FabSwingers.com forum: Messaging directly from forums

By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Is this something that’s frowned upon or encouraged ? I’ve found I receive considerably more replies when messaging from a forum thread x what’s everyone’s opinion on this ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it really depends on the context of the message and thread if I’m honest.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Depends on the thread and what you write in your message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if you’re just being a pest or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow your heart.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

As the others have said it entirely depends.

I have had great conversations with people based on forum threads.

I have also felt the need to start ending some messages (specifically about fetishes etc) with "this isn't an open invitation to message me" due to the amount of 'i love xxx - do it with me' messages I can get.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I prefer people not too unless there is a real reason why they need to message privately. Sometimes I think people start thread potentially asking for advice, and when I give advice in the forum and they message privately about it, it ends up with thinking they're just starting a thread to start messaging people in private who have expressed an interest.

They then take the subject matter off course and try to arrange a meet or cam etc

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

In addition if people keep the replies to the forum it makes it more interesting for people reading them, people might have more input and learn more from others replies.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

If it's someone you've interacted with via the forums before or, just a light hearted/helpful comment, i believe it's fine.

Random comments from non forum contributors or sex pests should be frowned upon.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Message about the subject bwith something that couldn't be put in the forum is fine, message privately instead of replying on the forum not fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would only do this with people I regularly talk to and was talking to at the time.

I don’t mind if people do it to me but I don’t think they’re doing it to just get into my pants.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I do this quite a lot, especially when I don't want to clog up the thread with my replies, some are quite personal and I'd rather not have those on a public forum

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I’ve only done it from one of my own threads normally thanking the person for commenting Always women though !! A good range of opinions though thanks

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I’ve done it from time to time, when the comment is relevant, or when it’s a supportive message in relation to a personal matter. I’ve never had any adverse comments in reply. Quite the opposite, in fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever do it to send dick pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the context.

Very rarely have I messaged privately in response to a forum post, there have been times where I believe it's justified and when I have, it's their comment I'm replying to, not using it as an excuse to message people in particular.

Messaging a thank you for posting could put many people off, feels like an excuse, when all it takes is a thank you to all on the post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you receive a PM on said subject it should be because the sender doesn't want to reply on the forum but wants to give their point of view to you , that's all it should be , it shouldn't contain any other hidden agenda such as changing the subject or looking for a meet etc

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

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Random comments from non forum contributors or sex pests should be frowned upon. "

No frowning... that's how you get wrinkles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you receive a PM on said subject it should be because the sender doesn't want to reply on the forum but wants to give their point of view to you , that's all it should be , it shouldn't contain any other hidden agenda such as changing the subject or looking for a meet etc "
I tried to reply to you via mail on this subject but it says you have blocked me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless it's one of those "I'm in!" kind of threads that encourage messaging, then generally any reply from a forum thread I ever received has been one that a) should have been a public post, and b) often wasn't public because it included some sort of comment about another user that the sender wouldn't dare say publicly...

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

It depends on the message. If it's something related to a post that they don't want to discuss in public that's fine (apart from if it's the "I fancy" threads, I've told plenty of people to do one in the past because of that...if you can't publicly admit that you find me attractive on a fun thread then don't come sniffing round my inbox!). But what isn't fine is when men reply privately to a post as an excuse to be all smarmy and start with sex chat, especially when they've previously messaged and been ignored.

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"It depends on the message. If it's something related to a post that they don't want to discuss in public that's fine (apart from if it's the "I fancy" threads, I've told plenty of people to do one in the past because of that...if you can't publicly admit that you find me attractive on a fun thread then don't come sniffing round my inbox!). But what isn't fine is when men reply privately to a post as an excuse to be all smarmy and start with sex chat, especially when they've previously messaged and been ignored. "

True x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"I’ve only done it from one of my own threads normally thanking the person for commenting Always women though !! A good range of opinions though thanks "

Yeah that falls into my 'why have you emailed me - don't do that'... Especially if you only thank women for commenting

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I’ve only done it from one of my own threads normally thanking the person for commenting Always women though !! A good range of opinions though thanks

Yeah that falls into my 'why have you emailed me - don't do that'... Especially if you only thank women for commenting "

Fair point well made !! Can I message you? Lol xx

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Fair point well made !! Can I message you? Lol xx"

Depends on why you want to message me I guess?

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Fair point well made !! Can I message you? Lol xx

Depends on why you want to message me I guess?"

To start a conversation xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only ever do it to send dick pics.

As it should be. Where's ours?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I think it depends on the motivation. If it is specific to the forum and not just a sly way to get them interested in a meet then it's fine. If it's the latter don't do it.

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I only ever do it to send dick pics.

As it should be. Where's ours?"

Get ready for an influx of dick in your inbox !!!

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Is this something that’s frowned upon or encouraged ? I’ve found I receive considerably more replies when messaging from a forum thread x what’s everyone’s opinion on this ?"

I have occasionally sent messages of support to people. I've had lots of messages from (men) agreeing with me on something or maybe sending a funny/flirty message.

It doesn't bother me- I'll either reply or not, depending on the circumstances

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

I don't have a problem with people sending me a private message relating to a post I have made. It is not usually because they are trying to get my knickers off.

What I think is pathetic are the chancers who use a forum thread to comment creepily on another poster's profile/pictures or offering their service because they are 'nearby', unless that is specifically the point of the thread.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I've done this before, many times.

If I've offended anyone by doing so, then I sincerely apologise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only ever do it to send dick pics.

As it should be. Where's ours?"

Sorry.

I’m trying to ration them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally reply if its thread related

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’ve never minded being contacted through the forum, it’s something I have done myself too

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I generally reply if its thread related"

You have and most appreciated it is xx

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By *aretobareCouple
over a year ago

Central Portugal

Sometimes it is really nice to have a message from a thread, especially if it is something of a shared interest that could lead to either a good laugh or learning something new on other occasions it can be a little creepy, it is all a matter of context!

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Sometimes it is really nice to have a message from a thread, especially if it is something of a shared interest that could lead to either a good laugh or learning something new on other occasions it can be a little creepy, it is all a matter of context!"

That’s the spirit I message in x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this something that’s frowned upon or encouraged ? I’ve found I receive considerably more replies when messaging from a forum thread x what’s everyone’s opinion on this ?"

Context and content is everything

Don't message someone on a thread about favourite crisps to tell them they've got crackin tits

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Is this something that’s frowned upon or encouraged ? I’ve found I receive considerably more replies when messaging from a forum thread x what’s everyone’s opinion on this ?

Context and content is everything

Don't message someone on a thread about favourite crisps to tell them they've got crackin tits"

Don’t think I did that ? Lol

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I prefer people keep it in the forums

9x out of 10 the messages are nonsense and no better than the hi how are you messages just because they've seen something you like that catches there eye & the others are questions which if popped in the forum would likely help others too

I see no reason to take things private unless requested

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

Unless it is specifically said in the thread,people should ask or wait to be invited to message.

Men rarely realise how creepy and weird they are being.

Sometimes I receive messages that would be fine to post on the forums just as an excuse to message/chat.

I only have my message filters open when on a forum game too but unfortunately if they have already messaged me ,it doesn't include them,regardless of a reply from me.

Keep it on the forums ,it is more fun xx

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Yeah we’ve had so many private messages from comments we’ve made on a post and they have often been suggestive ‘I would love to have been there’ ‘when can I get involved with that’…sometimes from the OP, which does suggest they’ve set up the post to see who they can contact direct.

It’s often comments from people who haven’t even commented on the forum post…which I find quite sneaky.

Fine if you want to continue a discussion and not clog up the post. Not fine when being sleazy.

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

"Is this something that’s frowned upon or encouraged ? I’ve found I receive considerably more replies when messaging from a forum thread x what’s everyone’s opinion on this ?

Context and content is everything

Don't message someone on a thread about favourite crisps to tell them they've got crackin tits

Don’t think I did that ? Lol"

You did that exact thing to me!!

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Is this something that’s frowned upon or encouraged ? I’ve found I receive considerably more replies when messaging from a forum thread x what’s everyone’s opinion on this ?

Context and content is everything

Don't message someone on a thread about favourite crisps to tell them they've got crackin tits

Don’t think I did that ? Lol

You did that exact thing to me!!

It worked briefly!! Xx lol

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

If it’s something that’s too private to post - for example another woman messaged me after a thread about horrible meets to say she’d had a similar experience with a creepy, grabby guy. Totally understood why she’d want to chat privately.

Other times it’s just an excuse to creep and that’s just not good.

Especially the chap who messaged privately from the aforementioned thread playing the weird white knight with a promise not to assault me. It’s just creepy.

Most of the time it’s just lazy I’ve found. Saying you agree with my favourite jacket potato filling and accompanying it with a dick pic does not an interesting opening message make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's annoying how people use this as a way to start a conversation. I don't mind a genuine message but otherwise keep it too the thread.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I don't send messages unless it's part of a forum topic.

I do send winks though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it’s something that’s too private to post - for example another woman messaged me after a thread about horrible meets to say she’d had a similar experience with a creepy, grabby guy. Totally understood why she’d want to chat privately.

Other times it’s just an excuse to creep and that’s just not good.

Especially the chap who messaged privately from the aforementioned thread playing the weird white knight with a promise not to assault me. It’s just creepy.

Most of the time it’s just lazy I’ve found. Saying you agree with my favourite jacket potato filling and accompanying it with a dick pic does not an interesting opening message make."

Especially the potato!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

General consensus from what I’ve seen.

Don’t start threads just to creep to women who comment on them.

Should be fairly obvious anyway.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Fair point well made !! Can I message you? Lol xx

Depends on why you want to message me I guess?

To start a conversation xxxx"

Based on this thread? Erm no, you've not said anything that I can see would warrant this being in private messages rather than on the forum

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Fair point well made !! Can I message you? Lol xx

Depends on why you want to message me I guess?

To start a conversation xxxx

Based on this thread? Erm no, you've not said anything that I can see would warrant this being in private messages rather than on the forum"

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It really depends what they say!

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"It really depends what they say!"

What would you consider appropriate? Asking for a friend!!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I've been known to comment on their avatar if I notice they're wear blue underwear.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If it's someone I don't know trying to initiate sex chat I'll stop it in it's tracks.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Other times it’s just an excuse to creep and that’s just not good.

Especially the chap who messaged privately from the aforementioned thread playing the weird white knight with a promise not to assault me. It’s just creepy.

Most of the time it’s just lazy I’ve found. Saying you agree with my favourite jacket potato filling and accompanying it with a dick pic does not an interesting opening message make.

Especially the potato!!

Just makes me hungry

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