FabSwingers.com forum: ‘Free now?’ Do I need to get over myself and remember it’s a sex site

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I just delete and block x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a sex site so it doesn’t “offend” me.

Rather people be str8 to the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just delete and block x"

Delete. Don’t even give it a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This actually happens?!

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I’m more annoyed they don’t read profiles

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’"

We have one 'couple' who always seem to pop up randomly at 2am and ask this.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"I just delete and block x"

We shall endeavour to message you long before we travel anywhere near you then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This actually happens?!"

Conservative estimate average of maybe 2 or 3 a day depending on the day of the week and time I’m online yeah

Often from people I have ignored or told that that approach doesn’t work for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, you don’t at all need to get over yourself. You stay true to what you hope to get out of being here.

Some people are happy for immediate meets and fair play to those who are but IMHO I think it’s the minority who are

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

After about 10pm, if I forget to close my message filters I get loads of these,it becomes more frequent as the night goes on ,presumably as they get more inebriated lol

I just delete and if they message again ,block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’"

It happens all the time and it boils my p*ss. We have to be careful, I more cautious after a bad meet and a woman I know who went back to a guys place and him and his boyfriend m*rdered and d*smembered her body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only meet who you want to meet at a time that suits both , that's if both wanna meet , if not just ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’

F***ING HELL !!!!

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

I'm freeeee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Added to my last , I think it’s especially unrealistic for people to think anyone on the trans spectrum who may not be full time can meet immediately.

Thinking back to my previous life, it’s a logistical nightmare to get ready sometimes. Like, I need 24hours notice to get my shit together thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After about 10pm, if I forget to close my message filters I get loads of these,it becomes more frequent as the night goes on ,presumably as they get more inebriated lol

I just delete and if they message again ,block.

I wonder how well it actually works for them, and I wonder if sending that to 50+ profiles to get maybe 3 or 4 responses is more time consuming than messaging a handful of people you like the look of and trying to figure out what makes them tick and then arrange something . Seems like a bit of a false economy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind anyone asking if i am i am if im not im not either way there likely not to get to ride the cock they crave unless im blown away with lust and excitement or its a friend i want to boink

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

the joys of modern technology.

Any muppet can use it.

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By *earded BeastMan
over a year ago

durham

I'm sure some will agree as single male on a sex site that's all we get, it's like we are just a pice of meat shocking haha.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Free now, so long as the kettle's on & a freshly baked cake is about to come out of the oven.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont mind anyone asking if i am i am if im not im not either way there likely not to get to ride the cock they crave unless im blown away with lust and excitement or its a friend i want to boink "

It kind of makes me laugh sometimes because ‘are you free now ?’ Assumes that you would be saying yes to a meet with them even if you didn’t mind the spontaneity. Jumps the gun a bit don’t you think ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Added to my last , I think it’s especially unrealistic for people to think anyone on the trans spectrum who may not be full time can meet immediately.

Thinking back to my previous life, it’s a logistical nightmare to get ready sometimes. Like, I need 24hours notice to get my shit together thanks

Side note if they’re horny enough and you’re not bothered they usually aren’t either hahaha

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I only get annoyed when they don't take no for an answer.

It's a sex site. Sex 101: consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Added to my last , I think it’s especially unrealistic for people to think anyone on the trans spectrum who may not be full time can meet immediately.

Thinking back to my previous life, it’s a logistical nightmare to get ready sometimes. Like, I need 24hours notice to get my shit together thanks

Side note if they’re horny enough and you’re not bothered they usually aren’t either hahaha "

Ah, the good old “Horny goggles” far more powerful than “Beer goggles” and the cause of more regretful experiences than a bottle of Vodka

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I get this late in the evenings as I’m a night owl, do they really think I’m going to get out my comfy PJS and drive across the country for the sake of quickie. If it works for them then good luck I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they want someone who is always "free now" they could pay a sex worker couldn't they?

Honestly don't feel like many men on this site see me as a person. I am just a walking set of holes. "I'd like to cum on your tits" "Leave a handprint on your ass" "Love your slutty body". Paraphrased real first messages from men.

It's not acceptable to treat anyone like an object.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they want someone who is always "free now" they could pay a sex worker couldn't they?

It's not acceptable to treat anyone like an object. "

Yes that’s a fair point , I think a lot of people do need to readjust their expectations . I spent time chatting to one guy not long ago and we had a quite nice first meet, and he got pissy with me after not being free for a second meet (with no notice) and said and I quote ‘you seem quite busy a lot of the time and I’m looking for something I can arrange with 5 mins notice ‘

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Been happening every so often lately, hasn't come to anything but I'm not against it if the timing's right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you free now though? Because I’m in your area for work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont mind anyone asking if i am i am if im not im not either way there likely not to get to ride the cock they crave unless im blown away with lust and excitement or its a friend i want to boink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just meet them, god everyone is so frigid on here. As soon as I get that message, I run towards them with my knickers around my ankles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont mind anyone asking if i am i am if im not im not either way there likely not to get to ride the cock they crave unless im blown away with lust and excitement or its a friend i want to boink

Blaming distance is a good way of being polite although I do get the occasional ‘ if I were in your area would you be interested ?’ And i tend to reply with a ‘oh *insert name here* don’t do this to yourself please !’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just meet them, god everyone is so frigid on here. As soon as I get that message, I run towards them with my knickers around my ankles."

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Just meet them, god everyone is so frigid on here. As soon as I get that message, I run towards them with my knickers around my ankles."

That's the spirit.

You free now?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just meet them, god everyone is so frigid on here. As soon as I get that message, I run towards them with my knickers around my ankles."

Ahahahahah I wish I could I really do envy people that can be that spontaneous and care free

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"Just meet them, god everyone is so frigid on here. As soon as I get that message, I run towards them with my knickers around my ankles."

The shuffle this brings to mind is about as sexy as a Chucky doll

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By *bostCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

"Just meet them, god everyone is so frigid on here. As soon as I get that message, I run towards them with my knickers around my ankles."

Be careful you don’t trip… we’re all responsible for our own health and safety

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Are you free now though? Because I’m in your area for work.

I thought I was the only one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont mind anyone asking if i am i am if im not im not either way there likely not to get to ride the cock they crave unless im blown away with lust and excitement or its a friend i want to boink

I read

‘If only you were closer’ as code for ‘PLEASE give me your attention while I have a wank pretty please ‘

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just meet them, god everyone is so frigid on here. As soon as I get that message, I run towards them with my knickers around my ankles."

That’s the spirit(s)

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

"Just meet them, god everyone is so frigid on here. As soon as I get that message, I run towards them with my knickers around my ankles."

That's just asking for trouble, you can't run with your knickers round your ankles, you'll trip.

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By *landElCouple
over a year ago

Kent

This all day. We are a fairly Liberal and open minded couple.. But get generic 'hey' messages along witht the 'free now?' nonsense or worse a cut and paste message they forget to edit...

It takes two minutes to read a profile.. And then style your message according to what the recipient is after.. That small time invested might actually yield a meet rather than a 'it's a polite no thank you from us' and delete response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you free now though? Because I’m in your area for work.

I thought I was the only one

Only one that responded to my ‘meet now’ message

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

and most of the time when they ask that they have no pictures and a blank profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it's like how you would talk to a dog

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"and most of the time when they ask that they have no pictures and a blank profile."

That’s when they have to be so discreet that they’ll only show you what they look like and tell you what they’re into after you’ve given them your address and told them to come round

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This actually happens?!"

5 or 6 times this morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one earlier today and always find them slightly off-putting. The offer didn’t offend me, just politely said I don’t do last-minutes, although different if it’s someone I had met before

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

"After about 10pm, if I forget to close my message filters I get loads of these,it becomes more frequent as the night goes on ,presumably as they get more inebriated lol

I just delete and if they message again ,block.

I am presuming they can't hold a decent conversion so this isn't an option.

I also believe lots get a kick from offending others so they are getting what they need/want if you reply even if it is to say 'go away' or similar, which is why I delete.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’"

It’s not my style but it only probably takes you 5 minutes to get ready. Where’s the problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just meet them, god everyone is so frigid on here. As soon as I get that message, I run towards them with my knickers around my ankles."
if only you were closer

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"Just meet them, god everyone is so frigid on here. As soon as I get that message, I run towards them with my knickers around my ankles."

This made me laugh. I now have a mental picture.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’

It’s not my style but it only probably takes you 5 minutes to get ready. Where’s the problem?"

LOLLLL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get them all the time.

Women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get them all the time.

Women.

Shocking . You aren’t just a piece of meat !

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Are you free now though? Because I’m in your area for work.

I thought I was the only one

Only one that responded to my ‘meet now’ message

I thought I was special. Damn you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Added to my last , I think it’s especially unrealistic for people to think anyone on the trans spectrum who may not be full time can meet immediately.

Thinking back to my previous life, it’s a logistical nightmare to get ready sometimes. Like, I need 24hours notice to get my shit together thanks

You're lucky, it takes me about 4 days!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’"

I think they are typing one handed. (((

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By *uckslut888Woman
over a year ago

Loughborough

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’"

I’ve just had the exact same message hun lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish someone would send me one of those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Annoying thing is all my are you free can I come round for sex messages get ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you free now though? Because I’m in your area for work.

I thought I was the only one

Only one that responded to my ‘meet now’ message

I thought I was special. Damn you

Oh it was special. I think we both know that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Annoying thing is all my are you free can I come round for sex messages get ignored

Stop sending them when the football is on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get them all the time.

Women.

Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Annoying thing is all my are you free can I come round for sex messages get ignored

Stop sending them when the football is on "

Didn’t think of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just meet them, god everyone is so frigid on here. As soon as I get that message, I run towards them with my knickers around my ankles."

I know, god I'm a frigid cow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and the smallest part of fab judging others again its nobody place to knock how others meet especially the smallest part of fab the 1% ie the forums .... there are 1,000s of couples and women who meet this way the spontanious way but because the forums dont like it they bash it thinking as they always do thinking they know best ...

just because you dont like it does not mean its wrong id say a good 30% to 40% of swingers play this way these are people who dont do clubs or socials they are people who just love that '' let have fun now''

live let live stop judging others just because you dont like it....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Are you free now though? Because I’m in your area for work.

I thought I was the only one

Only one that responded to my ‘meet now’ message

I thought I was special. Damn you

Oh it was special. I think we both know that

What happens in... Manchester (lol) stays in Manchester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and the smallest part of fab judging others again its nobody place to knock how others meet especially the smallest part of fab the 1% ie the forums .... there are 1,000s of couples and women who meet this way the spontanious way but because the forums dont like it they bash it thinking as they always do thinking they know best ...

live let live stop judging others just because you dont like it....

Surely if they want a meet now they'd put a meet request up.

I get what you're saying though. You don't know if someone will fuck you if you don't ask.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’m free now if anyone’s interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

live let live stop judging others just because you dont like it....

Surely if they want a meet now they'd put a meet request up.

I get what you're saying though. You don't know if someone will fuck you if you don't ask.

ive no idea as we dont meet this way but know plenty that do not my place to say they are wrong or to judge ... no one is the same on this scene theres no rule book as such

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

I despise those messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

live let live stop judging others just because you dont like it....

Surely if they want a meet now they'd put a meet request up.

I get what you're saying though. You don't know if someone will fuck you if you don't ask.

How do I know I want someone to fuck me when I know nothing about them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think those profiles who are interested in spontaneous meets might indicate that? My profile says very clearly that I am NOT into NSA etc.

I am judging those who don't even bother to read the profiles, not those who enjoy spontaneous meets. And I also believe it's perfectly possibly to ask for a "meet now" respectfully without treating people like disposable cumsluts and sending graphic messages. Or use the site tools to put up a meet request.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

live let live stop judging others just because you dont like it....

Believe it or not, I do make a judgment on someone asking to be invited into my home, and will continue to do so if it’s all the same to you, thanks. And if I want to share it I will do that too, thanks

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I wouldn't want to end up under someone's patio.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't want to end up under someone's patio."

Depends where and how nice the patio is and what and who else is under there

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I just delete and block x

Delete. Don’t even give it a thought. "

Nope, it's not how I work Fab x

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"I wouldn't want to end up under someone's patio."

You're safe with me. I love banana bread

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think those profiles who are interested in spontaneous meets might indicate that? My profile says very clearly that I am NOT into NSA etc.

Yeah, there are definitely ways to do it. But "meet me in the next two hours, total stranger, because you have no other priorities to attend to. And I'll have a hissy fit if you don't"* sure ain't it.

* Obviously that's not a real message, just a flavour of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not half as bad as it is on some sites

Prior to joining here most of my meets were arranged on the hop

I actually prefer it

I don't get horny on command these days, so when I do, it's nice to act on it, there and then

I've never sent a meet now message, but I have been warmly receptive to plenty

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Only ever had this approach from couples.

One couple who said 3 times in uppercase letters on their profile that they don't meet men under any circumstances wanted me to meet within an hour.

Another didn't even introduce themselves but just said, facepic and phone number now and you can meet us in the morning.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I finish work at 2am, quick look at the forums 2.10am ‘ are you meeting?’ Or even ‘are you up ?’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another 4 deleted just while on this thread. Seriously seeing why some guys struggle on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

live let live stop judging others just because you dont like it....

but dont moan when others judge you for something they dont like this judging is a very narrowminded game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

live let live stop judging others just because you dont like it....

but dont moan when others judge you for something they dont like this judging is a very narrowminded game "

making a judgement for your self thats fine but to knock others on a open forum for the way they play is not just because you dont like it dont mean other agree .... how others meet is down to them not you ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer they be straight to the point.

I don't have that kind of time to mess about.

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By *wales_hotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff ish / PDI early Nov

We politely point out that the very first line of our profile says we won’t ever meet today.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’

What the??? Now I’m never leaving the house again

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I’m free now if anyone’s interested

I’m not free now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’

What the??? Now I’m never leaving the house again

Think glad am leaving tomorrow

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"Only ever had this approach from couples.

One couple who said 3 times in uppercase letters on their profile that they don't meet men under any circumstances wanted me to meet within an hour.

Another didn't even introduce themselves but just said, facepic and phone number now and you can meet us in the morning. "

gotta love those who break their own rules

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

live let live stop judging others just because you dont like it....

but dont moan when others judge you for something they dont like this judging is a very narrowminded game "

I don’t, because I accept that it is part of human nature and a part and parcel of life .

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I would never send a rude, are you free/meet now message, I'm a more classy guy than that...

Are you free in 15 minutes?

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"I would never send a rude, are you free/meet now message, I'm a more classy guy than that...

Are you free in 15 minutes? "

Free in 20?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone free now?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would never send a rude, are you free/meet now message, I'm a more classy guy than that...

Are you free in 15 minutes? "

I mean at least 15 minutes gives me half a chance at trimming my nose hair and hiding the Adam’s apple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they reply it’s a sex site so why not….unfortunately some of us have standards and I actually have to fancy the person I’m going to sleep with, show as many dick pics has you like if the face doesn’t fit it’s a big fat NO!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never ask if anyone is free now cos I'd like a social meet first but that's hard work too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When they reply it’s a sex site so why not….unfortunately some of us have standards and I actually have to fancy the person I’m going to sleep with, show as many dick pics has you like if the face doesn’t fit it’s a big fat NO!

When they ask me why not I say ‘im trying to be polite , do you really want to do this to yourself ?’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the are you free now message and it's from guys that are in Wales and have no idea that I am in North Devon. So they think I am 20/30 miles away where in fact I am more like 170 miles away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people that message meet now, I find are usually fake profiles or they are just desperate and will sleep with anyone which I find a massive turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just think they most be extremely sad and desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they ask me why not I say ‘im trying to be polite , do you really want to do this to yourself ?’ "
I find it rude and regardless to your response they always give you shit and state it’s a sex site, but personally myself if there is no connection or attraction how can you enjoy sex with that person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When they ask me why not I say ‘im trying to be polite , do you really want to do this to yourself ?’ I find it rude and regardless to your response they always give you shit and state it’s a sex site, but personally myself if there is no connection or attraction how can you enjoy sex with that person. "

It’s all about the other person for me, I don’t go looking for ‘meets’ I’m looking for people and if I like them and we click I then want to arrange something. if i were looking for a meet, or something specific to happen, or a particular fetish that was more about the meet and what will happen and less about who with, I’d be doing that for the wrong (and potentially unhealthy) reasons-

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that they are desperate . I would love to know just how many people actually have invited anyone who they have just messaged once up to their house or whatever

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

I can honestly say I've never sent a "are you free now" message on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’"

Thats what NSA is about tho, yes some like socials etc but the core aspect of NSA is to meet for sex when looking. Sadly people forget what NSA is about and the scene is not what is was as less woman are actually into NSA.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’"

I’d say get over it. Many people receive 100s of messages a day. Must go unopened. Some guys resort to just shooting their shot rather than crafting messages that go ignored. It’s more time efficient for some

It’s not rude or nasty. Just a delete is needed if your not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I replied to one once!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’

Is Swinging NSA?

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over a year ago

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’

Is Swinging NSA?"

Life is NSA and damn us women for not wanting to fuck Dave between 3 and 4pm today in his van. We are ruining the site!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might start replying yes come over and fuck me.

Any money 99% of them would vanish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
over a year ago

Lanson

"I replied to one once!! "

Was it a polite response!

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’

Typical,only two guys to actually deliver on their no limits brag and can't get a verification to back it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. It’s a sex site, but we don’t have to be dicks about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I replied to one once!!

Was it a polite response!

Yeah, i was like c'mon then, lets do it.. I can get a taxi.. Where am i going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I replied to one once!!

Was it a polite response!

Yeah, i was like c'mon then, lets do it.. I can get a taxi.. Where am i going

*……. Rushes to my mail box to check replies…….

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over a year ago

"I replied to one once!!

Was it a polite response!

Yeah, i was like c'mon then, lets do it.. I can get a taxi.. Where am i going

*……. Rushes to my mail box to check replies……."

A few back and fors... "are you serious", "yes I'm serious", "are you fake ," no, I'm not fake"... 30 mins later they went offline.. No address

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I replied to one once!!

Was it a polite response!

Yeah, i was like c'mon then, lets do it.. I can get a taxi.. Where am i going

*……. Rushes to my mail box to check replies…….

A few back and fors... "are you serious", "yes I'm serious", "are you fake ," no, I'm not fake"... 30 mins later they went offline.. No address

maybe he was a hobo

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I like to think that I am a reasonable kind of chap…. But I did lose my rag when a couple asked if I was free to meet now… when my update said I was day 2 in hospital after a major op!!!

The nice answer would have been “since I did not put on the meet today thing, please don’t assume I am looking for a meet today!”

The answer back they got started with “REALLY……. WTF!” And went downhill from there…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’

Is Swinging NSA?

Life is NSA and damn us women for not wanting to fuck Dave between 3 and 4pm today in his van. We are ruining the site!!"

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over a year ago

"I like to think that I am a reasonable kind of chap…. But I did lose my rag when a couple asked if I was free to meet now… when my update said I was day 2 in hospital after a major op!!!

The nice answer would have been “since I did not put on the meet today thing, please don’t assume I am looking for a meet today!”

The answer back they got started with “REALLY……. WTF!” And went downhill from there…..

Time waster!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that they are desperate . I would love to know just how many people actually have invited anyone who they have just messaged once up to their house or whatever

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only an idiot would x

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over a year ago

It’s a sex site. Primarily, it is a sex site set up to connect with others that think the same….they want to meet others for sex in a swinging sense.

But users log in and change things. ‘Only here for the forums’ only here to ‘wank at pics’. Only here for whatever…etc. but it literally is called fab swingers. If you expect some people not to want to f*ck you…. You are in for a shock.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"I might start replying yes come over and fuck me.

Any money 99% of them would vanish

I've done this... More fun when they're 300 miles away and they then decide I'm too far lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m still waiting for mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just delete and block x"

Well are you?

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

"Or does anyone else think ‘are they on crack?’ When you get a message from someone you’ve never met, or spoken to asking if you’re ‘free now?’"

There is a reason people like this have no verifications and this is it.

It would be nice if people took a minute to read a profile instead of just looking at the pics. Im sure they would be more successful if they did x

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