messages being passed around. One reason I don't get involved in them. This is why I asked the question. Seen it/heard it first hand x" We had it right here in the forums a few years back. Some of the stories were hilarious. It was a proper case of Chinese whispers and sadly much of the bullshit that went around was sourced from people we considered friends. Such is life. There's often little point in trying to explain what's true and what's horseshit to people you don't know and don't give a shit about in the first place. It does make you wary of what you reveal to others in terms of your off-site life and how close you let people get online. A | |||
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"Are explicit verifications discreet or indiscreet..??" You can choose not to show verifications, you can't stop people talking x | |||
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"Is Discretion a dying art form?" I don't think so but it depends on who meets who , discretion won't be anything to some people but will to others. | |||
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"In what way? As in not being discreet x" Could you perhaps elaborate.. | |||
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"Are explicit verifications discreet or indiscreet..?? You can choose not to show verifications, you can't stop people talking x" So is publishing indiscreet and not doing so discreet..?? | |||
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"I would suggest anyone who considers discretion an art form isn't discreet. You're either discreet or you're not - any art that comes into it requires twisting things to make a picture the artist calls art. As with all art, taste is highly subjective and almost certainly not appreciated by all. Is being discreet dying out? Highly unlikely, my guess is that if you were able to take a sample of people from 1953 and another from today there would be roughly equal levels of gossips, attention seekers, drama queen's and other character traits associated with indiscretion in both groups. This is why films, books and plays from decades, centuries even millenia ago still capture our interest - because the human stories in them resonate with us now. Untold years may have passed and cultures changed dramatically but human nature remains pretty constant. Mr" Aye that too, well said | |||
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"In what way? As in not being discreet x Could you perhaps elaborate.." Example...People talking to others about who others have met etc... | |||
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"In what way? As in not being discreet x Could you perhaps elaborate.. Example...People talking to others about who others have met etc..." This is why I don’t display veris & prefer them not to leave one! | |||
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"Are explicit verifications discreet or indiscreet..?? You can choose not to show verifications, you can't stop people talking x So is publishing indiscreet and not doing so discreet..??" If both parties leave a verification then obviously said parties are happy for them to be displayed so in that respect discretion doesn't come into it x | |||
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"In what way? As in not being discreet x Could you perhaps elaborate.. Example...People talking to others about who others have met etc... This is why I don’t display veris & prefer them not to leave one! " I've never shown my private ones, only social event ones that I've attended but it seems even without these veris...people still know  | |||
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"I would suggest anyone who considers discretion an art form isn't discreet. You're either discreet or you're not - any art that comes into it requires twisting things to make a picture the artist calls art. As with all art, taste is highly subjective and almost certainly not appreciated by all. Is being discreet dying out? Highly unlikely, my guess is that if you were able to take a sample of people from 1953 and another from today there would be roughly equal levels of gossips, attention seekers, drama queen's and other character traits associated with indiscretion in both groups. This is why films, books and plays from decades, centuries even millenia ago still capture our interest - because the human stories in them resonate with us now. Untold years may have passed and cultures changed dramatically but human nature remains pretty constant. Mr" The tendency to gossip May not have changed…. But the scope of subjects has broadened as have the means for acquiring and disseminating said gossip. | |||
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"In what way? As in not being discreet x Could you perhaps elaborate.. Example...People talking to others about who others have met etc... This is why I don’t display veris & prefer them not to leave one! I've never shown my private ones, only social event ones that I've attended but it seems even without these veris...people still know "Fab is a small community- especially the forum users. The only way they could know is if you or a previous partner has mentioned it, though. | |||
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"In what way? As in not being discreet x Could you perhaps elaborate.. Example...People talking to others about who others have met etc... This is why I don’t display veris & prefer them not to leave one! I've never shown my private ones, only social event ones that I've attended but it seems even without these veris...people still know
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The only way they could know is if you or a previous partner has mentioned it, though. "That's my point...I've never mentioned anyone who I've met because like to be discreet. | |||
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"In what way? As in not being discreet x Could you perhaps elaborate.. Example...People talking to others about who others have met etc... This is why I don’t display veris & prefer them not to leave one! I've never shown my private ones, only social event ones that I've attended but it seems even without these veris...people still know
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The only way they could know is if you or a previous partner has mentioned it, though.
That's my point...I've never mentioned anyone who I've met because like to be discreet."Then by process of elimination its the men you've fucked! | |||
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"In what way? As in not being discreet x Could you perhaps elaborate.. Example...People talking to others about who others have met etc... This is why I don’t display veris & prefer them not to leave one! I've never shown my private ones, only social event ones that I've attended but it seems even without these veris...people still know
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The only way they could know is if you or a previous partner has mentioned it, though.
That's my point...I've never mentioned anyone who I've met because like to be discreet.
Then by process of elimination its the men you've fucked! "I know. Hence why I asked about discretion....Why people feel the need to say anything is beyond me. | |||
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"In what way? As in not being discreet x Could you perhaps elaborate.. Example...People talking to others about who others have met etc... This is why I don’t display veris & prefer them not to leave one! I've never shown my private ones, only social event ones that I've attended but it seems even without these veris...people still know
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The only way they could know is if you or a previous partner has mentioned it, though.
That's my point...I've never mentioned anyone who I've met because like to be discreet.
Then by process of elimination its the men you've fucked!
I know. Hence why I asked about discretion....Why people feel the need to say anything is beyond me."Why is it beyond you? And surely, in the name of discretion, you should discuss it with them privately? | |||
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"In what way? As in not being discreet x Could you perhaps elaborate.. Example...People talking to others about who others have met etc... This is why I don’t display veris & prefer them not to leave one! I've never shown my private ones, only social event ones that I've attended but it seems even without these veris...people still know
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The only way they could know is if you or a previous partner has mentioned it, though.
That's my point...I've never mentioned anyone who I've met because like to be discreet.
Then by process of elimination its the men you've fucked!
I know. Hence why I asked about discretion....Why people feel the need to say anything is beyond me."Sorry for you, Sparkles. Discretion should be a given (unless you both agree you want to tell others!), so hope you're not too upset if you feel a trust has been broken... | |||
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"BTW this isnt personal as I don't know if any of my previous meets have said anything. I'm going by what I've heard/seen from others x" Ah, good, pleased to hear that! Point about discretion being a given still stands though! | |||
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"BTW this isnt personal as I don't know if any of my previous meets have said anything. I'm going by what I've heard/seen from others x" Isn't that hearsay/gossip? | |||
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"BTW this isnt personal as I don't know if any of my previous meets have said anything. I'm going by what I've heard/seen from others x Isn't that hearsay/gossip?" Not when you hear it from the horses mouth so to speak. | |||
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"It just takes basic decency and then respect for others. " It sure does x | |||
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"BTW this isnt personal as I don't know if any of my previous meets have said anything. I'm going by what I've heard/seen from others x" I've chatted with people in the past who have claimed to be very private and very conscious of everything they do and say on here and yet they used their real names in chatgroups, told everyone in those groups what they did for a living and had status conversations with whoever they were shagging at the time. They also spoke in private about people they despised on the forums but at the same time went out of their way to meet men closely associated with those very same people. Apparently their definition of discretion was different to mine and very often games are afoot. | |||
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"I would suggest anyone who considers discretion an art form isn't discreet. You're either discreet or you're not - any art that comes into it requires twisting things to make a picture the artist calls art. As with all art, taste is highly subjective and almost certainly not appreciated by all. Is being discreet dying out? Highly unlikely, my guess is that if you were able to take a sample of people from 1953 and another from today there would be roughly equal levels of gossips, attention seekers, drama queen's and other character traits associated with indiscretion in both groups. This is why films, books and plays from decades, centuries even millenia ago still capture our interest - because the human stories in them resonate with us now. Untold years may have passed and cultures changed dramatically but human nature remains pretty constant. Mr The tendency to gossip May not have changed…. But the scope of subjects has broadened as have the means for acquiring and disseminating said gossip. " That doesn't make being discreet a dying art form. It simply gives indiscreet people more means. The number of people likely to take advantage hasn't changed. I'm not convinced that there are more subjects to be indiscreet about - as above our behaviour hasn't changed drastically, we all only have 24 hours a day in which to behave in gossip worthy ways. While the internet has increased the potential spread of gossip, I'm not convinced it has that big an effect. When we all lived in the same small village and everyone knew everyone else, indiscretion meant your friends, neighbours, relatives and associates knowing everything about you. Online, certainly on here, any gossip is likely to be shared by a handful of people who barely know anything about you. Mr | |||
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"In what way? As in not being discreet x Could you perhaps elaborate.. Example...People talking to others about who others have met etc... This is why I don’t display veris & prefer them not to leave one! I've never shown my private ones, only social event ones that I've attended but it seems even without these veris...people still know
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The only way they could know is if you or a previous partner has mentioned it, though.
That's my point...I've never mentioned anyone who I've met because like to be discreet.
Then by process of elimination its the men you've fucked!
I know. Hence why I asked about discretion....Why people feel the need to say anything is beyond me."You don't need to say anything directly for people to know. I'm not saying this is the case but there's plenty of lamp post pissing on here and little forum comments that, whilst they may not be explicit, give away a lot of info. There's plenty of ways of getting a good idea about who has played with who without either party explicitly saying anything ... Mr | |||
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"I would suggest anyone who considers discretion an art form isn't discreet. You're either discreet or you're not - any art that comes into it requires twisting things to make a picture the artist calls art. As with all art, taste is highly subjective and almost certainly not appreciated by all. Is being discreet dying out? Highly unlikely, my guess is that if you were able to take a sample of people from 1953 and another from today there would be roughly equal levels of gossips, attention seekers, drama queen's and other character traits associated with indiscretion in both groups. This is why films, books and plays from decades, centuries even millenia ago still capture our interest - because the human stories in them resonate with us now. Untold years may have passed and cultures changed dramatically but human nature remains pretty constant. Mr The tendency to gossip May not have changed…. But the scope of subjects has broadened as have the means for acquiring and disseminating said gossip. That doesn't make being discreet a dying art form. It simply gives indiscreet people more means. The number of people likely to take advantage hasn't changed. I'm not convinced that there are more subjects to be indiscreet about - as above our behaviour hasn't changed drastically, we all only have 24 hours a day in which to behave in gossip worthy ways. While the internet has increased the potential spread of gossip, I'm not convinced it has that big an effect. When we all lived in the same small village and everyone knew everyone else, indiscretion meant your friends, neighbours, relatives and associates knowing everything about you. Online, certainly on here, any gossip is likely to be shared by a handful of people who barely know anything about you. Mr" Gossip has always been currency and I'm always surprised at the "very discreet, no drama" people who hang out with the storytellers. Are they really naïve enough to think that they aren't part of the storyline elsewhere? | |||
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"In what way? As in not being discreet x Could you perhaps elaborate.. Example...People talking to others about who others have met etc... This is why I don’t display veris & prefer them not to leave one! I've never shown my private ones, only social event ones that I've attended but it seems even without these veris...people still know
Fab is a small community- especially the forum users.
The only way they could know is if you or a previous partner has mentioned it, though.
That's my point...I've never mentioned anyone who I've met because like to be discreet.
Then by process of elimination its the men you've fucked!
I know. Hence why I asked about discretion....Why people feel the need to say anything is beyond me.
You don't need to say anything directly for people to know. I'm not saying this is the case but there's plenty of lamp post pissing on here and little forum comments that, whilst they may not be explicit, give away a lot of info. There's plenty of ways of getting a good idea about who has played with who without either party explicitly saying anything ...
Mr"Exactly. Honestly, people really aren't quite how they imagine themselves to be when it comes to discretion. To be frank, I find quite a bit of the thread, with references to others etc slightly distasteful and relying on gossip and in the process, becoming a gossipmonger. | |||
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"In what way? As in not being discreet x" Discreet is miss-understood on here. *just my opinion. A lot of people take it as someone who wants to cheat on someone etc, (not everyone) I see discretion as it should be, if someone is private, I wouldn’t talk about them, or spill the beans etc. I’ve seen lack of it in here and I’ve also seen a lot of respect also from some users in the past. It’s a big ‘ole mix of behaviour.  | |||
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u gotta respect the wishes of the other person .. pretty simple really ... | |||
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"I have actually heard of some serious lack of discretion in group chats with photos and screenshot of personal messages being passed around. One reason I don't get involved in them." I’ve heard about a heck of a lot that goes on behind the scenes on here - and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Not only the sharing of messages/gossip - but the ‘blacklistiing’ of other fabbers (ie one person telling multiple others to stay away) and total bullshit being shared so often that it becomes a ‘truth’. Any chat groups can be toxic - but many of the fab ones are particularly so from what I’ve heard. | |||
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"I have actually heard of some serious lack of discretion in group chats with photos and screenshot of personal messages being passed around. One reason I don't get involved in them. I’ve heard about a heck of a lot that goes on behind the scenes on here - and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Not only the sharing of messages/gossip - but the ‘blacklistiing’ of other fabbers (ie one person telling multiple others to stay away) and total bullshit being shared so often that it becomes a ‘truth’. Any chat groups can be toxic - but many of the fab ones are particularly so from what I’ve heard. " Yay, another thing I can use as an excuse for not getting laid. I'm fab blacklisted | |||
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"I have actually heard of some serious lack of discretion in group chats with photos and screenshot of personal messages being passed around. One reason I don't get involved in them. I’ve heard about a heck of a lot that goes on behind the scenes on here - and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Not only the sharing of messages/gossip - but the ‘blacklistiing’ of other fabbers (ie one person telling multiple others to stay away) and total bullshit being shared so often that it becomes a ‘truth’. Any chat groups can be toxic - but many of the fab ones are particularly so from what I’ve heard. Yay, another thing I can use as an excuse for not getting laid. I'm fab blacklisted "Yeah me too - what other reason could anyone possibly have for not meeting me?
One thing though before I leave for work - do people not think all this talk about being discrete about who they meet is a little at odds with the fab verification system?
Personally I have mixed feelings about sexual verifications - though I show some of them myself. Whilst I fully accept that a fab playmate I’m fond of will have sex with others - I don’t particularly want to know the intimate details. Perhaps that’s a conversation for another thread though - I may even surprise myself after work and actually start one! | |||
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"I have actually heard of some serious lack of discretion in group chats with photos and screenshot of personal messages being passed around. One reason I don't get involved in them. I’ve heard about a heck of a lot that goes on behind the scenes on here - and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Not only the sharing of messages/gossip - but the ‘blacklistiing’ of other fabbers (ie one person telling multiple others to stay away) and total bullshit being shared so often that it becomes a ‘truth’. Any chat groups can be toxic - but many of the fab ones are particularly so from what I’ve heard. Yay, another thing I can use as an excuse for not getting laid. I'm fab blacklisted
Yeah me too - what other reason could anyone possibly have for not meeting me?
One thing though before I leave for work - do people not think all this talk about being discrete about who they meet is a little at odds with the fab verification system?
Personally I have mixed feelings about sexual verifications - though I show some of them myself. Whilst I fully accept that a fab playmate I’m fond of will have sex with others - I don’t particularly want to know the intimate details. Perhaps that’s a conversation for another thread though - I may even surprise myself after work and actually start one! "That would be an interesting one topic. This is why I don't show any private verifications as its no-one else's business who I meet x | |||
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"I have actually heard of some serious lack of discretion in group chats with photos and screenshot of personal messages being passed around. One reason I don't get involved in them. I’ve heard about a heck of a lot that goes on behind the scenes on here - and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Not only the sharing of messages/gossip - but the ‘blacklistiing’ of other fabbers (ie one person telling multiple others to stay away) and total bullshit being shared so often that it becomes a ‘truth’. Any chat groups can be toxic - but many of the fab ones are particularly so from what I’ve heard. Yay, another thing I can use as an excuse for not getting laid. I'm fab blacklisted
Yeah me too - what other reason could anyone possibly have for not meeting me?
One thing though before I leave for work - do people not think all this talk about being discrete about who they meet is a little at odds with the fab verification system?
Personally I have mixed feelings about sexual verifications - though I show some of them myself. Whilst I fully accept that a fab playmate I’m fond of will have sex with others - I don’t particularly want to know the intimate details. Perhaps that’s a conversation for another thread though - I may even surprise myself after work and actually start one! "Right!? Exactly
Haha I don't know, if people really want discretion they can ask not to be verified or not display them I guess. I don't like explicit verifications so I say so and if I still recieved one I wouldn't display it and probably wouldn't meet that person again. I feel like if I'm likely to be bothered by things in verifications people I have met recieve from others then I'm probably best just not reading them.
When it comes to people knowing who I have met, it's not something I broadcast but also not something I'm bothered by people finding out. I go to clubs so people I know through clubs often know because they've seen .
Basically like many things I think it just comes down to communication. Different people have different comfort levels. Communicate how you want to approach things after meeting. Do you want verifications? Are you uncomfortable with verifications saying certain things? Do you want to avoid each other in the forums? If someone explicitly asks if they have met you, can they answer honestly? Tell people what you want. If they break that agreement they're an asshole. I think assuming there is a default way that is acceptable to approach the issue is a recipe for upset. | |||
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