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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Don't think you are the only one to have come to that conclusion OP. One of the reason I'm not posting as much these days is because of the playground mentality.

Hope you have fun away from the site x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FORA

Ffs

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

I have noticed it as well, hence I backed off considerably from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time of the month?

Putin?

Climate change?

Definitely a lot of animosity around the place whatever the reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m guilty of being silly Boomer

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I'd jump down your neck OP, in a sexy way, wanna make out bro?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Hence me rarely posting these days ..

Just not much fun lately sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gatsby & Caffeine. ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m guilty of being silly Boomer "

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By *uffsandCropsCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


" I have noticed it as well, hence I backed off considerably from it. "

Hmm, we noticed it too but deleted our last account due to a few snappy remarks.

The thing is, it flows and ebbs. From time to time it isn't great and it becomes quite aggressive. I've posted light hearted comments which normally would be taken as fun but been hit with nasty come backs.

My experience I think is due to some gossip going on about my former time on here but unfortunately, that's just one side of a very long story. If only people would actually talk to me and get both. Things aren't always what they seem and it's a shame as it restricts my time in the forums.

I know I'd love to come back and have the banter I used to but right now, it's not the time for me personally.

PNG X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m guilty of being silly Boomer

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Behave Jim

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Yeah I’ve noticed it’s become a lot more hostile as of late and for no good reason either. I’ve pulled myself far back from the forums for that reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Covid vaccines have fcuked everyone up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think humour is lost in text. People take it the wrong way and then it blows up. People get too wound up by the words of random strangers on the internet and unfortunately that will never change.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I don't see any difference to how they usually are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Covid vaccines have fcuked everyone up "

Spelling has gone to hits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s definitely tense.

At least until I pop in and say something stupid. I can’t be doing serious. Life on the outside is serious enough.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Yeah I’ve noticed it’s become a lot more hostile as of late and for no good reason either. I’ve pulled myself far back from the forums for that reason "

It seems a lot of users have stopped using the forums....who knows maybe one day it will go back to being fun x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Think it depends on your state of mind. I just don’t read most of them if I think they’ll wind me up. Although I did have a bit of a break when the Ukraine thing started as it was every thread and it just wasn’t fun at all on here. Which is why I come on. Not to read the news or the papers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gats-gats noooooo x I mean I kinda agree with you but also don’t go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well only way we can make it fun is to be fun so let's get the party started!

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Have some lovely time off OP.

It’s a bit drama drama I agree.

I’m off home for a month so usually step away from the forums in that time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone FAF?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Well only way we can make it fun is to be fun so let's get the party started!"

Good luck with that x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's because Caffeine Dusk is back. That boy always brings trouble with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Full of sexual tension perhaps? Or is that just me

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

. (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"Full of sexual tension perhaps? Or is that just me "

Spring has sprung

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

In all seriousness, I think there's always an element of it about. I think a lot of it has been confined to the Virus forum for a while but now they're running out of material .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some probably just need to wank.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Ahh well, it is what it is. This is what happens when people from all walks of life are given an opportunity to converse in a forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gerry we need you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve noticed this as well and even started a thread about it.

I do wonder with a few leaving and new people coming in it creates a slightly different atmosphere with a new fab order.

I certainly see more of a scarcity mindset rather than one of abundance

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Some probably just need to wank."

Or a snickers. Or both! Now there's an idea!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Gerry we need you "

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some probably just need to wank.

Or a snickers. Or both! Now there's an idea! "

Oh you strumpet, what an idea. The possibilities……..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!"

I’m still here…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve found myself not on here as much especially over the last couple of months. I know others that rarely use the forums much because of how it is on here…

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Some probably just need to wank.

Or a snickers. Or both! Now there's an idea!

Oh you strumpet, what an idea. The possibilities…….. "

Mind=blown

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…"

Well this is awkward...

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Opinions are great and we all learn from others too but need to be expressed in a nice manner. Humour and banter is good too. We all need it in this stressful world we leave in. Those who choose to be disruptive, rude and abusive are simply ignored and/or blocked. I am not here to antagonise anyone or to stress about the behaviour of others .

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

Well this is awkward... "

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon

We all take a break time to time, I’m sure we will see you again soon

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!"

I'm sticking with the forums, still some great stuff going on. I just steer well clear of all the negative stuff.

It still surprises though, how some friendly, no offensive posts can quickly turn into a blood bath.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

Avoid topics on race, Ukraine, trans, lower age limit, short people, cock size, Scotland, Wales, Ireland, big black cock, young men blues, I can’t get laid, not eating meat, anything by husbands in panties, curvy women, dieting….

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…"

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bring back Sam Tender

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!"

Excuse me?!

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

I think it's been a stressful time for everyone with what's going on in the world, the cost of living etc. It's caused a lot of uncertainty that people can't control so perhaps they are less tolerant to differing opinions than they usually would be to deflect from what they can't control

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By *uperjackMan
over a year ago

Bristol

It should definitely be about the fun! I’ve learnt a lesson here actually. Just leave opinions be. Even the ones you vehemently disagree with!

I got sucked in once - never again.......

Right, back to the fun stuff. OP your commenting is usually witty and light hearted. That’s the kind of jiggery pokery that’s required!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

Excuse me?! "
hahaha. I re-phrased! .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone "

Stop digging a bigger hole

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone

Stop digging a bigger hole "

This is me! I always end up saying the wrong thing

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone

Stop digging a bigger hole

This is me! I always end up saying the wrong thing "

I even upset you in my first sentence when i met you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone

Stop digging a bigger hole

This is me! I always end up saying the wrong thing "

(I know this is going against the forum but I was just having a laugh, sorry I will kick off next time )

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It says a lot when you can't even say you dislike something on here these days without being accused of being negative! If everyone were allowed to voice their opinions without being jump on, maybe a lot of the new posters would stay but alas I think that is asking way too much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone

Stop digging a bigger hole

This is me! I always end up saying the wrong thing

I even upset you in my first sentence when i met you "

I don’t think you could ever upset me

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone

Stop digging a bigger hole

This is me! I always end up saying the wrong thing

I even upset you in my first sentence when i met you

I don’t think you could ever upset me "

Hahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ll always get negatives nellies on a public forum.

As BG said, there’s a scarcity vs abundance mindset.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone

Stop digging a bigger hole

This is me! I always end up saying the wrong thing

(I know this is going against the forum but I was just having a laugh, sorry I will kick off next time )"

Psssttt, she doesn't like you because of the beard

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone

Stop digging a bigger hole

This is me! I always end up saying the wrong thing

(I know this is going against the forum but I was just having a laugh, sorry I will kick off next time )

Psssttt, she doesn't like you because of the beard "

Haha. To be fair his wasn’t as beardy as I thought it would be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone

Stop digging a bigger hole

This is me! I always end up saying the wrong thing

(I know this is going against the forum but I was just having a laugh, sorry I will kick off next time )

Psssttt, she doesn't like you because of the beard "

You leave my beard outta this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't see any difference to how they usually are"

Neither do I and I've see the loads of posts like this recently and to be honest I just think it adds to the division.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone

Stop digging a bigger hole

This is me! I always end up saying the wrong thing

(I know this is going against the forum but I was just having a laugh, sorry I will kick off next time )

Psssttt, she doesn't like you because of the beard

Haha. To be fair his wasn’t as beardy as I thought it would be!"

Is it made of candy floss or bubbles instead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well only way we can make it fun is to be fun so let's get the party started!"

This!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone

Stop digging a bigger hole

This is me! I always end up saying the wrong thing

(I know this is going against the forum but I was just having a laugh, sorry I will kick off next time )

Psssttt, she doesn't like you because of the beard

You leave my beard outta this "

Maybe your beard shouldn't be going around picking fights!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well only way we can make it fun is to be fun so let's get the party started!

This! "

In

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone

Stop digging a bigger hole

This is me! I always end up saying the wrong thing

(I know this is going against the forum but I was just having a laugh, sorry I will kick off next time )

Psssttt, she doesn't like you because of the beard

Haha. To be fair his wasn’t as beardy as I thought it would be!

Is it made of candy floss or bubbles instead? "

Haha just shorter than I imagined. I’d have ate it if it was candy floss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums isn’t a place for “fun”.

Serious topics only please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing a huge orgy could not sort out. Most of this animosity is a lack of sex or just general sexual tension between individuals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is responsible for what they choose to read on the forums. There are plenty of fun posts and of course some more serious ones but that's what makes this place brilliant.

In all honesty I think the forums are a lot better than they were say 2 years ago and I am seeing lots of comments on this thread and others that we've had recently Like it saying Things along the lines of it's not like used to be because lots of the old posters don't post any more, personally I think that Suggests people are being nostalgic and and not open to new content and new posters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone "

Ouch, I felt that in my chest

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"It's because Caffeine Dusk is back. That boy always brings trouble with him "

I second this passionately; fuck that guy. Everyone fuck that guy.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Nothing a huge orgy could not sort out. Most of this animosity is a lack of sex or just general sexual tension between individuals. "

Hey you. Missed you

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone

Ouch, I felt that in my chest "

I’ll rub it better

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"Bring back Sam Tender "

I second this too! Where is Sam? His dong has such a soothing aura

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 months OP? More likely over the last year or so that it's got worse. It's maybe a little better now but I think you can still cut the air with a knife, most days. Go check out the Scottish forum, you'll see how bad it is on there. Apparently opinions aren't allowed anymore without someone ready to jump and verbally attack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

"

Can be some waiting in the bushes to jump down a person's throat as such, l have noticed it and am only here a few short weeks ,if l see a negative comment or response or thread ,l just ignore it tbh but there is one thing that should never happen is that the fun or enjoyment should never be taken out of it for people who log on here , never , life's too short tbh .

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Gerry we need you

Unfortunately most of the fun people end up gone!

I’m still here…

I shall re-phrase. A lot of the people I think are fun end up gone

Ouch, I felt that in my chest "

Hugs! I'm sure Nora loves your pickle really.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"It's because Caffeine Dusk is back. That boy always brings trouble with him

I second this passionately; fuck that guy. Everyone fuck that guy.

"

I would say get the pitchforks out but he'd enjoy that the sick fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Covid vaccines have fcuked everyone up

Spelling has gone to hits."
I make a point of always spelling fuck fcuk it’s my trade mark x

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I think the key to fabfillment is to not worry about what others think of you but be mindful of how you react with others.

What’s funny to one person isn’t necessarily funny to another. And that’s not them being touchy, soft or woke, it’s them being themselves.

If you think that somebody is being a dick and yes I feel ( that’s my view not necessarily the truth) that some people are being dicks, then it’s easy to turn the other cheek and ignore them.

Take it easy people and as they say.

When the fun stops, stop, but don’t expect everybody else to stop because they may be having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the key to fabfillment is to not worry about what others think of you but be mindful of how you react with others.

What’s funny to one person isn’t necessarily funny to another. And that’s not them being touchy, soft or woke, it’s them being themselves.

If you think that somebody is being a dick and yes I feel ( that’s my view not necessarily the truth) that some people are being dicks, then it’s easy to turn the other cheek and ignore them.

Take it easy people and as they say.

When the fun stops, stop, but don’t expect everybody else to stop because they may be having fun. "

Well said and perfectly put. If it's Not fun take a break rather than expecting others to entertain you.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"6 months OP? More likely over the last year or so that it's got worse. It's maybe a little better now but I think you can still cut the air with a knife, most days. Go check out the Scottish forum, you'll see how bad it is on there. Apparently opinions aren't allowed anymore without someone ready to jump and verbally attack "

But those people are expressing their own opinion. Sure lots of people could handle how they do it differently but it seems most people just want to share their own opinions without having anyone else express a different one.

It is just hypocritical bullshit.

Want to express your opinion? Be prepared to be challenged by another. It's as simple as that.

Understand those people are not keen on other opinions either so they may be hostile.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't notice hostility. I think this is because I select which threads to post to. Most threads I ignore.

To be fair I found the lounge improved a great deal when certain toxic personalities were permanently removed.

I find them to be a bit dull at present but if I want to be excited I'll start it.

Do the 'i don't like the tension people' ever consider they NEED that break cos it's them not the others ? Just a thought but one i do hold. People don't seem to question themselves - they just point fingers.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"FORA

Ffs "

That made me chortle .......ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"6 months OP? More likely over the last year or so that it's got worse. It's maybe a little better now but I think you can still cut the air with a knife, most days. Go check out the Scottish forum, you'll see how bad it is on there. Apparently opinions aren't allowed anymore without someone ready to jump and verbally attack

But those people are expressing their own opinion. Sure lots of people could handle how they do it differently but it seems most people just want to share their own opinions without having anyone else express a different one.

It is just hypocritical bullshit.

Want to express your opinion? Be prepared to be challenged by another. It's as simple as that.

Understand those people are not keen on other opinions either so they may be hostile. "

It’s about having curiosity over everything

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I post for my own gratification, not others….

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over a year ago


"I post for my own gratification, not others…."

Don’t start

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I think the key to fabfillment is to not worry about what others think of you but be mindful of how you react with others.

What’s funny to one person isn’t necessarily funny to another. And that’s not them being touchy, soft or woke, it’s them being themselves.

If you think that somebody is being a dick and yes I feel ( that’s my view not necessarily the truth) that some people are being dicks, then it’s easy to turn the other cheek and ignore them.

Take it easy people and as they say.

When the fun stops, stop, but don’t expect everybody else to stop because they may be having fun. "

It's not coming across like people are expecting others to stop just because they aren't having fun. Others are just pointing out that they are using the forums less due to the nature of the beast as it stands now x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Avoid topics on race, Ukraine, trans, lower age limit, short people, cock size, Scotland, Wales, Ireland, big black cock, young men blues, I can’t get laid, not eating meat, anything by husbands in panties, curvy women, dieting…."

You never even mentioned religion! I'm offended!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the key to fabfillment is to not worry about what others think of you but be mindful of how you react with others.

What’s funny to one person isn’t necessarily funny to another. And that’s not them being touchy, soft or woke, it’s them being themselves.

If you think that somebody is being a dick and yes I feel ( that’s my view not necessarily the truth) that some people are being dicks, then it’s easy to turn the other cheek and ignore them.

Take it easy people and as they say.

When the fun stops, stop, but don’t expect everybody else to stop because they may be having fun.

It's not coming across like people are expecting others to stop just because they aren't having fun. Others are just pointing out that they are using the forums less due to the nature of the beast as it stands now x"

Then that's on them isn't it not on everyone else.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I think the key to fabfillment is to not worry about what others think of you but be mindful of how you react with others.

What’s funny to one person isn’t necessarily funny to another. And that’s not them being touchy, soft or woke, it’s them being themselves.

If you think that somebody is being a dick and yes I feel ( that’s my view not necessarily the truth) that some people are being dicks, then it’s easy to turn the other cheek and ignore them.

Take it easy people and as they say.

When the fun stops, stop, but don’t expect everybody else to stop because they may be having fun.

It's not coming across like people are expecting others to stop just because they aren't having fun. Others are just pointing out that they are using the forums less due to the nature of the beast as it stands now x

Then that's on them isn't it not on everyone else. "

Which is what I've just said....whole point being they are choosing not to use the forums!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"

Gatsby & Caffeine. ^"

I'd watch

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"I think the key to fabfillment is to not worry about what others think of you but be mindful of how you react with others.

What’s funny to one person isn’t necessarily funny to another. And that’s not them being touchy, soft or woke, it’s them being themselves.

If you think that somebody is being a dick and yes I feel ( that’s my view not necessarily the truth) that some people are being dicks, then it’s easy to turn the other cheek and ignore them.

Take it easy people and as they say.

When the fun stops, stop, but don’t expect everybody else to stop because they may be having fun.

It's not coming across like people are expecting others to stop just because they aren't having fun. Others are just pointing out that they are using the forums less due to the nature of the beast as it stands now x"

Oh I get that, I just think that there’s often too much worrying about what others say despite that I think we should be conscious of how we may affect other people.

But obviously you’re correct there, I just think telling us all why you don’t use the forum is indicative that people somehow feel that the forum is not as much fun as it was and they’d prefer it as it was.

Which is the truth as they see it.

To be honest I’d agree it’s not as much fun as it was for me, but I’m still happy with what I get from it as I look for what I want and ignore what I don’t.

x

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I’ve actually found the forums have calmed down over the last 6-12 months. There used to be 175 post long threads, multiple times a day, all screaming at eachother about trans this, trans thar, not all men this, read my bio that.

Seems much calmer now, but much more cliques and in jokes etc. basically entire threads getting derailed by unintelligible chat about cake and twix, thinly veiled attempted at sexual innuendoes and flirting. I can imagine most new users to the forum leave after not long because they can’t be bothered trying to decipher and join in

Once Yasmeen left it all went down hill. She was the weird barometer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"6 months OP? More likely over the last year or so that it's got worse. It's maybe a little better now but I think you can still cut the air with a knife, most days. Go check out the Scottish forum, you'll see how bad it is on there. Apparently opinions aren't allowed anymore without someone ready to jump and verbally attack

But those people are expressing their own opinion. Sure lots of people could handle how they do it differently but it seems most people just want to share their own opinions without having anyone else express a different one.

It is just hypocritical bullshit.

Want to express your opinion? Be prepared to be challenged by another. It's as simple as that.

Understand those people are not keen on other opinions either so they may be hostile. "

I don't mind being challenged bit in a constructive way, there's no need to be an a******e about it

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I think the key to fabfillment is to not worry about what others think of you but be mindful of how you react with others.

What’s funny to one person isn’t necessarily funny to another. And that’s not them being touchy, soft or woke, it’s them being themselves.

If you think that somebody is being a dick and yes I feel ( that’s my view not necessarily the truth) that some people are being dicks, then it’s easy to turn the other cheek and ignore them.

Take it easy people and as they say.

When the fun stops, stop, but don’t expect everybody else to stop because they may be having fun.

It's not coming across like people are expecting others to stop just because they aren't having fun. Others are just pointing out that they are using the forums less due to the nature of the beast as it stands now x

Oh I get that, I just think that there’s often too much worrying about what others say despite that I think we should be conscious of how we may affect other people.

But obviously you’re correct there, I just think telling us all why you don’t use the forum is indicative that people somehow feel that the forum is not as much fun as it was and they’d prefer it as it was.

Which is the truth as they see it.

To be honest I’d agree it’s not as much fun as it was for me, but I’m still happy with what I get from it as I look for what I want and ignore what I don’t.

x"

Same here. I'm happy with the interactions I have when I come on and learned a long time ago to ignore the rest. Think a few are a bit more invested in the real world now that some sort of normality is resuming x

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Could it be down to winter blues?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Not been on the forums for a good week and yesterday was something I've not seen in a long time. It was pretty weird twilight zone stuff really .. back to tea and the enormity of skirting boards.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I've really only been using the forum properly for the last few months so obviously can't compare to what went before.

But as others have said, feels like a bit of a mixed bag to me: some aggro for sure (I avoid the politics and virus areas like the plague, if you'll pardon the pun), but also lots of light-hearted, humourous and friendly interaction too. Can normally see pretty early where a thread is going, so can steer clear of more emotive topics quite easily, if you want to.

Fwiw, I've really enjoyed getting to know a few people on here and Fab would be much worse if they didn't exist at all. "Be the change..." as the old adage goes...

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Could it be down to winter blues?"

I’d say its more down to people just being dicks behind a keyboard

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

It was why I had a few months out before, when I first started forums it was fun. But I have seen a lot of people leave because of it lately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was why I had a few months out before, when I first started forums it was fun. But I have seen a lot of people leave because of it lately "

Because of what though? I would say probably only about 20% of threads have any agro in them them if that.

I think it was hit on the head earlier, that it has more to do with our own state of mind rather than what's going on in the forums.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"It was why I had a few months out before, when I first started forums it was fun. But I have seen a lot of people leave because of it lately

Because of what though? I would say probably only about 20% of threads have any agro in them them if that.

I think it was hit on the head earlier, that it has more to do with our own state of mind rather than what's going on in the forums. "

Just because you maybe haven't seen what others have seen, doesn't mean it's not happened or happening. Everyone is giving their opinion on how they feel....should they really be questioned on that??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was why I had a few months out before, when I first started forums it was fun. But I have seen a lot of people leave because of it lately

Because of what though? I would say probably only about 20% of threads have any agro in them them if that.

I think it was hit on the head earlier, that it has more to do with our own state of mind rather than what's going on in the forums.

Just because you maybe haven't seen what others have seen, doesn't mean it's not happened or happening. Everyone is giving their opinion on how they feel....should they really be questioned on that?? "

Wow So you're allowed an opinion and to question people but I'm not now. I didn't say at any point there isn't negativity so please don't put words in my mouth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone can raise an opinion. Equally you can challange that way of thinking /opinion.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"It was why I had a few months out before, when I first started forums it was fun. But I have seen a lot of people leave because of it lately

Because of what though? I would say probably only about 20% of threads have any agro in them them if that.

I think it was hit on the head earlier, that it has more to do with our own state of mind rather than what's going on in the forums.

Just because you maybe haven't seen what others have seen, doesn't mean it's not happened or happening. Everyone is giving their opinion on how they feel....should they really be questioned on that??

Wow So you're allowed an opinion and to question people but I'm not now. I didn't say at any point there isn't negativity so please don't put words in my mouth.

"

ok

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Everyone can raise an opinion. Equally you can challange that way of thinking /opinion. "

I'm going with the OP's post. He has pointed out his observations about the forums and what he is doing about it...Why should anyone be challenged/questioned on how they feel? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone can raise an opinion. Equally you can challange that way of thinking /opinion.

I'm going with the OP's post. He has pointed out his observations about the forums and what he is doing about it...Why should anyone be challenged/questioned on how they feel? x"

It's not about challenging about how they feel, as nobody can tell someone else how they feel, however if the opinion is of a derogatory or discriminatory nature then I believe it should be challanged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stress of life i think its probly that simple

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

"

You spot on there Governor it's become a minefield of bitchyness. Hopefully bit more sunshine will brighten up the mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone can raise an opinion. Equally you can challange that way of thinking /opinion.

I'm going with the OP's post. He has pointed out his observations about the forums and what he is doing about it...Why should anyone be challenged/questioned on how they feel? x

It's not about challenging about how they feel, as nobody can tell someone else how they feel, however if the opinion is of a derogatory or discriminatory nature then I believe it should be challanged. "

Absolutely.

People seem unable to differentiate between disagreeing and being nasty/negative.

Healthy and calmly reasoned debate is always a good thing.

Being unkind is not.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"Everyone can raise an opinion. Equally you can challange that way of thinking /opinion.

I'm going with the OP's post. He has pointed out his observations about the forums and what he is doing about it...Why should anyone be challenged/questioned on how they feel? x

It's not about challenging about how they feel, as nobody can tell someone else how they feel, however if the opinion is of a derogatory or discriminatory nature then I believe it should be challanged.

Absolutely.

People seem unable to differentiate between disagreeing and being nasty/negative.

Healthy and calmly reasoned debate is always a good thing.

Being unkind is not."

This in a nutshell really x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone can raise an opinion. Equally you can challange that way of thinking /opinion.

I'm going with the OP's post. He has pointed out his observations about the forums and what he is doing about it...Why should anyone be challenged/questioned on how they feel? x

It's not about challenging about how they feel, as nobody can tell someone else how they feel, however if the opinion is of a derogatory or discriminatory nature then I believe it should be challanged.

Absolutely.

People seem unable to differentiate between disagreeing and being nasty/negative.

Healthy and calmly reasoned debate is always a good thing.

Being unkind is not."

This. It seems to be you are negative or somehow causing a problem if you choose to question something that someone has said or you disagree. I feel like you can't win on here because if you agree too much with other people you are seen as just going with the clique and if you disagree or question you are being nasty or disruptive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be you. Everybody is different. I just block people that cause me any emotional harm. They aren't worth my time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just be you. Everybody is different. I just block people that cause me any emotional harm. They aren't worth my time "

I agree with this

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Just be you. Everybody is different. I just block people that cause me any emotional harm. They aren't worth my time "

Learned this a long time ago on here

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"But those people are expressing their own opinion. Sure lots of people could handle how they do it differently but it seems most people just want to share their own opinions without having anyone else express a different one.

It is just hypocritical bullshit.

Want to express your opinion? Be prepared to be challenged by another. It's as simple as that.

Understand those people are not keen on other opinions either so they may be hostile.

I don't mind being challenged bit in a constructive way, there's no need to be an a******e about it "

That's what I'm saying though. Some people are just like that, online and offline. They are giving their opinion in their own way. It's not a method I agree with or support but surely if we want to be able to present our own opinions one way then we should be prepared that others should be allowed to in their way. And they should be prepared to be challenged themselves.

Most of the time it seems like people don't want to discuss opinions, they just want an echo chamber filled with Yes men/people agreeing with their own opinion.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Honestly I think it’s mental, there’s 30 odd thousand people on here why get your knickers in a twist when someone doesn’t agree with you? There is absolutely no need to be nasty to people, to kink shame those kinks you perhaps haven’t tried or understand, to ridicule those who show parts of there body you wouldn’t and there is no amount of time in my day to be arsed with the drama - this as I’ve said before can be very high school like, there’s always people who tailor themselves to ‘fit in’ and then there’s those who go against the grain to stand out - this happens in everyday life not just on here.

I’m 37 not 17 - just appreciate this is an open forum and people will say as they see fit whether that resonates with you or riles you is down to you - if there’s a forum I can see taking a nose dive I just avoid it, no one asks you to get involved

X

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"But those people are expressing their own opinion. Sure lots of people could handle how they do it differently but it seems most people just want to share their own opinions without having anyone else express a different one.

It is just hypocritical bullshit.

Want to express your opinion? Be prepared to be challenged by another. It's as simple as that.

Understand those people are not keen on other opinions either so they may be hostile.

I don't mind being challenged bit in a constructive way, there's no need to be an a******e about it

That's what I'm saying though. Some people are just like that, online and offline. They are giving their opinion in their own way. It's not a method I agree with or support but surely if we want to be able to present our own opinions one way then we should be prepared that others should be allowed to in their way. And they should be prepared to be challenged themselves.

Most of the time it seems like people don't want to discuss opinions, they just want an echo chamber filled with Yes men/people agreeing with their own opinion."

I do think there's a point about how people put across their disagreement though. In the past I have regularly disagreed with certain posters. Nora and Chillout for example. We often have vastly different opinions on many things. I've often enjoyed the debate though and think of them both fondly. There's other people who respond with an attack on my character, morals or intelligence. They disagree with me therefore there's something wrong with me as a person. I'm not opposed to laughing at myself and sometimes I do say some dumb shit and if that's pointed out in humour, I can take that but some people go much further than that. Obviously the best response is to ignore them and I do my best to but there are times it can be relentless and it can get you down. I do personally see it as part and parcel of being on an internet forum and to an extent it will always be like that. My response when it gets too much is to just stick to benign or daft comments and not offer my opinion on anything for a while. However, I can understand why it might bother people having to limit their participation so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

"

That's why most of them are single or a couple in a bubble. If they don't like what you think they jump down your neck.......I just poke the fuckers with a stick and watch em kick off hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone will probably blame Brexit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone will probably blame Brexit "

Go on then. I will

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Honestly I think it’s mental, there’s 30 odd thousand people on here why get your knickers in a twist when someone doesn’t agree with you? There is absolutely no need to be nasty to people, to kink shame those kinks you perhaps haven’t tried or understand, to ridicule those who show parts of there body you wouldn’t and there is no amount of time in my day to be arsed with the drama - this as I’ve said before can be very high school like, there’s always people who tailor themselves to ‘fit in’ and then there’s those who go against the grain to stand out - this happens in everyday life not just on here.

I’m 37 not 17 - just appreciate this is an open forum and people will say as they see fit whether that resonates with you or riles you is down to you - if there’s a forum I can see taking a nose dive I just avoid it, no one asks you to get involved

X "

That's a measured response and in agreement except the knickers as I don't wear them

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

That's why most of them are single or a couple in a bubble. If they don't like what you think they jump down your neck.......I just poke the fuckers with a stick and watch em kick off hehehe "

I hope its not a shitty stick x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Someone will probably blame Brexit "

Yeah most of my opinions are imported and the price has gone through the roof!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone will probably blame Brexit

Go on then. I will "

Hehehehe

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

"

Well said, i think society as a whole especially after the last couple of years just seems very tense, patience seems to have gone out the window.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing a huge orgy could not sort out. Most of this animosity is a lack of sex or just general sexual tension between individuals.

Hey you. Missed you "

I missed him more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone will probably blame Brexit

Yeah most of my opinions are imported and the price has gone through the roof! "

well buy British next time!

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We just scroll on by and only stop and comment when we can say something nice.

Bit like life.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

Well said, i think society as a whole especially after the last couple of years just seems very tense, patience seems to have gone out the window.

T"

I do agree with this and actually I think there's been a lot to be tense about for the last couple of years. I think most of us have slightly shortened patients levels.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Someone will probably blame Brexit

Yeah most of my opinions are imported and the price has gone through the roof!

well buy British next time! "

I'll try but honestly the quality isn't what it used to be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think humour is lost in text. People take it the wrong way and then it blows up. People get too wound up by the words of random strangers on the internet and unfortunately that will never change."

You are so write!! I blame spell cehecker. Many seem to have lost the art of writing proper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We just scroll on by and only stop and comment when we can say something nice.

Bit like life.

X"

Totally agree. why waster time..

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By *erverseintentionsMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"6 months OP? More likely over the last year or so that it's got worse. It's maybe a little better now but I think you can still cut the air with a knife, most days. Go check out the Scottish forum, you'll see how bad it is on there. Apparently opinions aren't allowed anymore without someone ready to jump and verbally attack

But those people are expressing their own opinion. Sure lots of people could handle how they do it differently but it seems most people just want to share their own opinions without having anyone else express a different one.

It is just hypocritical bullshit.

Want to express your opinion? Be prepared to be challenged by another. It's as simple as that.

Understand those people are not keen on other opinions either so they may be hostile. "

Having differing opinions is fine . It's when the pack mentality sets in and twenty people all start gangbanging on one person . Usually the op . That's the shit part .. but life would be fucking boring if we all agreed and had no alternative opinions . Iv felt victimised in the past but in fairness I get as many positive replies as I do negative ones . It just seems the positive responses come via private mail ..as some don't want to publically agree because they've seen how my sentiments get targetted on the forums and they're not prepared to be associated for fear of being ganged up on themselves .

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Would you like some cake?

I think you just have to take it all with a pinch (or bag) of salt.

It's the same anywhere... Here, FB, Twitter. We all have the power to scroll past or switch off.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

That's why most of them are single or a couple in a bubble. If they don't like what you think they jump down your neck.......I just poke the fuckers with a stick and watch em kick off hehehe "

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By *uffsandCropsCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

It's not always your state of mind at the time, although that happens.

Sometimes someone will deliberately say things, follow your every post with derailing comments.

That was my experience and it really wasn't how I felt at the time. It was just playground mentality.

I know it's very few compared to the masses on here but hard to ignore when it's repetitive

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"

It seems a lot of users have stopped using the forums....who knows maybe one day it will go back to being fun x"

We should all just sleep with each other and get past it before someone gets slapped in the face over a joke...

C

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

There’s a lot of stuff going on, for everyone, that means they’re feeling the pinch.

Brexit and its effects will be rumbling on for the rest of our lives. Covid likewise.

The sharply rising cost of living, and resultant tightening of belts is, I’m sure, being felt by us all. Like most people, my gas/electric has near doubled.

All of these things have made me, for certain, more on edge.

They’ve also made me more wary of forum interaction. I’m on several “normal” ones, and I see dramas developing often lately. Most usually exacerbated because of a poor grip of written English, or a firm grip of conformation bias.

In my own household, I have one member of the family that will loudly proclaim that “you shouldn’t do things you can’t afford”, and who has been single-handedly responsible for the doubling of our electric bill this year, but now refuses to take ownership of the results. When you can’t resolve a situation like that face to face, I recognise that a forum spat is definitely not going to be resolvable.

If any of my responses have rubbed people the wrong way, I’ll wholeheartedly apologise, but most of us have no idea the pressures others are under even though we probably share more confidences here than we do anywhere else.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"

It seems a lot of users have stopped using the forums....who knows maybe one day it will go back to being fun x

We should all just sleep with each other and get past it before someone gets slapped in the face over a joke...

C"

Ohh that's a whole other topic... I'll refrain from comment on that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmmmm i must be selective in what i read as i thought they had improved somewhat recently, although they are very slow at the moment

I think we each have responsibility when weighing our contribution for a thread and more importantly, our reaction.. You can't control anyone else, but you can make your own choices and determine your reaction

... Of course there are some whose whole purpose is to light the blue touch paper and walk away.. They are not for me, so i just avoid their threads /comments ... Why would i want to get involved in an argument with some random 'stanger' on the internet who I'll likely never meet??

Also there are some who seem to go out of their way to deliberately take offence.. For those i would recommend taking a breath and turn the comment around to depersonalise it.. I'm pretty sure nobody is points scoring.. The forum is just a fliping "chat crap" place until you get laid at the end of the day

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

You are not really saying that everyone gets laid at the end of every day, are you?

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"Hmmmmmm i must be selective in what i read as i thought they had improved somewhat recently, although they are very slow at the moment

I think we each have responsibility when weighing our contribution for a thread and more importantly, our reaction.. You can't control anyone else, but you can make your own choices and determine your reaction

... Of course there are some whose whole purpose is to light the blue touch paper and walk away.. They are not for me, so i just avoid their threads /comments ... Why would i want to get involved in an argument with some random 'stanger' on the internet who I'll likely never meet??

Also there are some who seem to go out of their way to deliberately take offence.. For those i would recommend taking a breath and turn the comment around to depersonalise it.. I'm pretty sure nobody is points scoring.. The forum is just a fliping "chat crap" place until you get laid at the end of the day "

What she said (better than I could)!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are not really saying that everyone gets laid at the end of every day, are you? "

Every night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

"

I completely agree with you, and it is a shame that adults can't behave like adults.

I wondered where you went! Nearly sent out the search party x

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"

Ohh that's a whole other topic... I'll refrain from comment on that one "

*pokes with a pokey poking stick*

C

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

Op A forum is a poor mass communication channel. After the Op, each post changes the context of the next response, whether it supports or denies it, and irrespective of whether the next poster has actually seen it. We all then (generally) respond based on what we brought to the communication, which creates an ever widening view point(s), with later arrivals seeing and magnifying the gap. That is fora not fab.

To avoid personalising we tend to look at each thread on its own merits (not just who says what) - we all say dumb things one day and wisdom the next - and if we want fun we respond to fun threads.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"

Ohh that's a whole other topic... I'll refrain from comment on that one

*pokes with a pokey poking stick*

C"

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

To the trained eye it’s the same folk as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 years of pandemic and then once “freedom and spring arrives” people are too skint ti go out and have sole fun! Ergo the volumetrics of ends being gotten away are way down on what’s required to keep things on the happy side of the balance. Add to that Putin threatening the world so many nay never get a verification on fab and you’re adding fuel to the fire.

Either that or this is just the same as everywhere else on the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Avoid topics on race, Ukraine, trans, lower age limit, short people, cock size, Scotland, Wales, Ireland, big black cock, young men blues, I can’t get laid, not eating meat, anything by husbands in panties, curvy women, dieting…."

Thank fk we still have Brexit, Covid and fuel prices to talk about otherwise we’d be stuck with endless “hot photos”, “do you get turned on” and “profile advice” threads!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

"

Ive noticed that more than a few women's profile are quite rude in the sense that they seem to think that they can be as direct and rude as they please in their stuck-up like and very arrogant demeanor as to what they want. Whenever I see profiles like this, I tend to have a wee look at their pictures, and im absolutely blown away at their level of confidence and arrogance, when they have nothing sexy or attractive going for them! I would ever be nasty, ut some folk on here really do need to be put in their places.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

Ive noticed that more than a few women's profile are quite rude in the sense that they seem to think that they can be as direct and rude as they please in their stuck-up like and very arrogant demeanor as to what they want. Whenever I see profiles like this, I tend to have a wee look at their pictures, and im absolutely blown away at their level of confidence and arrogance, when they have nothing sexy or attractive going for them! I would ever be nasty, ut some folk on here really do need to be put in their places."

Damn us fuglies right!?

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"

Ohh that's a whole other topic... I'll refrain from comment on that one

*pokes with a pokey poking stick*

C

"

Is that an invitation to poke you with my stick, Sparkle?

(Sorry, too easy!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

Ive noticed that more than a few women's profile are quite rude in the sense that they seem to think that they can be as direct and rude as they please in their stuck-up like and very arrogant demeanor as to what they want. Whenever I see profiles like this, I tend to have a wee look at their pictures, and im absolutely blown away at their level of confidence and arrogance, when they have nothing sexy or attractive going for them! I would ever be nasty, ut some folk on here really do need to be put in their places."

Did you just say “I’ll never be nasty” after taking a veiled swipe at some women’s looks and confidence?

Interesting approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

Ive noticed that more than a few women's profile are quite rude in the sense that they seem to think that they can be as direct and rude as they please in their stuck-up like and very arrogant demeanor as to what they want. Whenever I see profiles like this, I tend to have a wee look at their pictures, and im absolutely blown away at their level of confidence and arrogance, when they have nothing sexy or attractive going for them! I would ever be nasty, ut some folk on here really do need to be put in their places.

Did you just say “I’ll never be nasty” after taking a veiled swipe at some women’s looks and confidence?

Interesting approach."

Breathtaking

Oh boy

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

Ive noticed that more than a few women's profile are quite rude in the sense that they seem to think that they can be as direct and rude as they please in their stuck-up like and very arrogant demeanor as to what they want. Whenever I see profiles like this, I tend to have a wee look at their pictures, and im absolutely blown away at their level of confidence and arrogance, when they have nothing sexy or attractive going for them! I would ever be nasty, ut some folk on here really do need to be put in their places."

Do you have to be sexy to have confidence then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I’ve noticed it’s become a lot more hostile as of late and for no good reason either. I’ve pulled myself far back from the forums for that reason

It seems a lot of users have stopped using the forums....who knows maybe one day it will go back to being fun x"

I agree with this as well it is getting too silly, I too have pulled away from here for a while again for that reason, my inbox is also always open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

Ive noticed that more than a few women's profile are quite rude in the sense that they seem to think that they can be as direct and rude as they please in their stuck-up like and very arrogant demeanor as to what they want. Whenever I see profiles like this, I tend to have a wee look at their pictures, and im absolutely blown away at their level of confidence and arrogance, when they have nothing sexy or attractive going for them! I would ever be nasty, ut some folk on here really do need to be put in their places."

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By *erverseintentionsMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

Ive noticed that more than a few women's profile are quite rude in the sense that they seem to think that they can be as direct and rude as they please in their stuck-up like and very arrogant demeanor as to what they want. Whenever I see profiles like this, I tend to have a wee look at their pictures, and im absolutely blown away at their level of confidence and arrogance, when they have nothing sexy or attractive going for them! I would ever be nasty, ut some folk on here really do need to be put in their places.

Do you have to be sexy to have confidence then?"

Confidence is one of the sexiest things ever .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

Ive noticed that more than a few women's profile are quite rude in the sense that they seem to think that they can be as direct and rude as they please in their stuck-up like and very arrogant demeanor as to what they want. Whenever I see profiles like this, I tend to have a wee look at their pictures, and im absolutely blown away at their level of confidence and arrogance, when they have nothing sexy or attractive going for them! I would ever be nasty, ut some folk on here really do need to be put in their places.

Do you have to be sexy to have confidence then?"

What im getting at is, dont be an arrogant bugger with list after list about what you dont find attractive or want. Sure state what you want, but dont be an arrogant arse about it - especially when youre not all that yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

Ive noticed that more than a few women's profile are quite rude in the sense that they seem to think that they can be as direct and rude as they please in their stuck-up like and very arrogant demeanor as to what they want. Whenever I see profiles like this, I tend to have a wee look at their pictures, and im absolutely blown away at their level of confidence and arrogance, when they have nothing sexy or attractive going for them! I would ever be nasty, ut some folk on here really do need to be put in their places.

Do you have to be sexy to have confidence then?

Confidence is one of the sexiest things ever . "

Sorry - confidence would not make me attracted to someone if they looked like burst couch.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

Ive noticed that more than a few women's profile are quite rude in the sense that they seem to think that they can be as direct and rude as they please in their stuck-up like and very arrogant demeanor as to what they want. Whenever I see profiles like this, I tend to have a wee look at their pictures, and im absolutely blown away at their level of confidence and arrogance, when they have nothing sexy or attractive going for them! I would ever be nasty, ut some folk on here really do need to be put in their places.

Do you have to be sexy to have confidence then?

Confidence is one of the sexiest things ever .

Sorry - confidence would not make me attracted to someone if they looked like burst couch."

I'll have you know some people like having a rummage in my knickers and pulling out some loose change and the remote.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

Ive noticed that more than a few women's profile are quite rude in the sense that they seem to think that they can be as direct and rude as they please in their stuck-up like and very arrogant demeanor as to what they want. Whenever I see profiles like this, I tend to have a wee look at their pictures, and im absolutely blown away at their level of confidence and arrogance, when they have nothing sexy or attractive going for them! I would ever be nasty, ut some folk on here really do need to be put in their places.

Do you have to be sexy to have confidence then?

Confidence is one of the sexiest things ever .

Sorry - confidence would not make me attracted to someone if they looked like burst couch.

I'll have you know some people like having a rummage in my knickers and pulling out some loose change and the remote. "

Lol ??????

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Bunch of demanding burst couches on here

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By *erverseintentionsMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Ive been taking some time away from it recently, main reason nothing can seem to be said without someone jumping down anothers neck.

It seems to have become knife edge & full of tension in the past 6 months, guys please chill and respect opinions, theres no need for nastiness, bitterness, argumentation & jumping down peoples throats.

Im outta here for a while.

those who want to keep intouch my inbox is always open.

Have a nice day

Ive noticed that more than a few women's profile are quite rude in the sense that they seem to think that they can be as direct and rude as they please in their stuck-up like and very arrogant demeanor as to what they want. Whenever I see profiles like this, I tend to have a wee look at their pictures, and im absolutely blown away at their level of confidence and arrogance, when they have nothing sexy or attractive going for them! I would ever be nasty, ut some folk on here really do need to be put in their places.

Do you have to be sexy to have confidence then?

Confidence is one of the sexiest things ever .

Sorry - confidence would not make me attracted to someone if they looked like burst couch.

I'll have you know some people like having a rummage in my knickers and pulling out some loose change and the remote. "

Hahahahhahaahaha

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Bunch of demanding burst couches on here "

Burst couches can be very comfortable.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"

Ive noticed that more than a few women's profile are quite rude in the sense that they seem to think that they can be as direct and rude as they please in their stuck-up like and very arrogant demeanor as to what they want. Whenever I see profiles like this, I tend to have a wee look at their pictures, and im absolutely blown away at their level of confidence and arrogance, when they have nothing sexy or attractive going for them! I would ever be nasty, ut some folk on here really do need to be put in their places."

Subjective though isn't is... What you might find attractive/sexy, some other might not and vice versa.

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By *erverseintentionsMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"

Ive noticed that more than a few women's profile are quite rude in the sense that they seem to think that they can be as direct and rude as they please in their stuck-up like and very arrogant demeanor as to what they want. Whenever I see profiles like this, I tend to have a wee look at their pictures, and im absolutely blown away at their level of confidence and arrogance, when they have nothing sexy or attractive going for them! I would ever be nasty, ut some folk on here really do need to be put in their places.

Subjective though isn't is... What you might find attractive/sexy, some other might not and vice versa. "

Very much so .. I'd love to rummage in her nickers for change and the remote .. but she thinks she's a burst couch ? ...this is where confidence comes in to play.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Bunch of demanding burst couches on here

Burst couches can be very comfortable.

"

Where would the desperate men sit who can't get a seat on the IKEA 4-seaters?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


" .

Sorry - confidence would not make me attracted to someone if they looked like burst couch."

I detect a slight hint of bitterness... With a dash of irony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why on earth would you feel the need to describe another human being as a 'burst couch'

Its a really shitty thing to do... On a thread that's calling out shitty behaviour too.. I'm almost knocked out by the irony

People can put what they like on their profile, so long as it isn't illegal...i don't care if they claim to be the Queen of Sheba... If they are not for you, just block and move on. You don't need to be an asshole about it at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" .

Sorry - confidence would not make me attracted to someone if they looked like burst couch.

I detect a slight hint of bitterness... With a dash of irony"

Feels like a cry for help.

Nobody is reading his messages.

He’s miffed.

You bloody women and your standards, preferences, taste, morals, wants and needs.

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