FabSwingers.com forum: Ghosted I planned meets

By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Had a meet set up for tonight.

Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.

Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!

Anyone else had a similar experience?

I feel shell shocked

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

People get cold feet and call it off. Or maybe circumstances changed and they’re not comfortable to communicate it. It’s a shit situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow, no, but that's probably one of the most extreme I have heard of so far. Especially since she met you 2 days ago and still continued chatting right up until the meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes several and it's horrible thats happened to you

Did she seem off at all at the social not trying to justify her behaviour just trying to tell cause there are people on here who I call “hunters” who basically waste your time and have no intention of hooking up.

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

No not at all

We’ve been chatting all day

Honestly I’m gutted

And now just sat on my own in a hotel room....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very cold and calculating.

I had similar last year. Met one day, came round a couple days later, stayed over, texted ALL the time, he was supposed to be coming back that night, even texted to say he was on his way…… 3 hours later I texted him to ask where he was as it doesn’t take 3hrs to get from one side of the city to the other….. still waiting on the reply. Never take anything for granted. Never trust anyone. It’s guys like him who break my trust and confidence a little more each time.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Had a meet set up for tonight.

Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.

Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!

Anyone else had a similar experience?

I feel shell shocked "

And you're left thinking... What did I do? Was it me? Could I have done anything different? Etc...

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Totally get cold feet

But I don’t know why she didn’t just say so...

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By *unandgamegeekMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I had a similar experience where the woman who I was supposed to meet at a hotel ghosted me, didn't reply to my messages and completely stood me up.

Luckily, two friends of mine came to my rescue after hearing what happened and invited me to come along with them to the Gatehouse in Farnworth so ended up having a great night in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got ghosted by a guy that I was meant to meet, ignored my messages then later on that evening a nice new veri appeared on his profile.

Then had the cheek to message me a week later asking to meet!

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

I do but also I don’t because I was a total gentleman the whole time and wasn’t pushy or anything

It’s just so disappointing

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

I am up for anyone rescuing my evening at this point lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am up for anyone rescuing my evening at this point lol"

You’re too far away and I’m too ill

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

She’s online on fab now

Like wtf

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Ha ha

Thank you for the thought

Hope you feel better soon.xx

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

"Totally get cold feet

But I don’t know why she didn’t just say so..."

If she took the time to block you then a simple apology or explanation could’ve sufficed. Cold feet or not, that’s just inexcusable behaviour. Sorry that happened to you OP

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Yeah, gutted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She’s online on fab now

Like wtf

Block her and walk away, she’s clearly not worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She’s online on fab now

Like wtf

Block her and walk away, she’s clearly not worth it "

I agree with this

Let it be, there will be other meets x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally get cold feet

But I don’t know why she didn’t just say so..."

If its as your describing I believe you don’t worry

She probably just got scared and decided to cut off contact is all.Some men (not you) take rejection far too far

Don’t beat yourself up about it she wasn’t right for you

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

That’s my sentiments yes

I get people change their minds

And I’m totally cool with that

I don’t want to be with someone if it’s forced

But just say ‘look I’m sorry, I’ve changed my mind’

For all the mistrust I get on here for being a single male it’s a real slap in the face

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By *ixieandfairyCouple
over a year ago

St Helier

Oh I certainly would if I could! She sounds like a total idiot! It’s an awful thing to do to someone, especially after a face to face. If the chemistry wasn’t there, she should have let you know, not gone ahead and allowed a hotel booking to be made. Sorry you’re there alone, but be comforted perhaps that there are many more worthy ladies who will turn up in the future x

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thank you

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thanks.xx

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thank you.xx

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Awwww

Thank you

That’s nice of you to say.xx

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"Had a meet set up for tonight.

Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.

Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!

Anyone else had a similar experience?

I feel shell shocked "

Report her.

People cwn get cold feet and change their mind (happened to us) and I can respect that as long as you tell us. But wasting peoples time and money like that, nah. Not on.

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

It’s a shame

The money part doesn’t bother me

It’s just the time and effort and now I just feel shit

Even got us some champagne

Guess I’ll crack that open with myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got ghosted by a guy that I was meant to meet, ignored my messages then later on that evening a nice new veri appeared on his profile.

Then had the cheek to message me a week later asking to meet! "

I have sort if done similar I will admit call me what you will.

But I never ghost or waste anyones time or ignore them intentionally do I make a shitty excuse yes I do but thats to try to avoid harming people.

What an arse!!

Especially with the veri feels like he was trying to rub it in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a meet set up for tonight.

Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.

Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!

Anyone else had a similar experience?

I feel shell shocked

Report her.

People cwn get cold feet and change their mind (happened to us) and I can respect that as long as you tell us. But wasting peoples time and money like that, nah. Not on.

This. There is an option for "Arranged a meet. Didn't turn up". x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a meet set up for tonight.

Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.

Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!

Anyone else had a similar experience?

I feel shell shocked "

Yes had similar experience. all ok night before went to hotel as planned early in am and once there no response about where he was... I did make use of my time and had some fun! But was kinda shocked as you say..hes still on here so not like hes dropped deid! It's a swing site tho so I guess nothing really is "odd". I have manners though, I couldn't just do that to anyone but that's me. Really hope doesnt deter you + fab brings u loads of fun OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she has a partner and things got hot

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Sorry that happened to you.

Definitely taken the wind out of my sails for sure!

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Not from what she’s told me.

Like I said been speaking for weeks

She has an ex, maybe something happened

I don’t know

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

That’s shitty behaviour in her part. I’m sorry you’re on the receiving end of it. Maybe you can have a nice night at the hotel and chill out and turn it into a lovely self care night? A bath and raid room service

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry you’ve had that happen. It sucks especially as you’ve had a social that went well. Block delete move on xx

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Definitely going to relax and try and make the best of it

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely going to relax and try and make the best of it "

Absolutely. Get yourself in a nice hot bath wank and sprawl out on the hotel bed. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just been blocked by the person who called off a meet last sunday at the last minute, had arranged tomorrow but blocked me when i asked if we were still on.

Not even vaguely surprised. But its a bit annoying when I'd got the toys all spotless and ready, clean bedding ready etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be brutal on here. Don't take it to heart. X

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thank you

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By *dnmartinMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes had it happen several times on here.

Guys who think they know what they want, but then change their minds.

The worse thing is the Ghosting and the unanswered calls.

Just wish that if guys changed their minds they would have the decency to say so.

I am sure you would be upset if she had messaged to say she was not coming, but would have understood at least.

I feel your pain, confusion and anger.

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Yes it’s the effort that’s put in to then just be thrown away without even an apology

Sorry that happened to you

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Exactly that

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Ha ha

Yea, sounds like a plan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sorry for the position you find yourself in OP, ghosting anyone is a dick - especially after you’ve actually had a social - would have been easy to drop you a text to say can’t made it. Hopefully you enjoyed the champtnr. L x

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thank you

Yes it’s all just very disheartening and frustrating

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By *illanelleWoman
over a year ago

Ryde, Isle of Wight

Hey OP. That's so rude and shitty and unnecessary. So sorry you've had such a horrid experience. Try not to overthink it but I know it's hard not too; I'm the best/worst overthinker ever. Drink the minibar dry and say bollocks a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a lovely women. Such a delight.

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Ha ha

A real keeper

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thank you.

I’ll do my best to cheer myself up.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just forget and move on. Hopefully this person has it done to them. Humans are funny things.

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry that happened to you. It's heartless, cold, selfish behaviour and totally disrespectful. Some people care about no one but themselves. Please don't spend anymore time questioning yourself why. People like her aren't worth a second thought. Hope the champagne went down well.

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thank you

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

This is why I always have a back up activity (cinema, shopping etc, not a meet) when meeting someone new(ish) a distance away, you never know what could crop up last minute to scupper plans

Don't think twice on it OP, it's not you. Block and move on and I hope you had a nice night in the hotel. I will say that needing closure is a funny old emotion and it can creep up on you...

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By *trawberry MojitoWoman
over a year ago

over the hill & far away, like Princess Fiona.

I too have been ghosted on here, I was actually sat outside the pub waiting when I message him to say I was here and he had blocked me on kik and on fab, all he had to do was say he couldn't make it. Oh well

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By *D of funCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Ya, it happens alot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not cool. It's OK to change your mind. It isn't OK to behave like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most of us can relate in some way, been ghosted etc but not someone I’ve already met and still chatting too and arranging to meet that day. Sadly It seems to happen a lot. Everyone is allowed to change their minds and total respect to them for that, but it does sting a little

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She’s online on fab now

Like wtf

Can you see when someone is online when you are blocked? Not a good blocking system lol. Block her and don't give her anymore of your time.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

That's awfull! And what a cowards thing to do! At least tell u straight that she's changed her mind! On wards and upwards op xx

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Some people just change their minds, but I honestly think for a few other people it's a game and a bit of a thrill to them .

They enjoy messing people around and having them fork out for hotels when they fully have no intention of turning up.

Some people are just shit, I'm sorry.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"She’s online on fab now

Like wtf

How do you know that if you're blocked?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"She’s online on fab now

Like wtf

How do you know that if you're blocked?"

If u look at block list u can see their online x

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"Had a meet set up for tonight.

Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.

Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!

Anyone else had a similar experience?

I feel shell shocked "

I recognise this. Similar happened to me years ago. Except we'd been chatting a bit longer and all the conversations and vibe seemed great. Although she did say its the first time she'd done anything like this after here break up. Then come the night in question she didn't come and went to ground. To be fair as a single parent of a 4 year old and 6 month old baby at the time I just made best use of the hotel room and being away from the kids. Had a nice bath, Ordered room service and watched TV, then fell asleep. So luckily for me the night wasn't a complete waste.

I think some people get carried away with the fantasy and then get cold feet at the end when they realise the fantasy outstretches their comfort zone. After that I started to speak to women over the phone before I made any serious plans or bookings. You do get a better idea of chemistry and able to put both of your minds at ease after a chat or a social meet. Once I went for a social in another city but booked a room (as its just nice to get away from the kids). It was just ment to be a social. She said strictly social first meet, always. However we met, got on really well and she asked to go see what my room was like. I also started to go to clubs after that. Because of the flakiness of the online world me and My Girl generally do all our finding and meeting people in clubs or just out and about in town.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I arranged a last minute meet last Friday and after chugging a shed load of equipment through to the hotel she didn't show up - thqt was a bummer, but chalked it up as experience. I got a message on the Sunday saying she got nervous - again fair enough, but a message to that effect at the time would bave been more polite than ghosting me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry that happened to you.

Ghosting is cruel and she should of had the bollocks to tell you why she didn't want to meet.

Delete and block, she's not worth the headspace

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

"So sorry that happened to you.

Ghosting is cruel and she should of had the bollocks to tell you why she didn't want to meet.

Delete and block, she's not worth the headspace

^^ this, I’ve had it happen (twice) if they don’t want to meet all they need to do is say, not let you spend money on hotels etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in Edinburgh and had planned to visit the club there with someone I'd been chatting too for a while.

The day came still chatting that morning, I got ready then messaged to say I was about to book my Uber and would see him in half an hour....he messaged saying that he was now going with someone else and he might see me there.

Um no thanks

Ironically he messaged an hour later asking if I still wanted to go because his date never showed up I never bothered replying to that, my silence said more than words ever could

At least he told me the reason, it still stings but better than not knowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so sorry for those this sort of thing has happened to. This is cowardly and selfish behaviour. There seems to be some fantasists on here who enjoy stringing people along and don't care how they hurt them. It hasn't happened to me but I've heard some horror stories.

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

That’s great advice

Might put that in place next time. Thank you.xx

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Wow

That is just cold

Yes at least you got a reason

But what a horrible person

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Exactly

Just very disappointing

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Exactly

I’m sure a lot of people get cold feet

And yes I’m sure it’s not easy to say at the time as you don’t want to upset the other person but ghosting isn’t the answer either

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"People get cold feet and call it off. Or maybe circumstances changed and they’re not comfortable to communicate it. It’s a shit situation."

Yep happend to me more tines I care to count.

Got to the point that I virtually expect it to happen. Its one of the reasons I have pretty much given up and tend to stick to the forum these days

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Yes

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"She’s online on fab now

Like wtf

Block her and walk away, she’s clearly not worth it

I agree with this

Let it be, there will be other meets x "

For a man on here it's pretty rare to get a meet

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Ugh

If people are doing that then it’s just horrible and cruel

I just don’t understand why you would

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Agreed

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Ugh that’s horrible

I’m sorry

Just very hurtful

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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago

Shoreditch east London

"Not from what she’s told me.

Like I said been speaking for weeks

She has an ex, maybe something happened

I don’t know "

Stop making excuses for her bad behaviour n way she's treated you. Regardless if she's has an ex, so what. That should not stop her from just saying "sorry, I can't meet you".

Ignoring, ghosting is just unacceptable on every level at this point. People should be held more accountable for their actions. If she's from here I'd still report her. I honestly feel sometimes these kinda people n games they play should be called out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is really, really shit OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s absolutely crap to not tell you from the beginning that she didn’t want anything else.

Letting you drive and book a hotel just to block you is just really rude indeed.

Sorry to hear this OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people just change their minds, but I honestly think for a few other people it's a game and a bit of a thrill to them .

They enjoy messing people around and having them fork out for hotels when they fully have no intention of turning up.

Some people are just shit, I'm sorry."

Yeah I’ve had a couple like this a few where we clearly just didn’t hit things of and I’m fine with that I always ask at the end if she wants to go further.Luckily I didn’t fork out for a hotel either time.

Know it happens to an awful lot of women perhaps more than men think its a power trip especially when its a woman since no offence and I get why but you ladies are hard to get on here.

Agree some people are pieces of crap

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

That’s awful op

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Very true

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Yeah it wasn’t great

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Totally awful behaviour. Sorry this happened to you.

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Yeah, sucked

Oh well

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Yes that’s all it took

Manners cost nothing

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Happens all too often, on here and vanilla dating sites too.... All to easy to ghost rather than call and explain

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Had a meet set up for tonight.

Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.

Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!

Anyone else had a similar experience?

I feel shell shocked "

Yes mate, it happens to the best of us. Even worse for me was when she posted a veri from another guy for the same night. Seems I was ‘Plan b’

Hey-ho, we’re still breathing

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Yeah I get the feeling she got a better offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sugar that’s just totally shit. I’d mitigate it by only doing a hotel meet someplace I know I’ve got options eg London.

I don’t accept the cold feet argument either. It doesn’t excuse simply ghosting and blocking.

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

I do understand cold feet but one is very surprised as it has escalated to this stage. But yes the ghosting and blocking is just cold and callous

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

Should have used your ‘who’s near’ and just forgot about them.

But yes ghosting is shit.

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Ha ha

Yes

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

I think ghosting someone is disgusting. If a person gets cold feet own it and tell them then block if felt necessary the situation doesn't have to escalate. Had the same situation a couple of times and ended up paying the bill. Won't do hotel meets now even though I've had good ones too. Ghosting should be against the rules of the site

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Wow op that is absolutely horrible.

There's no excuse for that at all and there's not much I can say to make you feel better .

Some people are just nasty pieces of work ,please report her to admin .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I get the feeling she got a better offer"

Her loss, I know it's cliché but it really is! More fool her.

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By *nhale exhaleWoman
over a year ago

North East

Shocking behaviour some people have no morals

Her loss

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thank you.xx

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

It is very cowardly. But that’s the drawback with online interaction

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry op , only just seen this.

Did you message her when she was online ?

Hope you are ok x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the anxious nervous feelings before a meet but I wouldn't ever stand someone up as that's just really low

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you "

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By *bonybucksMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Yes I've had that and it's horrible!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I do understand cold feet but one is very surprised as it has escalated to this stage. But yes the ghosting and blocking is just cold and callous"

No, it’s cowardly. Her loss mate

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Make sure you sign in to the desktop version of the site, and counterblock her, just in case she runs out of options another time, and thinks you might welcome her back

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

This is so out of order.

Most guys don't even offer to do the hotel thing... She certainly missed out!

Please report her, less chance of her doing it to someone else too

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thank you.xx

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

There’s no chance of that happening.

Fool me once, shame on you

Fool me twice, shame on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ashley, hit +quote.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

It happened to me. We’d met for a social and had arranged to meet to have some fun. I’d booked a hotel only for him to not turn up. He eventually messaged to say he was giving it another go with his wife!

Fortunately someone else from Fab came to my rescue and we had a great time.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"Had a meet set up for tonight.

Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.

Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!

Anyone else had a similar experience?

I feel shell shocked "

Ha ha frequently !. Booked a hotel twice for one young lady, luckily got most of the money back. We were ghosted by another days before a social and she even ignored a direct text message from Cherry

.. I wonder if admin would do anything about these tossers ?

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"Make sure you sign in to the desktop version of the site, and counterblock her, just in case she runs out of options another time, and thinks you might welcome her back

You can counterblock on the mobile version too...

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Yes some sort of strike system on here would be good

Of negative feedback, but I could see that being abused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes some sort of strike system on here would be good

Of negative feedback, but I could see that being abused "

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Ugh that’s just so inconsiderate

Glad you were able to have a plan b though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes some sort of strike system on here would be good

Of negative feedback, but I could see that being abused "

It’s happened to me plenty of times with guys not turning up, even still txting saying they are 5 mins away, there are some absolute time wasters in here as well as bitter twisted peeps to, good luck in the future x

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Ashley, hit +quote."

Ahh yes

Thank you for the tip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shit happens when you fuck strangers

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

"I got ghosted by a guy that I was meant to meet, ignored my messages then later on that evening a nice new veri appeared on his profile.

Then had the cheek to message me a week later asking to meet! "

Who’s stupid enough to pass on you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a meet set up for tonight.

Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.

Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!

Anyone else had a similar experience?

I feel shell shocked "

I feel for you , l had a similar experience but nothing compared to yours, l took time off work because it suited her best , drove for over an hour and nothing..had chatted before hand , chatted on the morning etc but had not met her like you had , l really don't know what to say other than it sucks .it really does,being ghosted .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a meet set up for tonight.

Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.

Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!

Anyone else had a similar experience?

I feel shell shocked

Ha ha frequently !. Booked a hotel twice for one young lady, luckily got most of the money back. We were ghosted by another days before a social and she even ignored a direct text message from Cherry

.. I wonder if admin would do anything about these tossers ?"

They just come back with a different email and username if they have too, it doesn't matter , they're here to waste time nothing else , sad but that's the way it goes .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why I always have a back up activity (cinema, shopping etc, not a meet) when meeting someone new(ish) a distance away, you never know what could crop up last minute to scupper plans

Don't think twice on it OP, it's not you. Block and move on and I hope you had a nice night in the hotel. I will say that needing closure is a funny old emotion and it can creep up on you..."

Anything can come up , I don't doubt that for a second but if same said person wanted to truly meet then an explanation or a future date would be arranged not a block .

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Had a meet set up for tonight.

Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.

Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!

Anyone else had a similar experience?

I feel shell shocked

I just don’t understand everything going well up until the last minute and then them just disappearing

Was it planned?

If it was cold feet I don’t think they’d block and ghost but o don’t know

Lesson learned anyway

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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"This is why I always have a back up activity (cinema, shopping etc, not a meet) when meeting someone new(ish) a distance away, you never know what could crop up last minute to scupper plans

Don't think twice on it OP, it's not you. Block and move on and I hope you had a nice night in the hotel. I will say that needing closure is a funny old emotion and it can creep up on you...

Anything can come up , I don't doubt that for a second but if same said person wanted to truly meet then an explanation or a future date would be arranged not a block ."

Yes exactly

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Block, move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that ghost. It says a lot about their personality..consider yourself lucky

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