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By *ylonloverxx OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Had an interesting reply in the week to my initial message I'd sent a woman.

That was "sorry you've been on here 8 months and not had a meet.... seems abit odd to me".(I appreciate this is 1 woman's view)

So its got the ol grey matter thinking....

When I joined I was like "wow" what a site, loads of attractive women and couples, this will be amazing.

So I took my time,got used to the way the site works etc etc.

So started sending long messages just saying abit about me and what I'm looking for and also I'd attach a face picture if I knew they was genuine aswell plus I fitted their criteria too. No replies.

Then opted for a shorter message with the" hi hope your well, happy to send a face picture if your interested, maybe we can chat and see how we get along.... no replies there..

I'm not really into the "club meet" thing and by reading both sexes profiles meets do happen at someone's home or hotel.

I've tried posting on topics on here but that seem to only attract single men.

So is that it then.... due to me not meeting anyone since I've started I'm now written off.... do I start up another profile...

Thoughts.... comments and criticism more than welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treat fab like a dartboard...throw 150 faf's a day...one has to hit the bullseye sooner or later

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Had an interesting reply in the week to my initial message I'd sent a woman.

That was "sorry you've been on here 8 months and not had a meet.... seems abit odd to me".(I appreciate this is 1 woman's view)

So its got the ol grey matter thinking....

When I joined I was like "wow" what a site, loads of attractive women and couples, this will be amazing.

So I took my time,got used to the way the site works etc etc.

So started sending long messages just saying abit about me and what I'm looking for and also I'd attach a face picture if I knew they was genuine aswell plus I fitted their criteria too. No replies.

Then opted for a shorter message with the" hi hope your well, happy to send a face picture if your interested, maybe we can chat and see how we get along.... no replies there..

I'm not really into the "club meet" thing and by reading both sexes profiles meets do happen at someone's home or hotel.

I've tried posting on topics on here but that seem to only attract single men.

So is that it then.... due to me not meeting anyone since I've started I'm now written off.... do I start up another profile...

Thoughts.... comments and criticism more than welcome

"

Clubs get you verified, that get you noticed, that get you in the game

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Never surrender!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Had an interesting reply in the week to my initial message I'd sent a woman.

That was "sorry you've been on here 8 months and not had a meet.... seems abit odd to me".(I appreciate this is 1 woman's view)

So its got the ol grey matter thinking....

When I joined I was like "wow" what a site, loads of attractive women and couples, this will be amazing.

So I took my time,got used to the way the site works etc etc.

So started sending long messages just saying abit about me and what I'm looking for and also I'd attach a face picture if I knew they was genuine aswell plus I fitted their criteria too. No replies.

Then opted for a shorter message with the" hi hope your well, happy to send a face picture if your interested, maybe we can chat and see how we get along.... no replies there..

I'm not really into the "club meet" thing and by reading both sexes profiles meets do happen at someone's home or hotel.

I've tried posting on topics on here but that seem to only attract single men.

So is that it then.... due to me not meeting anyone since I've started I'm now written off.... do I start up another profile...

Thoughts.... comments and criticism more than welcome

"

Thoughts?

Whilst only around 1% of the site uses the forums it's a frequent occurrence that threads questioning why meets haven't happened appear. And generally they don't end well.

You've asked for feedback so here's mine.

Straight guys don't generally look to meet TV's. Well...they often do, but then others that view their profiles won't consider them 100% straight and may be put off.

You say you took your time and you've gotten used to how the site works but if you had then you'd know that there's nothing unique in someone being here for 8 months without getting a meet. So either you haven't worked out how the site works or it doesn't work how you think it does.

Posting topics in the forums won't just attract responses from those you're seeking. You'll get replies from men. That's life.

And finally what do you think will change if you start a new profile? What will you do differently and if you have ideas that you think will work on a new profile.....why haven't you tried them on this one?

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

8 photos and only 2 don’t have nylons in them. That can be off putting to a woman. Speaking for myself, it’s a no from me.

You say your straight, but looking to meet TV/TS in the same sentence you say no single men unless the TS/TV in question has had the full works, then you’re basically meeting a guy, who identifies and lives like a woman.

All of that would put me off. Your profile sounds very confusing.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

I’ll be real with you OP, you’re flogging a dead horse if you genuinely think you’ll be successful as a single getting meets from fab alone.

Yes it does happen but these opportunities are few and far between. Curious to understand why the whole club “thing” isn’t for you? As already eluded to? Going to them means you get verified and therefore noticed more. I know my profile views go through the roof after being verified from club visits. Heck, I’ve even had messages on the back off them from people I’ve not met but have piqued their interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for being here too long….. it’s only been 8 months! There’s guys here who have been for over a year with no meets. Get out to socials, if there isn’t any, organise one

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By *ylonloverxx OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"Treat fab like a dartboard...throw 150 faf's a day...one has to hit the bullseye sooner or later "

Hahaha brilliant

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"As for being here too long….. it’s only been 8 months! There’s guys here who have been for over a year with no meets. Get out to socials, if there isn’t any, organise one"

Got to be in it, to win it! Clubs are easy social events

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By *ylonloverxx OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"Had an interesting reply in the week to my initial message I'd sent a woman.

That was "sorry you've been on here 8 months and not had a meet.... seems abit odd to me".(I appreciate this is 1 woman's view)

So its got the ol grey matter thinking....

When I joined I was like "wow" what a site, loads of attractive women and couples, this will be amazing.

So I took my time,got used to the way the site works etc etc.

So started sending long messages just saying abit about me and what I'm looking for and also I'd attach a face picture if I knew they was genuine aswell plus I fitted their criteria too. No replies.

Then opted for a shorter message with the" hi hope your well, happy to send a face picture if your interested, maybe we can chat and see how we get along.... no replies there..

I'm not really into the "club meet" thing and by reading both sexes profiles meets do happen at someone's home or hotel.

I've tried posting on topics on here but that seem to only attract single men.

So is that it then.... due to me not meeting anyone since I've started I'm now written off.... do I start up another profile...

Thoughts.... comments and criticism more than welcome

Clubs get you verified, that get you noticed, that get you in the game "

Yeah I do get that feeling clubs are a good way... cheers for the reply

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

You need to get yourself a video on your profile. Use ABBA’s “Take a chance on me” as the soundtrack and work it!!!

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By *ylonloverxx OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"Had an interesting reply in the week to my initial message I'd sent a woman.

That was "sorry you've been on here 8 months and not had a meet.... seems abit odd to me".(I appreciate this is 1 woman's view)

So its got the ol grey matter thinking....

When I joined I was like "wow" what a site, loads of attractive women and couples, this will be amazing.

So I took my time,got used to the way the site works etc etc.

So started sending long messages just saying abit about me and what I'm looking for and also I'd attach a face picture if I knew they was genuine aswell plus I fitted their criteria too. No replies.

Then opted for a shorter message with the" hi hope your well, happy to send a face picture if your interested, maybe we can chat and see how we get along.... no replies there..

I'm not really into the "club meet" thing and by reading both sexes profiles meets do happen at someone's home or hotel.

I've tried posting on topics on here but that seem to only attract single men.

So is that it then.... due to me not meeting anyone since I've started I'm now written off.... do I start up another profile...

Thoughts.... comments and criticism more than welcome

Thoughts?

Whilst only around 1% of the site uses the forums it's a frequent occurrence that threads questioning why meets haven't happened appear. And generally they don't end well.

You've asked for feedback so here's mine.

Straight guys don't generally look to meet TV's. Well...they often do, but then others that view their profiles won't consider them 100% straight and may be put off.

You say you took your time and you've gotten used to how the site works but if you had then you'd know that there's nothing unique in someone being here for 8 months without getting a meet. So either you haven't worked out how the site works or it doesn't work how you think it does.

Posting topics in the forums won't just attract responses from those you're seeking. You'll get replies from men. That's life.

And finally what do you think will change if you start a new profile? What will you do differently and if you have ideas that you think will work on a new profile.....why haven't you tried them on this one?

A"

I've taken time to see how the site works... of course I don't know everything about the site but enough to be respectful to others and take things with a pinch of salt as they say. The only thing that would change with a new profile is a new start date haha. I've no new ideas hence posting on here, appreciate your view's though

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’ve never understood that attitude. I don’t even show “meet”’veris and actually tell people not to leave me veris. Same with people who won’t meet unverified. The nicest people I’ve met have had no verifications. Do people not chat first and pretty much make sure the person they are meeting is real? It’s all a bit odd to me or I’m just not very good at fab .

Although I can say I’ve had no no-shows, no catfishes, no ghosting, no abusive messages, nobody (except one person filtered to hell!) who didn’t look like I thought they would so I must be doing something right.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I’ve never understood that attitude. I don’t even show “meet”’veris and actually tell people not to leave me veris. Same with people who won’t meet unverified. The nicest people I’ve met have had no verifications. Do people not chat first and pretty much make sure the person they are meeting is real? It’s all a bit odd to me or I’m just not very good at fab .

Although I can say I’ve had no no-shows, no catfishes, no ghosting, no abusive messages, nobody (except one person filtered to hell!) who didn’t look like I thought they would so I must be doing something right. "

I'm too ugly for filters anyway x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"You need to get yourself a video on your profile. Use ABBA’s “Take a chance on me” as the soundtrack and work it!!!

"

Move the hips, work it, go for it

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I’ve never understood that attitude. I don’t even show “meet”’veris and actually tell people not to leave me veris. Same with people who won’t meet unverified. The nicest people I’ve met have had no verifications. Do people not chat first and pretty much make sure the person they are meeting is real? It’s all a bit odd to me or I’m just not very good at fab .

Although I can say I’ve had no no-shows, no catfishes, no ghosting, no abusive messages, nobody (except one person filtered to hell!) who didn’t look like I thought they would so I must be doing something right.

I'm too ugly for filters anyway x"

You should use filters to make you pretty then . A lot do haha

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By *ylonloverxx OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Seriously I do appreciate all the replies and taking it on board, if I could "like" each reply I would

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I’ve never understood that attitude. I don’t even show “meet”’veris and actually tell people not to leave me veris. Same with people who won’t meet unverified. The nicest people I’ve met have had no verifications. Do people not chat first and pretty much make sure the person they are meeting is real? It’s all a bit odd to me or I’m just not very good at fab .

Although I can say I’ve had no no-shows, no catfishes, no ghosting, no abusive messages, nobody (except one person filtered to hell!) who didn’t look like I thought they would so I must be doing something right.

I'm too ugly for filters anyway x

You should use filters to make you pretty then . A lot do haha "

I can barely get it to focus x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I’ve never understood that attitude. I don’t even show “meet”’veris and actually tell people not to leave me veris. Same with people who won’t meet unverified. The nicest people I’ve met have had no verifications. Do people not chat first and pretty much make sure the person they are meeting is real? It’s all a bit odd to me or I’m just not very good at fab .

Although I can say I’ve had no no-shows, no catfishes, no ghosting, no abusive messages, nobody (except one person filtered to hell!) who didn’t look like I thought they would so I must be doing something right.

I'm too ugly for filters anyway x

You should use filters to make you pretty then . A lot do haha

I can barely get it to focus x"

I think you just transfer the pic to that Snapchat thing. My daughter did mine once I looked bloody awesome!!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I’ve never understood that attitude. I don’t even show “meet”’veris and actually tell people not to leave me veris. Same with people who won’t meet unverified. The nicest people I’ve met have had no verifications. Do people not chat first and pretty much make sure the person they are meeting is real? It’s all a bit odd to me or I’m just not very good at fab .

Although I can say I’ve had no no-shows, no catfishes, no ghosting, no abusive messages, nobody (except one person filtered to hell!) who didn’t look like I thought they would so I must be doing something right.

I'm too ugly for filters anyway x

You should use filters to make you pretty then . A lot do haha

I can barely get it to focus x

I think you just transfer the pic to that Snapchat thing. My daughter did mine once I looked bloody awesome!! "

I've seen your face. You are bloody awesome x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I’ve never understood that attitude. I don’t even show “meet”’veris and actually tell people not to leave me veris. Same with people who won’t meet unverified. The nicest people I’ve met have had no verifications. Do people not chat first and pretty much make sure the person they are meeting is real? It’s all a bit odd to me or I’m just not very good at fab .

Although I can say I’ve had no no-shows, no catfishes, no ghosting, no abusive messages, nobody (except one person filtered to hell!) who didn’t look like I thought they would so I must be doing something right.

I'm too ugly for filters anyway x

You should use filters to make you pretty then . A lot do haha

I can barely get it to focus x

I think you just transfer the pic to that Snapchat thing. My daughter did mine once I looked bloody awesome!!

I've seen your face. You are bloody awesome x"

Hahaha. Of course I am …….for an old bint

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I’ve never understood that attitude. I don’t even show “meet”’veris and actually tell people not to leave me veris. Same with people who won’t meet unverified. The nicest people I’ve met have had no verifications. Do people not chat first and pretty much make sure the person they are meeting is real? It’s all a bit odd to me or I’m just not very good at fab .

Although I can say I’ve had no no-shows, no catfishes, no ghosting, no abusive messages, nobody (except one person filtered to hell!) who didn’t look like I thought they would so I must be doing something right.

I'm too ugly for filters anyway x

You should use filters to make you pretty then . A lot do haha

I can barely get it to focus x

I think you just transfer the pic to that Snapchat thing. My daughter did mine once I looked bloody awesome!!

I've seen your face. You are bloody awesome x

Hahaha. Of course I am …….for an old bint "

Less of the old! Mature and classy x

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By *ylonloverxx OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"I’ve never understood that attitude. I don’t even show “meet”’veris and actually tell people not to leave me veris. Same with people who won’t meet unverified. The nicest people I’ve met have had no verifications. Do people not chat first and pretty much make sure the person they are meeting is real? It’s all a bit odd to me or I’m just not very good at fab .

Although I can say I’ve had no no-shows, no catfishes, no ghosting, no abusive messages, nobody (except one person filtered to hell!) who didn’t look like I thought they would so I must be doing something right.

I'm too ugly for filters anyway x

You should use filters to make you pretty then . A lot do haha "

Each to their own with the whole filters thing.... but then your not being honest with what you look like... plus I've only coffee filters

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Your interests are very niche, the majority on here won't be looking for that kind of thing.

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