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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m curious to know …..

If you were saying this sentence to somebody which word would you use woman, lady, her.

That lady over there in the white top

That woman over there in the white top

Her over there in the white top.

It’s not a debate on which should be used. If possible I just want which word you’d naturally say. Genuinely intrigued.

Thanks

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By *onnynclaireCouple
over a year ago

Reading

Lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My tendency would be to say lady, but I tend to correct myself to woman before I say it. It seems to the the one most are ok with.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Lady. Sounds more polite in my head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always Lady.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

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By *nto the LouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Lady for me, I agree it sounds more polite

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Lady

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

Probably "maid" or "bird". Possibly "lady".

Sorry to be awkward Nora

Posh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would use woman, just as I would use man for a male.

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By *atfuckerbristolMan
over a year ago

Wells

Lady - it’s what I was brought up to say. I recognise ‘woman’ is probably more respectful. But even that is contested territory nowadays.

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

I’d use lady.

Sounds a tadge more respectful

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Doris with mates.

Lady otherwise.

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Probably "maid" or "bird". Possibly "lady".

Sorry to be awkward Nora

Posh

Maid haha. That takes me back to my living in Devon days!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say either woman or girl.

That’s how I talk.

Too old and wise to change now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 'Lady' is the term I would use if I was chatting with a child, 'woman' if chatting with an adult

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I think what I'd say might vary according to the age of the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say “that bitch Carol Baskin”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woman comes naturally to me

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

If the person can hear, like if I'm telling my kids to say thank you, then it'd be lady. As in "say thank you to the nice lady"

If I'm just talking about someone out of earshot it could be woman or lady. Both words would feel natural to use. But it certainly wouldn't be female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lady

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

Lass & Bloke

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

Lady - though possibly 'tart' depending depending on location and spending plans.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would naturally say woman.

I think the issue arises when people try to say what they think is correct and not what is natural to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woman.

But I probably wouldn’t word the sentence like you have done anyway.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

Woman probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See that Doris over there.

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

"Probably "maid" or "bird". Possibly "lady".

Sorry to be awkward Nora

Posh

Maid haha. That takes me back to my living in Devon days!"

Exactly!! They've corrupted me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Lady here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I address all women how I like to be called and that's 'walking vagina'.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Strange but it depends what I’m talking about,

I would say the old lady sitting over there in normal context but if I was annoyed with someone I’d say that blooming woman lol

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I address all women how I like to be called and that's 'walking vagina'."

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

After reading that thread yesterday, I'd now have to say 'person', as I wouldn't want to presume how they identify!

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds

Woman as it's more natural in my Yorkshire accent. Unless Inam addressing the lady of the manor. Ow do mi lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thorny great titted dragon lady

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

Lady most likely, certainly if I were talking to my son.

Oddly, probably woman if I were talking to my wife.

Not sure why the difference, maybe it’s because I’d expect a teenager to defer to another adult, but would myself treat another adult as a peer…

Person if I was at work, or if there was any ambiguity on gender.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Having thought about a scenario where this would come up I don’t use any of them, I’m more likely to naturally say ‘that one there, white top’ or ‘they are over there, white top’

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I'd used "woman" x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ho for me Nora - that Ho over there

Actually, like Hippy, I'd instinctively think lady but would likely change it to woman as that seems to annoy the least amount of people.

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Woman.

Mike

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I would use woman

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

‘Urr over thuurr, thik one, thaas urr.

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

"Woman.

Mike"

As in: 'That Mike over there in the white top'?

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Thanks all. Appreciated xxxx

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd say woman x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'd use the word lady too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hungry hungry hippo?

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I ran those sentences through my head a couple of timed. Definitely not her but somehow 'lady' didn't sound right coming from me so I would in all likely say 'woman'

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I'd say woman

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Woman or girl most likely

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I'd say lady

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I worked for a long time in retail, and Lady seemed the most polite and formal in that context.

Woman just feels less polite to me now, so unless in a very casual environment, it's what I fall back to.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

What about if the roles were reversed....sorry Nora to go off topic x

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"Ho for me Nora - that Ho over there

Actually, like Hippy, I'd instinctively think lady but would likely change it to woman as that seems to annoy the least amount of people.

Mr"

This! I do catch myself saying / typing it a lot and change it, as I really do worry about upsetting people.

As an overthinker, even relatively simple things like this do really play on my mind. Probably doesn't help with my social anxieties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if the roles were reversed....sorry Nora to go off topic x"

I’d definitely say man.

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By *exy Ruby 100 300Couple
over a year ago

unknown

That lady would be my choice of word .x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m curious to know …..

If you were saying this sentence to somebody which word would you use woman, lady, her.

That lady over there in the white top

That woman over there in the white top

Her over there in the white top.

It’s not a debate on which should be used. If possible I just want which word you’d naturally say. Genuinely intrigued.

Thanks

Lady ...always .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lady, each and everytime. It sounds polite.

And a man would always referred to as Gentleman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lady is most likely for me

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By *LACK PLEASUREMan
over a year ago

Hackney

I would use lady

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

The second or third I think but it depends on the context like if they're a stranger or if I'm just pointing out a friend to another friend or if it's part of a longer conversation. I'm not 100% on when I'd use each but they're the ones I remember saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would use woman but not in that sentence. I would say "There's a woman over there who such and such" as it feels a lot less harsh to say rather than "That woman"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would use that woman if I’m honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would use woman but not in that sentence. I would say "There's a woman over there who such and such" as it feels a lot less harsh to say rather than "That woman"

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably woman tbh or that old bint

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By *eardyBikerMan
over a year ago

nr stonehaven

Lady

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"What about if the roles were reversed....sorry Nora to go off topic x"

I’d say man

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

That lady over there in the white top and big tits doing the ironing

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Her over there

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"What about if the roles were reversed....sorry Nora to go off topic x

I’d say man "

We use fella a lot in Yorkshire (in Scotland, I tend to get called big man). I rarely get offended, except when people shout 'oi'. Fir some reason it triggers a bad reaction. X

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I address all women how I like to be called and that's 'walking vagina'."

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By *endydick.CumbersnatchMan
over a year ago

I wouldn't say "that" female over there, I'd be more likely to say "the" lady over there. "That" sounds aggressive unless you want to say "THAT woman stole my chips"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woman.

Or (and I know this isnt great)

Girl if she's relatively young.

(I'm a guys and girls kinda guy, so would probably say guy rather than man)

Ladies is very formal for me. I'd not say look at that gentleman over there.

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By *itty Kat ABWoman
over a year ago

North Somerset

I would say 'the lady' rather than 'that lady'

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Is there a lady wearing a top on here?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

If I was being “professional” I would say for example the “Lady at no. 15”, if I was talking with my Mam, I would say “her at 15”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bet you all say “oh that gentleman over there” too.

Liars, the lot of ya!

You say woman, girl, bird, wench, doris, splitarse, lass, chick.

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Lady as even though it's an English word, it's what we use in Welsh also. So when speaking bilingually it's less thought. Use gentleman for the exact same reason.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

In Ireland:

Yer one over there (or if "it" looks like the male equivalent: yer man over there)

But in all seriousness, I would say the woman or possibly the lady

Herself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if the roles were reversed....sorry Nora to go off topic x"
lesser being or fella

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"What about if the roles were reversed....sorry Nora to go off topic xlesser being or fella

I just say...him over there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ho for me Nora - that Ho over there

Actually, like Hippy, I'd instinctively think lady but would likely change it to woman as that seems to annoy the least amount of people.

This! I do catch myself saying / typing it a lot and change it, as I really do worry about upsetting people.

As an overthinker, even relatively simple things like this do really play on my mind. Probably doesn't help with my social anxieties. "

Huh, try being an over thinker and insatiably curious with a desire to understand why people think the way they do and where the logic is in their opinions. It's very hard not to offend when you start probing someone's cognitive dissonance. My solution is to try my best not to offend but not care too much when, despite my best efforts, I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bird

Lass

Wench

Are my real go toos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woman

Bird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooo cock socket i like that one too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would depend on context.

If for example I'm suggesting to a child they can go to a shop worker to ask for something, I'm likely to say ..... The lady in the white top.

Her in the white top,

may be my way to express lack of respect, say if I noticed her behaving badly.

Woman in white top, may be used towards another adult.

I'm thinking, possibly.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Lady most likely, but some alternatives depending on situation and context...as long as not offensive it really doesn't matter

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"Woman as it's more natural in my Yorkshire accent. Unless Inam addressing the lady of the manor. Ow do mi lady"

I’ve got Hilda Ogden in my head say “woman, Stanley”….

I would say lady or woman. Although someone asked their children to move the way to let the lady (me) through last week - I said don’t call me that I’ll be getting ideas above my station

J x

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Lady, I think it's because of work and having to be polite to the patients it just spills over into everyday life

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