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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve chatted to a few people on here in the past. We got on spoke for a week or so say they want to meet and then go cold! What am I doing wrong!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expecting to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know what you’re doing, or saying, so how can I answer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve chatted to a few people on here in the past. We got on spoke for a week or so say they want to meet and then go cold! What am I doing wrong!? "

Did you do sex chat?

He had a wank, no need to meet.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Just keep trying I would say it's not easy for men here sure it's nothing u doing wrong tbh good luck x

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Did they realise you'd misspelled Yorkshire?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just keep trying don’t lose faith , stick around the forums and have fun

Nobody knows what you are doing wrong as we don’t know what messages you send…

Remember your profile is your shop window put on your best display

It’s hard when you are new, I always recommend clubs and socials great way to meet others

All the best

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nope no sex chat unless the others started it I didn’t want to scare them off!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Dont know what you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your a man you outnumber women some say 100 to 1 ...thats all you need to know as to why your having no luck ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont know what you mean "

Who are you replying to ?

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum


"I’ve chatted to a few people on here in the past. We got on spoke for a week or so say they want to meet and then go cold! What am I doing wrong!? "

Nothing that's just how it is sometimes.

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By *ofbefMan
over a year ago

Fife


"I’ve chatted to a few people on here in the past. We got on spoke for a week or so say they want to meet and then go cold! What am I doing wrong!? "

Sometimes I am tempted to delete the account and leave fab but just sticking around to see. Sometimes you feel there is something wrong with yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve chatted to a few people on here in the past. We got on spoke for a week or so say they want to meet and then go cold! What am I doing wrong!? "

Perhaps it’s not you, perhaps their life gets in the way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope no sex chat unless the others started it I didn’t want to scare them off!! "

Be careful. If a woman starts sex chat there's a high chance that it could be a man.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It tends to be not that someone is doing anything wrong.

They just aren't doing anything right

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"Nope no sex chat unless the others started it I didn’t want to scare them off!!

Be careful. If a woman starts sex chat there's a high chance that it could be a man.

"

You know it

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Have you offered cake? Vote winner here, but none of that odd carrot based stuff

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Have you offered cake? Vote winner here, but none of that odd carrot based stuff "

It's carrot cake that wins the cake polls

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"Have you offered cake? Vote winner here, but none of that odd carrot based stuff "

Erh hem! Carrot cake is THE winner!

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"Have you offered cake? Vote winner here, but none of that odd carrot based stuff

It's carrot cake that wins the cake polls "

Seconded

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Perhaps because you're a single guy that can't accommodate?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Have you offered cake? Vote winner here, but none of that odd carrot based stuff

It's carrot cake that wins the cake polls "

Just good old cream cake.....or chocolate, with Elmlea. The poll winner was obviously undertaken by Mori x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Have you offered cake? Vote winner here, but none of that odd carrot based stuff

It's carrot cake that wins the cake polls

Seconded "

It's true https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1197262

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Have you offered cake? Vote winner here, but none of that odd carrot based stuff

Erh hem! Carrot cake is THE winner! "

Nae, nae and thrice nae. Why can't you use your carrots in something proper, like a pie? x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Have you offered cake? Vote winner here, but none of that odd carrot based stuff

It's carrot cake that wins the cake polls

Seconded

It's true https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1197262"

I demand a recount x

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Sometimes guys do nothing wrong. Sometimes we just get bored or someone else sparks out attention. I can talk to someone for a week and forget what we spoke about. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

It just how fab rolls sometimes. You can have intimate conversations with someone for months then they just disappear as if they never existed. Either go with the flow or don’t but if you don’t you’ll only frustrate yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv found the less you care about meeting folks the more folks ask better to wait for them to come to you is my opinion

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Iv found the less you care about meeting folks the more folks ask better to wait for them to come to you is my opinion "

Confident approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve chatted to a few people on here in the past. We got on spoke for a week or so say they want to meet and then go cold! What am I doing wrong!? "

What are you doing wrong?

You have 'not looking for single guys' on your profile

Take that off and you'll have more messages than you can answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

surely when you join you see that the site is full of men that tells you your in for a very tought time ? its abit like a 1000 guys turning up for football trials for 11 spots in the team thats 989 dissapointed men walking away ...its the same on here its no reflection on your a good guy or bad guy its just how it is ..

dont matter if the couple and ladies are swingers or simply looking for sex hook ups there will always be to many men and with large amonts of men joining daily too ..

people say clubs id agree normally but on our last few vists we notice quite a few couples are shunning men well more than normal let say ..heard it on here to that other have notice so not sure if clubs will give you the answer ....covid has changed alot of things thats for sure ..

also lots of couples wanting regular guys therefore once theyhave what they need they stop looking ....all adds up not looking good for single men is it ??

us nah we only meet single guys so we keep looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be sensitive.

Listen.

Make conversation.

Show interest.

Joking…..

Beard.

Tattoos.

Be a knob.

You’re welcome.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"What are you doing wrong?

You have 'not looking for single guys' on your profile

Take that off and you'll have more messages than you can answer "

Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lose faith as quick as possible. Might as well get there sooner.

In my (limited) experience it’s either

Meet now.

Meet now and I’m an absolute bell end (ie want you available to fit their schedule)

Chat 3 messages demand a meeting

Chat 3 days agree to set up a meeting, then lose their temper cause you won’t drop everything to meet when and where it suits them (and can never accom)

Chat 3 days then pressurise you for kik or WhatsApp then message every 5 minutes. Lose temper if you don’t reply quickly enough.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Good things come to those who wait. So i must be on for an absolute savage one soon

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Ask to have a social first, less pressure

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