FabSwingers.com forum: Married ladies - did you change your surname?

By *ickshawed OP Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

For those who are or have been married, did you change or keep your surname? Maybe double barrel it? Did you feel pressure to do so or get any comments about your choice?

I was thinking that I did the old fashioned thing and took my husband's surname. But then I realised that all 3 of my mum's sisters kept their maiden name. So if I'm old fashioned were they modern thinkers 30 years before me?

My main reason was I wanted to share a surname with my husband and children. I would never have double barrelled it, but it would have sounded utterly ridiculous if I had.

Just curious about other people's experiences really

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

When I was married, I didn't, and got a lot of stick for not changing it.

It's my name damn it. If you want a name changed, change your own and leave me alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I changed it, did it before we got married. It wasn't anything to do with my hubby, I just wanted rid of my dads name.. last thing of his I needed to get rid of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I did because I wanted to have the same name as my husband and sons...have no desire to change it back because of my sons

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

I did, except on my mobile phone bill and PayPal because they are such a pain to change! I’m now separated and haven’t decided about name change x

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Yes. My stepkids wanted me to have the same name as them

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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago

Sent to Coventry

I did

Then changed it back again when I divorced.

With hindsight I wouldn’t change it in the first place.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes I did. I probably would again I don't regret my decision

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I would if ever I got married

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

I changed mine, I couldn't wait to be rid of my maiden name as it was one reason I got the piss taken out of me all my life.

Then I divorced and chose to take it back, which made my dad very happy.

If I got married again, I'd take my husband's name. I like that tradition personally.

Posh

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I took my husbands name and even tho we split up 15 years ago I still have it because of my boys, I still want the same last name as my sons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did

Now I’m getting divorced I’m thinking if changing it back . Everyone says won’t it be weird having a different name than your daughter but I can’t think of a single situation in which it would bother me or be an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't and when I have children they'll have my surname as well

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Yes, changed mine.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"I did

I did & hated it. When we split I went back to my maiden name but kept the Mrs. Re-married & have taken T’s surname as I like it. I’ve got paperwork in all 3 names though which I need to sort

J x

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

She uses her maidan name as her middle name now

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By *erriman69Couple
over a year ago

highworth

I did.

Then kept it after we got divorced because it suited me better. That pissed him off which made it even better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, my husband took my last name

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By *ickshawed OP Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Nope, my husband took my last name

I always wonder what sort of remarks men who do this get. I quite like the idea of it. It wasn't something we considered as my husband is his dad's only child and my maiden name is common as muck

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yes

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I took my husbands name married at 16 we were married 16 years and I kept the surname as less hassle changing everything plus my maiden surname not the best so still married name now x

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

I haven't been married but when I got engaged, my fiance was going to take my name as I had changed it to something significant to me.

My mother is married to a woman and they share the same forename so have both kept their own surname to avoid confusion lol.

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By *arrior PrincessWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I changed my name when I got married. I did think about changing it back when I got divorced but I just can't be bothered with the hassle. Plus it probably annoys his girlfriend that I am still Mrs.... and she isn't haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex changed her name back to her maiden name while we were still married.....a bit of a red flag that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm changing my surname when I get married to my husband's name.

I hadn't really thought I would keep my own name after marriage as it just somehow seems right that we have the same name and his is better than mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took John's surname but my initials are still the same xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes , I did.

I'm getting divorced but wouldn't change it back to my maiden name.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’d love to find a Mrs Holes

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

"I’d love to find a Mrs Holes

I hope she is called Phill (ipa)

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Yes , I did.

I'm getting divorced but wouldn't change it back to my maiden name. "

I like this. I know someone who says the same It’s her name now , not his and nothing to do with children. The reason she changed her name a long time ago was because she wanted to , her choice no one else’s and it’s her choice now to keep her own name.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I did in my personal life but not in my professional one, when I was married.

If I ever was to marry again I'd consider double barreling our names. But with mine at the end.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

I changed mine from my previous husbands name to the current one

I haven’t got a middle name so use my birth surname. This was just a bloody disaster as can’t change passport or driving license as gone from one married name to another!

Man version, wish I’d ditched the maiden name

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