FabSwingers.com forum: Messages that lead to nowhere.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you ever get messages from random people and they suddenly expect you to take the lead when they started the conversation?

If you start a conversation, you need to have a reason why you started it. Am I right or wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello Henry

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

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No. luckily my filters stop all that sort of contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

What was her username… for research purposes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Heyyy gurllll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One word messages just get deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be like receiving a message from Emmanuel Macron

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're in for a lot of disappointment if they do.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

What was her username… for research purposes

No need. Your details were passed on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost all of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They're in for a lot of disappointment if they do. "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi. Can I ask you a question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Picture paints a thousand words.

Dick sent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi. Can I ask you a question. "

No you can't

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Most messages on here sre like this, hi, how are you, what you up to tonight, weekend plans?

If your to lazy to write a message your likely gonna be that lady in bed too

Because it's a free site people think it's easy sex & no effort is required

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

What was her username… for research purposes

No need. Your details were passed on

I’m using the to fertilise my petunias…. Honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi. Can I ask you a question.

No you can't

Can we chat. I'm Steve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

Bullet point messages. No friendly tone and when you're less than enthused in your response, you're not the chatty one.

I read all messages unless within 4 words there's an undertone of slutsville fodder.

I check profiles too.

Usually the lack of effort is often attached to

Been here before, back again

Will fill later.

It's such a dreamy situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes.

Bullet point messages. No friendly tone and when you're less than enthused in your response, you're not the chatty one.

I read all messages unless within 4 words there's an undertone of slutsville fodder.

I check profiles too.

Usually the lack of effort is often attached to

Been here before, back again

Will fill later.

It's such a dreamy situation

"Slutsville fodder"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever get messages from random people and they suddenly expect you to take the lead when they started the conversation?

If you start a conversation, you need to have a reason why you started it. Am I right or wrong?"

No, never from Radom people , they have more important things to be doing tbh. l only start a conversation with someone that has an interest in same , talking for the sake of talking will play itself out , complete waste of eachothers time and energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey"

Oooooh

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

What was her username… for research purposes

No need. Your details were passed on

I’m using the to fertilise my petunias…. Honest

Oh, these would have grown you some fantastic roses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

What was her username… for research purposes

No need. Your details were passed on

I’m using the to fertilise my petunias…. Honest

Oh, these would have grown you some fantastic roses

Outkast did a song about those

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

What was her username… for research purposes

No need. Your details were passed on

I’m using the to fertilise my petunias…. Honest

Oh, these would have grown you some fantastic roses

Outkast did a song about those

I offered to send Persil. It's nice to see so many shades of brown

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It's why I always say I won't chase anyone on here. If they want to chat they have to make an effort.

I call it fabtag when they either send a one word introductory message or a smoke blowing one with the latter hoping for a similar response.

It's funny now when someone says they love my pics or profile and ask where I've been hiding because they had never seen me before.

Eh I haven't moved since you sent me exactly the same message 3 or 4 months ago and a few months before that again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

What was her username… for research purposes

No need. Your details were passed on

I’m using the to fertilise my petunias…. Honest

Oh, these would have grown you some fantastic roses

Outkast did a song about those

I offered to send Persil. It's nice to see so many shades of brown

More skiddies than Lewis Hamilton

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

What was her username… for research purposes

No need. Your details were passed on

I’m using the to fertilise my petunias…. Honest

Oh, these would have grown you some fantastic roses

Outkast did a song about those

I offered to send Persil. It's nice to see so many shades of brown

More skiddies than Lewis Hamilton

That's right fella. Must have been a brutal curry the previous night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

What was her username… for research purposes

No need. Your details were passed on

I’m using the to fertilise my petunias…. Honest

Oh, these would have grown you some fantastic roses

Outkast did a song about those

I offered to send Persil. It's nice to see so many shades of brown

More skiddies than Lewis Hamilton

That's right fella. Must have been a brutal curry the previous night

Fat Les would be proud

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Yes usually just single words like hi or hello. Make an effort!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

What was her username… for research purposes

No need. Your details were passed on

I’m using the to fertilise my petunias…. Honest

Oh, these would have grown you some fantastic roses

Outkast did a song about those

I offered to send Persil. It's nice to see so many shades of brown

More skiddies than Lewis Hamilton

That's right fella. Must have been a brutal curry the previous night

Fat Les would be proud

that's old school

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Him: How're you

Me: Good thanks. And you?

Him: I'm good. Having much luck on here?

Me:

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep its called me getting bored

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

"I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

Some people pay for that privilege lol

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Rarely..thankfully!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

Some people pay for that privilege lol"

.....wait, say again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just for research purposes what other intros could be used? I can think of a few dirty minded ones...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing."

I did.....but you hit me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get messages, we'll reply then get a 1 word answer, that's the end of that conversation.

I never understand when people initiate conversation why the then don't bother after 1 reply.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies must get lots of messages & miss lots of messages. But if you are chatting to someone who lives local I would keep in contact even if it goes nowhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes.

Bullet point messages. No friendly tone and when you're less than enthused in your response, you're not the chatty one.

I read all messages unless within 4 words there's an undertone of slutsville fodder.

I check profiles too.

Usually the lack of effort is often attached to

Been here before, back again

Will fill later.

It's such a dreamy situation

"Slutsville fodder"

It has the potential to be a fab name...... For someone else. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Faf?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slutsville fodder - I'm updating our status right now

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Do you ever get messages from random people and they suddenly expect you to take the lead when they started the conversation?

If you start a conversation, you need to have a reason why you started it. Am I right or wrong?"

•

Hence the last paragraph in my profile to keep those insolent pups at bay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Slutsville fodder - I'm updating our status right now

Glad to be of assistance X

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing."

That sounds more like an interview

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

"I had a lady offering to send me her soiled pants. Funny, I didn't need that

You said you wouldn't tell anyone!!

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"Do you ever get messages from random people and they suddenly expect you to take the lead when they started the conversation?

If you start a conversation, you need to have a reason why you started it. Am I right or wrong?"

It takes two to have a conversation or so the voices in my head tell me.

But surely effort should be put in from both sides if both sides are interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing.

That sounds more like an interview "

Not at all. It’s more about showing an interest in someone, and keeping the conversation going. Otherwise it can fall a bit flat.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing.

That sounds more like an interview

Not at all. It’s more about showing an interest in someone, and keeping the conversation going. Otherwise it can fall a bit flat."

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing.

That sounds more like an interview

Not at all. It’s more about showing an interest in someone, and keeping the conversation going. Otherwise it can fall a bit flat."

You come here often?

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"No. luckily my filters stop all that sort of contact

Likewise ...no time for nonsense

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing.

That sounds more like an interview

Not at all. It’s more about showing an interest in someone, and keeping the conversation going. Otherwise it can fall a bit flat."

^^^ exactly that ... if one party is asking all the questions the conversation is just one sided so it's going to fail...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing.

That sounds more like an interview

Not at all. It’s more about showing an interest in someone, and keeping the conversation going. Otherwise it can fall a bit flat.

^^^ exactly that ... if one party is asking all the questions the conversation is just one sided so it's going to fail... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing.

That sounds more like an interview

Not at all. It’s more about showing an interest in someone, and keeping the conversation going. Otherwise it can fall a bit flat.

You come here often?

Yeah and I’ve brought my spade this time, ‘cos I’m digging you.

Honestly, can’t believe I’m single with such quality lines.

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By *cottieboy123Man
over a year ago

Perth

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing.

That sounds more like an interview

Not at all. It’s more about showing an interest in someone, and keeping the conversation going. Otherwise it can fall a bit flat.

You come here often?

Yeah and I’ve brought my spade this time, ‘cos I’m digging you.

Honestly, can’t believe I’m single with such quality lines.

Hmmmmm.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing.

That sounds more like an interview

Not at all. It’s more about showing an interest in someone, and keeping the conversation going. Otherwise it can fall a bit flat.

You come here often?

Yeah and I’ve brought my spade this time, ‘cos I’m digging you.

Honestly, can’t believe I’m single with such quality lines.

Smooooooth, real smooth.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing.

That sounds more like an interview

Not at all. It’s more about showing an interest in someone, and keeping the conversation going. Otherwise it can fall a bit flat.

You come here often?

Yeah and I’ve brought my spade this time, ‘cos I’m digging you.

Honestly, can’t believe I’m single with such quality lines.

"Oh cool. Is your Mum here too? I'd like to thank her for making you!" You can have that one for free, Dieu!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thaf would be a good thread.

You're most WTAF initial message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thaf would be a good thread.

You're most WTAF initial message "

It really would!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing.

That sounds more like an interview

Not at all. It’s more about showing an interest in someone, and keeping the conversation going. Otherwise it can fall a bit flat.

You come here often?

Yeah and I’ve brought my spade this time, ‘cos I’m digging you.

Honestly, can’t believe I’m single with such quality lines.

"Oh cool. Is your Mum here too? I'd like to thank her for making you!" You can have that one for free, Dieu! "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

As most people are not compatible with most other people, this will mean that most chats started will result in 1 or both sides realising that it's a poor match. In abilities to have a good chat will be part of that.

Make realistic expectations and take it in your stride. Focus on the people who match well.

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By *am450Man
over a year ago

North Kent/Greater London

If I receive a random message and reply it usually isn't even read

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing.

That sounds more like an interview

Not at all. It’s more about showing an interest in someone, and keeping the conversation going. Otherwise it can fall a bit flat.

You come here often?

Yeah and I’ve brought my spade this time, ‘cos I’m digging you.

Honestly, can’t believe I’m single with such quality lines.

Made me laugh that did and smile

Where do you see yourself in a years time?

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Yep got all excited to receive a message chatted for a while then suddenly stopped thought it was going well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing."

I agree. It’s the same with online dating, you need to have an interest in each other, and ask questions, otherwise it doesn’t flow

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Yes we do. It can be really hard work. We can chat to anyone but if we don't get much back then conversation does. We can only make the effort so many times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing.

That sounds more like an interview

Not at all. It’s more about showing an interest in someone, and keeping the conversation going. Otherwise it can fall a bit flat.

You come here often?

Yeah and I’ve brought my spade this time, ‘cos I’m digging you.

Honestly, can’t believe I’m single with such quality lines.

Made me laugh that did and smile

Where do you see yourself in a years time?

Got any holidays booked?

Oh sorry, that’s my hairdresser chat

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

I just talk to people because I enjoy talking to people.

95% of my chats die because I am just having a conversation and not trying to get anything more out of it.

I have no problem with that and I have no expectations when a new conversation starts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever get messages from random people and they suddenly expect you to take the lead when they started the conversation?

If you start a conversation, you need to have a reason why you started it. Am I right or wrong?"

Maybe your response didn't give them anything to chat about?

If they're not engaging in a conversation I'd assume they're not interested/ don't want to chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have lots of these ...

Most blowout like a candle lol

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"I just talk to people because I enjoy talking to people.

95% of my chats die because I am just having a conversation and not trying to get anything more out of it.

I have no problem with that and I have no expectations when a new conversation starts. "

Exactly this!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"If a guy doesn’t ask you questions, it’s kinda hard to keep the chat flowing.

That sounds more like an interview

Not at all. It’s more about showing an interest in someone, and keeping the conversation going. Otherwise it can fall a bit flat.

You come here often?

Yeah and I’ve brought my spade this time, ‘cos I’m digging you.

Honestly, can’t believe I’m single with such quality lines.

Made me laugh that did and smile

Where do you see yourself in a years time?

Got any holidays booked?

Oh sorry, that’s my hairdresser chat

I wish I did have holidays booked

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Is it ok to msg you?

Well you already did...

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