FabSwingers.com forum: Struggling to get meets!? Read on

By *r Sprout OP Man
over a year ago

the middle

So it seems like every week this topic comes up. So to help others I have compiled a list of the top answers from the previous 100 posts like this.

Here are your options to possibly getting a (or more) meets on here.

Go to a club

Go to a group social

Look at popular male profiles and see what they are doing

Be yourself

Be different

Stand out from the rest

Read profiles before messaging

When you do message make it unique to that profile

Don’t send dick pics with a first message

Remember your profile is your shop window put on your best display

And the last one is one a good friend told me.

Effort in equals results out.

Some say the ratio of men to women/couples is 100/1 said to be so it will be harder to get a meet, so please keep that in mind

Feel free to copy and add to this list if I have missed anything. Good luck to anyone who actually uses it.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Why is this so cockcentric? I struggle with getting meets as well.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Be ordinary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks but no need for help im not that arsed meeting anyone i think i may be done with the need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's getting more difficult to get a meet. Really don't know what's happened on here now. This is why I prefer to go to our club in Glasgow, CJ's, so always guaranteed to meet people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is this so cockcentric? I struggle with getting meets as well. "

Have you tried sending willy pics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is this so cockcentric? I struggle with getting meets as well. "
other than checking out male profiles for ideas (maybe replace for women?) I'm not sure it is...

(Women shouldn't send dick pics either !)

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By *r Sprout OP Man
over a year ago

the middle

"Why is this so cockcentric? I struggle with getting meets as well. "

My apologies. Replace male with female and dick with vulva. Ignore the 100/1 bit and you’re good to go

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Put some effort into the messages. "How's you" or "are you free" or "can I ask a question" are all very dull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re reading this post and struggling to get meets- try T*nder

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Send a face pic with the first msg

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Why is this so cockcentric? I struggle with getting meets as well.

Have you tried sending willy pics? "

Yeaaah. For some reason people just delete and block me. Prudes.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Send a face pic with the first msg"

That's normally when the trail goes cold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any advice for couples please ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I here by promise not to do any of the above listed things

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By *ookie doughMan
over a year ago

leic

I rarely make first contact cos I'm a chicken. But I'm more than happy with my experiences here

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm confused now. Is it people who complain they can't get meets or people who complain about people complaining about not getting meets that get the least meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Send a face pic with the first msg"
stuff that make em beg for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately the people that need to read this either won’t or if they do they’ll choose to ignore it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately the people that need to read this either won’t or if they do they’ll choose to ignore it."

Always the case!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately the people that need to read this either won’t or if they do they’ll choose to ignore it."

I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any advice for couples please ?"
move away from Norfolk ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Send a face pic with the first msg"
but then some people don't open pics just in case it's a dick.... It's a conundrum !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately the people that need to read this either won’t or if they do they’ll choose to ignore it.

I am

You want meats not meets so that’s allowed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any advice for couples please ?move away from Norfolk ...

Nooooo we love it here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wut?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just because there are 1000s more men than women dont make it easy for women could get 300t o 400 messages but not one guy to suit or warrent a meet

number one problen for guys is the sheer number of men on here and elsewhere they could do everything the op stated and still get nowhere so the number of men is you number one problem

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

"Send a face pic with the first msgbut then some people don't open pics just in case it's a dick.... It's a conundrum ! "

I never realised that was a thing... you really do learn something new every day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's getting more difficult to get a meet. Really don't know what's happened on here now. This is why I prefer to go to our club in Glasgow, CJ's, so always guaranteed to meet people x"

We prefer this too, though mostly for safety reasons. Though the people we meet at CJs are generally very nice.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Any advice for couples please ?"

Reply to every single dull message in hopes to find a diamond in a rough.

Accept cock pics as a magnificent gift (like a cat bringing you dead mouse - you know the cat is proud of it, so you say thank you).

Agree to every "wanna fuck" message - don't make it awkward for people by asking for a social.

Don't forget you're here to service hubby's/boyfriends fantasies and strangers cocks. Your own pleasure doesn't matter.

Also if you're looking for other couples - be prepared to take one for the team. Teamwork is the dreamwork!

If you're looking for single women - never expect them to send you a face photo. Respect their privacy

If any single woman contacts you - run for the opportunity, no matter if you're not attracted to them. They're unicorns.

Don't forget to ask things like:

Do your relatives come over unexpectedly often?

Do you have any family members who might suddenly pass away?

Do you have children who you're looking after on a given day of arranged meet?

Do you get called into work last minute on a daily basis?

Does your car need serviced?

(Those are most common "reasons" for sudden ghosting a few hours before arranged meet, so better check beforehand).

Hope my advice helps and sarcasm won't be lost

Missus

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Why is this so cockcentric? I struggle with getting meets as well.

My apologies. Replace male with female and dick with vulva. Ignore the 100/1 bit and you’re good to go

Vulva is a word you don't see used often enough

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"I'm confused now. Is it people who complain they can't get meets or people who complain about people complaining about not getting meets that get the least meets? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm confused now. Is it people who complain they can't get meets or people who complain about people complaining about not getting meets that get the least meets?

Confused also

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

"Why is this so cockcentric? I struggle with getting meets as well.

My apologies. Replace male with female and dick with vulva. Ignore the 100/1 bit and you’re good to go

Vulva is a word you don't see used often enough

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Given the thread, for many the word is as close as they will get.

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By *azorRay666Man
over a year ago

Esher

"Put some effort into the messages. "How's you" or "are you free" or "can I ask a question" are all very dull

"How's you?" isn't even grammatically correct!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll agree with some of this, but other things, not so much (this is not my first profile here, so despite my recent joining date, I've had prior experience)

Socials are hard for some people to go to if they have anxiety issues and don't want to go to one if they haven't ever spoken to someone there before

Been to events at Pandora, and still got no interest from people. So that isn't a strict "do this and see the improvement"

I always keep my profiles informative and well written, alas I find it does not seem to help.

I try to approach people in messages as best I can, pointing out things in their profile, and have been noted to have very polite messages, by people who wish to respectfully decline interest.

I've only ever sent one dick pic on fab, and that was requested.

"Be different"; erm, I'm not sure how much different I can be. I mean look at me, I have inch stretches in my lobes.

The fact is that people have to be doing exactly all the right things to the right person at the right time, and men can have a harder time doing that because their messages get buried under a myriad of "wanna meet" messages from less respectful guys. It isn't all "do this and you'll find success", because a lot of it also comes down to chance.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"I'll agree with some of this, but other things, not so much (this is not my first profile here, so despite my recent joining date, I've had prior experience)

Socials are hard for some people to go to if they have anxiety issues and don't want to go to one if they haven't ever spoken to someone there before

Been to events at Pandora, and still got no interest from people. So that isn't a strict "do this and see the improvement"

I always keep my profiles informative and well written, alas I find it does not seem to help.

I try to approach people in messages as best I can, pointing out things in their profile, and have been noted to have very polite messages, by people who wish to respectfully decline interest.

I've only ever sent one dick pic on fab, and that was requested.

"Be different"; erm, I'm not sure how much different I can be. I mean look at me, I have inch stretches in my lobes.

Don't forget the fact that you might not always be someone's type, no matter how witty and respectful you are.

Going to socials isn't enough- one needs to actually socialse at them (come up to people and chat to them, not stand around in the corner waiting for someone to approach you) and it's not always an easy task if you have social anxiety or just are simply feeling off that day.

Being different often simply means reading a profile and not ignoring one or more preferences 99% of the time.

Bottom line is: there is no guarantee that you will click with someone just by following all of that advice.

Finding a spark is very very personal and above advice, just increases your chances, not magically makes everyone say yes.

Missus

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By *ay9971Man
over a year ago

Manchester/London

I’ve had a look at your profile and pics and I seriously can’t understand why people would deleted and block your messages x bizzare x

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