FabSwingers.com forum: When you was a kid did you have to ask permission to leave the table

By *usman 199 OP Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Seem to remember I did .

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please may I leave the table?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

Please may I leave the table.

Often abbreviated to plmlatable

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes we did.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Yes, I believe smart families still do this too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uv2kissMan
over a year ago

fenland

Yes I had to, and pushing a couple of Brussels sprouts around my plate for about an hour.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep , and I make my two kids do it too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Yes. I thought my kids to ask permission too.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I wouldn't dare leave the table without permission i wouldn't even dare sat at the table before praying

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

No, because we knew that the only prerequisite was to finish our plate

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I did. I've never made my kids do it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rthur WrightusMan
over a year ago

Round the Bend

Yes certainly, and you only asked when everyone had finished eating.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Yup. And we had to come back if others were still eating...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, my children also do it. It's just manners

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I did, never made my kids do it though, as long as they ate their meal they were free to leave

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and when visiting certain family members we still do

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely yes and if i didn't id be given an ear bashing I also was taught to write thank you letters after receiving a gift.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope….and I’ve never asked my kids to do it either

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could ask... but if I wasn't finished, I wasn't going anywhere

Cold mushy peas. Still gives me the fear!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No and I used to get to drink woodpecker cider on a Sunday

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Yes and still do it with my lad. It’s basic family time, that is important.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes we did! And my first husband was same with my oldest kids! X

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

Yes, and it was the only way my parents could get us to eat Brussels Sprouts… we were desperate to leave the table on a Sunday lunchtime to watch Thunderbirds, and weren’t allowed to until the plate was clear

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, never!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Seem to remember I did .

Yep.

Sit up. Don't slouch. Elbows off the table. Wait till everyone else has finished... Don't start till mum sat down...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Yes until I grew up a bit and was able to throw a sprout with great precision and leg it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

Yes! My friends thought it was really weird !!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rthur WrightusMan
over a year ago

Round the Bend

"Seem to remember I did .

Yep.

Sit up. Don't slouch. Elbows off the table. Wait till everyone else has finished... Don't start till mum sat down... "

. . . and don't speak with your mouth full either.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ightkitty4uWoman
over a year ago

Epsom

Christmas Day I still ask!!

It’s not as formal as please can I leave the table it more of a look at my mum and a “I’m getting another drink” comment I don’t move until she nods approvingly

I’m 45 ffs!!! Some habits don’t die

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

Yup

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes after I finished my dinner x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent

Yes and taught my kids the same, and now my grandkids too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ryant2018Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Long time ago at a family dinner , my then 6 year , slid of his chair ….. my father said “ please my I leave the table “ in a you should ask way .

My son quick as a flash … “ course you can grandad “

Genius !

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were not allowed to leave the table until everyone had finished.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m having a moment , please tell me I’m not only just realising how weird our family was.

We weren’t the only ones who said “can I get down now?” when asking permission were we?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope my parents weren't that strict

but had to take my plate and place in the sink

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *emptd2Man
over a year ago

Burgess Hill

No, I wasn't allowed to leave until my plate was empty though.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"I’m having a moment , please tell me I’m not only just realising how weird our family was.

We weren’t the only ones who said “can I get down now?” when asking permission were we? "

You're not weird. Our kids ask that now

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasn’t allowed to talk

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hisStagsVixenCouple
over a year ago

peterborough

Yes! And my dad always replied ‘well you can’t take it with you!’

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes! And my dad always replied ‘well you can’t take it with you!’

Ah , dad jokes at their finest

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Yup, clean plate and everyone else has to have finished then ask.

Then into the kitchen with one washing, one drying and the others putting away.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

Yes, we had to ask to leave if we wanted to go before everyone else was finished. My dad wouldn’t let anyone start until we were all seated either, with the only excuse to that being large family gatherings where you’d be told “don’t wait”

I occasionally make my lad slow down/wait, rather than endure him bolting his food in order to get away.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Not that I can remember. Definitely not when I was a teenager as we didn't all eat at the same time.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Yes until teenage years then we didn't sit at a table.

When my kids were little at my parents we used the table and I'd ask to leave, out of politness.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May I leave the table

Yes you may

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Yes and my kids do it now too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *an de LyonMan
over a year ago

welling

"Seem to remember I did .

Yes

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Yes and we push our chair in.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I did. And wasn’t allowed until everyone had finished eating

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *bi cdMan
over a year ago

Worksop

I had to ask.

Apparently I asked to leave the table in a fish and chip shop once. A lady on the next table told my mum what a polite child she had.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

My grandchildren have to ask or wait to leave the table.

This is still commonplace I would think.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn't raised to ask to leave the table and neither have I raised my kids to ask.

NBVN x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes until I grew up a bit and was able to throw a sprout with great precision and leg it

Haha! But what a waste of a sprout

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ay731973Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

I did as a kid

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

Not as a kid, for some reason I announce it now, don’t know why I started doing that

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Now we're not perfect parents by any stretch of the imagination, but surely there are better ways to have 'family time' than to force kids to sit at the dinner table? In my opinion it's better to encourage them to stay with good conversation or by playing a game and when they have finished their plate, they know they can leave without having to specifically ask. Mrs.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

There were six of us and only four chairs, my Dad always sat at the table and the rest of us just got fed in whichever order we appeared from school or whoever was ready to eat first

When my family was little we all sat at the table purely because it was in the kitchen and it was just easier to serve it there, as long as we all had something to eat I was happy

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yep

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

No. My parents worked shifts, so no set meal times

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Yes we did and if we were eating a chicken leg or something that was tricky to eat with a knife and fork, we had to ask if we could pick it up with our hands too. We were not encouraged to speak at the table either. Dad used to like to eat his meals in peace.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Yes & our children do now too.

J x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Yes I did.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Yes always asked to leave the table.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ezzie_xWoman
over a year ago

london

Never ate together at the table

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Seem to remember I did .

Table We so poor. We had carbord boxes to eat off we then had sleep inside .

Permission what's that

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

No never but then again I was cooking from about 9, how I never burnt the house down while multi tasking with watching scooby doo I’ll never know

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yes I did, and so do my kids now.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

No.

But I did have to sit straight. Not play with food. Speak when spoken to. No arms on the table. Use the correct cutlery.

At the end, I had to put the cutlery in the correct position to indicate I had finished and was free to leave when I wished.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes “can I be excused please?”

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, once I was done, I could just go.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yes, after everyone had finished

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread