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"Given the responses from last time, I’d simply offer that you’re a grown adult, so do what you like. You don’t need permission or validation from us. " I appreciate that mate . The validation seeking was just banter .. but I do genuinely need advice I'm a big shitbag when approaching women tbh ![]() | |||
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"Ask her “ do you come here often” ![]() ![]() I want to but I was quite explicitly advised against approaching women in the gym .. we have spoke like I say hello every morning and the mandatory " have you finished with that love" ..but I wouldn't have a clue how to go further ...do I just spit it out and say you're fuckin beautiful ??? Or what haha .. I'm 75% sure I recognise her from my local pub.. but my eyesight is shit and it would just be my luck if it was someone else ![]() | |||
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"Just wave your penis at her all seductive like, see if she takes the bait." ![]() ![]() | |||
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" ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Yeah I think so too . I'm definitely not handsome enough or fit enough to be approaching them all hahaha.. I meant one in particular but I guess it was my wording. so my bad . We've passed that point too .. i've done the smile thing a few times and it's always reciprocated but iv got no idea what to do next ![]() | |||
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"Ask her “ do you come here often” ![]() ![]() ![]() Next time you say hello add "how are you today?" it allows her to answer and hopefully ask you. Then you say something like " I'm good but I wish it wasn't leg day" or whatever gym people say. Basically ask a question that can be followed up, it's how conversations get going. You need to lay the groundwork as does she. | |||
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"Is she looking at you, or does she just want to use the equipment you're using and Is looking to see when you've finished using it? " Well tbh I thought that at first ..and often we do switch equipment.but the gyms sort of split into two sections and it's been long distance smiles too. Haha, I'm just being weak I think . I should strike up some sort of conversation . I'll have to plan my move | |||
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"I never know where to look in the gym. The treadmills over-look the rest of the gym and most of the equipment faces eachother. There's a lot of awkward eye-contact with other people ![]() When I first started going I used to look down ...but my mantits kept smacking me in the face so they forced me to look up . Now I'm looking up because Im starting to feel the benefits of going the gym.. it's a progressive cycle I guess ![]() | |||
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"Just wave your penis at her all seductive like, see if she takes the bait. ![]() ![]() Yes, but you have to use actual bait ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Be polite, don't over do it. A simple ..... Excuse me, would you fancy going for a drink with me some time? Doesn't have to be a drink, can be whatever you choose. If she says No, just smile, then reply ..... No problem. No dramas" The no part is my biggest fear .. haha I'd probably never return to the gym . And all my recent progress would be lost haha it's soul destroying getting the knock back. I'd imagine it's Especially demeaning when sober | |||
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"Just wave your penis at her all seductive like, see if she takes the bait. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Cheers mate, if all else fails I'll resort to this tactic.. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"When she is doing her squats come up behind her and right as she is going down slap her bum and tell her she has a real peach of an arse. I’m sure she will then come find you on the bench press and sit on ur face to let you know she is interested. " .hahahahaha can't say I have fantasized this ![]() | |||
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"Smile and wave. Just don't do what I did once, which was try to sign across a noisy room "do you want a drink?". It looks like you are asking for a BJ. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Smear peanut butter on your penis. If she licks it off then you’re in." Smooth or crunchy? | |||
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"Smear peanut butter on your penis. If she licks it off then you’re in. Smooth or crunchy? " Smooth, play it cool. | |||
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"Smear peanut butter on your penis. If she licks it off then you’re in." It seems like she's on a bit of a health kick at the moment, can you recommend a low calorie brand? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"So you are asking for assistance on how to approach her instead of if you should approach her? If so then be yourself. Nothing anyone says here will be of any use to you, unless you read from your phone whole talking to her. You have convinced yourself that she is looking at you, so what do you have to lose? " Yeah you're right nothing to lose I guess. My go to line would be something shit though like fancy going for a steak . Or fancy going for a drink sometime and I honestly don't think that would interest anyone whilst training and trying to be healthy. Where do healthy people have socials ???? | |||
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"But what happens if you pull it off and it turns out shes married but wants you to get your cock out shes horngry what you doing then? ![]() .I don't think I could go through with it . Obviously the temptation would be hard to resist ..but i do have empathy ..and I wouldn't want anyone doing that to me ..fucking good question though mate, I hope she's not married or attached it's one of the biggest things stopping me from asking her out . An I don't wanna stare too hard to see if she's got a ring on ![]() | |||
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"But what happens if you pull it off and it turns out shes married but wants you to get your cock out shes horngry what you doing then? ![]() ![]() id personally take a ring off if im working out it could bend or snap just saying | |||
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"Just stare at her and give her your best diamond eye wink and then keep licking your lips. This always works. Good luck. ![]() I'd look like someone on day release from a nuthouse ![]() ![]() | |||
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"But what happens if you pull it off and it turns out shes married but wants you to get your cock out shes horngry what you doing then? ![]() ![]() .yeah true. Guess i'll just have to take the plunge ... Fuck knows what I'll say ..but there's always hope ![]() ![]() | |||
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"So you are asking for assistance on how to approach her instead of if you should approach her? If so then be yourself. Nothing anyone says here will be of any use to you, unless you read from your phone whole talking to her. You have convinced yourself that she is looking at you, so what do you have to lose? Yeah you're right nothing to lose I guess. My go to line would be something shit though like fancy going for a steak . Or fancy going for a drink sometime and I honestly don't think that would interest anyone whilst training and trying to be healthy. Where do healthy people have socials ???? " Unless she's a strict bodybuilder, I don't think she'd have a problem with it... People who go to the gym still do normal social stuff... usually, anyway... Or is there a club I don't know about where they all do strip-squats and chug protein drinks? ![]() | |||
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"So you are asking for assistance on how to approach her instead of if you should approach her? If so then be yourself. Nothing anyone says here will be of any use to you, unless you read from your phone whole talking to her. You have convinced yourself that she is looking at you, so what do you have to lose? Yeah you're right nothing to lose I guess. My go to line would be something shit though like fancy going for a steak . Or fancy going for a drink sometime and I honestly don't think that would interest anyone whilst training and trying to be healthy. Where do healthy people have socials ???? Unless she's a strict bodybuilder, I don't think she'd have a problem with it... People who go to the gym still do normal social stuff... usually, anyway... Or is there a club I don't know about where they all do strip-squats and chug protein drinks? ![]() Yeah I was overexaggerating ![]() ![]() | |||
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" ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Do what you feel , you'll know straight away , for all you know she might have a BF but you'll never know unless you ask , l personally don't think you need any advise from people here tbh , it's not fab , it's the real world .but hey you asked and it's as good as any place to ask . ![]() | |||
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"Smile and wave. Just don't do what I did once, which was try to sign across a noisy room "do you want a drink?". It looks like you are asking for a BJ. ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Smear peanut butter on your penis. If she licks it off then you’re in. It seems like she's on a bit of a health kick at the moment, can you recommend a low calorie brand? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Swap the peanut butter for marmite that’s healthier.. | |||
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"Christ people are really making a big deal out of this. Wait until she's finished working out. Walk up say hi introduce yourself. Ask her if she wants to go for a coffee sometime. If yes game on. If no then what harm done other than a slightly bruised ego. Job done. Now grow a pair son and go for it." This is the response ![]() | |||
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"Be polite, don't over do it. A simple ..... Excuse me, would you fancy going for a drink with me some time? Doesn't have to be a drink, can be whatever you choose. If she says No, just smile, then reply ..... No problem. No dramas" Then just find a new gym ![]() | |||
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"Your there to work out If your checking out woman your not working out hard anuff and that’s just facts " Rubbish | |||
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"Your there to work out If your checking out woman your not working out hard anuff and that’s just facts Rubbish " Definitely not rubbish if you time to check people out your not working out hard anuff trust in that one | |||
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"Just ask her out. If she is smiling and holding eye contact she’s giving signals. What’s the worst that can happen? You have to change your gym routine! " - routine* ![]() | |||
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"start a conversation with her, ask her if she wants to use the equipment your using , ask anything to kick start a chat and see what happens " Classy and and casual. | |||
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"Given the responses from last time, I’d simply offer that you’re a grown adult, so do what you like. You don’t need permission or validation from us. I appreciate that mate . The validation seeking was just banter .. but I do genuinely need advice I'm a big shitbag when approaching women tbh ![]() Have you got over the line with, Hi, yet? Try that first. Once you've established a few greetings with Hi, it is time to progress to, Hi, how are you? I hope you have enjoyed this free course. For all your dating hot tips please join us at the introductory price of just £77. Your ideal partner is just a click away. In all seriousness, just say Hi, and once you have gauged the response to Hi as favourable, move to Hi, how are you. A conversation is now going to happen ![]() | |||
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"Be polite, don't over do it. A simple ..... Excuse me, would you fancy going for a drink with me some time? Doesn't have to be a drink, can be whatever you choose. If she says No, just smile, then reply ..... No problem. No dramas The no part is my biggest fear .. haha I'd probably never return to the gym . And all my recent progress would be lost haha it's soul destroying getting the knock back. I'd imagine it's Especially demeaning when sober " There can be many reasons she may say no that are not based around you. Don't let ego rule you, mate. There's nothing lost if she says no. From my perspective, it's best knowing so you can go forward, rather than staying in one place in the hope she has interest and the nerve to say so. | |||
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"Do you really need a bunch of strangers telling you what you should do. You are a grown man....make your own decisions!" There’s been a very strong effort the past 2-3 years telling all men we are doing everything wrong and to question what we are doing. I don’t think it’s an unfair question to ask. Especially when some people will say go for it, and others will liken talking to a female in the gym as sexual harassment As for me, I’d say don’t do it. Plenty of women to fuck that don’t go to your gym. Don’t shit where you eat | |||
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"Just say " Hi, I see you come here often like myself, if you ever need any help or anything let me know..." And go from there ![]() Im kind of past that stage now ..I'm just gonna ask if she wants to go for a drink or a bite to eat . Fuck it I'm gonna do it tomorrow if she's there .. fingers crossed . If not .nothing ventured nothing gained I guess . I think rejection will not make me feel as bad as not asking her will..it's driving me mad trying to work up the courage ![]() | |||
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"Just say " Hi, I see you come here often like myself, if you ever need any help or anything let me know..." And go from there ![]() ![]() Yes! Do it! Good luck ![]() | |||
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"Just say " Hi, I see you come here often like myself, if you ever need any help or anything let me know..." And go from there ![]() ![]() That's the thirsty approach | |||
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"Just say " Hi, I see you come here often like myself, if you ever need any help or anything let me know..." And go from there ![]() ![]() If it's a no, it's a no, nothing changes, you haven't lost anything. Just keep on doing your thing. There's no need for any sort of discomfort if that's the reply. Though, It'll never be a yes if you don't try. Good Luck. | |||
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"Just say " Hi, I see you come here often like myself, if you ever need any help or anything let me know..." And go from there ![]() ![]() Thirsty and hungry.. I'll offer her food and drink ![]() | |||
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"Just say " Hi, I see you come here often like myself, if you ever need any help or anything let me know..." And go from there ![]() ![]() True that.. in gonna go for it . Thanks ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Go to Specsavers first" I get free prescriptions from scrivens with my naval veterans compensation scheme . Specsavers can suck my dick. | |||
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"I've been eyeing up a Ryan Reynolds lookalike in my gym, tomorrow I'm propositioning him. Naked. In the changing room. " ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I've been eyeing up a Ryan Reynolds lookalike in my gym, tomorrow I'm propositioning him. Naked. In the changing room. " Well I hope he's a "free guy" ![]() | |||
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"Ask her “ do you come here often” ![]() ![]() ![]() Next time you see the doppelgänger in the pub ask the gym girl whether she “was in the dog and duck last night?” If no, then roll with it | |||
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"Is she looking at you, or does she just want to use the equipment you're using and Is looking to see when you've finished using it? " This would be me. | |||
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